Should I reach out or not

I'd let him get a hold of you instead of you prodding him into responding. I'm sure that's not your intention but that's what it will look like from his end. If he's a typical Cap, he needs time to go into his cave and sort things out on his own. He'll initiate when things are more settled and he can take the time to process. Time apart will give each more clarity. In the meantime, motivate yourself to live your life to the fullest by staying busy and doing the things you like to. It can't be dependent on his timetable because you may never get the satisfactory response you're looking for. Good luck!

Posted by RooSagicorn
It doesn’t sound like you are moving on too well. You know I don’t understand why didn’t wish him happy birthday if you still care & want a life with him eventually. Pretty sure he’s taking that as you don’t care. It’s too late for a birthday message now, but if you want any contact just send a hello message.

It’s sounds a lot like Thanksgiving though where you didn’t go. Honestly, if you want contact with him, I suggest be his friend right now. He has a lot going on and withholding things is not even being a friend. So if you can’t be supportive to him because you are hurt, just move on. You’ll eventually get over it & meet someone else that will be a better situation for you.

I do understand what you’re saying, but I have told him many times that if he needs me, I’ll be there. I can’t force someone to let me be their friend and be there for them. I just figured with some time passing, I’d like to let him know I do still care. I have been the one initiating every convo except this past month. I didn’t tell him happy birthday because of me being the one telling him Merry Christmas and not hearing from him on New Years, I just figured it’s best to leave it alone. But I’m regretting that and honestly, don’t think it’s ever too late to send someone a card to let them know you’re thinking of them. He can reply if he wants. As for the not moving on part, it’s been a month. We were together for a long time. I have been living my life, going out, etc. I’m not going to move on right away. I’m just saying I definitely feel some regret with this relationship ending, which I’ve never felt before with any other relationship.

Posted by CAPSLOCK2018

Posted by cancergirrrl
Okay guys. I’m back. Confusing Capricorn thread needed to die down, so I figured I’d start a new one.

One month has passed since I sent my closure text to my cap (view previous thread if interested in all the nonsense), and I still miss him, if not even more. I started dating again, met a nice Taurus who’s really into me, but I just want to be with my Capricorn. We have/had a connection that I’ve never experienced with anyone else before. After the closure text, he texted me saying I’m not the problem it’s him and that he needs a new life style and job, that he’s unhappy and needs therapy. He’s only told me this. We stopped talking after that. Anytime I uploaded anything on Snapchat, he’s viewed it right away and what not. On Christmas, I uploaded a picture of our dog (we got him together) and he sent me a sad face and we told each other Merry Christmas. His birthday was on the 3rd, and I didn’t tell him happy birthday, due to the fact that I didn’t want to ruin it and, well, he also told me mid-fight while we were breaking up that he wanted to forget me and our relationship. Well since his birthday, I haven’t heard a peep and he hasn’t viewed anything that I posted. So I went ghost mode. But the truth is, I miss him. A lot. I feel guilty for not telling him happy birthday considering he was my boyfriend for two years, and best friend for longer.

Would it be stupid to send him a birthday card? Just maybe open that gate a little? There’s no way he doesn’t miss me. In my heart, I truly believe that he and I belong together and that we needed time apart to appreciate each other again. Or should I wait it out, and if we’re meant to be, it’ll happen? I’m just worried he won’t contact me due to me saying “once I’m done, I’m done” which is usually the case, but not with him. I believe he’s my soulmate and who I will marry and have kids with, but I need to open that door up again. I guess what I’m asking is, should I let him be the one to open it, or should I give a little nudge with sending him a birthday card? I feel stupid for asking, but I really can’t stop thinking about him.

I know guys, I’m hard headed. I need more advice!

If you love somebody never let them go. You should have fought for the relationship in the very beginning.

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Trust me, I did. I fought hard for him and it was a lot of going back and forth. He’s going through a lot, and I had to give him space. I want to let him know that I do still care.

