Reading These Threads Has Me Sccuuurreeddd!!!

Hi everyone! I used to be a REUGLAR on DXP way back when. I used to troll the Virgo, Scorpio (sometimes) and relationship boards. Sometimes the beauty board as well. I digress. I recently broke up with a Libra who I was with for a little over a year. We moved way to fast, moved in with one another and things got way out of control way too fast. Agghh! I regret agreeing to live together. I guess hindsight is 20/20, right. Well anyway, Libra was terrible with communication and our long term future as far as creating a family together began to look dismal. So, I bit the bullet, had the talk, we broke up and he moved out. So I'm single! Lol.

About a month ago, I was at a housewarming party and I ran into an old friend from high school. A Cap. We exchanged emails and said that we would keep in touch. We began emailing a little back and forth a little here and there. I really didnt think anything of it because I was in the process of ending things with the Libra. Last night the Cap and I went out. We had dinner. We met at a little restaurant and then went for coffee and desert at another little place nearby. The food was delish and the conversation was great, which from what I have read is a common personality trait found within Capppies.

You??re probably wondering why the hell I am here. My dilemma/question is this. I am digging this guy. However, I am reluctant 1) because I just got out of my relationship with the Libra and 2) this Cappie man feels like he holds a certain power that quite frankly scares my little Scorpion tail right off. Is it possible that I have met my match? I was already wondering this last night after the date. Then I went on here this morning and read some of the threads and some of my fears were confirmed. Are these Cap men REALLY as tricky as what I have read? Lol.

Mr. Cap (lets call him B) called me this morning to say good morning and that he had a really good time and hopes to see me soon. I cant lie, I got butterflies! Lol. UH OH!

P.S. I am Scorpio

P.P.S Heeeyy Tiki33!!!!

Hey sweetie pie...I'm glad to see you back, your awesome (:

Soooooo got rid of libra dude lol

Oh and don't be scared, you are not the average scorpio female that lacks proper judgment even when in love, I know a little bit of your history and so I know even when you move fast you seem to always acknowledge your errors and correct them quite quickly instead of brooding and obsessing over it for years. I have no doubt you will keep your feet on the ground.

Hey Natural! 🙂


Do NOT let these threads taint you! Just enjoy the ride. And yes, you very well might have met your match 😉

Tiki!! 🙂 Yes girl, I had to get rid of the Libra. I honestly still do have a large amont of respect and love for him and there are still moments of brief sadness. Times when I miss him. But I knew it was not going to work for the LONG TERM. Break ups suck, especially, when you live with the person. Ugh. But I am OK. I know I made the right decision for my future.

Thank you for the great compliment. Girl, most men that I have dated where kind of lame...looking back at it. Pretty transparent. Howevever, this Cap man appears to not be transparent at all. He feels like he has many, many layers. Which is great but scary at the same time. Lol. Last night, he expresed that he wants to continue to "see me" and "get to know me". However, he cautioned that although he is ready for a stable relationship, he tends to move slower than most. I have read this whole slow thing on several other threads. Whats up with these Cap men moving in slow motion?! Ha! I have to make sure that IF things do continue to progress, I do not become impatient.

Posted by MsPisces.
Hey Natural! 🙂


Do NOT let these threads taint you! Just enjoy the ride. And yes, you very well might have met your match 😉

Thanks. It's crazy becasue almost wevery thread is saying the EXACT SAME thing! Lol. I was thinking, uh oh!

Posted by QuietSt0rm
I agree with MsP. Don't go into this intimidated by him, because you'll create problems that aren't even there by doing that. They are really not that bad, just a little tough to figure out in the beginning but they get better with time. Actually they're kind of amazing.

Not ALL scorpio/cap combos are bad if you can get past the power struggles and don't let your insecurity be your downfall. Your intuition will guide you right in knowing what his intentions are, and what kind of man you're dealing with. Try not to generalize all caps by reading what you see on these boards because I promise you, they are NOT all the same. LOL I've dated two, and they were entirely different from each other just like two scorpio women can be entirely different from each other.

