New here - Cap guy has me wondering what if?

Hi all! So my sun & venus is in Sag, but my moon & mars are in Cap. I had met a Cappy guy a year ago thru friends and he showed interest but I was a little bitchy to him because I thought he was a player.
So fast-forward to a month ago...he got back in touch with me and we started spending time together. (He still mentions how he loves that I didn't fall for his act)
He is 4 yrs younger than me, so I saw him as someone to spend time with and have fun with. But I did not expect anything of it. In fact, he made all the effort. So since we had some mutual friends we spent some time hanging out during the holidays and I started to become fond of him in a way that was more than casual. He seemed to do so too.
I think our mutual friends started making some comments about how we'd be "so good together" and it seems to have scared him off. Or maybe I am rationalizing for the fact that he hasn't made a move to progress things to more than what they are.
I dont know what it is exactly that I'm asking. Before everyone got involved I was perfectly content with a casual affair. Now I'm seeing butterflies and unicorns and wondering when he'll call me again. How do I get out of this trance?
Or...how do I get him into this trance as well—

I should just let things happen naturally, shouldnt I?

"butterflies and unicorns"

awwww very cute description...nothing but patience my dear, your caught in the capricorn web, he's gone which is pretty typical, if he was a player back then well he's more than likely still a player and they don't usually stick around to long, he will be back again try some of that cold shoulder action to get him heated up again

You're right...I thought that as well. Sometimes it has nothing to do with someone's sign. I have to tell myself that I shouldnt expect antyhing. That will keep me grounded. I should remind myself that I went into this thinking I'D be the player.

Cap men are yummy, very hard NOT to fall for a Cap guy even the weird caps get tons of play d:

He will come back around, not sure how you are in the aloof department but he may need a heavy dose of it to get him back into running hot again, not ignore but just slightly disinterested should peak his interest again, he likes a good challenge, sort of how you challenged him when you first met, with playa's you can't really relax and get content yawn boring, off he goes

Ugh so true. I wish I could go back to that natural state of aloofness. Now it will certainly be forced and there is a fakeness to it. I have to convince myself somewhow that HELLO this is NOT what I wanted! Maybe that will shake me back into reality. I hate that his bday is coming up on the 13th. My sag carelessness needs to overpower my cap pragmatism.

Dont know why it doubleposted my message. Thank you Tiki. I will take heed to what you said here and in your PM.

take your time, find something else interesting to focus on and pounce on him when he comes back hehehehe...jus kidding,

you can handle it Sagi girls rock

Update - haven't seen eachother since New Year's. We've texted a few times every other day which is the norm for us. Sigh...I'd really like to have sex with him again.

your helping him be lazy towards you....texting is not going to get you sex

It depends what you text ... 🙂

OK will do! Time to make this goat climb some mountains!