cap and taurus

as soon as this show aired there were comments that they won't last as a couple. they have three kids, and been together for 8yrs and married for 5, I believe, but i do see tension, even in the very familiar body language from the cap. he wants to move, she wants to stay in their house. i bet they have real struggles about all big decisions. i remember her saying they were in counseling at one point because he didn't want her to work. I think this is the scene on the previews where she blows up a bit.

I'm wondering if Taurus foresee this when they pursue a cap and vice versa?

Posted by Caplove

I really like this pairing. Taurus doesn't seem to mind pulling the reluctant Cap along.

To me, they both look tired. I don't think the Taurus minds, but if there's a constant struggle about everything then its possibly a problem.

Posted by Redbull

One thing I am realizing is Taurus wants more. Not necessarily to a ridiculous degree but Cap has their place and they are like "this is where i'll stay" I have seen this in my experiences. One of my main goals is going to another city/cities and not limiting my scope. I need to get outta here but the Caps I know here, except one dude my dads friend who moved to different places, but the others are here and never talk about leaving this place. Its a big world out there and you see the Taurus like "eh, theres more out there". Yep good point different outlooks.

Maybe it depends on the cap, the taurus and both of their upbringings.

My taurus friend and I are both products of Aquas, so I don't think either of us are stuck. We both want to get out of here and travel and move to other places, but until then, personally I'm staying put in my spot. I don't want to live in this city forever though...not at all. I actually want to travel the world. If anything, my mother taught me not to be attached to anything.

Posted by Caplove

I was wondering who the Cap was and then she started talking. 😄

u mean they bitch a lot and everything is annoying?

Posted by lnana04

Posted by Caplove

I really like this pairing. Taurus doesn't seem to mind pulling the reluctant Cap along.

To me, they both look tired. I don't think the Taurus minds, but if there's a constant struggle about everything then its possibly a problem.

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to me, this looks like a forced conversation for the benefit of the camera. as it seems that there was only one camera operator, they probably had to do it a couple of times or stop in the middle of it so that the camera person could focus on kirsten for the "this is my time" line.

lnana04 What's up lady?? Still going strong with this Taur/Cap stuff huh?!?! hahaha

Posted by TaurGuy

lnana04 What's up lady?? Still going strong with this Taur/Cap stuff huh?!?! hahaha

Hey you, nothing much! How is it going?

Unfortunately, I'm still hanging on lol.

I was moving on from all of this Taurus/Cap stuff until he popped back up smh, lol.

Haha . Right on. Not giving up on him huh!?!

Yeah. I 100% bailed on the Cap. She ended up lying to me. We got together and had a big talk about us, and what our future looked like. She told me that she didn't want to date anyone until she finish grad school. She said then she didn't know, but we might have something after she graduated, just friends until then. (About a year to graduate)

Trouble was. I knew something that she didn't know I knew. And that was. I found out she had been dating some other guy for over a month. And. They had just made it official. I went into that conversation hoping she would tell me. It would have sucked to know she went with a different option for sure. But, her saying so and being honest with me would have still made it all worth it. (Maybe could still be friends once I dealt with my feelings) Instead she lied and told me "don't wanna date anyone, but maybe we could have something after grad school" While she already had a bf at that point. haha Gave her a hug goodbye. I left, never said a thing about what I knew. And cut her 100% out of my life. She ceased to exist to me after I left that day. I can't hang with being lied to like that. haha

That was something like 4-5 years ago. Been told about her a few times over the years. Guess she had a kid with that guy she was dating pretty quickly. Almost married him. Then he left(Moved away) Now she's dating someone else. Thought she moved away too. But, ran into her twice in the last 3 months. We talked and laughed together. Asked her what has gone on for her over the years. Told me tons of stuff. But never said a word about her current bf, or the fact that she had a kid.. lol.. I noticed when was with her recently. I didn't feel one single tiny spark left for her anymore. haha

Dated a Sag for a bit over a year. That was actually pretty good for the most part. lol

Now.. Sort of seeing my first Virgo.. This could be freaking amazing if she would let it bloom. But. She keeps saying that she wants to be 'special friends' because she needs to be single for a while. Gas, Brake, Gas, Brake... lol Kinda frustrating to see such amazing potential with her. And everything goes great until I point out that how amazing it is, or more amazing it could be if it could breath a bit more. The moment I do that. She takes a firehose to our flames and tries to sterilize our relationship. Then we have to start building it all over again.. lol

Virgo is what brought me back here. Dig her a lot. lol

Posted by TaurGuy

Haha . Right on. Not giving up on him huh!?!