Enjoy yourself. 🙂

Very true! I have read both on thr boards and on randon online sites discussion regarding women becoming very insecure when dealing with a Capricorn man. What exactly causes this? Is is that they withdraw after a while or appear to be aloof?

QuietStorm - Got it. Yes, I have become painfully aware of my trigeers and demons and I can definitely see how the moving slow can trigger a few of my demons. Lol. Tiki is probably going to shake her head at me, becaue she would tell me to live my life, date other men so that I will not notice Cap's slow roll. Lol. Golden advice that I will surely take! Lol.

Oh I just thought about something interesting that the Cap said last night. He asked me if I was used to men chasing me. I told him no not necessarily. Then he said thats good becasue he does not like to feel like he has to chase a woman. Not chasing allows relationships to grow organically. I had to bsack up and ask him to define what "chase" mean to him. This man told me that when he thinks of a man chasing a woman he pictures a man always calling the woman, always wanting to see her, getting lost in the courtship process and not taking time to process if she is worth the time and effort. All I could think to myself was, "dam". Lol.

One of my girlfriends used to date a Capricorn man and she told me that when they first began dating he would drive her crazy becasue she was always left wondering if he was REALLY interested. She said he would keep in somewhat regualr contact with her. However, sometimes he would go a day or 2 without contacting her or they would go almost 2 weeks without him suggesting that they see each other. She is a Cap too. She said that she never said anything. She never let him know how much it was irritating her or that she wanted him to call her more and demonstrate more of an interest. She remained up beat and made her self available every now and then. She said after a couple of months, he started caling more, wanting to see her more, etc. About 8 months later, there were in a commited relationship...all his doing. He confided in her, that he was interested in her the moment they met, but he just had to be sure of it and the space she gave him, not nagging made him realize he wanted to move forward.

Good Lord!

Posted by amethyst2002
I think the question everyone's avoiding asking is that how long ago was the break up with the Libra and how long was that relationship?

Do not neglect giving yourself your proper down time post break up to recoup. Hopping into another relationship without doing so can possibly sabotage the new relationship.

True that! Burst my Cap bubble, why dont ya! Lol. Seriously, you have an extremely valid point. The actual physical break up is fairly recent. We broke up at the end of December. He was fully moved out about 3 weeks ago. I began to emotionally detach about three months ago.

So yes, it is still fairly fresh. I do realize that I need to move slowly with Cap so I can have some me time and conitue to lick my wounds.

Posted by QuietSt0rm
Yeah, I feel like it depends on the cap. I think it will vary.. while my cap was the slow-moving type, he still always wanted to see me and always initiated spending time and he still does. I'm in school right now and he's not, so a lot of times he'll want me to come out but I can't because I'm studying. So actually, the roles are kind of reversed right now. It really depends on the cap. Your cap might not be as elusive as your friends cap. He might be worse... you'll see eventually.

As far as questioning whether a cap is into you or not, he might not tell you right away but his actions will say it. My cap was very patient, maybe even passive in the beginning. He didn't try to kiss me for over a month and a series of dates. I'll admit, I wasn't used to that so I wondered if he was interested at all. But he would do things like bring me lunch, invite me to concerts or movie dates.. those are the things that let me know he was interested. Just use your intuition. He won't spell it out for you, but you will know.

Yea that is what I figured. When all else fails, it is always best to go with your intuition. There have been TOO many times where I ignored my intution, leavign me WIDE open for heart break and disappontment. Man, have I learned my lesson!!

Posted by natural25
This man told me that when he thinks of a man chasing a woman he pictures a man always calling the woman, always wanting to see her, getting lost in the courtship process and not taking time to process if she is worth the time and effort. All I could think to myself was, "dam". Lol.

