Need advice from fellow Caps...

Has any other Cap out there found themselves being the other woman/man? I'm finding myself in this situation right now, and I'm struggling with the craziness of it all. I'm currently infatuated with two (yes, two!) leo men. One is a leo-cancer cusp. I've begun a sexual relationship with one who has a girlfriend, and have become emotionally dependent on the other who has a wife. I'm not having sex with the married man, but it is clear that we are both are physically attracted to each other. Both men are older than me (I'm in my 20s while both of them are late 40s-early 50s). I know I'm the bad guy, but I can't seem to stay away from them. I have a lot of self-esteem issues, and both men make me feel smart, beautiful, etc. But I know it's wrong, and as a capricorn I feel like I should be able to handle this situation better. Any fellow caps have any advice?

50 years old? DO ME DADDY! all i can say is they better have money, they should buy you a jag in exchange for your services 😆

Those are some serious daddy issues right there...

Stop trying to get you self-esteem from other people and learn to depend on yourself. Vow to not date anyone for a few months or so and work on yourself first. They will come to you.

I have no problem with it. Just get paid.

OMG..what? Seriously girl, get yourself some therapy! You're still young don't settle for a couple of creepy old men!

They're taking advantage of you. Remember, if they cheat with you, they'll cheat on you. These guys are looking for an ego boost, a mid life crisis. They need to know 'they still got it' and you're feeding their ego.

Please, please, please don't be a victim. They'll use you up and drop you once their ego is fed. And when their wives/SO find out, you're going to be the one in the wrong and that will hurt your self esteem even more.

You deserve better!!! Be strong. You're a cappy, you have it in you to get what you want and deserve. Don't settle for their crumbs. Drop them like a hot potato and find someone that can give you the world. They can't, they never will.

You being with 2 men already in relationships has nothing to do with being a Capricorn. Its about you needing attention from men. Not trying to be rude bit its the truth. We all have some sort of self esteem issues but you have to love yourself n all your flaws first before any real man will love you. Lastly if you have to ask how to handle the situation..you clearly should not have put yourself in this type of situation. But advice from a BAD BITCH...they are both older and hopefully financially stable. Girl get your rocks off, shop on them n eat good.

I think it's tacky to shop on them.

You gals telling her how to go for it? Well, what if it was YOUR boyfriend? You would feel differently then wouldn't you?

I'm not going to shop on them or anything tacky like that; plus, my Cappy instincts won't allow me to use someone else's money on stuff I want 😉. At the time that I wrote my first post I had broken off all contact with them, and had not talked with either of them until today (separately of course). Both were pretty pissed that I had been ignoring them, and I was stupid enough to agree to meet one of them for coffee later. Trying to think of an excuse to get out of it. The other wants me to join him on a business trip in March and is demanding that I let him know whether or not I'll go by the tomorrow. I'm going to say no, and I know he's going to blow up at me about it.

My life is turing into a bad reality show...

Posted by cappygurl8
My life is turing into a bad reality show...

It's only because you're allowing it.

Only you have the power to change it.

Posted by cappygurl8
Has any other Cap out there found themselves being the other woman/man? I'm finding myself in this situation right now, and I'm struggling with the craziness of it all. I'm currently infatuated with two (yes, two!) leo men. One is a leo-cancer cusp. I've begun a sexual relationship with one who has a girlfriend, and have become emotionally dependent on the other who has a wife. I'm not having sex with the married man, but it is clear that we are both are physically attracted to each other. Both men are older than me (I'm in my 20s while both of them are late 40s-early 50s). I know I'm the bad guy, but I can't seem to stay away from them. I have a lot of self-esteem issues, and both men make me feel smart, beautiful, etc. But I know it's wrong, and as a capricorn I feel like I should be able to handle this situation better. Any fellow caps have any advice?

wow. what are your personal planets?

and 2ndly, how is your upbringing? did you have a father/uncle/grandfather that you had a hard time/issues with growing up?

i guess i'm sounding like Dr.Phil here, but these issues are usually ingrained from your earlier years. Cause not all or even half of the women born in these months want this kind. they would rather be alone.

none of us are pro at this stuff like dr. phil, but your situation screams issues.

like this song, except it's in REVERSE, you are the woman like the abuse/being used:

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sung by a late december capricorn guy.

Posted by KittenLaRouge
I have no problem with it. Just get paid.

lol listen to this woman.

make me men sing FOR YOU!!! like this:

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don't give it for free. put on some black net stockings and put on some dark kohl makeup, red red lipstick, some Versace, some lace, and say that's right, mother fucker, you are gonna PAY ME.

😆

light it up!!

and make those two leo men growl and go on all fours. 😆



"may i help you—"

then uncross your legs, look like a queen! 😄 😄

Posted by MetaphysicalReciprocity55
Well, your "Cappy instincts" should've told you not to demean yourself by even putting yourself in that situation.

