Treasure your Capricorn

Hey guys I've been on here on in off with my Cappy guy. Trying to tap mainly inside a general insight on a Cappy guys emotional mechanisms. It's been three years with my Cappy in a long distance relationship. It's had its challenges as my Cappy after a year started to withdrawal at times of stress and his heavy work load. Bring LDR and relying on communication this made things that bit harder as calls decreased yet he always messaged most days morning and night even if it was light. Well we meet up and we had an amazing time recently and straight afterwards he went into a new job with bigger demands and responsibility. This has majorally put the relationship on the back burner and communication reduced significantly. I sucked it up and kept reassuring him off and on until today when I told him to hit me with what's going on? well boy did he ever...he told me it's all over he can't juggle work and us. So after this big blurb....really stop and take in every little thing...a kiss on a text, a helpful gesture and even a kind lecture. They are all ways of him or her expressing their caring side. I took my morning and good nights for granted and in between after awhile...and tonight I did not receive my goodnight. I didn't realise till now more than ever I'd do anything to have a goodnight over anything... Just hug them and hold them close cause they truely are amazing! I think my Cappy will come back but for now I'll reflect on myself and take this time to recharge.

Thank you for posting this xx I'm a Capricorn and don't like it when we get described as Cold or dead inside ?

People just need to give us time. We show our feelings slowly as we don't trust easily. But once our guard is down we love to have a laugh and make others laugh too ??

I agree with @youngali to a certain extent but yeah, he could've tried just a little harder. Can't always expect 110% , but at least meet somewhat halfway. 50% of something is better than 100% of nothing.

I'm sorry to hear things didn't work out the way you hoped for. It's easier than said than done for people in general, not just caps to even put in effort. Depends on how person was raised, their mindset, their beliefs, their true priorities, etc. Not defending caps, just people in general. I sometimes tend to forget what's important to me at times because I'm so focused on my career that everyone else gets pushed away temporarily. Sometimes I need a reality check back to earth. We're human, not robots. We're bound to F up somehow. However, I hope you do get better and know, YOU did the best you could on your end. We weren't there to see your relationship behind closed doors. Yeah, he could've stepped up to the plate a bit more, but if he didn't at least he didn't linger you any longer like some people out there who never let go.

Posted by Miscorpion
Hey guys I've been on here on in off with my Cappy guy. Trying to tap mainly inside a general insight on a Cappy guys emotional mechanisms. It's been three years with my Cappy in a long distance relationship. It's had its challenges as my Cappy after a year started to withdrawal at times of stress and his heavy work load. Bring LDR and relying on communication this made things that bit harder as calls decreased yet he always messaged most days morning and night even if it was light. Well we meet up and we had an amazing time recently and straight afterwards he went into a new job with bigger demands and responsibility. This has majorally put the relationship on the back burner and communication reduced significantly. I sucked it up and kept reassuring him off and on until today when I told him to hit me with what's going on? well boy did he ever...he told me it's all over he can't juggle work and us. So after this big blurb....really stop and take in every little thing...a kiss on a text, a helpful gesture and even a kind lecture. They are all ways of him or her expressing their caring side. I took my morning and good nights for granted and in between after awhile...and tonight I did not receive my goodnight. I didn't realise till now more than ever I'd do anything to have a goodnight over anything... Just hug them and hold them close cause they truely are amazing! I think my Cappy will come back but for now I'll reflect on myself and take this time to recharge.

Having said what I said earlier, maybe he didn't treasure you like you treasured him. It seems you gave him more than he gave you.

I hope you find someone who can give you the time and love you need..

Thanks you for each and every reply. He messaged back saying I'm amazing and he wants to see me next week when I'm up in his city, I just have to step back and relax. It was loaded with kisses and he mentioned he'd message in a days time. Will see what a days time brings only I'm guarded now on where I stand with that snap decision on leaving, it really tore me.

Posted by pooface222
Thank you for posting this xx I'm a Capricorn and don't like it when we get described as Cold or dead inside ?

People just need to give us time. We show our feelings slowly as we don't trust easily. But once our guard is down we love to have a laugh and make others laugh too ??

Can you explain why every time we meet up it's so special and amazing. He opens doors and cuddles me constantly, his voice changes it's not so gruff, he stares into my eyes with this look that makes me catch my breath, spoons food in my direction and pops it in my mouth, plays with my hair, the intimacy is off the charts etc etc haha then we part and he shuts down. He pulls back something wicked yet will message to check on me briefly? He doesn't say much feelings wise...and skips all around it. As I dig for more emotion he runs harder? Just would love some direction on how I can balance this..let him know I care and love him without pouring the emotional floodbanks on him like I have after it builds up in the past. If I could just cope with "his time/space" it would save a lot of our issues. How can I ease this that he bounces back or can feel he can open up without fearing my emotions?

