soulfulleyes
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Ladies.....Some Tips for dating a Capricorn man
Reviving this as myself and others have recent posts on Cap men!
omg... I am such a dork. I saw this in the recent capricorn activity and got excited and clicked on it..... Totally forgot for a second that I just revived it like 20 min ago!
From @Poison_Ivy and @rindaroo the advice they gave and has been the biggest challenge for me is #4.
I'm so used to always getting new attention from guys, in which this fella barely expresses it. In the past few days, I've had to learn patience with my Cap guy. I had to learn to give him his space no matter how badly I wanted to talk to or see him. It frustrates me big time on how distant he is, but as Poison and Rinda advised me, in time he will open up and you will be so thankful you were patient.
He is the first guy I've had to work so hard for - But I see the long term potential in this man.
From @Poison_Ivy and @rindaroo the advice they gave and has been the biggest challenge for me is #4.
I'm so used to always getting new attention from guys, in which this fella barely expresses it. In the past few days, I've had to learn patience with my Cap guy. I had to learn to give him his space no matter how badly I wanted to talk to or see him. It frustrates me big time on how distant he is, but as Poison and Rinda advised me, in time he will open up and you will be so thankful you were patient.
He is the first guy I've had to work so hard for - But I see the long term potential in this man.
Posted by MilaniKissesHmmm.
omg... I am such a dork. I saw this in the recent capricorn activity and got excited and clicked on it..... Totally forgot for a second that I just revived it like 20 min ago!
From @Poison_Ivy and @rindaroo the advice they gave and has been the biggest challenge for me is #4.
I'm so used to always getting new attention from guys, in which this fella barely expresses it. In the past few days, I've had to learn patience with my Cap guy. I had to learn to give him his space no matter how badly I wanted to talk to or see him. It frustrates me big time on how distant he is, but as Poison and Rinda advised me, in time he will open up and you will be so thankful you were patient.
He is the first guy I've had to work so hard for - But I see the long term potential in this man.
Posted by RindarooSince my last response on here, he texted me... of course I had to initiate the text. But yes he has been busy, which I knew was going to be this weekend. We aren't dating yet - just exclusively talking.
Well I really don't like how this is worded. How to catch a Capricorn man? Really I think you just have to be yourself not try to be something he will like. If you are truly someone he likes, he will show you.
He barely expresses attention towards you? I think what I said is that you give him space to see what he wants. When you get his attention, you will know. But your idea of attention & his may be 2 different things.
Updated: being distant can be a sign he's not as interested as you, or he could just be busy.
What sign are you? How long have you been dating? I don't think I asked those questions before?
I am a Virgo Sun/Taurus Moon/Virgo Merc/Libra Venus/Sag Mars
He is Cap Sun/Libra Moon/Cap Merc/Sag Venus/Aries Mars
Posted by MilaniKissesI'm talking to one with almost the same placements except he has a aqua mercury. I barely initiate. He's been on it. Scheduling time to talk nightly on the phone, staying connected everyday with a 9 hour time difference while I was on vacay and texting me all the time. We can talk for hours. He's not distant one bit.Posted by RindarooSince my last response on here, he texted me... of course I had to initiate the text. But yes he has been busy, which I knew was going to be this weekend. We aren't dating yet - just exclusively talking.
Well I really don't like how this is worded. How to catch a Capricorn man? Really I think you just have to be yourself not try to be something he will like. If you are truly someone he likes, he will show you.
He barely expresses attention towards you? I think what I said is that you give him space to see what he wants. When you get his attention, you will know. But your idea of attention & his may be 2 different things.
Updated: being distant can be a sign he's not as interested as you, or he could just be busy.
What sign are you? How long have you been dating? I don't think I asked those questions before?
I am a Virgo Sun/Taurus Moon/Virgo Merc/Libra Venus/Sag Mars
He is Cap Sun/Libra Moon/Cap Merc/Sag Venus/Aries Marsclick to expand
I don't care who the man Is or what sign, but a distant man is one who isn't that interested. Stop texting and initiating.
I'll try not to repeat anything mentioned here already:
Don't use your cellphone when you are around them, especially when they are talking to you.
Cook for them now and again. They love when you bring them food.