Yeah. I 100% bailed on the Cap. She ended up lying to me. We got together and had a big talk about us, and what our future looked like. She told me that she didn't want to date anyone until she finish grad school. She said then she didn't know, but we might have something after she graduated, just friends until then. (About a year to graduate)

Trouble was. I knew something that she didn't know I knew. And that was. I found out she had been dating some other guy for over a month. And. They had just made it official. I went into that conversation hoping she would tell me. It would have sucked to know she went with a different option for sure. But, her saying so and being honest with me would have still made it all worth it. (Maybe could still be friends once I dealt with my feelings) Instead she lied and told me "don't wanna date anyone, but maybe we could have something after grad school" While she already had a bf at that point. haha Gave her a hug goodbye. I left, never said a thing about what I knew. And cut her 100% out of my life. She ceased to exist to me after I left that day. I can't hang with being lied to like that. haha

That was something like 4-5 years ago. Been told about her a few times over the years. Guess she had a kid with that guy she was dating pretty quickly. Almost married him. Then he left(Moved away) Now she's dating someone else. Thought she moved away too. But, ran into her twice in the last 3 months. We talked and laughed together. Asked her what has gone on for her over the years. Told me tons of stuff. But never said a word about her current bf, or the fact that she had a kid.. lol.. I noticed when was with her recently. I didn't feel one single tiny spark left for her anymore. haha

Dated a Sag for a bit over a year. That was actually pretty good for the most part. lol

Now.. Sort of seeing my first Virgo.. This could be freaking amazing if she would let it bloom. But. She keeps saying that she wants to be 'special friends' because she needs to be single for a while. Gas, Brake, Gas, Brake... lol Kinda frustrating to see such amazing potential with her. And everything goes great until I point out that how amazing it is, or more amazing it could be if it could breath a bit more. The moment I do that. She takes a firehose to our flames and tries to sterilize our relationship. Then we have to start building it all over again.. lol

Virgo is what brought me back here. Dig her a lot. lol

Well you gotta just let it bloom with the Virgo without saying anything.

I think I remember mentioning that to you with the Cap, it's something about the pressure that maybe scares other earth signs. I still feel it with the Taurus. I'm not a Virgo of course, but maybe its you that kind of have to let it breathe without saying anything and just lead but let her follow. Again, I'm not a Virgo so maybe they can chime in.

Sucks to hear about the Cap. Similar happened with the Taurus, felt him pulling away so I asked him if he was seeing someone. He lied and said no, then he started completely ignoring my texts, and come to find out he was in a relationship and started posting them together on facebook. They were together for two years, and he just popped back up in May. I was devastated, but I knew I was withholding the entire time and knew we were never technically together so I took the loss as best as I could. Since he's popped up he's been showing much more effort, but I think my heart is blocked, yet I'm finding myself much more jealous and suspicious than I ever was before. It's like I'm guarding the wrong parts of myself, smh. Im still having issues with trusting him, although I'm still hesitant on officially being together, possibly because I don't trust him, idk. It's all still partially a headache.

I wish you and the Virgo luck. I think earth/earth have great potential, a mediator of some sort is just needed lol.

Yeah. I know your feeling. That's why I cut her loose hard and cold. To me once you damage trust to that point. There is nothing left. You can try to hang on to what you would like it to be. But, that whisper in the back of your mind will always hold you back. And, like a virus. Slowly destroy from the inside out.

You might have a point about 'Me' letting it breath too.. And I've considered that too. I never bring it up to her anymore. But, my actions sometimes betray my silence. For instance. She's called me out for doing things like putting my hand on her leg and stroking her while driving together. I had been doing it for a while. One day. She told me not to. That it felt too much like a relationship kind of thing to her. Firehose on our flame for a while after that. Then rebuild.. haha.. Honestly. Didn't even really realize I was doing that. Just feel compelled to be touching her. All that bs about Taurus and communicating through touch I guess.. lol

Then later she'll do shit like say "I'm tired, lets go to bed" I'm thinking 'hell yeah, lets go to bed' But, turns out. She meant sleep!! lol Don't put you hand on my leg while we drive because it feels like a relationship. But!! Lets go to bed means sleep!?! lol

She does have a insane amount of earth though. Almost all Virgo, or Cap planets hahaha

Posted by TaurGuy

Yeah. I know your feeling. That's why I cut her loose hard and cold. To me once you damage trust to that point. There is nothing left. You can try to hang on to what you would like it to be. But, that whisper in the back of your mind will always hold you back. And, like a virus. Slowly destroy from the inside out.