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Posted by Miscorpion
Thanks you for each and every reply. He messaged back saying I'm amazing and he wants to see me next week when I'm up in his city, I just have to step back and relax. It was loaded with kisses and he mentioned he'd message in a days time. Will see what a days time brings only I'm guarded now on where I stand with that snap decision on leaving, it really tore me.

Well I'm glad he came to his senses BUT

Just because he stresses about work doesn't make it ok to treat you that way. Maybe he needs a wake up call that you can move on, and see if he really wants to lose you. Take care sweetheart & please remember you are important too.

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Thank you for posting this xx I'm a Capricorn and don't like it when we get described as Cold or dead inside ?

People just need to give us time. We show our feelings slowly as we don't trust easily. But once our guard is down we love to have a laugh and make others laugh too ??

Can you explain why every time we meet up it's so special and amazing. He opens doors and cuddles me constantly, his voice changes it's not so gruff, he stares into my eyes with this look that makes me catch my breath, spoons food in my direction and pops it in my mouth, plays with my hair, the intimacy is off the charts etc etc haha then we part and he shuts down. He pulls back something wicked yet will message to check on me briefly? He doesn't say much feelings wise...and skips all around it. As I dig for more emotion he runs harder? Just would love some direction on how I can balance this..let him know I care and love him without pouring the emotional floodbanks on him like I have after it builds up in the past. If I could just cope with "his time/space" it would save a lot of our issues. How can I ease this that he bounces back or can feel he can open up without fearing my emotions?

It seems he has a lot of trouble with the distance. Has there been any talk to moving closer?

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We are trying...for now we visit each other as much as possible. I just find him quite stern with his feelings like he isn't wanting or allowing himself to feel the warm fuzzies. When we say goodbye he is so quick and doesn't linger like I would. He is very close to his parents and brother yet I've seen similar behaviours also with them. Loves them dearly yet has this armour, it drops in your presence but slaps back on once apart!!

Capricorn can be sweethearts

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Thank you for posting this xx I'm a Capricorn and don't like it when we get described as Cold or dead inside ?

People just need to give us time. We show our feelings slowly as we don't trust easily. But once our guard is down we love to have a laugh and make others laugh too ??

Can you explain why every time we meet up it's so special and amazing. He opens doors and cuddles me constantly, his voice changes it's not so gruff, he stares into my eyes with this look that makes me catch my breath, spoons food in my direction and pops it in my mouth, plays with my hair, the intimacy is off the charts etc etc haha then we part and he shuts down. He pulls back something wicked yet will message to check on me briefly? He doesn't say much feelings wise...and skips all around it. As I dig for more emotion he runs harder? Just would love some direction on how I can balance this..let him know I care and love him without pouring the emotional floodbanks on him like I have after it builds up in the past. If I could just cope with "his time/space" it would save a lot of our issues. How can I ease this that he bounces back or can feel he can open up without fearing my emotions?

It seems he has a lot of trouble with the distance. Has there been any talk to moving closer?

We are trying...for now we visit each other as much as possible. I just find him quite stern with his feelings like he isn't wanting or allowing himself to feel the warm fuzzies. When we say goodbye he is so quick and doesn't linger like I would. He is very close to his parents and brother yet I've seen similar behaviours also with them. Loves them dearly yet has this armour, it drops in your presence but slaps back on once apart!!

It seems it's really hard for him when you're not there. He misses you & that's how he protects himself from those feelings. It's hard to embrace them for a Cap. I think you have to let him handle it in his own way, but lashing out is not okay. I mean does he really want you to go away?

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That's the answer Im trying to find....and I feel I'm destroying this trying to seek it. It builds over time he gets close then pulls...I pour my heart out to reassure and boom he's changing subject, sending just kisses or telling me he's stressed and then he retracts more and this repeats. As soon as I get busy in my work and spare time he pops up again arghhhhhhh

It's true. They hate pressure.

Posted by Miscorpion
Thanks you for each and every reply. He messaged back saying I'm amazing and he wants to see me next week when I'm up in his city, I just have to step back and relax. It was loaded with kisses and he mentioned he'd message in a days time. Will see what a days time brings only I'm guarded now on where I stand with that snap decision on leaving, it really tore me.

That's what I hate about some people here! One problem and

He doesn't treasure you

Dump him

He is a heartless ass...