Take care of them in bed because he is so generous in that department (meaning, make it about them and don't give them a chance to reciprocate because it's "Their Night")
Don't be rude to others, and let him be polite to others (when he wants to allow another couple to go ahead of you, let him, even if that other couple looks like a smug, self-righteous f uc ck face to you and you would rather let the door slam in their faces)
If he pays, offer to cover the top, he'll appreciate your gesture
Wear long dresses, the kind of soft sundresses that hangs over your body and outlines your curves
Don't use your cellphone when you are around them, especially when they are talking to you.
Cook for them now and again. They love when you bring them food.
Take care of them in bed because he is so generous in that department (meaning, make it about them and don't give them a chance to reciprocate because it's "Their Night")
Don't be rude to others, and let him be polite to others (when he wants to allow another couple to go ahead of you, let him, even if that other couple looks like a smug, self-righteous f uc ck face to you and you would rather let the door slam in their faces)
If he pays, offer to cover the top, he'll appreciate your gesture
Wear long dresses, the kind of soft sundresses that hangs over your body and outlines your curves
Posted by RindarooIt was a mutual agreement to talk exclusively... Though I was the one to suggest it. He agreed.Posted by MilaniKissesI suggest you let him initiate sometimes. There is a danger of overwhelming him or suffocating him if you text too often and he is not initiating. The other thing is that if you always text first, you are not letting him do his part. He is just responding.Posted by RindarooSince my last response on here, he texted me... of course I had to initiate the text. But yes he has been busy, which I knew was going to be this weekend. We aren't dating yet - just exclusively talking.
Well I really don't like how this is worded. How to catch a Capricorn man? Really I think you just have to be yourself not try to be something he will like. If you are truly someone he likes, he will show you.
He barely expresses attention towards you? I think what I said is that you give him space to see what he wants. When you get his attention, you will know. But your idea of attention & his may be 2 different things.
Updated: being distant can be a sign he's not as interested as you, or he could just be busy.
What sign are you? How long have you been dating? I don't think I asked those questions before?
I am a Virgo Sun/Taurus Moon/Virgo Merc/Libra Venus/Sag Mars
He is Cap Sun/Libra Moon/Cap Merc/Sag Venus/Aries Mars
What does exclusively talking mean? This was a decision for both of you? Or just happens to be that way. I know you are very interested. If it was me, I'd want to see if he was by letting him initiate some.
Caps take awhile to figure out if they are interested.click to expand
Ok, I will lay off talking to him - though I will be patient and give him space...
Is it wrong for me to talk to other guys? Yes I know we said 'exclusive' but if I dont initiate talk with him, who knows how long he'll take to send me a text?!
Im trying to be my hardest and not let the doubts of him not interested in me over rule anything. Because when we are together, its perfect...
Both my Sun and actual communication sign (Virgo) is ruled by Murcury. The lack of communication thing is driving me up the wall!
Ok I sent him a text .... Laying out everything on how I feel. And thats with a capital 'I'...
I'm tired of trying to be patient and treading carefully so we could progress in 'us'... He is so laid back that we wouldn't get anywhere...
It may have hurt him by letting him know my feelings of him not taking a second of his day just to say 'hi'... but he has to put in the effort.
He responded back saying how busy he was to try and defend his actions. It does means something that he tried to make an excuse for it... However, at the end of the day, that's all what it was. No matter how busy we get, it doesn't take but a second to text hi or ask how one's day is going. Its the actions of sending a 1 second text that speaks louder than words.
Where this will go, I dont know... I'm not the kind of person to just sit around and do nothing. Its not in my nature. I had to express how I felt.
I'm tired of trying to be patient and treading carefully so we could progress in 'us'... He is so laid back that we wouldn't get anywhere...
It may have hurt him by letting him know my feelings of him not taking a second of his day just to say 'hi'... but he has to put in the effort.
He responded back saying how busy he was to try and defend his actions. It does means something that he tried to make an excuse for it... However, at the end of the day, that's all what it was. No matter how busy we get, it doesn't take but a second to text hi or ask how one's day is going. Its the actions of sending a 1 second text that speaks louder than words.
Where this will go, I dont know... I'm not the kind of person to just sit around and do nothing. Its not in my nature. I had to express how I felt.
He and I just hashed everything out. We came to an understanding of each other and he is willing to move forward.
He made it clear to me that his daughter is number 1 and his job is second. I told him that this I already knew and understood... And that I will try my best to be more patient and understand that I may not hear from him as often as I would like.
I made it clear to him that I need communication and equal efforts. He stated he understands my needs and will try his best as well.
It meant a lot to me that he wasn't willing to give up just yet.