Natch, hmmm, this sounds like a set up. ALL men who are interested in a woman does EXACTLY what he described as "chasing" unless they know they "got it like that" or extremely shy. Which in the case of the latter, he'll lose the lady unless she chases him! Basically, men "chase". Your cappy could be trying to see if you will wait around for him and excuse his "non-chasing" behavior because you are sssooo interested in him. After all, he has to see if you are worth the time and effort. "Get over yourself." Pathfinder says as she looks at her watch. Who says I'm shopping...

As a matter of fact, Natch, I'll bet that he's betting that "naturally" you will want to PROVE to him that you are "worth his time and effort" so you will not do anything to taint that image in his eyes. I'll bet he was secretly pleased that his comment surprised you. Like he's thinking: "yeah, I'll bet a lady as hot as you doesn't hear THAT everyday!"

Ask your cap what he means by "taking it slow". Get HIS definition and understand it clearly and remind him of it he begins to divert with that definition. This line has been used so much AFTER intimacy and most women subsequently become emotionally involved. As a scorpio, you already know you have to be careful in that department. Cappy men (like men, period) is very interested in getting you into bed and he's going to see just how long or under what circumstances you will give up the goods.

Natch, he will pursue anything he wants badly enough. THAT'S WHAT MEN DO! Don't excuse his lack of attention as him not being into "chasing" by his definition. "Always calling you or always wanting to see you". Yeah, he has a life, and who cares? He'll go after what he wants. From where I sit, since he's interested in you, he needs to SHOW his interest to you if he wants you to take him seriously. Anything outside of that, the line forms at the right. Take a number.

LMAO @ Pathfinder! Can someone give this lady a round of appluase. Lol. You are telling the truth! It's funny you this becasue he said that he does not "chase". But he has been texting and calling all day! Lol. I've been kind of taking my time in returning his texts; didnt accept the call because I am at work and was too busy to talk when he called. For someone who does not chase, he is hitting me up alot. Good point about intimacy. I havent gotten a chance to think about that yet. Lol. He is good looking but sex hadnt ran accross my mind yet. Lol. I am sure it did in his, as he is a man and from what I have read Caps can be quite sexual. I will make sure to keep my lips sealed and both feet planted firmly on the ground. Lol.

woundedbird - Jesus a Cap?!? Where did you hear that—

Before I read the thread, I just want to say...

IS THERE SOMETHING IN THE WATER—

hahaha! Ammy said that once about all the Scorp girls falling for Cap guys, and I've been itching to say it ever since!

I remember you very well, natural 🙂

kstarks2 - If and when he choses to try to use reverse physchology on me, hopefully I will be alert and observant enough to catch it. When all else fails, I ll just come to the board. Lol.

Nefer - You remember me?!?! ! All good I hope!! 🙂

Jesus, the Christ was a Piscean. There is no way he could have been a capricorn....What? Tell people to leave lucrative businesses and family and follow him into unknown emotional territory?

Ya think?

Posted by natural25
It's funny you this becasue he said that he does not "chase". But he has been texting and calling all day! Lol.

LOL...See? They go after who they want.

He's letting you know he is interested in you. AND

they WILL flip the script... 🙂

Posted by natural25
Good point about intimacy. I havent gotten a chance to think about that yet. Lol. He is good looking but sex hadnt ran accross my mind yet. Lol. I am sure it did in his, as he is a man and from what I have read Caps can be quite sexual. I will make sure to keep my lips sealed and both feet planted firmly on the ground. Lol.

Quite sexual? Understatement.

Keep the conversation going. You guys seem to have alot of common interests. Try to stay away from his place or yours until the time is right lol! They are hard to resist.

Joking aside, Natch, I'm sure you'll continue to let him know that's what's going on between your ears is as intriguing and exciting as what's between your L---!

😉

Heeeyyy Ian!!! How YOU doing? Lol.