And then OP come up with this sweet story about him making things right again!

How do you all feeling now? Is she supposed to dump him? In your face!!!

Haven't you heard of married people fighting? Have you downers never had an argument with your loved ones?

Because you don't have loved once!!!

Because you are too negative and nasty!

Because you had never held big demanding jobs!!! It can be debilitating!

Good luck to you Miscorpio!

Hope you end up posting here about your wedding and all this asses will turn green with envy! ?

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Posted by Miscorpion
Thanks you for each and every reply. He messaged back saying I'm amazing and he wants to see me next week when I'm up in his city, I just have to step back and relax. It was loaded with kisses and he mentioned he'd message in a days time. Will see what a days time brings only I'm guarded now on where I stand with that snap decision on leaving, it really tore me.

That's what I hate about some people here! One problem and

He doesn't treasure you

Dump him

He is a heartless ass...

And then OP come up with this sweet story about him making things right again!

How do you all feeling now? Is she supposed to dump him? In your face!!!

Haven't you heard of married people fighting? Have you downers never had an argument with your loved ones?

Because you don't have loved once!!!

Because you are too negative and nasty!

Because you had never held big demanding jobs!!! It can be debilitating!

Good luck to you Miscorpio!

Hope you end up posting here about your wedding and all this asses will turn green with envy! ?

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Do you pretend that English is your second language as a precaution, to disguise who you are online? It's a genuine question. I'm asking because I'm curious.

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Thanks you for each and every reply. He messaged back saying I'm amazing and he wants to see me next week when I'm up in his city, I just have to step back and relax. It was loaded with kisses and he mentioned he'd message in a days time. Will see what a days time brings only I'm guarded now on where I stand with that snap decision on leaving, it really tore me.

That's what I hate about some people here! One problem and

He doesn't treasure you

Dump him

He is a heartless ass...

And then OP come up with this sweet story about him making things right again!

How do you all feeling now? Is she supposed to dump him? In your face!!!

Haven't you heard of married people fighting? Have you downers never had an argument with your loved ones?

Because you don't have loved once!!!

Because you are too negative and nasty!

Because you had never held big demanding jobs!!! It can be debilitating!

Good luck to you Miscorpio!

Hope you end up posting here about your wedding and all this asses will turn green with envy! ?

Do you pretend that English is your second language as a precaution, to disguise who you are online? It's a genuine question. I'm asking because I'm curious.

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I will be as genuinely as you asking.

I honestly don't know! To disquise who o am I just don't post picture!

Whatever comes out of me always been questioned in every forum I've ever been!

I wish I knew. Honestly!

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Posted by Miscorpion
Thanks you for each and every reply. He messaged back saying I'm amazing and he wants to see me next week when I'm up in his city, I just have to step back and relax. It was loaded with kisses and he mentioned he'd message in a days time. Will see what a days time brings only I'm guarded now on where I stand with that snap decision on leaving, it really tore me.

That's what I hate about some people here! One problem and

He doesn't treasure you

Dump him

He is a heartless ass...

And then OP come up with this sweet story about him making things right again!

How do you all feeling now? Is she supposed to dump him? In your face!!!

Haven't you heard of married people fighting? Have you downers never had an argument with your loved ones?

Because you don't have loved once!!!

Because you are too negative and nasty!

Because you had never held big demanding jobs!!! It can be debilitating!

Good luck to you Miscorpio!

Hope you end up posting here about your wedding and all this asses will turn green with envy! ?

Do you pretend that English is your second language as a precaution, to disguise who you are online? It's a genuine question. I'm asking because I'm curious.

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Now please answer to me. What made you ask? Was my last post that clear?

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Thanks you for each and every reply. He messaged back saying I'm amazing and he wants to see me next week when I'm up in his city, I just have to step back and relax. It was loaded with kisses and he mentioned he'd message in a days time. Will see what a days time brings only I'm guarded now on where I stand with that snap decision on leaving, it really tore me.

That's what I hate about some people here! One problem and

He doesn't treasure you

Dump him

He is a heartless ass...

And then OP come up with this sweet story about him making things right again!

How do you all feeling now? Is she supposed to dump him? In your face!!!

Haven't you heard of married people fighting? Have you downers never had an argument with your loved ones?

Because you don't have loved once!!!

Because you are too negative and nasty!

Because you had never held big demanding jobs!!! It can be debilitating!

Good luck to you Miscorpio!

Hope you end up posting here about your wedding and all this asses will turn green with envy! ?

Do you pretend that English is your second language as a precaution, to disguise who you are online? It's a genuine question. I'm asking because I'm curious.