Anyways, long story short. We came to an agreement and worked things out. I think this was a test for us.... Only time will tell.
He made it clear to me that his daughter is number 1 and his job is second. I told him that this I already knew and understood... And that I will try my best to be more patient and understand that I may not hear from him as often as I would like.
I made it clear to him that I need communication and equal efforts. He stated he understands my needs and will try his best as well.
It meant a lot to me that he wasn't willing to give up just yet.
Anyways, long story short. We came to an agreement and worked things out. I think this was a test for us.... Only time will tell.
Posted by MilaniKissesGood to know!!
He and I just hashed everything out. We came to an understanding of each other and he is willing to move forward.
He made it clear to me that his daughter is number 1 and his job is second. I told him that this I already knew and understood... And that I will try my best to be more patient and understand that I may not hear from him as often as I would like.
I made it clear to him that I need communication and equal efforts. He stated he understands my needs and will try his best as well.
It meant a lot to me that he wasn't willing to give up just yet. At one point I thought he was going to. I rephrased his words in questions back to him for clarification and he came back with "no thats not what I meant.."
Anyways, long story short. We came to an agreement and worked things out. I think this was a test for us.... Only time will tell.
I'm glad you had that talk! ☺️
No text from him yet.... Hopefully he'll hold up to his end of the compromise. I haven't texted him and wont until he texts me first.
Posted by MilaniKissesYes, wait it out this time around.
No text from him yet.... Hopefully he'll hold up to his end of the compromise. I haven't texted him and wont until he texts me first.
Then it's okay if you don't hear from him for a bit.. * I'd say after about 2-3 days, just check in on him to see how he's doing..
My cap will quickly say, "Please don't think I'm ignoring you, I've just been crazy busy with work!"
Then we go from there..
They mean well.. My cap has 2 kids also.. so he's a single dad with his hectic work schedule, plus he coaches and plays sports.. Most caps got a lot on their plates.. They have problems balancing all of it out.. But trust, you aren't forgotten..
🙂
Thank you Poison...
Ok, so I dont know how I'm feeling about a new situation that recently unfolded.... I met a Taurus guy... We've been chatting all day. Only thing I feel bad about is how my cap guy and I agreed to talk exclusively....but that's the thing - We dont even talk!
Don't get me wrong, I am still all about my cap guy and see the potential in him more so than this new Taurus guy. But the Taurus guy is actually chatting it up with me...
And is Taurus Sun/Virgo Moon - I'm Virgo Sun/Taurus Moon .... Ah I dunno...
Before committing to your Cap guy, how did you handle all the guys that were still approaching you?
Ok, so I dont know how I'm feeling about a new situation that recently unfolded.... I met a Taurus guy... We've been chatting all day. Only thing I feel bad about is how my cap guy and I agreed to talk exclusively....but that's the thing - We dont even talk!
Don't get me wrong, I am still all about my cap guy and see the potential in him more so than this new Taurus guy. But the Taurus guy is actually chatting it up with me...
And is Taurus Sun/Virgo Moon - I'm Virgo Sun/Taurus Moon .... Ah I dunno...
Before committing to your Cap guy, how did you handle all the guys that were still approaching you?
Posted by RindarooYes you're right... Something I need to think about. All I know is I want to be exclusive with someone, and not necessarily right away. Maybe the communication thing is more important to me and a 'want' of mine...
If you're not dating, I don't know why you limit yourself to exclusively talking...
But if you agreed to it, seems wrong to be talking to others. Maybe you should think about what you want, and how important the chatting you up is.
Posted by MilaniKissesGirl don't you dare. Do you! It's your happiness that matter most after all. Your needs aren't being met by this Cap, there's is nothing wrong with talking.
Thank you Poison...
Ok, so I dont know how I'm feeling about a new situation that recently unfolded.... I met a Taurus guy... We've been chatting all day. Only thing I feel bad about is how my cap guy and I agreed to talk exclusively....but that's the thing - We dont even talk!
Don't get me wrong, I am still all about my cap guy and see the potential in him more so than this new Taurus guy. But the Taurus guy is actually chatting it up with me...
And is Taurus Sun/Virgo Moon - I'm Virgo Sun/Taurus Moon .... Ah I dunno...
Before committing to your Cap guy, how did you handle all the guys that were still approaching you?
since you're missing out on others that can give you what you need you should tell the cap you don't want to be exclusive until you really feel it. Personally once someone treats me like an option I would also do the same. You're number 3 in his life?