Pathfinder- Yea he continues to text off and on today. lol. Good advice, I will make sure to steer clear from anyplace that has privacy and soft cushions to lie on. Lol.

here here....you women talkin about us has takin my interest. as long as you stand strong youll be fine miss scorpio. to most we find it attractive...have fun with yourself as well, let go of your past that way you can make room for a future with this guy if you or he so chooses. for one im sure once he commits itll be exctasy to you. having such a good man around would be nice. we can be...very addictive.

Puple Diamond: "Yep sounds very much like a Cappie. Don't believe anything about a Cappie not wanting to committ or "scared" these men have no problems committing to whom they WANT too. They don't get forced or pulled into committment, if they WANT to commit they will and it won't take years for them to let you know where you stand. Whatever decision he comes too, don't think you can change his mind because you won't. As long as you can handle the truth, whatever that truth may be, you'll be fine."

Yes, yes. My friend did say that she got the feeling that although he did know that he had a pretty good idea that he wanted to be in relationship early on, he wanted to be sure AND wanted to do it in HIS own time. He did not want to be rushed or coereced. Which her non nagging behavior probably helepd with that. I am thinking that by her just relaxing, living her life and not nagging and pushing him, he was able to relax feel comfortable and make a commitment. Do you think Am I right in this assumption?

HappyCappy - Thanks! I will heed to your advice about the addiction. The last thing I need is yet another addiction. Lol. Especially a MAN!! Ha!

purple diamond speaks true. especially about the "if nothing they make good friends." we can be pretty loyal to our friends, and can be dependable haha.

capricrons are the pillars of the world. the strength others need to carry on.

Posted by kstarks2

Posted by pathfinder
Jesus, the Christ was a Piscean. There is no way he could have been a capricorn....What? Tell people to leave lucrative businesses and family and follow him into unknown emotional territory?

Ya think?

whooooaaa....Seriously? Is that what you believe all there is about a capricorn— Sheesh.

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The analogy I use was as a joke. Whew, who said cappies aren't SENSITIVE. Not I.

K, I wasn't basing his birth on characteristics common to a zodiac sign. Many jewish calendars trace his birth to the spring. Many astrologers believe he was a piscean, including Linda Goodman. I wasn't there, so I don't know. You can study it out, if you like.

Natch, I won't hijack your thread talking about religion...

Natch, you are a gorgeous woman. Be smart and you'll have any man eating out of your hand.

Lol!! Well dam! I personally have never contemplated what astrological sign Jesus was. Interesting topic and definite food for thought! KStarks doesn't play around, eh. Nothing wrong with it! Lol. 🙂

Thanks Pathfinder! Cap called me this morning saying that he has things he had to do Saturday/today and asked if he could see me either on Sunday evening or one day this week. I told him that I'm not available on Sunday but we can schedule something for Wednesday or Thursday. He kind of sighed and then agreed. So, we shall see. Taking it one day at a time and planning on staying away from houses and bedrooms with Mr. Cap. Ha!

Uh ohhh! So Cap just texted and asked what I'm doing tonight, his plans ended early and he wants to see me/have dinner. I haven't answered yet. In all truth I'm doing absolutely nothing but I don't want to be available at his beck and call. But I do want to see him. Ugh!! One part of me wants to say no and the other wants to say heck yea. Lol. Ummm....

Posted by natural25
Thanks Pathfinder! Cap called me this morning saying that he has things he had to do Saturday/today and asked if he could see me either on Sunday evening or one day this week. I told him that I'm not available on Sunday but we can schedule something for Wednesday or Thursday. He kind of sighed and then agreed. So, we shall see. Taking it one day at a time and planning on staying away from houses and bedrooms with Mr. Cap. Ha!

natch, awww, he really wants to see you. I'm almost feeling sorry for him! lol Do you guys spend quality time on the phone? Be prepared for lots of affection when you see him. They are very touchy/feely. If you can show him that you have yourself together and don't want him more (or as much) as he wants you... his interest will probably intensify. He may back off a minute, or maybe not, just depends on where he thinks he should be at this juncture. LOL! I'm no expert, but I do have a great relationship with a cappy guy(over 20 year-- we were engaged, but our faiths divided us), and dated a few. So if you experience this "back off", it's prolly just to get his bearings or he may have to concentrate on other things besides you, but KNOW that you are on his mind. So you remain as consistent as you have been.

just my two cents...