I will be as genuinely as you asking.

I honestly don't know! To disquise who o am I just don't post picture!

Whatever comes out of me always been questioned in every forum I've ever been!

I wish I knew. Honestly!

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I'll phrase the question differently: is English your native language?

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Posted by Miscorpion
Thanks you for each and every reply. He messaged back saying I'm amazing and he wants to see me next week when I'm up in his city, I just have to step back and relax. It was loaded with kisses and he mentioned he'd message in a days time. Will see what a days time brings only I'm guarded now on where I stand with that snap decision on leaving, it really tore me.

That's what I hate about some people here! One problem and

He doesn't treasure you

Dump him

He is a heartless ass...

And then OP come up with this sweet story about him making things right again!

How do you all feeling now? Is she supposed to dump him? In your face!!!

Haven't you heard of married people fighting? Have you downers never had an argument with your loved ones?

Because you don't have loved once!!!

Because you are too negative and nasty!

Because you had never held big demanding jobs!!! It can be debilitating!

Good luck to you Miscorpio!

Hope you end up posting here about your wedding and all this asses will turn green with envy! ?

Do you pretend that English is your second language as a precaution, to disguise who you are online? It's a genuine question. I'm asking because I'm curious.

I will be as genuinely as you asking.

I honestly don't know! To disquise who o am I just don't post picture!

Whatever comes out of me always been questioned in every forum I've ever been!

I wish I knew. Honestly!

I'll phrase the question differently: is English your native language?

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NO! English is my third language.

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Posted by VCastrillon

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Posted by Miscorpion
Thanks you for each and every reply. He messaged back saying I'm amazing and he wants to see me next week when I'm up in his city, I just have to step back and relax. It was loaded with kisses and he mentioned he'd message in a days time. Will see what a days time brings only I'm guarded now on where I stand with that snap decision on leaving, it really tore me.

That's what I hate about some people here! One problem and

He doesn't treasure you

Dump him

He is a heartless ass...

And then OP come up with this sweet story about him making things right again!

How do you all feeling now? Is she supposed to dump him? In your face!!!

Haven't you heard of married people fighting? Have you downers never had an argument with your loved ones?

Because you don't have loved once!!!

Because you are too negative and nasty!

Because you had never held big demanding jobs!!! It can be debilitating!

Good luck to you Miscorpio!

Hope you end up posting here about your wedding and all this asses will turn green with envy! ?

Do you pretend that English is your second language as a precaution, to disguise who you are online? It's a genuine question. I'm asking because I'm curious.

I will be as genuinely as you asking.

I honestly don't know! To disquise who o am I just don't post picture!

Whatever comes out of me always been questioned in every forum I've ever been!

I wish I knew. Honestly!

I'll phrase the question differently: is English your native language?

NO! English is my third language.

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What's your native language, if you don't mind my asking.

OP, I apologize for derailing your post.

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Posted by Miscorpion
Thanks you for each and every reply. He messaged back saying I'm amazing and he wants to see me next week when I'm up in his city, I just have to step back and relax. It was loaded with kisses and he mentioned he'd message in a days time. Will see what a days time brings only I'm guarded now on where I stand with that snap decision on leaving, it really tore me.

That's what I hate about some people here! One problem and

He doesn't treasure you

Dump him

He is a heartless ass...

And then OP come up with this sweet story about him making things right again!

How do you all feeling now? Is she supposed to dump him? In your face!!!

Haven't you heard of married people fighting? Have you downers never had an argument with your loved ones?

Because you don't have loved once!!!

Because you are too negative and nasty!

Because you had never held big demanding jobs!!! It can be debilitating!

Good luck to you Miscorpio!

Hope you end up posting here about your wedding and all this asses will turn green with envy! ?

Do you pretend that English is your second language as a precaution, to disguise who you are online? It's a genuine question. I'm asking because I'm curious.

I will be as genuinely as you asking.

I honestly don't know! To disquise who o am I just don't post picture!

Whatever comes out of me always been questioned in every forum I've ever been!

I wish I knew. Honestly!

I'll phrase the question differently: is English your native language?

NO! English is my third language.

What's your native language, if you don't mind my asking.

OP, I apologize for derailing your post.

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Good try! I mind!!!

Specially I mind when bozos asking me questions and nor even considering answering mine!

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Thanks you for each and every reply. He messaged back saying I'm amazing and he wants to see me next week when I'm up in his city, I just have to step back and relax. It was loaded with kisses and he mentioned he'd message in a days time. Will see what a days time brings only I'm guarded now on where I stand with that snap decision on leaving, it really tore me.