Posted by bkbella86Yes number 3... but I know, expect and accept that I won't ever be number 1 - that's his daughter - and I wouldn't want it any other way. But yeah, I think I am going to do me 🙂Posted by MilaniKissesGirl don't you dare. Do you! It's your happiness that matter most after all. Your needs aren't being met by this Cap, there's is nothing wrong with talking.
Thank you Poison...
Ok, so I dont know how I'm feeling about a new situation that recently unfolded.... I met a Taurus guy... We've been chatting all day. Only thing I feel bad about is how my cap guy and I agreed to talk exclusively....but that's the thing - We dont even talk!
Don't get me wrong, I am still all about my cap guy and see the potential in him more so than this new Taurus guy. But the Taurus guy is actually chatting it up with me...
And is Taurus Sun/Virgo Moon - I'm Virgo Sun/Taurus Moon .... Ah I dunno...
Before committing to your Cap guy, how did you handle all the guys that were still approaching you?
since you're missing out on others that can give you what you need you should tell the cap you don't want to be exclusive until you really feel it. Personally once someone treats me like an option I would also do the same. You're number 3 in his life?click to expand
Ohh he just texted me! Is it crazy that I haven't and almost don't want to text him back right away? Is it acceptable that he can text me whenever he pleases but I'm expected to jump at the gun to text him?
I'll give it 30 min before I text him back or maybe not at all, I dunno. He should feel what I feel when he doesn't text back.
I'll give it 30 min before I text him back or maybe not at all, I dunno. He should feel what I feel when he doesn't text back.
Sigh, this is what I mean... Being with a Cap sometimes feels like you're alone and on your own.
Their career is their first priority, then family, then best friends/you.
When they have a work problem or bad work day, you and your stuff often get put on the back burner. While it's ok once in a blue moon, it's usually a lot more frequent than that.
I like to say that being with a Cap guy often feels like being separately "together".
It drags on because when you're together, I assume the sex is awesome, and your time together is alright. You have to ask yourself if that's enough.
Their career is their first priority, then family, then best friends/you.
When they have a work problem or bad work day, you and your stuff often get put on the back burner. While it's ok once in a blue moon, it's usually a lot more frequent than that.
I like to say that being with a Cap guy often feels like being separately "together".
It drags on because when you're together, I assume the sex is awesome, and your time together is alright. You have to ask yourself if that's enough.
Posted by SunMoonStarsThank you for responding. I'm slowly learning what my needs are ... this being "separated " thing is causing me more grief than happiness
Sigh, this is what I mean... Being with a Cap sometimes feels like you're alone and on your own.
Their career is their first priority, then family, then best friends/you.
When they have a work problem or bad work day, you and your stuff often get put on the back burner. While it's ok once in a blue moon, it's usually a lot more frequent than that.
I like to say that being with a Cap guy often feels like being separately "together".
It drags on because when you're together, I assume the sex is awesome, and your time together is alright. You have to ask yourself if that's enough.
Posted by MilaniKissesMake sure to ask for what you need too, so you're not just being molded into what he needs to fit into his life. That happens very easily and naturally that you might not even notice it! 🙂Posted by SunMoonStarsThank you for responding. I'm slowly learning what my needs are ... this being "separated " thing is causing me more grief than happiness
Sigh, this is what I mean... Being with a Cap sometimes feels like you're alone and on your own.
Their career is their first priority, then family, then best friends/you.
When they have a work problem or bad work day, you and your stuff often get put on the back burner. While it's ok once in a blue moon, it's usually a lot more frequent than that.
I like to say that being with a Cap guy often feels like being separately "together".
It drags on because when you're together, I assume the sex is awesome, and your time together is alright. You have to ask yourself if that's enough.
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Posted by MilaniKissesHey I want to give you some friendly advice. I mean no offense. I think you should just sit down and breathe and look into who you are with out a man. Just the essence of you go to park and relax and rest and explore who am I?Posted by SunMoonStarsThank you for responding. I'm slowly learning what my needs are ... this being "separated " thing is causing me more grief than happiness
Sigh, this is what I mean... Being with a Cap sometimes feels like you're alone and on your own.
Their career is their first priority, then family, then best friends/you.
When they have a work problem or bad work day, you and your stuff often get put on the back burner. While it's ok once in a blue moon, it's usually a lot more frequent than that.
