My Cap BF is Bisexual

My Capricorn boyfriend told me he's bisexual. He hasn't made is official, non of his friends know but me. I guess he felt he had to tell me, because he could see that I started sensing his bisexuality. As a pisces woman I am looking for a solid man, down-to-earth and practical man, who's not as watery like me, but someone whom I can feel balanced with, a little earthy and a little watery. And I have that connection with this man, we compliment each other so well.

I don't know if there are many Cap men out there who has a feminine side to their very masculine side. I have read many places that Cap males has a very masculine trait to them and that they are looked as the "father" to all signs. I have a Cap dad, and he fits perfectly to that description. There is no femininity in that man??s bones. But my Cap BF proved me wrong about what Ive read. What are your opinion about this?

Anyhow, what I am trying to say is, my reaction to what he said was listening to him opening up to me, I didn't say much, I wanted him to feel the burden fully lifted from his chest, because it must be heavy to carry this around not being able to feel comfortable talking about it. He says to me that I am everything he needs, and that I have nothing to fear. And I believe him, because the way he makes love to me is the most beautiful thing I have ever felt in my life. The way he embrace me and just lift me, gives me the chills.

I still haven't said what I want to do, if I am okay with it or not.

I don't have any issue with any sexuality, whomever you are, or whatever you are, I am completely okay with it. But having someone this close to me, someone I am sharing my hetrosexuality with, WILL and DOES make you question if you really do respect it. Please don't misunderstand me at this. So I was thinking, do I really respect this? Or should I end the relationship?

On one hand, I wouldn't give up on what we have, and his bisexuality isn't a problem. But on the other hand, Im thinking, what if his mind suddenly switches, and all he wants other men? Where do I go?

I don't know what to do.. What should I prioritise?

He's unlikely to go fully homosexual. I'm sure he won't decide one day that he's had enough of women. I'm also sure that he will always respect and appreciate what you have to offer. If your even having doubts though, then this relationship might not go well. I'm just going to assume all you needed was reassurance. If anything starts bothering you though, you may need to talk to him about it. Talking to him directly and seeing what he has to say is probably best... If you haven't spoken to him already.

It sounds like you care about him. I would still question him without making him feel too uncomfortable. You deserve to know so that you can make an informed decision about continuing the relationship.

How long has he been attracted to the same sex? What type of relationships has he had with men( hookups, long term bfs etc), how does he meet them? What sex does he favor more? Just a few examples. Choose the questions you ask wisely and carefully. Some of these questions should be answered in observation, as he may not be able to fully express himself about it since he is just coming around to open up about it.

Over the course of time, just listen and pay close attention.

I would be fine if my bf told me early on that he used to fancies several men and women, but now HE JUST FANCIES ME. Any other variant would be unacceptable.

If your life values are heterosexuality, monogamous relationship and are non-negotiable, in this case you know the answer. Because his secret that he tells you, it is his life, and he has the right to live his life happy, full in this terms.Don't try to make a story fairytale that you will be ok. In my experience , I know someone who was married , have children but when he was at 30 age, he choose what he think he like and that was for the begin , a gay ..

LOL

As I understand it, bisexuality has less to do with masculinity and femininity than with sexual preference. About the insecurity you feel, you admittedly have twice as many "threats" out there. But if you compare with heterosexuality, sure, you are a heterosexual female, but that doesn't mean you're interested in all males. You're only interested in your partner(as I understand it). He has made it clear that it is you he wants and unless you doubt that, I think you're golden.

However: you are asking us if you really respect it. That's what gives me heaps of doubt and I don't see how we could possibly answer that question for you. That's all you.

...what if your mind suddenly switches and you want another man...?

I do care about this man, because he makes me feel special, and when Im with him its like Im the only person in his world. And that what makes me respect him for who he is🙂

I am very careful with judging people, because you never know when it will hit you back. So I do not like to end the relationship based on someones sexuality, especially when he makes me feel so special.

I think he chose to share this with me because of two reasons, one is for opening up his heart to me, second is doing it anal. Having something anal turns him on. And living a life with me faithfully, depends on him getting his sexual desires fulfilled by me? Then again, I have to ask myself if Im up for this.

