Maybe I should try again

Ok, so I'm new on here. Yesterday I posted "Cappy Friend but love interest" and nobody responded. I don't know how to sum it up since there is such history between us but... Longtime friend of 10 years, we got to know each other on a project that he had posted. Went from professional contacts, to friends on social media. We always told each other we missed each other and needed to hang out. We never really got to hang out at ALL until this last month.

It was amazing we even got to see each other at all because he has several jobs, but he found a way to make time. I loved visiting with him, and we both were open books with one another. He told me so much, and we found that we are on the same career path/goals. We only hang out about 45 minutes each time, but it's so nice to be around him. He's always been so uplifting towards me, and although there were times in the past that he would disappear, he would disappear from everyone, not just me. This last week after we hung out, I made the mistake of messaging him that I could really "feel him because I have a deep connection to him" and also said something about having urges to help his pain by massaging his shoulders. Immediately after I sent it, I regretted it.... He responded a bit later saying he had to sit on that response for a bit because he didn't want to be presumptuous, and was he off track? It took me a couple hours to be able to pull myself together and respond, but since that day he hasn't opened his messages or anything. WHAT DID I DO— Did I lose him? Please, I just need advice.

Hon. You haven’t lost him. You never had him! He had apparently made time for you to see if there is anything he is feeling but it’s so clear that he had not felt chemistry except friendly vibes.

Telling him you are into him and offering massage...you scared him because he doesn’t want that!

Sorry. But it’s a big red flag! Man isn’t even flirting back - friend zone!

Try to accept the obvious. And stay friends if he isn’t scared off completely. Good luck. ❤️

I think the other posters are right, for the most part. But, us Capricorns don't usually put in effort or even respond if we're not interested. I read your other post, and it sounded like he was into you.

The other thing though, is we don't like being caught off guard with that type of stuff. Maybe he wasn't ready to hear that from you yet. I know for me, I will usually disappear for a bit and try to figure out how I feel about the person. However, if it's been a while that we've talked and been in each other's lives, sometimes I am waiting for them to say something. With you two, you said a few weeks, right?

So, maybe he does like you.. but he's taking his time to figure out for sure and also how to respond.

Do you know his other placements?

Hmm me as a capricorn I went through times that some guys were into me and I didn't feel any kind of chemistry with them so I wouldn't reply. If I really like somebody it's kinda obvious at least to me anyway 😄 and I wouldn't want that person to think that I don't care about them although sometimes it takes me hours or even a day to reply cause I'm busy doing something or I just don't feel like texting at the moment even if I like the other person. Also capricorns kinda need to take it slow, we need time to develop trust and bit of space for thinking. I honestly don't mind texting every day, but I don't like the pressure of having to text every day because sometimes if a certain amount of time passed you don't have anything to say and that's alright really. I only text if I have something to say and that usually happens after few days of actually living my life. My advice would be go live your life, do stuff that you like to keep you mind elsewhere and if he reaches out to you again, be yourself and fun. 🙂 Don't take it too seriously and let the man flirt with you if he wants to. 😉

Posted by NostalgicCappyy
I think the other posters are right, for the most part. But, us Capricorns don't usually put in effort or even respond if we're not interested. I read your other post, and it sounded like he was into you.

The other thing though, is we don't like being caught off guard with that type of stuff. Maybe he wasn't ready to hear that from you yet. I know for me, I will usually disappear for a bit and try to figure out how I feel about the person. However, if it's been a while that we've talked and been in each other's lives, sometimes I am waiting for them to say something. With you two, you said a few weeks, right?

So, maybe he does like you.. but he's taking his time to figure out for sure and also how to respond.

Do you know his other placements?

Yes, we actually reconnected just this last month.

Actually, today I went out on a limb and reached out to him. He responded right away and asked me what my last message had meant. I just told him that I, as a nurturer, had wanted to reach out to him to help him with his pain, and that I had worded my message poorly. He told me everything was okay and to please not stress out. I can finally breathe.

I don't know his other placements as of right now.