You might have a point about 'Me' letting it breath too.. And I've considered that too. I never bring it up to her anymore. But, my actions sometimes betray my silence. For instance. She's called me out for doing things like putting my hand on her leg and stroking her while driving together. I had been doing it for a while. One day. She told me not to. That it felt too much like a relationship kind of thing to her. Firehose on our flame for a while after that. Then rebuild.. haha.. Honestly. Didn't even really realize I was doing that. Just feel compelled to be touching her. All that bs about Taurus and communicating through touch I guess.. lol

Then later she'll do shit like say "I'm tired, lets go to bed" I'm thinking 'hell yeah, lets go to bed' But, turns out. She meant sleep!! lol Don't put you hand on my leg while we drive because it feels like a relationship. But!! Lets go to bed means sleep!?! lol

She does have a insane amount of earth though. Almost all Virgo, or Cap planets hahaha

Ah, I see what you,mean by the constant stop and go. Well how was she responding physically to you touching her?

I would think lets go to bed means sleep too, so I see how she meant sleep on her end, but then again I saying lets go to bed is not something you would tell your "friend." Earth/Earth is weird like that with the mixed signals, good luck is all I can say lol. I hope some Virgo's can come in and kind of say what she's thinking and how to get the light on green lol.

haha.. Nah. Not trying to hijack your thread.. lol

Your day by day has been going on/off for a while now. But. Totally whatever makes you happy.. (If it does) lol

Posted by TaurGuy

haha.. Nah. Not trying to hijack your thread.. lol

Your day by day has been going on/off for a while now. But. Totally whatever makes you happy.. (If it does) lol

Oh, I don't care if you hijack it lol.

We actually had a very very good talk last night up until this morning. I actually got all the info I needed to know.

All the info you needed huh!?! So. you know where you both are standing then? Are you both on the same page at all?

Posted by TaurGuy

All the info you needed huh!?! So. you know where you both are standing then? Are you both on the same page at all?

Yeah, I think so. I told him that it's probably best we just cool it.

Yeah. Might be for the best. Although, that doesn't sound quite that firm. haha

Go pick another flower.

You've been so focused on nurturing this one for so long. You might have forgotten there are fields of other flowers all around. All beautiful in their own way. Maybe another one will grow and bloom in your care better with everything you've put into this one..

Posted by TaurGuy

Yeah. Might be for the best. Although, that doesn't sound quite that firm. haha

Go pick another flower.

You've been so focused on nurturing this one for so long. You might have forgotten there are fields of other flowers all around. All beautiful in their own way. Maybe another one will grow and bloom in your care better with everything you've put into this one..

I don't date, never have lol.

There's only one guy other than the Taurus that I was interested in these past few years, so its rare I run into someone I like and I'm not interested in dating honestly.

I just want someone, a future husband preferably, to come and snatch me up, but until then I need to get some things together.

Don't date and want a husband sounds pretty self defeating. But, you already know that. Unless, you're just planning on losing a glass slipper in a ballroom, or something. 😉

Either way.. Definitely you do you!! 🙂

For me:

I know dating absolutely has it horrors. But, if I kept my eyes tightly shut so I don't see any horror. I'd never see any of the amazing beauty in the world either. (Even if/when that beauty is short, It still touches you. And that crafts you)

I'd love to lose a glass slipper in a ballroom lol!

I've never been interested in dating. I think my ideal situation has always been to start off as friends, kind of drift into something more, then for him to say I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I've never had even a small interest in dating or having a boyfriend. Its like a step I want to skip plus I just don't have the energy to give myself emotionally or even physically to multiple people. The husband thing has come more recently, I guess since I'm getting older. I think I'd be fine with or without one.