They're not involving themselves with you because they think you're smart...they're involving themselves with you because you're young and obviously easily flattered.

And "getting paid"?? "Eating good"— What in the fuck?!? It's eating *well. Don't give her advice that you wouldn't give your own daughters. You shouldn't have to rely on anyone to provide a high standard of living; you do that for yourself. That goes for your value too. Don't measure your value from someone else's perspective...let it be your own. If you're not there yet...then you're not ready to get involved with anyone. Get your affairs in order first. Especially those regarding your self-esteem.

she might not be dominant cap. there are some people who are born under cap sun and their top 3 isnt capricorn, or worse, their top 5 isn't cap. that could be it.

but despite all that, no matter the energies, it's Always upbringing. (dr. phil and psychology, issues with father figures)

Posted by MetaphysicalReciprocity55
Well, your "Cappy instincts" should've told you not to demean yourself by even putting yourself in that situation.

They're not involving themselves with you because they think you're smart...they're involving themselves with you because you're young and obviously easily flattered.

And "getting paid"?? "Eating good"— What in the fuck?!? It's eating *well. Don't give her advice that you wouldn't give your own daughters. You shouldn't have to rely on anyone to provide a high standard of living; you do that for yourself. That goes for your value too. Don't measure your value from someone else's perspective...let it be your own. If you're not there yet...then you're not ready to get involved with anyone. Get your affairs in order first. Especially those regarding your self-esteem.

Exactly!!!

OP, be very, very careful who you take advice from on this site. Many, many here are not capable of giving good advice because their own lives are messed up more than yours. Some can't get their own lives together and have no business advising someone else.

I advise you to go read my thread called 'should I be concerned'. My own daughter is interested in a 40 year old man. There are many various opinions there on the situation of a 40 year old man dating a girl your age.

Posted by MetaphysicalReciprocity55
If she's come here for advice, she certainly doesn't need other women telling her to just wh*re herself out.??
Sun signs and daddy issues aside, she's someone's daughter. Why give her advice to cause further emotional damage—
Yes, this is the internet and many of you hide behind your keyboards and photos that aren't your own, but you all need to be cognizant of the fact that some of the things you say on here can and do affect other people.??

If you're not going to sincerely help someone get some insight to make a decision that isn't detrimental to them, then please shut the treetrunk up.

give me a break. come at me if you're talking straight to me not sideways.

this topic doesn't sound serious that's why.


lol@ you talking all high and mighty.

i haven't looked at your past history or if you're actually someone who has problems with your man yourself coming on here, but i'm not even gonna bother.

sometimes you need a little FUN.

all the time whining and pining over men who don't want you, is terrible enough.

Posted by truecap

Posted by MetaphysicalReciprocity55
Well, your "Cappy instincts" should've told you not to demean yourself by even putting yourself in that situation.

They're not involving themselves with you because they think you're smart...they're involving themselves with you because you're young and obviously easily flattered.

And "getting paid"?? "Eating good"— What in the fuck?!? It's eating *well. Don't give her advice that you wouldn't give your own daughters. You shouldn't have to rely on anyone to provide a high standard of living; you do that for yourself. That goes for your value too. Don't measure your value from someone else's perspective...let it be your own. If you're not there yet...then you're not ready to get involved with anyone. Get your affairs in order first. Especially those regarding your self-esteem.

Exactly!!!

OP, be very, very careful who you take advice from on this site. Many, many here are not capable of giving good advice because their own lives are messed up more than yours. Some can't get their own lives together and have no business advising someone else.

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well i agree with this because we are NOT professionals. NOT even close. we need dr. phil.

all we can do is tell her to toughen up, because these men will NOT care if your heart is torn to pieces.

you'll be crying a river and singing justin Timberlake blues.

Posted by bnr7013
Really though...can someone explain how to get my rocks off?

rocks off= orgasm!

any who.. I am a true cappy to the core and get it may be hard to let a man buy you anything but GIRL! Men loving buying things for women...that's why they work so hard to provide weather they are with you or someone else. Please don't listen to the older women on here (truecap).. Go on that trip enjoy yourself or stay home and think about him

Posted by truecap
You gals telling her how to go for it? Well, what if it was YOUR boyfriend? You would feel differently then wouldn't you?

What you don't know cant hurt you!!!

Posted by truebluecappie

Posted by truecap
You gals telling her how to go for it? Well, what if it was YOUR boyfriend? You would feel differently then wouldn't you?

What you don't know cant hurt you!!!

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Bullshit! What you don't know CAN hurt you. You should be ashamed of yourself for advising her to to continue with a relationship where the men are taken. You obviously have no morals or personal pride and no integrity.

And as far as those of us who are older, you should respect our wisdom. We've been down many roads and have witnessed much more of life that you can even dream about.