Posted by kstarks2
@Pathfinder

um yes you were basing his characteristics when you said "tell people to leave lucrative businesses and family and follow him into unknown emotional territory?"

That's what caught my attention because it sounded like you were saying that capricorns aren't emotional or compassionate or risk takers and wouldn't encourage people to leave lucrative businesses and family to follow him into the unknown. So perhaps I am confused on what you meant?

I wasn't being sensitive but perplexed. Just because I object or question a statement doesn't mean i'm taking offense....but I also didn't think you were joking as there wasn't any indication of sarcasm.

Well to "enlighten" you, Jews don't believe Jesus was a prophet from God, they believe he was a false messiah, hence why he was crucified...which is also why they don't believe in the "new testament" ...so i wouldn't actually use THEIR calendar as reference as THEY don't/didn't/ever even believe in him.

Linda Goodman was jewish (i believe).

I don't need to study what I already know.

was joking....and it's ok if you don't get my jokes.

He is the Son of God and my personal savior.

Posted by natural25
Uh ohhh! So Cap just texted and asked what I'm doing tonight, his plans ended early and he wants to see me/have dinner. I haven't answered yet. In all truth I'm doing absolutely nothing but I don't want to be available at his beck and call. But I do want to see him. Ugh!! One part of me wants to say no and the other wants to say heck yea. Lol. Ummm....

I don't know what time of day it is where you are, but it's almost midnight where I am, so kinda late for dinner, is it before 9 pm where you are? Mama used to say "ain't nothing open after midnight but legs". LOL

Lol @ K! Dxp is all I had in my agenda. Lol. Ok, I think Im going to go but only on one condition! You two have to play nice with each other!! **looks at path and k with my hands on my hips** lol!! Jk. 🙂

I think his Venus is either in libra of sag. I forget. I have to look it up again.

I'm sure she knows you love her. I was being silly and giddy like a school girl over here. Please don't mind me!!!

Oh ok. Just double checked. He's Venus in sag and I'm Venus in cap. Funny!

K,

FYI, there are such as Messianic Jews. And there were many jews who believed on Him... the disciples, for example were all of the Jewish faith and they believed Jesus was the Christ of God, the Messiah. And it was because of their belief and conversion that the gospel was preached to the gentiles (the rest of us). Not all Jews at the time of the crucifixion were in non belief of Christ's identity.

Because Peter (a disciple and a Jew), believed that gentiles were unclean, the Lord appeared to Peter in a vision to preach salvation to the centurion soldier who honored the Jewish people and their God. The message of the vision, "do not call unclean what God has cleansed".

Paul (a Chief of the Jews), was converted to an apostle for Christ and was sent to teach salvation to the Gentiles.

Paul (a Jew) wrote most of the books in the New Testament.

Matter of fact, the whole Bible is written by Jews! (I think) 🙂

Posted by kstarks2
Nooooo! I love Pathfinder! She's a sweetheart! Aw man i hope Pathfinder isn't thinking i was being rude/mean. 😢

K's in "My Favs" 🙂

Posted by natural25
Lol @ K! Dxp is all I had in my agenda. Lol. Ok, I think Im going to go but only on one condition! You two have to play nice with each other!! **looks at path and k with my hands on my hips** lol!! Jk. 🙂

Make it short evening. Remember you said you weren't available Sunday. So... play it: You have to get up early? But because he asked and it's been a few days, you'll spend some time with him. Kiss him at your door, DO NOT LET HIM IN! I don't care how much you want to! Trust me, it'll only get better.