That's what I hate about some people here! One problem and

He doesn't treasure you

Dump him

He is a heartless ass...

And then OP come up with this sweet story about him making things right again!

How do you all feeling now? Is she supposed to dump him? In your face!!!

Haven't you heard of married people fighting? Have you downers never had an argument with your loved ones?

Because you don't have loved once!!!

Because you are too negative and nasty!

Because you had never held big demanding jobs!!! It can be debilitating!

Good luck to you Miscorpio!

Hope you end up posting here about your wedding and all this asses will turn green with envy! ?

Do you pretend that English is your second language as a precaution, to disguise who you are online? It's a genuine question. I'm asking because I'm curious.

I will be as genuinely as you asking.

I honestly don't know! To disquise who o am I just don't post picture!

Whatever comes out of me always been questioned in every forum I've ever been!

I wish I knew. Honestly!

I'll phrase the question differently: is English your native language?

NO! English is my third language.

What's your native language, if you don't mind my asking.

OP, I apologize for derailing your post.

Good try! I mind!!!

Specially I mind when bozos asking me questions and nor even considering answering mine!

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I didn't answer because it was explicitly stated in my first post. I thought you were pretending to not be a native English speaker as a precautionary measure given the situation in your private life with your husband and your Scorpio boyfriend. You didn't ask me any other question.

"Good try!" I'm not trying anything. I asked a simple, straightforward question. You're deflecting because you don't want to answer my question about your native language, which is fine. I was curious, that's all.

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Thanks you for each and every reply. He messaged back saying I'm amazing and he wants to see me next week when I'm up in his city, I just have to step back and relax. It was loaded with kisses and he mentioned he'd message in a days time. Will see what a days time brings only I'm guarded now on where I stand with that snap decision on leaving, it really tore me.

That's what I hate about some people here! One problem and

He doesn't treasure you

Dump him

He is a heartless ass...

And then OP come up with this sweet story about him making things right again!

How do you all feeling now? Is she supposed to dump him? In your face!!!

Haven't you heard of married people fighting? Have you downers never had an argument with your loved ones?

Because you don't have loved once!!!

Because you are too negative and nasty!

Because you had never held big demanding jobs!!! It can be debilitating!

Good luck to you Miscorpio!

Hope you end up posting here about your wedding and all this asses will turn green with envy! ?

Do you pretend that English is your second language as a precaution, to disguise who you are online? It's a genuine question. I'm asking because I'm curious.

I will be as genuinely as you asking.

I honestly don't know! To disquise who o am I just don't post picture!

Whatever comes out of me always been questioned in every forum I've ever been!

I wish I knew. Honestly!

I'll phrase the question differently: is English your native language?

NO! English is my third language.

What's your native language, if you don't mind my asking.

OP, I apologize for derailing your post.

Good try! I mind!!!

Specially I mind when bozos asking me questions and nor even considering answering mine!

I didn't answer because it was explicitly stated in my first post. I thought you were pretending to not be a native English speaker as a precautionary measure given the situation in your private life with your husband and your Scorpio boyfriend. You didn't ask me any other question.

"Good try!" I'm not trying anything. I asked a simple, straightforward question. You're deflecting because you don't want to answer my question about your native language, which is fine. I was curious, that's all.

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I've asked you what made you tonal this question? If my post was different from others or something else?

And hey! You seem too sensitive to survive here. Are you knew?

Yeah I have been mulling that thought over about stepping back and just not smothering him with my emotions or seeking his feelings for security. The first year he tried so hard to get me as I wasn't really into him, and he just kept winning my heart. I'd not message and he'd be like why aren't you replying did I do something wrong or if I didn't answer my phone quick enough. Now the tables are turned he can go hours without replying. He can go days without calling....sigh I miss him pursuing. We had a snapchat streak of 490 odd days at the start...now he barely snaps unless we are wanting a juicy session. I feel like he's got comfortable he knows I'm not going anywhere and I'm so committed to him. i won't initiate now and just see, I'm scared what the outcome will be 😢

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Posted by pooface222
Thank you for posting this xx I'm a Capricorn and don't like it when we get described as Cold or dead inside ?

People just need to give us time. We show our feelings slowly as we don't trust easily. But once our guard is down we love to have a laugh and make others laugh too ??