I like to say that being with a Cap guy often feels like being separately "together".
It drags on because when you're together, I assume the sex is awesome, and your time together is alright. You have to ask yourself if that's enough.
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Read your posts look at them with constructive criticism. You seem to be holding on to the idea of this man ( I'm not factoring in signs)
and you somehow have lost your self dont do that for anyone man, family etcetera. Love and respect yourself truly! I'm positive once you stop trying so hard love will come to you. I suggest stop the search and look in pat yourself on th back. One step at a time girl! I'm a Virgo I get it but this is regardless of sign. Sometimes when you hold on so tight you blind yourself from everything else. One more thing don't be hard on yourself I get the sense that you might me. These are just my two cents. I might be completely wrong. Wishing you the best.
Posted by DivineWine9Thank you DivineWine... This whole experience with my cap guy has brought to light the needs and wants that I want in a relationship. I like your suggestions and will give it a try.Posted by MilaniKissesHey I want to give you some friendly advice. I mean no offense. I think you should just sit down and breathe and look into who you are with out a man. Just the essence of you go to park and relax and rest and explore who am I?Posted by SunMoonStarsThank you for responding. I'm slowly learning what my needs are ... this being "separated " thing is causing me more grief than happiness
Sigh, this is what I mean... Being with a Cap sometimes feels like you're alone and on your own.
Their career is their first priority, then family, then best friends/you.
When they have a work problem or bad work day, you and your stuff often get put on the back burner. While it's ok once in a blue moon, it's usually a lot more frequent than that.
I like to say that being with a Cap guy often feels like being separately "together".
It drags on because when you're together, I assume the sex is awesome, and your time together is alright. You have to ask yourself if that's enough.
Read your posts look at them with constructive criticism. You seem to be holding on to the idea of this man ( I'm not factoring in signs)
and you somehow have lost your self dont do that for anyone man, family etcetera. Love and respect yourself truly! I'm positive once you stop trying so hard love will come to you. I suggest stop the search and look in pat yourself on th back. One step at a time girl! I'm a Virgo I get it but this is regardless of sign. Sometimes when you hold on so tight you blind yourself from everything else. One more thing don't be hard on yourself I get the sense that you might me. These are just my two cents. I might be completely wrong. Wishing you the best.
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I will add that out of the blue my Cap guy texted me yesterday with a good morning and hoped I had a good day. We exchanged a few texted afterwards but then ghosted for the remainder of the day and up to this minute 4:38PM EST.
Posted by MilaniKissesYou Welcome! Sorry for all the typos grammar geek here lol...I was just reading your posts and I practically did the same thing with a guy. I'm not at all trying to undermine you. I can't even understand how crazy and frustrating thinks got for you with your cap guy...it's not easy. But I felt that you needed to just slow down. Let us know what happens...best wishes ?Posted by DivineWine9Thank you DivineWine... This whole experience with my cap guy has brought to light the needs and wants that I want in a relationship. I like your suggestions and will give it a try.Posted by MilaniKissesHey I want to give you some friendly advice. I mean no offense. I think you should just sit down and breathe and look into who you are with out a man. Just the essence of you go to park and relax and rest and explore who am I?Posted by SunMoonStarsThank you for responding. I'm slowly learning what my needs are ... this being "separated " thing is causing me more grief than happiness
Sigh, this is what I mean... Being with a Cap sometimes feels like you're alone and on your own.
Their career is their first priority, then family, then best friends/you.
When they have a work problem or bad work day, you and your stuff often get put on the back burner. While it's ok once in a blue moon, it's usually a lot more frequent than that.
I like to say that being with a Cap guy often feels like being separately "together".
It drags on because when you're together, I assume the sex is awesome, and your time together is alright. You have to ask yourself if that's enough.
Read your posts look at them with constructive criticism. You seem to be holding on to the idea of this man ( I'm not factoring in signs)
and you somehow have lost your self dont do that for anyone man, family etcetera. Love and respect yourself truly! I'm positive once you stop trying so hard love will come to you. I suggest stop the search and look in pat yourself on th back. One step at a time girl! I'm a Virgo I get it but this is regardless of sign. Sometimes when you hold on so tight you blind yourself from everything else. One more thing don't be hard on yourself I get the sense that you might me. These are just my two cents. I might be completely wrong. Wishing you the best.
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Posted by MilaniKissesGood he initiated first hope the back and forth went well! What was the tone like?