His desires have only been hookups, never a relationship or friendships. Because he wants to live his life with a woman, and have children. And that is no discussion about that. But its his anal desire, that made him tell me in a way asking me to do something about it..

Its weird, because I really dont see myself being dominant in bed, with a strapon making love to a capricorn man being submissive and feminine. Its not how I had imagined it. Im not saying im not open for it, I dont know how it will be before I try, but Its just weird. Anyone who gets me??

How would you guys react?

What I mean with his feminine side is.. He actually like to wear womens underwear.. Stockings and stuff.

But to the outer world he is like this big feast tall man who is masculine muscle man that protects and provide for his family and me. You cant tell he likes wearing women clothes!

As I see it, this is not just about his sexual precerences, but yours too, and if you don't want to wear a strap-on, then I don't think you should. I mean, if you have really given it a lot of thought, ofc, you might like it🙂.

Does he specifically want to be the submissive one all the time? I mean, there is always dildos and but-plugs, and the like, to use while he is penetrating you. Just play around with it. But, again, don't do anything you feel uncomfortable doing.

Ehrm..am I being too graphic here?

Posted by tripleCap



Is this the same Cap you made threads about?


Cheating Capricorn-CONFIRMED

I'm pregnant with Capman!

Ouch! Now I'm scared.😢

What the fuck?


Y'all make out like it's the black plague or summit.

There's this great big fucking LABEL put on this guy now, just because he has a differing sexual preference than what ... normal?

define normal

I'm not getting you, nor most the of responders here ..... so, what if he came to you and told you that he is heterosexual? Are you going to come to a forum and cry out ... "my man said he's straight"? No, because it doesn't make any fucking difference.

A Partner, if coupled with another person, has the obligation of being loyal to the Partner and of keeping the best interest of their Partner in mind, at all times. The obligation of a Partner is androgynous ... it only recognizes honor, not whether you have a penis or vagina.

He could have divulged to you that he has a blow up doll .. makes no difference what turns him on as it regards to his character. And THAT is bottom line of this thread.


Because of what gets his rocks off ... you are making decisions about the kind of man he is?


wow !!!!!

Posted by tripleCap



Is this the same Cap you made threads about?


Cheating Capricorn-CONFIRMED

I'm pregnant with Capman!

No, its not the same one.

Loving this man!!

Must sound bad, as if im driven to all the drama capricorns lol!

Bisexual's can do with monogamy.
As for the anal kink...just say you're not into it and he'll just have to help himself out in that department.

*Shrugs*

Posted by stillwat3r
Lol @ all the caps trying super hard to sound liberal and flexible.

We are all trying our hardest to hide our secret fetishes. 😛

It's a bit like this:

C: "Hey! I've seen this video... "
O: "Really? What is it about?
C: "..."
O: "?"
C: "It was an audition of sorts. I don't recall exactly...

Hint: It's a famous internet porn site called backroom casting couch.

Posted by tripleCap

So I was thinking, do I really respect this? Or should I end the relationship?

On one hand, I wouldn't give up on what we have, and his bisexuality isn't a problem.
But on the other hand, Im thinking, what if his mind suddenly switches, and all he
wants other men? Where do I go?

I don't know what to do.. What should I prioritise?

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You want complete strangers on the internet to set standards for you?

Makes no sense.

I am not stupid, I know how to take a choice, I just want opinions from neutral people who doesnt know anything about me, him or our background. I want to know what you guys would do and how you would react in my situation, so that I can see if relate to any of you.

All i have to say is: dont let this dude use you as practice fo when his balls finally drop n he decides to get a man of his own. You better tread light and be careful. He could be using your emotions against you.

I agree with Magneta. I tried to unhide my comment but couldnt, but I was saying how I think its odd that one of the first feelings she picked up was needing to fulfill his desires to keep him. That screams to me that she will be used.

I think it's very worrying that he's a bi-sexual. Any man who has sex with bicycles is sick.

Posted by stillwat3r

Posted by Magenta_Azure
All i have to say is: dont let this dude use you as practice fo when his balls finally drop n he decides to get a man of his own. You better tread light and be careful. He could be using your emotions against you.

Out-of all comments this really made sense to me. Call it intuition or just paranoia but... +1.

Know what you like sexually because sexual compatibility is an important factor in love relationships.

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I hear you Magenta_Azure and Stillwat3er