🙂

Posted by pathfinder
Jesus, the Christ was a Piscean.

Thank you for acknowledging this.

Jesus is symbolized by fish throughout the Renaissance, historical symbolism and the Bible itself.

He promoted a life of humility, selfless service and other altruistic behaviors.

Unconditional love is certainly not a capricorn trait, I can assure you.

Posted by kstarks2
Basically...Capricorns use their life to strengthen themselves.

Therefore, Jesus is the polar opposite of a Capricorn then.

He did not come to this planet to "strengthen" His own needs.

That's what selfish fools do.

Scuba fish is right.

Welcome back Natty,I've missed you. 🙂

you've missed me. 😉

and I'm only opposing your opinion my luv,because anyone who knows any thing about Christianity and Jesus...knows the same thing scubafish knows.
and you say I'm stubborn?

no,you're stubborn in not being willing to even consider the valid points,or admitting you may be wrong about something.
it's really not that important to me,I don't get all emotionally worked up like you do.
I will be gone,I just stopped in to welcome natty back....not going to aid in the hijacking of her thread.

cap with aqua venus here...whats wrong with us? lol

Posted by kstarks2
Bella, Seriously, you really need to step off and mind your own business. You don't know me from a hole in a wall yet you seem to keep imposing what you believe i should be considering / admitting to. Do you hear yourself? The topic of religion has been vastly debated for years and years and everyone believes what they want and/or what they've been taught. Who are you to tell someone they need to rethink what YOU believe? Then claim its really not that important yet you come in here and choose sides. You sound stupid. really. You don't want to contribute in "hijacking" a thread yet you add to the banter. For some reason think you're some sort of GOD to come in here and say, she's wrong/he's right as if you have knowledge/power over ANYBODY in the world and you know MORE than anyone else. And to that end, you're just as dumb as scuba.

You need to try taking your own advice....
I came in here,and gave MY opinion...which I have as much right to as you do.
get over yourself already.
I'm sick today and not much in the mood for your narcissim and self righteousness.it's really getting old.
your whiny,bitchy,me me me attitude may give the ass kissers something to do...but it just makes me want to spank your ass and stick you in the corner where you belong,rock star.


good day sir. 😉

I'm not.
I'm arguing of stark's projection issues,because they rear their ugly head every frigging time I open my mouth.

*over

Pathfinder and kstarks - thanks so much for the advice last nite! We went out to eat. Had a really quick meal since it was kind of late. He was a perfect gentleman. When he dropped me off he walked me to my door. I told him good nite. I gave him a little peck. But it was a nice peck. Lol. I could tell he was trying to go in for a longer kiss but I gently pulled away. Lol. We had a great conversation. Discussed our future goals. He confided that he really likes me and would like to continue seeing me. Hehe. I feel like a school girl. Lol. He texted today and said he enjoyed himself. I told him I did as well and thanked him for dinner.

CappyLuv - Thank you for the quick info!! Greatly appreciated. I'm going to re-read it over and over! Lol. You hit the nail on the head about caps moving in their own time. He told me last night again that he tends to move slow but that he has a "plan" for us and "if we follow it properly, we will reach the promiseland." He laughed it off, said he was kidding but that he was serious about having a plan for him and I. I asked him what his plan consisted of. He told me not to worry. He said just know that he wants us both to be happy and come out of this with either a great romantic relationship or a strong friendship, but he would prefer the first. Hmmm.. I just raised an eyebrow and said we will see if he brings his A games. Lol. So yea, it appears that he definitely wants to lead this courtship. Lol.

Hey Bella!!! How are you?!?!

Posted by domino_O
is scured even a word? The English dictionary of the Canaiadaidians disagree.

Lol. Umm no scured is most definitely not a word. Just me being silly. Lol.

Posted by kstarks2
Bella, Seriously, you really need to step off and mind your own business.

Who died and made you queen of the runway?

If Bella wants to speak up, then let her speak up.

Don't be such a fascist.