Just how slow do cap guys like to go?? (Page 2)

I wouldn't waste my time on cap guys. I think if they're too slow, they're just not into you. Speaking from experience.......

wow...I guess I was pretty accurate. I just saw your recent post Grace. Move on..you will find a better man 🙂

Hi Guys, thanks for your messages! I have enjoyed my holiday away and have took some time out to forget about my cap hence not returning to the board...

I've been doing quite well and can say now how despite everything I think its so important to trust and listen to your intuition... I knew there was something up and had nothing to do with anything other than another girl!

his loss :-))

Funnily, he has just contacted me via fb to say he didnt know why we werent speaking and he hadnt been sure whether to text me etc - I just stated Im not into playing games. He has since tried to instant message me but Im not getting involed!! He is still involved with this other girl too and im sure she would love to know he has been trying to IM me! Nice guy 😉 ! I know he didnt owe me anything but it was more about all the lies, Im very honest with people and thats all I expect in return.

I guess everything happens for a reason and at least I found out early on rather than further down the line... Hope all you cappy experts are well :-))

Hi Grace glad to see your taking some much needed down time to take care of yourself and make you happy....I know I mentioned previously that (I mean who turns down sex unless he just doesn't want to form a strong dependent bond), I wasn't clear if there was another woman involved or not but I can see why he didn't want to pursue anything with you due to the errors that were made on your part, NO I'M NOT BLAMING YOU and saying it's all your fault but you definitely didn't make it hard to leave you for another woman with all the insecurities and lack of confidence that surfaced after sex, as for him dating this woman well per my understanding he doesn't owe you anything, he never made any formal exclusive longterm commitments with you or am I wrong in that assessment..

I see nothing wrong with him dating her and dating you if he's made no real solid verbal commitments and most men, not all but most men assume that a woman is also dating other men as well, I don't necessarily feel he was hiding her from you but it's not something he felt he needed to divulge given that you 2 were not a serious couple yet, maybe you jumped ahead of him in assuming that things were exclusive...Just something to think about, it's not that he's playing games, he's just doing what FEELS right for him, you didn't feel right anymore, your anxieties and fears took over the connection and he distanced himself and found someone that he has a better connection with less anxiety, less insecurity and less fears...That's something that will turn a cap man slap off...It's something you need to work on or it will surface again with a new man and most likely have the exact same effect.

Hello Grace

listen to tiki33...you have to be STRONG in dealing with MEN period.

Also on another note, Grace maybe it all boils down to is that you are looking for committment. That Cap man just was not. Maybe its for the best that you ended it because it saves you the stress and agony of not knowing. Although I think he should have been up front with you from the beginning and told you about the other woman.

I am dealing with a cappy now also that I've known for about a year and we are taking things real slow. In my past relationship I readily got attached emotionally and it was not good. So from lessons learned I take care of ME. I live my life and I keep busy doing things I enjoy. I don't totally focus on my cappy and what he is doing because it will drive you up the wall. I do know that we are good friends and that he cares...and its enough for me right now, because that's what I want right now, nothing more.

I've learned through past relationships is that men need space and so do I (Leo woman). I have my life and he has his. I really don't have a problem with his pool nights, out with his friends I don't trip because he spends quality time with me...but I also hang out with my friends and family etc...sometimes you need a break but when we do get together its insane!