cluelessgirl
@cluelessgirl
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Openly talk or just fade out
Thank you @Capri-sun
I'm just unhappy with the complication he made out of it. We've clarified what we were before because I've asked to meet up right about 2~3 months when we've known each other, he thought I was looking for more than friends, but from my point of view, I want to meet because: a) You can fast tell if the person is really what s/he says s/he is face to face. b) We can avoid problem if either of us starts to dating. He heard me, so the second time he made a clarification indeed made me feel he was feeling guilty of leading people on. Of course, I would love to have a romantic relationship with a close friend, but I definitely won't develop that feeling with a virtual friend! He thinks too much!
Anyway, I was asking because I need a third opinion in case I want to rant at him, if he didn't had bad intention, I'll just fade out, I want to have peace, not hurting anyone's feelings.
I'm just unhappy with the complication he made out of it. We've clarified what we were before because I've asked to meet up right about 2~3 months when we've known each other, he thought I was looking for more than friends, but from my point of view, I want to meet because: a) You can fast tell if the person is really what s/he says s/he is face to face. b) We can avoid problem if either of us starts to dating. He heard me, so the second time he made a clarification indeed made me feel he was feeling guilty of leading people on. Of course, I would love to have a romantic relationship with a close friend, but I definitely won't develop that feeling with a virtual friend! He thinks too much!
Anyway, I was asking because I need a third opinion in case I want to rant at him, if he didn't had bad intention, I'll just fade out, I want to have peace, not hurting anyone's feelings.
Posted by Capri-sun
Oh ok. Sorry. Either. Whatever you want to do.
The stringing people along part doesn't necessarily mean he's done it in the past because I say things like that, it was just for clarification purposes.
If the conversation wasn't flirty then it was probably just friendship.
He might not have wanted to meet to avoid causing ripples with the new lady. It would be different if the 2 of you had met in person prior to rather than "hey she's a friend I met online, yet we've never met in person" just too much room for misinterpretation.
Caps seem to like close friendships with girls that like them a lot. But usually they don't feel the same way. Too many of us experiencing that right now...
Well, I don't have romantic feelings towards him as I've never met him. It's just what he said and done made me feel he is constantly inferring I'm having that intention towards him. It's not like we didn't put it on the table before. This made me suspect he is actually trying to lead me on and enjoying the attention... Having that intention or not, what he is doing is really bad for a true friendship.
Posted by pinkbird03
Caps seem to like close friendships with girls that like them a lot. But usually they don't feel the same way. Too many of us experiencing that right now...
Posted by cluelessgirlBe honest? Do you like him? You're writing about him and thinking a lot about him. I think you do like him more than your admitting right now. ?
Well, I don't have romantic feelings towards him as I've never met him. It's just what he said and done made me feel he is constantly inferring I'm having that intention towards him. It's not like we didn't put it on the table before. This made me suspect he is actually trying to lead me on and enjoying the attention... Having that intention or not, what he is doing is really bad for a true friendship.Posted by pinkbird03
Caps seem to like close friendships with girls that like them a lot. But usually they don't feel the same way. Too many of us experiencing that right now...click to expand
nscious knowledge, I don't have romantic feeling towards this cap guy ATM. I like our intellectual connection, but this chemistry thing in a romantic relationship isn't a rational thing that can be built on intelligence, and certainly not by texting. I don't make friends easily, so I won't give up a friend easily. That's why I've been torturing myself this weekend as I'm trying to make up my mind to end this friendship. I've given up a close friend before, it's the same kind of painful decision, so I think this one is not about romance either.Posted by pinkbird03Posted by cluelessgirlBe honest? Do you like him? You're writing about him and thinking a lot about him. I think you do like him more than your admitting right now. ?
Well, I don't have romantic feelings towards him as I've never met him. It's just what he said and done made me feel he is constantly inferring I'm having that intention towards him. It's not like we didn't put it on the table before. This made me suspect he is actually trying to lead me on and enjoying the attention... Having that intention or not, what he is doing is really bad for a true friendship.Posted by pinkbird03
Caps seem to like close friendships with girls that like them a lot. But usually they don't feel the same way. Too many of us experiencing that right now...
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Posted by cluelessgirljust like a capricorn he never intentended or wanted to ever meet you. it was all a joke on you and and a waste if you time for shits and giggles.
So I met a Cap guy online in March. We have been texting for months but never met in person as we live in different cities about 3 hours drive. Our text communication are generally about witty stuff and occasionally jokes, never flirty. We've also video chatted a few times, so we know both are real and decent people. I do like chatting with him, and we have discussed our friendship, he said I'm a close friend of him, and I said I value our friendship, which is always the most important thing no matter what happens.
At the end of October, I got the chance to visit his city with a friend, I told him and suggested we should meet up, which he agreed. Then my friend cancelled, I told him I still can go as I've reserved the time for the trip and it would be nice to see him. Then he called me saying he appreciates our friendship and doesn't want to lead me on, he is starting to see someone about 2 months. I'm a bit annoyed by this, not that he is seeing someone, it's that the way he explained it made me feel that he was actually leading people on in the past, if he wasn't guilty of it, he probably needn't to clarify; Also, I felt I'm not welcomed by him if he truly see me as friend. I laughed over his concerns and asked him why he didn't tell me he is seeing someone, he replied:"well, there wasn't a topic bringing it up and that relationship is still new." Later I actually went there for my sports club event the day I was supposed to go with my friend but didn't contact him.
I don't like the way he dealt with it and reduced my text interaction. We are both very busy people and I don't like texting, the only reason I kept texting him is because I sincerely valued this friendship, but now there is seed for doubt. He still texts me as usual, I only answer his questions but not asking anything to encourage the interaction. The funny thing is when he routinely asked about my weekend, I told him I went to his city. He replied: "that's nice, especially you've recovered from injury." If my friend comes to my city without telling me, I'd be yelling: why you didn't tell me!
Any suggestion on should I openly talk to him to end this texting friendship or just gradually fading on my part? I'm very curious to see the dramatic effect by talking to him directly, then the calm cap myself tells me: why bother? lol
all they tend to do is lead people on when they never had any intentions of the friendship or relationship going anywhere. they say they want to meet and it turns out to be a total waste of time.
your just fucking lucky with only a few months as i had way more than that.
if they are not woman or man enough to show up at your door steps after all that bullshitting and lieing, then its a waste of your time.
the thing is this. bad things will happen and catch up to them in due time. sooner rather than later.
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