I will add that out of the blue my Cap guy texted me yesterday with a good morning and hoped I had a good day. We exchanged a few texted afterwards but then ghosted for the remainder of the day and up to this minute 4:38PM EST.
sorry but i have to disagree. i feel like youre describing more a female CAP lol.
i dated a male CAP for five years and he is nothing like this and I am a CAP lol. maybe its just him idk lol
i dated a male CAP for five years and he is nothing like this and I am a CAP lol. maybe its just him idk lol
Posted by DivineWine9It was the usual - him with short choppy answers. Me overly excited to talk to him...Posted by MilaniKissesGood he initiated first hope the back and forth went well! What was the tone like?
I will add that out of the blue my Cap guy texted me yesterday with a good morning and hoped I had a good day. We exchanged a few texted afterwards but then ghosted for the remainder of the day and up to this minute 4:38PM EST.
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I too have the same questions.... Sorry if this is long.....But...I'm currently talking to a Capricorn man that I've known for 13 years. When we first met, he made the initial contact. We hooked up off and on for about a year then I disappeared for many years. About 3 years ago, we found each other on Facebook and have been talking and flirting for the whole three years. Problem was he was in a relationship and so was I.
Now fast forward to about a month ago....
I left my 11 year relationship and he left his of 12 years.....( Coincidence, it's crazy) and we recently met up and had a fantastic night together....it was amazing. We connected just like we did in the past. He even asked me...in the heat of the moment, to promise him I wouldn't regret being with him the next morning. The sex was the best we'd ever had. Now, occasionally he'll text me saying good morning, or ask me for sexy nude pics...and I send them. He sends some to me also. He says I'm the most beautiful woman ever. But my issue is, I don't hear from him sometimes for a week. Then bam..he's texting me asking how I'm doing.....e en has texted me and told me not to worry and think anything is wrong if I don't hear from him everyday...but it's hard on me if I don't....
Is it ok to text him asking how's he's doing in the break? How do I flirt with him without seeming needy or clingy?? Please help....I don't want to push this cap man away...I've crushed on him for many years....
I'm not sure of all the details but his birthday is January 9th and I'm a February 20th Pisces
Now fast forward to about a month ago....
I left my 11 year relationship and he left his of 12 years.....( Coincidence, it's crazy) and we recently met up and had a fantastic night together....it was amazing. We connected just like we did in the past. He even asked me...in the heat of the moment, to promise him I wouldn't regret being with him the next morning. The sex was the best we'd ever had. Now, occasionally he'll text me saying good morning, or ask me for sexy nude pics...and I send them. He sends some to me also. He says I'm the most beautiful woman ever. But my issue is, I don't hear from him sometimes for a week. Then bam..he's texting me asking how I'm doing.....e en has texted me and told me not to worry and think anything is wrong if I don't hear from him everyday...but it's hard on me if I don't....
Is it ok to text him asking how's he's doing in the break? How do I flirt with him without seeming needy or clingy?? Please help....I don't want to push this cap man away...I've crushed on him for many years....
I'm not sure of all the details but his birthday is January 9th and I'm a February 20th Pisces
Hi. I am glad to have stumbled upon this board - I am not usually into `astrology match' at all..until speaking wbeith someone today. While describing my latest 'dating dilema' , the person said `oh he's a Capricorn.
Which brings me here - and so far what I have read - it all makes sense!
We've only just started dating - 3 weeks ago...and things were moving fast firs week in....and he was the perfect gent - couldnt ask for more and then ball dropped `we're moving too fast, I wanna take it slow'
ok
so continued to hang out and go out, talk on the phone, but hot then cold, hot then cold - I continue to be my normal, loving self (this is the new me), but soooooooo wanna tell this person off, but I won't cuz I like him and want to give this a shot.
Anyhoo, he misses the sex and starts turning on the charm again - everything is great, until ONE frickin' thing I said which, to me boils down to language semantics
( i uttered something that was a retorhical question , but he didnt see it that way) and bam - cold, no text...until late at night with `we need to talk, let's meet tommorrow'
ok
he says his piece with a cold, distant and uncompassionate demenaour - that If I was choking on food, I ain't so sure he would save me. That cold. In his eyes, I did the biggest betrayal ever.
I do admit, when we first started dating, I was confident, and flirty with other guys, showing off, being dominant, and basically telling him with my actions ` I am above you`. That was exactly cool.
