Narcissist or Just a Cap

Known this Cap guy my entire life, were first loves, and he still confuses the hell out of me. Long story short, he doesn't won't me but doesn't won't anyone else to have me either. He went from being a dick to me and giving me the silent treatment, to being very sweet, helpful, thoughtful, loving, stayed with me at my place for 3 weeks, helping me pack and move my things. ( I'm taking off to become a full-time vagabond) On the very last day that I had to get my things moved, he went stone cold, left me high and dry, wouldn't answer my text or calls, when he did he told me to leave him alone. He knew I didn't have anyone that could help me move, yet he didn't care. Giving me the silent treatment again? WTH? Went from being loving to hating in 0.1 seconds. Any thoughts?

Spoiled brat comes to mind.

I wouldn't attribute that behavior to all caps.

I've been unable to differentiate between the traits of a Cap man I know and the typical narcissist, too! Well, I've known him for only one year, but he has given me this weird feeling that he gets some sort of a pleasure by keeping me clueless as to what's running in his mind, giving me mixed signals, acting as though I'm the love of his life one day and going stone cold on the same night or the next day!

Lol, I must admit - on one hand, it was very Annoying, but on the other hand, wow, I did enjoy giving him his own treatment now and then. Trust me, those are the only times, he'd ever come back, when I treat him the way he'd treat me, when I ignore him, and stop thinking of him. Just ignore. Concentrate on your life which doesn't involve him at all, and see him coming back. When he's back, you decide what to do! Cheers! 🙂

Posted by ITSCAPLOCK
We occassionally like our space. I don't like feeling suffocated

I like my space too, only I don't give the silent treatment and treat the people that love me, like sh@@.

Posted by jkc3

Posted by ITSCAPLOCK
We occassionally like our space. I don't like feeling suffocated

I like my space too, only I don't give the silent treatment and treat the people that love me, like sh@@.

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The silent treatment is a weird Cap thing. I hate it too.

Posted by -elle-
What is the difference between a full time and part time vagabond?

I gave up my apartment and sold everything I own, if I was going to be a part time vagabond, I wouldn't have sold everything or got rid of my place. It makes sense in my head.

Posted by -elle-
Why do you want to be a full time vagabond?

Am I the only one confused by this?

Why not? Life is to short, and I want to experience new things, meet new ppl....I want to live, not just exsist.

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Posted by -elle-
Why do you want to be a full time vagabond?

Am I the only one confused by this?

Why not? Life is to short, and I want to experience new things, meet new ppl....I want to live, not just exsist.

Okay...but then you cannot be upset with him cutting you off.

I don't know or understand the curcumstances....but it sounds like he is hurt.

You can up and quit everything for the sake experiencing new things and people....he probably feels disposable too. *shrugs*

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Yes I can be upset, just because I'm leaving doesn't mean I'm cutting anyone out of my life. I asked him to come, he declined. And I'm not up and quitting anything, I just don't want to run the rat race anymore, and I'm not attached to material items, if it doesn't fit in my back pack and my dog don't need it, then I'm pleased. My choice to travel and freelance is my choice, so if you or whoever else is confused by it, then that's not my problem....step outside the box!