Can you explain why every time we meet up it's so special and amazing. He opens doors and cuddles me constantly, his voice changes it's not so gruff, he stares into my eyes with this look that makes me catch my breath, spoons food in my direction and pops it in my mouth, plays with my hair, the intimacy is off the charts etc etc haha then we part and he shuts down. He pulls back something wicked yet will message to check on me briefly? He doesn't say much feelings wise...and skips all around it. As I dig for more emotion he runs harder? Just would love some direction on how I can balance this..let him know I care and love him without pouring the emotional floodbanks on him like I have after it builds up in the past. If I could just cope with "his time/space" it would save a lot of our issues. How can I ease this that he bounces back or can feel he can open up without fearing my emotions?

It seems he has a lot of trouble with the distance. Has there been any talk to moving closer?

We are trying...for now we visit each other as much as possible. I just find him quite stern with his feelings like he isn't wanting or allowing himself to feel the warm fuzzies. When we say goodbye he is so quick and doesn't linger like I would. He is very close to his parents and brother yet I've seen similar behaviours also with them. Loves them dearly yet has this armour, it drops in your presence but slaps back on once apart!!

It seems it's really hard for him when you're not there. He misses you & that's how he protects himself from those feelings. It's hard to embrace them for a Cap. I think you have to let him handle it in his own way, but lashing out is not okay. I mean does he really want you to go away?

That's the answer Im trying to find....and I feel I'm destroying this trying to seek it. It builds over time he gets close then pulls...I pour my heart out to reassure and boom he's changing subject, sending just kisses or telling me he's stressed and then he retracts more and this repeats. As soon as I get busy in my work and spare time he pops up again arghhhhhhh

That would be typical. you don't really need to pour your heart out, just as long as he knows you are still there. That's probably more for you.

It seems to work better if you don't push it, and let them come to you. They do if they care, so let him show you. I think pressure makes it harder for them. Maybe you can find a balance so he's not always retracting.

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I'll take this advice and try it. He messaged trying to change days to meet so this is inwardly freaking me out he's never stood me up nor changed days. He also mentioned he's ill so I just replied back that he needs to recoop and we will work something out somehow. I miss our good nights and mornings and random messages thru the day...it's so hard I'm trying to step back...let him initiate next

Hey I'm sorry he did this to you. Since he came right back, I would think that he cares a great deal about you. Just hang in there! If you love someone you have to fight for them.

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Hey I'm sorry he did this to you. Since he came right back, I would think that he cares a great deal about you. Just hang in there! If you love someone you have to fight for them.

"If you love someone you have to fight for them. " No, you really don't. I mean, who is she - or any person, for that matter - fighting in this "fighting for them"?

Scorpios are their own worst enemies - and they know it, too, even though *most* of them will never admit it - all while seeing enemies all around them until a person "proves themselves."

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Posted by MissLadyIceQueen
Hey I'm sorry he did this to you. Since he came right back, I would think that he cares a great deal about you. Just hang in there! If you love someone you have to fight for them.

"If you love someone you have to fight for them. " No, you really don't. I mean, who is she - or any person, for that matter - fighting in this "fighting for them"?

Scorpios are their own worst enemies - and they know it, too, even though *most* of them will never admit it - all while seeing enemies all around them until a person "proves themselves."

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Listen pal, they've been together for 3 years. Do you think people don't go through rough patches and want to throw in the towel every now and then? Have you talked to people that have been married for over 7 years? They say it's hard you have to work at it. So yes if you truly love someone and you know they love you too, then you have to fight for it. She doesn't haven to do anything, you're right. I'll tell you what I never kept someone I wasn't fighting for when things weren't "good".

While I'm at it. You know what else is a huge problem? People getting in their own way. They set up these ideas of perfect partners and perfect scenarios , in reality they don't exist. They world is flawed, we are all flawed. People get insecure, people get scared, and people make mistakes. Love is a choice. You have to choose to continue to love someone. Sometimes one person has to fight for both people. Longevity is about over coming obstacles, and your partners short comings. Today everyone is so full of pride and ego , you have to put that aside to make things work. You can't just think about yourself. You also have to think about your partner. You know why? I'll tell you because people do stupid shit, they let outside factors get the best of them, and they fuck up. That's no reason to throw everything away though and walk out. Especially if you see the other person trying (i.e. him reaching back out and wanting to see her). People who are really done, guess what they don't do that! They go about their business and dust it off. That's EFFORT. It counts , it matters. Now by all means if your partner is verbally abusing you, physically abusing, mentally manipulating you, of course you need to get out. If it's a rough spot though yeah you work through it. In my opinion based on my long relationship histories this sounds like a rough patch.

"Listen pal, they've been together for 3 years. Do you think people don't go through rough patches and want to throw in the towel every now and then?"