Want true wisdom, OP? Ask an 80 year old woman. They've seen it all.

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Posted by bnr7013
Really though...can someone explain how to get my rocks off?

rocks off= orgasm!

any who.. I am a true cappy to the core and get it may be hard to let a man buy you anything but GIRL! Men loving buying things for women...that's why they work so hard to provide weather they are with you or someone else. Please don't listen to the older women on here (truecap).. Go on that trip enjoy yourself or stay home and think about him

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You're making yourself sound like a prostitute. "Screw a man, make him buy you stuff."
Worse advise ever. Unless you're actually a gold digger, aka prostitute (same thing).

These are my placements for those wondering:
Sun Sign: Capricorn
Rising sign in Libra
Moon sign in Pisces
Venus in Sagittarius
Mercury in Sagittarius

And while my relationship with my father is not terrible, it certainly is not the best. He was very strict with me growing up, and would get angry with me for the littlest things. There were definitely times when I felt I could not do anything right in his eyes. I had a great relationship with my uncle when I was little, but then he got into a big fight with the rest of the family and left home. I haven't talked with since. Both my grandfathers passed away before I could really build a strong relationship with them. So yes, I have not had many good male role models in my life.

Thank you to those of you who have given serious advice; I appreciate it.

It's your life and you have the freedom to do what you want with it. I just don't want to see you get hurt or used.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

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Posted by cappygurl8
My life is turing into a bad reality show...

It's only because you're allowing it.

Only you have the power to change it.

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true, take control

Posted by cappygurl8
These are my placements for those wondering:
Sun Sign: Capricorn
Rising sign in Libra
Moon sign in Pisces
Venus in Sagittarius
Mercury in Sagittarius

And while my relationship with my father is not terrible, it certainly is not the best. He was very strict with me growing up, and would get angry with me for the littlest things. There were definitely times when I felt I could not do anything right in his eyes. I had a great relationship with my uncle when I was little, but then he got into a big fight with the rest of the family and left home. I haven't talked with since. Both my grandfathers passed away before I could really build a strong relationship with them. So yes, I have not had many good male role models in my life.

Thank you to those of you who have given serious advice; I appreciate it.

aw sounds like you had minimal closeness with your father, and the reet, you didnt have enough. At least your father was there, even if he's not there. Most fathers are absent from a daughter's life.

there is this saying, "a daughter will need his father" and the "son will need his mother"

i dont know why is that.

mother's help us with nurturing and love, how to sacrifice for love.

while father's help us girls, guide us (not necessarily fathers, because if a father is absent, other father figures will do, like a step father, grandfathers ect) direct us, to becoming more confident about ourselves:
http://www.ehow.com/info_7924216_things-his-daughters-self-confidence.html

Seven in 10 girls believe they're not good enough or do not measure up to their peers or family members, reports a writer on the website DoSomething.org. This is especially important considering 75 percent of girls with low self-esteem reported having eating disorders and engaging in negative activities such as cutting, bullying, smoking or drinking. Girls who have a strong relationship with their father are less likely to suffer from depression and low-self esteem and are more likely to delay sexual activity and refrain from drug use, stated a FamilyFacts.org writer. This means fathers are in a unique position to help boost their daughters' self-esteem.

Read more : http://www.ehow.com/info_7924216_things-his-daughters-self-confidence.html

"girls who are close to their fathers, are less likely to suffer from low self esteem"

Posted by tripleCap

Posted by lisabethur8
sometimes you need a little FUN.

all the time whining and pining over men who don't want you, is terrible enough.

So what would you think if the OP was seeing your husband? Would you be okay with that?


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+1 TigerCap

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+1 truecap

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you would like that wouldn't you?

now why would you ask that kind of question—?

seriously, how would YOU like it if it happened to you, triplecap—

let's switch the question around and see how YOU would like it— you just put my husband down.



@the article, i think that sometimes, even depression is inherited. so it's a bit more deeper than that.

but the OP suffers from super low self esteem.

and triplecap, my first husband cheated on me lots and lots of times. Does it make you feel good that it happened to me—

to make your soul feelllll ever so much better—?

that i actually married someone so drug addicted and alcoholic crazed and sex maniac, like Lorenna Bobbit's ex husband (although her ex-husband was physically abusive, as well as sex maniac) that i have actually experienced it—

that's why i'm telling her to get her to toughen up because NONE of these men are gonna care about your ass.

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Posted by lisabethur8
sometimes you need a little FUN.
all the time whining and pining over men who don't want you, is terrible enough.

So what would you think if the OP was seeing your husband? Would you be okay with that?
+1 Damous

+1 ScorpiosHarmony

+1 TigerCap

+1 MissCapricorn89

+1 MetaphysicalReciprocity55

+1 truecap

you would like that wouldn't you?

now why would you ask that kind of question—?

