When Caps say I don't want to burden you

My Cap is not in the habit of talking about his day. Only when quite drunk will he open up. Whenever I say to him that it's ok to talk to me about things he will say "I don't want to burden you".

My question is, does this also mean that he does not want to hear about my day too if it's seen as a "burden"?

This makes me feel like I should be looking for emotional support elsewhere. Is this just a reality that I have to accept if I'm with a Cap?

Posted by SunMoonStars
My Cap is not in the habit of talking about his day. Only when quite drunk will he open up. Whenever I say to him that it's ok to talk to me about things he will say "I don't want to burden you".

My question is, does this also mean that he does not want to hear about my day too if it's seen as a "burden"?

This makes me feel like I should be looking for emotional support elsewhere. Is this just a reality that I have to accept if I'm with a Cap?

I don't necessarily think so.

I think it's more of a Cap expects himself to handle his own issues, and not grovel to others.

We're used to others' groveling though. 😉

My ex-Crab woman, though.....wow! She could bitch and moan about the exact same thing everyday (about work). I could tell her exactly how her day was, BEFORE she started to speak. She wasn't to be deterred, however. She'd go ahead a say it all over again for the 1,359th time anyway. That became a burden to me.

I just don't like dumping my problems and negativity on other people. I figure, they probably don't want to hear it and I don't want to bring them down or ruin the mood. I'm fine with listening to other people talk about theirs, doesn't bother me at all.

I also don't like asking for help and don't like to bother people when I know they're busy.

Sounds familiar CapTenn and truecap! I worry that he turns to drinking to decompress while my way to decompress is..well..talking about it. Haha.

Is this why people say that Caps have the weight of the world on them??

I noticed that this is an earth sign trait in general as well, but more so in Caps imo. Both my Taurus ex and Virgo friends rarely* "burden" me with their problems either...

CapTenn, my Cap says he got tired of listening to his ex's "work rants" as well. I think Caps are just so good at accepting work shit that they almost think "duh...of course XYZ sucks...that's work!" 🙂

What CapTenn and TrueCap said.
Ironically, my friends worry about me anyway.
Because I don't share negative feelings or when I'm subsided, hence too cold and quiet to seem okay to them.

Posted by SunMoonStars
CapTenn, my Cap says he got tired of listening to his ex's "work rants" as well. I think Caps are just so good at accepting work shit that they almost think "duh...of course XYZ sucks...that's work!" 🙂

You are accurate.

I can accept that "work sucks", but have no problem telling an interesting thing, or problem that came up at work. Also, I like to hear new and interesting things that I haven't heard before. No problems there.

It's just the non-stop droning on and on about the same people/things every single day..........

"I get it, you can't stand Sally, and your boss refuses to replace the piece of shit printer that jams on every other copy. You don't have to tell me every single day!!!"

HAHA

SirHorns, yes this is true. I worry about mine too 😢
I would like us to be there for each other emotionally as well, but I don't think he's built like that. I hope it won't be one of those relationships where you're together but apart... know what I mean?

Posted by SunMoonStars
CapTenn, my Cap says he got tired of listening to his ex's "work rants" as well. I think Caps are just so good at accepting work shit that they almost think "duh...of course XYZ sucks...that's work!" 🙂

The cap I know used to say that he didn't want to rely on anyone else - used to talk about work when he wanted to. Sometimes he'd say I don't wana talk about work but would listen about mine

Posted by SunMoonStars
My Cap is not in the habit of talking about his day. Only when quite drunk will he open up. Whenever I say to him that it's ok to talk to me about things he will say "I don't want to burden you".

My question is, does this also mean that he does not want to hear about my day too if it's seen as a "burden"?

This makes me feel like I should be looking for emotional support elsewhere. Is this just a reality that I have to accept if I'm with a Cap?

no not necessarily i am a cap moon and if i will say this sentence that only means i don't want to bother you or give you any kind of tension. That doesn't mean i don't want to here your problems. Instead i want you to share everything with me and will do whatever it takes to make you feel better. You can rely on a Capricorn if you are to vent something.