No, I never knew that, or learned it, not in all my 44 years. Not until you just let me in on it. Thanks for letting me in on the secrets of life and your hard-won wisdom, pal.

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"Listen pal, they've been together for 3 years. Do you think people don't go through rough patches and want to throw in the towel every now and then?"



No, I never knew that, or learned it, not in all my 44 years. Not until you just let me in on it. Thanks for letting me in on the secrets of life and your hard-won wisdom, pal.



I like you , you're sassy like me. Don't worry sometimes it takes others longer to learn things 😉

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Posted by VCastrillon

"Listen pal, they've been together for 3 years. Do you think people don't go through rough patches and want to throw in the towel every now and then?"

No, I never knew that, or learned it, not in all my 44 years. Not until you just let me in on it. Thanks for letting me in on the secrets of life and your hard-won wisdom, pal.



"I like you , you're sassy like me. Don't worry sometimes it takes others longer to learn things 😉"





I'm not worried, and I'm not sassy: sassy is a descriptor for young people. I don't dislike you, but you're presuming a lot - too much, in fact - when you say it takes others longer to learn things.

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Posted by MissLadyIceQueen

Posted by VCastrillon

"Listen pal, they've been together for 3 years. Do you think people don't go through rough patches and want to throw in the towel every now and then?"

No, I never knew that, or learned it, not in all my 44 years. Not until you just let me in on it. Thanks for letting me in on the secrets of life and your hard-won wisdom, pal.

"I like you , you're sassy like me. Don't worry sometimes it takes others longer to learn things 😉"



I'm not worried, and I'm not sassy: sassy is a descriptor for young people. I don't dislike you, but you're presuming a lot - too much, in fact - when you say it takes others longer to learn things.







Sassy ,spunky, you got some fight in you, snarky, potato tomato whatever. That was more of a joke with the " it takes others longer to learn" it wasn't personal. I do stand by it however. I've met people much older act immature in relationships and not learning, and younger people who have mastered it and vise versa.

Posted by MissLadyIceQueen

Posted by VCastrillon

Posted by MissLadyIceQueen
Hey I'm sorry he did this to you. Since he came right back, I would think that he cares a great deal about you. Just hang in there! If you love someone you have to fight for them.

"If you love someone you have to fight for them. " No, you really don't. I mean, who is she - or any person, for that matter - fighting in this "fighting for them"?

Scorpios are their own worst enemies - and they know it, too, even though *most* of them will never admit it - all while seeing enemies all around them until a person "proves themselves."

Listen pal, they've been together for 3 years. Do you think people don't go through rough patches and want to throw in the towel every now and then? Have you talked to people that have been married for over 7 years? They say it's hard you have to work at it. So yes if you truly love someone and you know they love you too, then you have to fight for it. She doesn't haven to do anything, you're right. I'll tell you what I never kept someone I wasn't fighting for when things weren't "good".

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you actualy have good tidbits of wisdom.

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Posted by MissLadyIceQueen

Posted by VCastrillon

"Listen pal, they've been together for 3 years. Do you think people don't go through rough patches and want to throw in the towel every now and then?"

No, I never knew that, or learned it, not in all my 44 years. Not until you just let me in on it. Thanks for letting me in on the secrets of life and your hard-won wisdom, pal.

"I like you , you're sassy like me. Don't worry sometimes it takes others longer to learn things 😉"



I'm not worried, and I'm not sassy: sassy is a descriptor for young people. I don't dislike you, but you're presuming a lot - too much, in fact - when you say it takes others longer to learn things.







lol

both of you are sassy. 😛

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Hey guys I've been on here on in off with my Cappy guy. Trying to tap mainly inside a general insight on a Cappy guys emotional mechanisms. It's been three years with my Cappy in a long distance relationship. It's had its challenges as my Cappy after a year started to withdrawal at times of stress and his heavy work load. Bring LDR and relying on communication this made things that bit harder as calls decreased yet he always messaged most days morning and night even if it was light. Well we meet up and we had an amazing time recently and straight afterwards he went into a new job with bigger demands and responsibility. This has majorally put the relationship on the back burner and communication reduced significantly. I sucked it up and kept reassuring him off and on until today when I told him to hit me with what's going on? well boy did he ever...he told me it's all over he can't juggle work and us. So after this big blurb....really stop and take in every little thing...a kiss on a text, a helpful gesture and even a kind lecture. They are all ways of him or her expressing their caring side. I took my morning and good nights for granted and in between after awhile...and tonight I did not receive my goodnight. I didn't realise till now more than ever I'd do anything to have a goodnight over anything... Just hug them and hold them close cause they truely are amazing! I think my Cappy will come back but for now I'll reflect on myself and take this time to recharge.