Posted by TaurGuy

Don't date and want a husband sounds pretty self defeating. But, you already know that. Unless, you're just planning on losing a glass slipper in a ballroom, or something. 😉

Either way.. Definitely you do you!! 🙂

For me:

I know dating absolutely has it horrors. But, if I kept my eyes tightly shut so I don't see any horror. I'd never see any of the amazing beauty in the world either. (Even if/when that beauty is short, It still touches you. And that crafts you)

Just in those short moments he seems moody and non-direct. This would annoy me to death.

Like she asked him how far is this place? His answer....Ukh that’d drive me crazy. I’m surprised how well she responded. She said your timing is off... super Cap. We got our own timing on things. Tauruses seem to only to think about current and not kind of long term consequence or full effects of decisions.

Funny I stay away from Tauruses like a death trap. Met one last night and he came to meet up with my Scorpio friend. Then he was all into me so she started being a social butterfly and talking to other guys. Then he tells me what’s up with your friend look she went with that guy! I had to stop him dead on his tracks ✋ I was like no! She’s not going with other guys. She’s right there. Look you’re talking to me so... obviously she can talk to other guys too”. Then he didn’t want to talk to her again. I was like cmon please. It’s not a big deal etc etc. And he was all like no!!! I was like oh god ok whatever 🙄🙄🙄

Regardless of the physical chemistry I was like I couldn’t be with someone so close minded ...who didn’t realize her actions were valid based on his. He just wanted it all I suppose and tried to make excuses about it.

Posted by TaurGuy

Yeah. Might be for the best. Although, that doesn't sound quite that firm. haha

Go pick another flower.

You've been so focused on nurturing this one for so long. You might have forgotten there are fields of other flowers all around. All beautiful in their own way. Maybe another one will grow and bloom in your care better with everything you've put into this one..

Just circled back

To this thread and this was great advice lol. I think women and more specifically Cap women get súper tunnel vision when they like someone. If a relationship is not official and solid it’s definitely good to surround yourself with options because it’ll give you perspective on how different people are compatible in different ways and you might find that one works better than another.

Cap men and Taurus women can be good only as friends. We are very similar so there is no spark. Plus they'll find caps too aggressive, cold and work oriented.

Posted by lnana04

I'd love to lose a glass slipper in a ballroom lol!

I've never been interested in dating. I think my ideal situation has always been to start off as friends, kind of drift into something more, then for him to say I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I've never had even a small interest in dating or having a boyfriend. Its like a step I want to skip plus I just don't have the energy to give myself emotionally or even physically to multiple people. The husband thing has come more recently, I guess since I'm getting older. I think I'd be fine with or without one.

Yeah. I can totally understand that.

My trouble that I seem to have with that is: Basically, my friends are purely friends. I don't know I would ever see them as anything other then that. I have some really amazing female friends. Incredibly attractive ones too. But, if I have no romantic interest in someone. That, so far, will never change. Generally I know pretty quickly spending time if a woman is that I could see myself with. Someone I want to be with on a deeper, more intimate level. In that case, I want to pursue that and see what depth it can grow into. I approach it with that mindset.. Or, they don't have anything that interests me in a romantic capacity. In that case. My friends, no matter how awesome and attractive they are. I will never engage non-platonic thoughts for them.

This has been something of a issue with the Virgo. She has told me that she wants to be single. But, also told me that she isn't seeing anyone else. She wants what you are describing. A friendship first. That grows into something else. For me. Those are completely different roads, with completely different mindsets on my part. For me. It is already growing into 'something else'. But, I try to do this "Special friends" thing she likes to call it. Because that's what makes her comfortable, and I hate when she pulls away. Also. I think if she was being honest. It's already something more for her too. I think she is sort of playing mind games with herself about what it is to her.. I think that some days. But, others I wonder. She can be cold and really detached sometimes. Especially recently. And I wonder if... Well. She is losing interest!? Or, is trying to counter balance her feelings to better pretend "Just friends"!? Not sure which sometimes. Funny thing is. As much as she tells me 'just friends'. I run into her friends, or people from her work. And they all think I'm her bf.. Her 3-4 best friends only know all the details. And even them when I say I have to leave. Will often find some silly excuse to give me and Virgo a moment of private time before I leave.. lol So, not sure what she's told them.. lol

It feels so unnecessarily complicated like this.. And really un-solid/safe for me too. This lack of solid footing makes me feel somewhat clingy sometimes. And I'm not like that at all normally. lol

Posted by Commodus

You sound like a sweetheart. Are you guys sleeping together? Like the r rated version of sleeping together?...

