Overreacted with Capricorn Man. Did I ruin it for good? (Taurus)

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A cap guy (23) and I were seeing each other for about a month now, but we had been together in the past off and on. He had been distant for a week after I saw him, but everything seemed normal. He just got out of a long relationship so I ended up giving him space. Last night I texted him saying I was going out and to let me know if he wanted to see me, but he didn’t respond and then just came to the place I told him I would be at. I had to say hi first and he was nice and hugged me but I could feel something was off so I walked away right after. Later I saw him all over another girl that is mutual friends with my good friends and had recently asked my friend if Cap and I were talking and my friend said yes. They made it so obvious and weren’t even trying to hide from me that they were out together so I just lost it and my Taurus bull came out and I passed him to leave the bar and said “F you” to both of them and then stormed out. I wanted to leave but my friend said to stay out and try to have fun cause i would be more sad at home. But at the end of the night I saw them walking out together alone so in shock I said “are you serious? F you guys. What an A**hole” and the girl he was with later called my friend who she’s close with saying she didn’t do anything with him and that I was psycho. I just can’t believe that happened, now I feel incredibly crazy for losing my cool. We weren’t exclusive either but he was leading me on so much and I was super hurt and I’m not sure now if he thinks I’m psychotic or if he will try to contact me later or if he feels bad. I’m so embarrassed
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Posted by Blairjones512

A cap guy (23) and I were seeing each other for about a month now, but we had been together in the past off and on. He had been distant for a week after I saw him, but everything seemed normal. He just got out of a long relationship so I ended up giving him space. Last night I texted him saying I was going out and to let me know if he wanted to see me, but he didn’t respond and then just came to the place I told him I would be at. I had to say hi first and he was nice and hugged me but I could feel something was off so I walked away right after. Later I saw him all over another girl that is mutual friends with my good friends and had recently asked my friend if Cap and I were talking and my friend said yes. They made it so obvious and weren’t even trying to hide from me that they were out together so I just lost it and my Taurus bull came out and I passed him to leave the bar and said “F you” to both of them and then stormed out. I wanted to leave but my friend said to stay out and try to have fun cause i would be more sad at home. But at the end of the night I saw them walking out together alone so in shock I said “are you serious? F you guys. What an A**hole” and the girl he was with later called my friend who she’s close with saying she didn’t do anything with him and that I was psycho. I just can’t believe that happened, now I feel incredibly crazy for losing my cool. We weren’t exclusive either but he was leading me on so much and I was super hurt and I’m not sure now if he thinks I’m psychotic or if he will try to contact me later or if he feels bad. I’m so embarrassed


It's an annoying thing some people have, that they are just stone cold whatever you do. And disrespectful. And it's hard to accept, that you can't do anything.

But think in the long run how much of a fucking pain in the ass it would be to actually be with a person like that : stone cold and selfish and not trying to communicate and create understanding. Imagine even having kids with a guy like that! Yikes!!!! Kids would be so emotionally neglected. Not worth it.
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Posted by Blairjones512

@starlord thank you for your reassurance. You are so right that he showed me his true colors. I ended up deleting both of them off all social media last night. Just wish I wouldn't of let it get the best of me cause I made a scene and now he probably thinks i am crazy


You're a bull, you were at least brave enough to express yourself and let out your anger on whoever deserved it instead of letting it eat you up inside and feel all sad about it. Cause hell it seems they did deserve it! Yeah you lost your cool, but that was because you took him seriously and he was a big disappointment. We live and learn! Next time, you will probably realize some people don't even deserve to give them the slightest attention and you will be happy you learned that about them in the end.

No regrets, no worries, people come and go. And maybe if someone commented on what happened, just brush it off, like whatever, doesn't deserve a second thought. You know better now and as you said, it's good you know their true colours now "especially their response to you blasting at them" he could have been caring about how you felt but yeh .. this showed you even more what they are! And I believe this is all that matters in the end. Such situations reveal people we thought we knew well.
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@starlord thank you for your reassurance. You are so right that he showed me his true colors. I ended up deleting both of them off all social media last night. Just wish I wouldn't of let it get the best of me cause I made a scene and now he probably thinks i am crazy


Listen, I have had a cap guy text me, that I was crazy and something was wrong with me.