i'm having my lunch and reading this and lolling at the comments. 😄 it's a nice afternoon. heehee.



well if he has bigger responsibilities, I would just sit back and have some "SPACE" ignore him and focus on your own work, or hobbies or work/hobbies whatever you like.

work is more important to him right now. he needs to feel that security and get secured and not have you all over him. but he probably appreciates it very very much that you're there for him, LOYALITY.

just stick with him and do your own thing. If he needs you, just be there. Be a mommy/partner ..whatever.

you don't need that extra kiss on the text do you?

just having him there and being loyal to you is enough right?



sometimes in couples, one is the more assertive in love...so I guess that's you. don't complain...just do it.

kiss and text him and if he doesn't ...just never mind you don't always need reciprocation all the time do you?

Posted by Miscorpion
Hey guys I've been on here on in off with my Cappy guy. Trying to tap mainly inside a general insight on a Cappy guys emotional mechanisms. It's been three years with my Cappy in a long distance relationship. It's had its challenges as my Cappy after a year started to withdrawal at times of stress and his heavy work load. Bring LDR and relying on communication this made things that bit harder as calls decreased yet he always messaged most days morning and night even if it was light. Well we meet up and we had an amazing time recently and straight afterwards he went into a new job with bigger demands and responsibility. This has majorally put the relationship on the back burner and communication reduced significantly. I sucked it up and kept reassuring him off and on until today when I told him to hit me with what's going on? well boy did he ever...he told me it's all over he can't juggle work and us. So after this big blurb....really stop and take in every little thing...a kiss on a text, a helpful gesture and even a kind lecture. They are all ways of him or her expressing their caring side. I took my morning and good nights for granted and in between after awhile...and tonight I did not receive my goodnight. I didn't realise till now more than ever I'd do anything to have a goodnight over anything... Just hug them and hold them close cause they truely are amazing! I think my Cappy will come back but for now I'll reflect on myself and take this time to recharge.

by the way what's his placements—

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Posted by MissLadyIceQueen

Posted by VCastrillon

Posted by MissLadyIceQueen
Hey I'm sorry he did this to you. Since he came right back, I would think that he cares a great deal about you. Just hang in there! If you love someone you have to fight for them.

"If you love someone you have to fight for them. " No, you really don't. I mean, who is she - or any person, for that matter - fighting in this "fighting for them"?

Scorpios are their own worst enemies - and they know it, too, even though *most* of them will never admit it - all while seeing enemies all around them until a person "proves themselves."

Listen pal, they've been together for 3 years. Do you think people don't go through rough patches and want to throw in the towel every now and then? Have you talked to people that have been married for over 7 years? They say it's hard you have to work at it. So yes if you truly love someone and you know they love you too, then you have to fight for it. She doesn't haven to do anything, you're right. I'll tell you what I never kept someone I wasn't fighting for when things weren't "good".

you actualy have good tidbits of wisdom.

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Thank you.

Thanks everyone, after taking a big breath and going out with friends of an evening I just gave him space and time for myself. I woke to a miss you message and he wants to see me...next time if I feel he is retracting I'm just going to let him do just that and use that time myself to recharge. All your comments have shed some light and helped me through this time of uncertainty ?

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Posted by Miscorpion
Hey guys I've been on here on in off with my Cappy guy. Trying to tap mainly inside a general insight on a Cappy guys emotional mechanisms. It's been three years with my Cappy in a long distance relationship. It's had its challenges as my Cappy after a year started to withdrawal at times of stress and his heavy work load. Bring LDR and relying on communication this made things that bit harder as calls decreased yet he always messaged most days morning and night even if it was light. Well we meet up and we had an amazing time recently and straight afterwards he went into a new job with bigger demands and responsibility. This has majorally put the relationship on the back burner and communication reduced significantly. I sucked it up and kept reassuring him off and on until today when I told him to hit me with what's going on? well boy did he ever...he told me it's all over he can't juggle work and us. So after this big blurb....really stop and take in every little thing...a kiss on a text, a helpful gesture and even a kind lecture. They are all ways of him or her expressing their caring side. I took my morning and good nights for granted and in between after awhile...and tonight I did not receive my goodnight. I didn't realise till now more than ever I'd do anything to have a goodnight over anything... Just hug them and hold them close cause they truely are amazing! I think my Cappy will come back but for now I'll reflect on myself and take this time to recharge.

by the way what's his placements—

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Sun; Capricorn

Moon; Leo

Mercury; Capricorn

Venus; Capricorn