I think he does have trust issues with me, and I get that. Is there anthing I can do except now to be who I want to be and that is, a committed and serious individual who wants to give this an honest shot.
When we met the day of 'the talk' he said to just 'lets hang out and see where this goes...`
ok
I realize there are many things wrong with this, mainly his trust issues, and me, flashy, sincere, tell it like it is type of gal, who really only wants to be loved and give love.
What I am reading about the cap man, I find it rather incredible he hasn't freakin thrown me to the lions!!
oh gawd..
anyway, what can I be doing other than be loving and light and carefree, but not flaky?
Anything else?
Will he let me in? I think he is a wonderful guy deep down. I just want those walls to melt. cuz I know I am ok and whole, still learning but I am ok...
Which brings me here - and so far what I have read - it all makes sense!
We've only just started dating - 3 weeks ago...and things were moving fast firs week in....and he was the perfect gent - couldnt ask for more and then ball dropped `we're moving too fast, I wanna take it slow'
ok
so continued to hang out and go out, talk on the phone, but hot then cold, hot then cold - I continue to be my normal, loving self (this is the new me), but soooooooo wanna tell this person off, but I won't cuz I like him and want to give this a shot.
Anyhoo, he misses the sex and starts turning on the charm again - everything is great, until ONE frickin' thing I said which, to me boils down to language semantics
( i uttered something that was a retorhical question , but he didnt see it that way) and bam - cold, no text...until late at night with `we need to talk, let's meet tommorrow'
ok
he says his piece with a cold, distant and uncompassionate demenaour - that If I was choking on food, I ain't so sure he would save me. That cold. In his eyes, I did the biggest betrayal ever.
I do admit, when we first started dating, I was confident, and flirty with other guys, showing off, being dominant, and basically telling him with my actions ` I am above you`. That was exactly cool.
I think he does have trust issues with me, and I get that. Is there anthing I can do except now to be who I want to be and that is, a committed and serious individual who wants to give this an honest shot.
When we met the day of 'the talk' he said to just 'lets hang out and see where this goes...`
ok
I realize there are many things wrong with this, mainly his trust issues, and me, flashy, sincere, tell it like it is type of gal, who really only wants to be loved and give love.
What I am reading about the cap man, I find it rather incredible he hasn't freakin thrown me to the lions!!
oh gawd..
anyway, what can I be doing other than be loving and light and carefree, but not flaky?
Anything else?
Will he let me in? I think he is a wonderful guy deep down. I just want those walls to melt. cuz I know I am ok and whole, still learning but I am ok...
...btw he IS a Cap - his birthday falls into the date range - it's not that I am on here thinking he is a Cap.
He IS a Cap .
lol
Help 😢
He IS a Cap .
lol
Help 😢
maybe he wants to date others?
Should I ask him that?
I think I would be not entirely OK with that, but I would understand, particualry that he mentioned to me that he hasn't had 'too many relationships'
I dunno. Don't buy that entirely, but at the same time I can sense that.
I just don't know.
I don't mind that he wants to take things slow and in fact may welcome that - as I don't want to get burned.
My thing , is that it would have worked better if he had the emotional maturity to tell me in the beginning, 'hey i like you,but I don't want to rush things.
Instead of `sex, emotional connection. acting like a bf, then , the total opposite, AND making me feel like shit in the meantime.
I know I am not perfect. but when we met i was ready, and willing to give my all to see where this goes. He wasn't but yet, go the sex. I don't know.
Should I ask him that?
I think I would be not entirely OK with that, but I would understand, particualry that he mentioned to me that he hasn't had 'too many relationships'
I dunno. Don't buy that entirely, but at the same time I can sense that.
I just don't know.
I don't mind that he wants to take things slow and in fact may welcome that - as I don't want to get burned.
My thing , is that it would have worked better if he had the emotional maturity to tell me in the beginning, 'hey i like you,but I don't want to rush things.
Instead of `sex, emotional connection. acting like a bf, then , the total opposite, AND making me feel like shit in the meantime.
I know I am not perfect. but when we met i was ready, and willing to give my all to see where this goes. He wasn't but yet, go the sex. I don't know.
Butter? The word and sentiment I wanted to type was s***
ohhhh i think you know what i meant...lmao!!
pls don't think I am crazy , whoever is reading this!!
pls don't think I am crazy , whoever is reading this!!
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don't judge his alcoholism or drug habit
don't judge his alcoholism or drug habit
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