Posted by cancergirrrl
Okay guys. I’m back. Confusing Capricorn thread needed to die down, so I figured I’d start a new one.

One month has passed since I sent my closure text to my cap (view previous thread if interested in all the nonsense), and I still miss him, if not even more. I started dating again, met a nice Taurus who’s really into me, but I just want to be with my Capricorn. We have/had a connection that I’ve never experienced with anyone else before. After the closure text, he texted me saying I’m not the problem it’s him and that he needs a new life style and job, that he’s unhappy and needs therapy. He’s only told me this. We stopped talking after that. Anytime I uploaded anything on Snapchat, he’s viewed it right away and what not. On Christmas, I uploaded a picture of our dog (we got him together) and he sent me a sad face and we told each other Merry Christmas. His birthday was on the 3rd, and I didn’t tell him happy birthday, due to the fact that I didn’t want to ruin it and, well, he also told me mid-fight while we were breaking up that he wanted to forget me and our relationship. Well since his birthday, I haven’t heard a peep and he hasn’t viewed anything that I posted. So I went ghost mode. But the truth is, I miss him. A lot. I feel guilty for not telling him happy birthday considering he was my boyfriend for two years, and best friend for longer.

Would it be stupid to send him a birthday card? Just maybe open that gate a little? There’s no way he doesn’t miss me. In my heart, I truly believe that he and I belong together and that we needed time apart to appreciate each other again. Or should I wait it out, and if we’re meant to be, it’ll happen? I’m just worried he won’t contact me due to me saying “once I’m done, I’m done” which is usually the case, but not with him. I believe he’s my soulmate and who I will marry and have kids with, but I need to open that door up again. I guess what I’m asking is, should I let him be the one to open it, or should I give a little nudge with sending him a birthday card? I feel stupid for asking, but I really can’t stop thinking about him.

I know guys, I’m hard headed. I need more advice!

If you think he is your soulmate and you want to be with him, dont you think he may feel the same? Or dont you want him to feel the same?

I think to send a birthday card now is a bit childish (and I like romantic gestures), but the card would spell desperation....

If you tried to save the relationship, like you said, and there was lots of going forth and back, it would be the best to leave him now alone.... 1 month is not really enough time for him to feel he is truly missing you and if he would like to try again, but with more understanding... give him like 3-6 months

In my opinion, if you tried to save the relationship in the past, now let him to do it

and dont jump into dating too fast, just stay alone

In my opinion, Nightcap gave an excellent advice above

Do NOT, I repeat, do NOT send the birthday card. If I was him, I would roll my eyes, and toss that sucker in the trash; too little too late.

Do contact him if you really feel that strongly about him. Capricorns, we have a crazy way of doing the complete opposite of what we want to do. Case in point, even if he wants to contact you, even if you have told him you are there for him, it doesn't matter. In his head, he is doing what he thinks is best to protect himself. There is nothing worse than being vulnerable for a Cap.

So, I vote for contact him once. Make it a nonchalant, something that would make him happy. Don't come at him with a deep feels text- too clingy. Sometimes, Capricorns need to know we are wanted - we need that guarantee that interest is reciprocated.

If he responds, great. If not, you need to approach the situation and him with gratitude for freeing up room for your real soulmate.

I think he's gonna come back. Please keep us posted.

With caps do whatever you feel is necessary. With my caP I could literally do no wrong.ijust became very impatient.

If you wanna keep texting him do what your heart desires. If cap loves you he finds any and everything you do adorable.curse him out if you want to call him names. They like a show of emotion

Posted by CAPSLOCK2018
LOL I think you’re too good for him. Cancers are way out of my league.

He has self esteem issues and said he needed therapy so

he might go for someone like a Gemini. A bit koo koo for coco puffs

Aw no! He used to rag on himself all the time too, saying I was too good for him. Not true. Not true that anyone is out of your league either! 🙂