Yes. Well, she's in a fade kinda thing right now. So it's been 4 weeks.. Gotta get that woman sexy in my hands again soon. haha. But, she's cold and distant right now. For the first time since end of april when we met. We went a day without even texting each other a few days ago. (Normally 100+ texts every day/all day) She had been fading for a week or more. And I just let her have her space. Didn't say a thing to her when she pulled back. Didn't say a thing when she didn't text for a day.. She's somewhat coming back-ish now. (20ish text/day) Haven't got together in a week though. Normally 2-3 times a week we're together.

Posted by TaurGuy

Posted by lnana04

I'd love to lose a glass slipper in a ballroom lol!

I've never been interested in dating. I think my ideal situation has always been to start off as friends, kind of drift into something more, then for him to say I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I've never had even a small interest in dating or having a boyfriend. Its like a step I want to skip plus I just don't have the energy to give myself emotionally or even physically to multiple people. The husband thing has come more recently, I guess since I'm getting older. I think I'd be fine with or without one.

Yeah. I can totally understand that.

My trouble that I seem to have with that is: Basically, my friends are purely friends. I don't know I would ever see them as anything other then that. I have some really amazing female friends. Incredibly attractive ones too. But, if I have no romantic interest in someone. That, so far, will never change. Generally I know pretty quickly spending time if a woman is that I could see myself with. Someone I want to be with on a deeper, more intimate level. In that case, I want to pursue that and see what depth it can grow into. I approach it with that mindset.. Or, they don't have anything that interests me in a romantic capacity. In that case. My friends, no matter how awesome and attractive they are. I will never engage non-platonic thoughts for them.

This has been something of a issue with the Virgo. She has told me that she wants to be single. But, also told me that she isn't seeing anyone else. She wants what you are describing. A friendship first. That grows into something else. For me. Those are completely different roads, with completely different mindsets on my part. For me. It is already growing into 'something else'. But, I try to do this "Special friends" thing she likes to call it. Because that's what makes her comfortable, and I hate when she pulls away. Also. I think if she was being honest. It's already something more for her too. I think she is sort of playing mind games with herself about what it is to her.. I think that some days. But, others I wonder. She can be cold and really detached sometimes. Especially recently. And I wonder if... Well. She is losing interest!? Or, is trying to counter balance her feelings to better pretend "Just friends"!? Not sure which sometimes. Funny thing is. As much as she tells me 'just friends'. I run into her friends, or people from her work. And they all think I'm her bf.. Her 3-4 best friends only know all the details. And even them when I say I have to leave. Will often find some silly excuse to give me and Virgo a moment of private time before I leave.. lol So, not sure what she's told them.. lolI

It feels so unnecessarily complicated like this.. And really un-solid/safe for me too. This lack of solid footing makes me feel somewhat clingy sometimes. And I'm not like that at all normally. lol

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Sounds like she likes you but doesn't want to label it just yet, either way if she said she wants to be single then you gotta believe her as it went through her thoughts, past her feelings, and came out of her mouth. I think you either need to detach yourself and trust her words, or ask some very uncomfortable questions to get to the bottom of whats going on before a lot of time is wasted. I find that it's easy with earth/earth to not really talk in fear of rocking the boat, and possibly hearing something that you don't want to hear, but its better to get a solid understanding of what's going on I'd think, since it's getting uncomfortable for you.

I always got the impression that her parents weren't together.

Like her mother lives in Chicago or something. Atleast that's what I thought for some reason.

Posted by Redbull

Posted by Black-Mamba

This is the home she grew up in, although her parents recently lost the home, couldn't afford mortgage

Whoa, a beachfront castle. Thats definitely a house of the rich of the rich. On a side note, I never understood,if you are so rich you can "afford" one of the most expensive types of houses around, why not pay cash? Why have a mortgage and get in a position you cant afford it? Like when Mcmahon from Johnny Carson lost his house to foreclosure. He was on Johnny Carson for like 30 years and had numerous side jobs he couldnt buy a house outright?

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I never understood that either, and still don't understand it since a lot of celebs are still losing their homes to foreclosure.