I asked the question because you said "sometimes you need a little FUN".

But you don't have to answer lol

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yes you do. Life is too short to be all depressing and stupid. but you just don't get it. and i dont think you ever will. you really put the depressing on the depressed. I can feel it.

and YES!!! you need fun.

not all the time DEPRESSED and LONELY.

if that's with other people in your life instead of men who treat you like shit,

then do it.

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Posted by lisabethur8
seriously, how would YOU like it if it happened to you, triplecap—

let's switch the question around and see how YOU would like it— you just put my husband down.

Since you think you're so smart, why don't you take a wild guess?

I did not put your husband down, I asked you a question based on a statement you said. LOL

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hm i dont think you follow my posts.

and i dont follow yours.

so never mind.

hmm i guess since we both have experienced it...

then it's how we experience life differently AFTER the fact....

oh well.

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Posted by lisabethur8
and YES!!! you need fun.

not all the time DEPRESSED and LONELY.

if that's with other people in your life instead of men who treat you like shit,

then do it.

Sure. Just not with another girls boyfriend or husband.

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wtf? i never condoned that. I was just having fun with the posts.

because obviously some of you need to get chilled pilled.

did you not read my last posts that my first husband did that??

gosh, i just believe you are just playing with me now. and not really "getting" me at all.

forget it.

jesus christ.


if i were a single man I'd shoot myself before i even dated any of you all. UGH!!!

where are all the SINGLE men on this forum.

come on over here and give some of these ladies some love.

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Posted by lisabethur8
where are all the SINGLE men on this forum.

come on over here and give some of these ladies some love.

No, what YOU need to do is get off the damn internet and make sure your husband isn't out looking for his own "fun".

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lmao

what??

i enjoy coming here from time to time.

at least i'm a homebody, chatting it up with you ladies.

😆


did i hit a nerve there?


what you said doesn't bother me in the least. but maybe what i said bothered you.

i dont know why. Be glad i'm NOT a SINGLE MAN looking for a woman. I'd probably be alone.

i can bake something in the oven while reading. as long as i have a timer. 😄

Posted by MetaphysicalReciprocity55
See, young ladies? See where having "fun" in your younger years gets you?

Desperate housewife status with unlimited time on the net. Dream big.

I'll take Single, Educated, and Accomplished for 500, Alex.

lol

ohhhh.....so nasty.

without lack of empathy.


knock yourself out with getting super accomplished.

and for the record you were online before i got on today, posting here. lol

shouldn't you be out getting accomplished if you're gonna put me down—?

at least i have an excuse. HOMEBODY DELUXE 😄 😄

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Posted by lisabethur8
where are all the SINGLE men on this forum.

come on over here and give some of these ladies some love.

Yet you seem to need it the most.

Oh the irony.

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ohhh ok.

you ladies are taking this a little too much.

i'm guessing i hit a nerve badly.

well i dont want any of you ladies to be sad. and i truly do hope you do find a man who will love you for you.

i may just be having some fun, but you do take it alot more seriously than i thought.

no man who doesn't love you the way you should be loved, is worth all this hassle.

and if single and having an awesome career is best for some of you. 😄 😄

that's your happiness.

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Posted by KittenLaRouge
I have no problem with it. Just get paid.

lol listen to this woman.

make me men sing FOR YOU!!! like this:

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don't give it for free. put on some black net stockings and put on some dark kohl makeup, red red lipstick, some Versace, some lace, and say that's right, mother fucker, you are gonna PAY ME.

😆

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Lisa.

They guys she's talking about are TAKEN. She's seeing someone else's boyfriend and is interested in someone else's husband. You are supporting this. The question asked you was how would you feel if it were YOUR husband she was interested in. You wouldn't like it one bit if snuggle huggles was emotionally attached to another girl. That's what you missed that they were trying to say. Then you came back with everyone deserves a little fun. Well, you'd think it was fun if some single chick was emotionally attached to your husband or seeing your boyfriend. I know you wouldn't like it. Yet, it seemed like you were encouraging her.

Point is she needs to do what she wants and have fun. She can let men pay for stuff. But, it should be a single guy. Not a taken guy. I think you misunderstood what everyone was getting at.

Yes, it hits a nerve with me. It's NOT fun when your husband is emotionally connected to another woman.

And whether you were joking or not, doesn't matter. It wasn't funny.

Just keep in mind, capricorns are much more serious than aquarians. Think about the element. We're down here on the ground while you're drifting with the wind.

Your posts were confusing and inconsistent. Yes, you said those things, but they were mixed in with what appeared to be supporting this girl out having fun running around with these men.

And I get the sarcasm of the one with the picture, but some people didn't take it that way.

Oh, well. I think it's clear now what you were trying to say.