Scorp chick being pursued by Cap man; needs advice

An old friend, who dumped me years ago for a much pretty Aqua girl, is back in my life. We are divorced from our respective spouses, and have kids. He kept butting and butting at me through my friends until finally I threw up my hands and said "Okay, let's go out."

We haven't gone to bed together yet, but my goat is definitely making his intentions clear. He has said he zoned in on me the minute he met me. He said he is madly in love with my talent (I'm a musician), that my intelligence blows him away, and that he finds me very sexy.

As for me, I like his strength and values. I respect his wisdom, too. He is very good with my kids, sometimes better than I am. He is also very handsome and typical Cap, gets younger looking as he ages. He's ten years older than me.

However, when we went to the Art museum with my kids, he lambasted me for being loud and obnoxious (I have a Gemini rising and lots of air signs in the chart) and white trash-y. I sent him a witty email saying he couldn't come to my trailer in Kentucky and eat possum stew with me if he felt that way. He loved this, so we were back on.

Then his mom landed in the hospital. I sent him a compassionate note, sincere, as only a Scorp can when an old friend is hurting. He said no one had ever touched his heart like my words did.

It's early days yet, but I see some red flags. Typical Cap, he can be so stuffy! Don't know how I feel about getting criticized for being an independant Scorp female with the need to communicate as my Gem rising implies. I love my independance -- all that power. Can a Cap man handle this?

Any Scorp and Cap couples out there. What's your story? I respect this man. Would like to get inside him and give him some love. Would that loosen him up? How much can a Cap man bend? You know us Scorp ladies -- we need a lot of bend in our men.

Scorpio_Chic is dating a Cap....She may scoot over here and give you some insight.

Eaglegirl

I went back with a Cap man after he cheated on me last year. I can imagine your Cap man's ways on how he got you back, because mine tried for 8 months. First in very subtle ways, then one day he tricked me to see him. I agreed to see him initially as ONLY friends, but hey...

I think there is some kind of curse between CAP & SCORPIO coupling; we cannot be without each other, but we cannot be with each other either. The PULL and DEEP LIKING is part of it.

As independant as I am, he made sure that my life started revolving around him. There ALWAYS was some kind of crisis in HIS life, that made me stop what *I* was doing and I ended up doing things for *HIM*. I don't mind as I am very nurturing by nature. However, he never seemed to be grateful, but rather took my dedication for granted. He wanted more and more out of me... but started giving less and less...

It started to become draining.

You can imagine that this can take away from your sense of humour. Like your Kentucky joke, I made something similar to which he laughed to initially, but when he turned that joke against me in one of his angry moments, I wasn't amused. He NEVER apologized to me for cheating, but he apologized when he said what he shouldn't have.

We ended beginning of this month. He didn't end. I did. I wrote him an email with assumptions and never heard back from him.

Perhaps it was my insecurity that kicked in. Perhaps him starting to give less caused this insecurity. Although this time, I promised myself not expect anything more than a friendship out of this. When you go back to being intimate, Eaglegirl, women start becoming vulnerable. At one point or another you may lose patience. However, if you want to keep your Cap man, I think the answer is in going back as if nothing happened.

I do miss him. I miss him to an extend believing ONLY HE was able to come very very close to my core. Even the unspoken was understood mutually. But I'm also happy that I have a break from him. It had started to get too overwhelming for me. I have a career to attend to, which I put on hold for he started to have a too powerful presence in my life. Again, which I didn't mind too much... I loved doing things for him... I would have kept things forever for the way they were, but there is this STRIVE in a Scorpio woman for independence that the Cap man misunderstands.

I think I was slower than him giving away myself, which sent the

the wrong signal to Cap man.

I'm not sure if there ever will be a third time. I have a feeling there will be. It's part of the Cap & Scorpio curse I am assuming...

Once we are involved with each other, we can never be the same again. There is this closeness that one develops that I have not experienced in any other sign.


Scorp_chick is very good at keeping the balance with her Cap man. I don't think they live together though.

My Cap asked me if he could move in with me, which I could not agree to... and actually that was part of the deal breaker.

I think he decided that he couldn't trust me at a time of need, even after all I have done for him 🙂


hope this may give you some example to the mechanics of our natures. And I wish for you that you can make it work this time...

oh.. you can loosen him up. It takes time and moreso his trust in you though. He will test you heavily... and one day the box of pandora will open.

There is something so beautiful, amazingly warm, deep and adventurous in a Cap man... he explores and explores.. and when he gives it out to you, you can nothing but admire.

Even if he is not the mushy lovey type, make sure to touch him, hug him close... give little kisses and valid compliments now and then, but try to stay away from public displays...

Red Fairy,

I love your avatar. Thanks for your advice. It's so good to talk to another Scorpio woman.....we understand each other and our complicated natures.

Your advice hit the spot. I saw my Cap man in it. I can understand why you mightn't want to move in with him. We Scorp girls love our freedom -- and the older you get, the worse it seems to be. I believe it comes from the turmoil in our early youth (never knew a Scorp who didn't have major problems growing up). We feel tied to people in a bad way. Then as age and experience comes we realise nothing can separate us from our love of life -- and that is so freeing! We really enjoy our alone time, and are our own best friends in a way.

Then along comes Mr. Cap. As you said, you can't help admiring this guy, so handsome, so ardent, so deep. But they can indeed take everything you have, every emotion, then disappear. Then you want your alone time to recoup, but he's back again, wanting more.

I hope it works out for you.

Scorpio Chic,

Thank you so much. As I said to Red Fairy, it is comforting to talk to another Scorp female. We don't hold back anything private as long as we can help someone. How refreshing! And nurturing, too...yes, we Scorp girls don't think of ourselves as nurturing but we really are. We love to see people grow and see what our love can do.

I see my Cap man in everything you say. He already has give me an assurance of how very interested he is in me. He says "You are a one-man woman, I can see. But who is the one man going to be?" He senses he could be that man. He sees the potential we have.

It wouldn't be impossible to satisfy his request that I be a lady in public. I have very quiet moments, and certainly with the man I love and feel supported by, I don't need to mouth off in public. This first time out, I felt so happy and exuberant and wanting to have fun. But sure, I can save it till I get home. I've been a single mom for a long time -- I so need to have fun. I need to laugh! I told him this -- I think he understands.

We have kissed -- when I was very very drunk. I have to say -- this was the most beautiful kiss I ever experienced. Very gentle and very real.

Can I handle a MANLY man like this Cap? I don't know. The feeling that they will always be there....that's definitely something I could rest my heart on.