I am a little crazy, it comes with the package 🤷🏼‍♀️ But also he acted a certain way, that made me re-act. Guys are always like "oh my ex/this girl from my past is a psycho". Funny, 'cause nobody else ever says that, but the guy who makes the girl psycho. It's like they are supposed to be able to do whatever they want and we are not allowed to react, because we want to look cool?! Fuck that. It's internationals Womens du today btw, so you do you! Women are stereotyped as crazy bitches all the time. So last year!
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You stated you were not exclusive but why is he showing up at the place you told him you would be at with another girl?


Because he was testing her to see how she'd react. Caps don't like drama...but when they actually like you, they will test the degree to which you like them.

Now he knows she truly does care. He'll be back.

But...he needs to grow the fuck up. If he wanted to know how much she likes him, he should have just asked.

You deserve better, OP.
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You stated you were not exclusive but why is he showing up at the place you told him you would be at with another girl?


Because he was testing her to see how she'd react. Caps don't like drama...but when they actually like you, they will test the degree to which you like them.

Now he knows she truly does care. He'll be back.

But...he needs to grow the fuck up. If he wanted to know how much she likes him, he should have just asked.

You deserve better, OP.


Now I know why Cap 'accidentally' texted me - hey sweety did you get my pictures?

He wanted me to believe he sent pics to another girl. lol

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Yep! You got it exactly right, mama. Those are unevolved Caps. My ex, on our first date, flirted with the slutty-looking waitress at the piano bar we went to. He then disappeared for a bit. I was stoically listening to the music and sipping my drink. It was my third by this time. He came back and asked, "So, you're not even going to ask what took me so long? You didn't even glance to check on me." So, I responded, "Why would I do that?

You're a grown man, aren't you?" I smirked and took another sip of my third drink...the most expensive whiskey they had in-house.
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Posted by Blairjones512

@redbull yeah I just wasn’t sure if i was overreacting but now I know that he was in the wrong even though we weren’t exclusive he was so rude about it. I don’t want anything to do with him. I hate guys that act like they didn’t do anything to deserve crazy behavior from women... such a shame cause I thought Capricorn with Taurus rising would be my perfect match lol


👏👏👏 Glad you're learning to walk away early, honey. That was the biggest lesson I learned the hard way during my 20s. Time is precious...don't give it to people who haven't earned it.
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Posted by Leeta

You stated you were not exclusive but why is he showing up at the place you told him you would be at with another girl?


Because he was testing her to see how she'd react. Caps don't like drama...but when they actually like you, they will test the degree to which you like them.

Now he knows she truly does care. He'll be back.

But...he needs to grow the fuck up. If he wanted to know how much she likes him, he should have just asked.

You deserve better, OP.


Now I know why Cap 'accidentally' texted me - hey sweety did you get my pictures?

He wanted me to believe he sent pics to another girl. lol

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Oh waaaauw the shaaaaame! What a fucking idiot 😂😂 him, not you!
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I think I fu cked up.

I was trying to be nonchalant and I responded, "wrong person lol"

even though I was dying inside.


Nope. That was the perfect response.

He was testing you and your response will make him think that he needs to work harder to get you to respond jealously.


He responded with a "huh?"

I replied with a rolling eyes emoji

This was a few years ago in just the getting to know each other phase! I didn't like how controlling he was and the double standards were infuriating me. Too bad though, he was a tall good looking Dr.

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They usually are very accomplished, but their nature doesn't discriminate. They'll fit the bill...every time. It's almost inescapable. But...that works to our advantage once we become well-versed in deciphering their behavior. I'm always 10 steps ahead now.

The question is: is it worth the trouble? Only you can truly answer that. People can tell me all day, "Girrrrrl, you deserve better. Drop his ass." But...at the end of the day, only you know what's truly in your heart and you will be the one to either celebrate or suffer its decisions.

For me, I just realized suddenly that he didn't truly love me. He loved my love for him, which secured his ego.
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@redbull yeah I just wasn’t sure if i was overreacting but now I know that he was in the wrong even though we weren’t exclusive he was so rude about it. I don’t want anything to do with him. I hate guys that act like they didn’t do anything to deserve crazy behavior from women... such a shame cause I thought Capricorn with Taurus rising would be my perfect match lol


👏👏👏 Glad you're learning to walk away early, honey. That was the biggest lesson I learned the hard way during my 20s. Time is precious...don't give it to people who haven't earned it.
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Same here