Venus and moon in Capricorn

How can you be patient with this kind of man? How long do you need to wait for them? I wanna know all the ways to deal with this kind of man. He has Aquarius sun. All insight will be appreciated.

Wait until they are ready to move it up. As long as things are moving forward, that is. although it's slower than you would like, if it's moving forward, things are fine.

He reappeared in my life about 3 weeks ago, and we still haven't see each other again..telling me he's afraid to see me because I act crazy for awhile before we broken up. He just assured me he's single and don't date anyone and yet he keeps on saying we will see each other but I don't know when...it's like cat and mouse mind game.

Just do your thing, live your life and give him time to realize you're not going to act crazy again. He might move slower this time around because he's going to be more cautious.

Three weeks thougj, I'd wonder about his sincerity.

I know right? That's why I feel frustrated! I try to ignore him too and continue with my life when he gets aloof...I just like to know where we really stand so I can move on if in case he's not even serious in getting back with me

Lmao Cap moon and Venus here. I'm slow as hell too but that's because I probably have some serious trust/commitment issues and I'm too critical of my feelings. I seriously refuse to fall in in love, maybe that's the case with this guy too.

Why would you refuse to fall in love if the person can love you back anyway? When you say you're slow, how long will you make the person wait for you? Aren't you afraid the you're letting love to slip you by by being to scared to commit? We can't wait forever

Because the thought keeps stuck in my head that we're still all humans and everyone wants what they can't get. Probably sounds wicked but I can't really help it.
My girlfriend says that she has never been so in love, that I bring up her deepest emotions, doesn't know what to do if she would lose me, and I really appreciate that but I STILL feel like she's going to drop me when I become too 'available'.
Like she goes for something else when she finally got what she wanted. It's all my own fear! I think this holding back thing is all because I put people on a pedestal too quickly and I'm afraid I'll lose her that way.

Do you feel like he shows interest anyway? Because personally I do show love in small portions but I stay careful. Maybe you should initiate a bit yourself, he could be just as stuck as I am 😉

@risesafterall he shows interest, but right now it's all words without action. He reappeared about 3weeks ago but I haven't seen him in person since we broken up in April. I always initiate but he is different now than before we broke up. He don't reply on my good morning or goodnight text tho he would reply on some things. I think he is being careful in getting close to me again. And he keeps on saying that he fear to see me because I acted crazy when we broken up. He is Aquarius sun so just imagine how difficult it is for me to deal with this guy. I love him though.

When you say "reappeared" what do you mean? How did he reappear?

@truecap since April 12 that I acted crazy and the last time we saw each other and talk, we didn't have anymore communications. We had a total no contact, no text messages, no call, unfriended on FB, no checking on profile, and no news about each other until June 14 when he checked my profile out again. Then we started talking again. He said he is still single and he is wishing that he could see me soon. But it's all talking and whenever I ask him why he seem afraid to see me, all he always say is because I acted crazy the last time. It's seems immature to me, but I don't know why he do this..

Is that part of being cautious? Is he afraid to find out that whatever he felt for me before is still there inside him? Is he just afraid to be close to me again? He is not vocal, very stingy with words, very cautious with his responses...it's frustrating! I met guys who are very vocal with how they feel and they communicate well, but this guy is different

Just because he checked out your profile, I don't see that as him being interested in a relationship with you. Sorry.
Sometimes our curiosity peaks and we check out stuff.

The fact that he has not seen you since that, is kind of telling that he isn't wanting to go there. Not saying he won't, but right now, he's leery of you. Cap placements do not like drama in any form, shape or way and will tend to avoid people who have a lot of drama.

Posted by Lioness88
@truecap since April 12 that I acted crazy and the last time we saw each other and talk, we didn't have anymore communications. We had a total no contact, no text messages, no call, unfriended on FB, no checking on profile, and no news about each other until June 14 when he checked my profile out again. Then we started talking again. 1. He said he is still single and he is wishing that he could see me soon. But it's all talking and whenever I ask him why he seem afraid to see me, 2. all he always say is because I acted crazy the last time. It's seems immature to me, but I don't know why he do this.

1. He says he is wishing he could see you soon. To me that sounds like there are some real obstacles that prevent him to do so and maybe even something other than what he mentions as well that he can't tell you about yet. I could be wrong, though, and I don't know if we got his exact words here.

2. Just because you don't understand it, doesn't mean he's immature. You seem to be very different people and if you are serious about him, I suggest you start trying to understand him instead of judging him. I know that's what you're trying to do right now, but I do get the vibe that you have already put a lable on him, and I would advice you to drop all that and try to step out of yourself and try to see things from his perspective, just as I think he should do too with you if he's interested. Trust is huge to capricorns and maybe he is just struggling to trust you again and just as truecap said, caps don't especially enjoy drama. How sure can he be that it's not going to happen again?

As a side note, I can tell you that I'm a strong believer in cap-leo relationships, just as long as you get past the first few hurdles it's friggin awsome! So if you really like him, really put in the effort, because if this is even close to as good as my relationships with leos, it will be so worth it! Good luck!

His not answering your texts is a warning sign, though, imo. But it may not be.

this sounds like my friend. always wants to see me but never has time or has to reschedule. i think these people are just afraid of being hurt. they want love but are unsure if the love will be real. mine will be real if he just would give a chance. but i know me im not going to wait much longer. it been 1 yr now still playing the cat and mouse game. i truly hope u get ur man.

Posted by truecap
Just because he checked out your profile, I don't see that as him being interested in a relationship with you. Sorry.
Sometimes our curiosity peaks and we check out stuff.

The fact that he has not seen you since that, is kind of telling that he isn't wanting to go there. Not saying he won't, but right now, he's leery of you. Cap placements do not like drama in any form, shape or way and will tend to avoid people who have a lot of drama.

We are talking again since June, I told him I won't be seeing him again if he is dating somebody, he said he is single, he asked me if I'm with anyone, I told him that I go on dates but if he wants us to see each other again, I'll stop the dates with the other guy. I asked him a few times what's bothering him and the reason why he seems like he is afraid to see me again, he just say that because I acted crazy. The way I analyze it is that he is scared that I will act crazy again and that he isn't sure that he can trust me again not to act the same way I did the last time.

@happycapper I've been understanding him and being patient. I just like to know how long should I be patient? We talk and he answer my text, just not the good morning or goodnight text. It's unusual to me, although he's an aqua sun, when we used to see each other, we text each other everyday, I didn't have a problem with him not answering my text. I read a lot of women here who had a problem with their Aqua guys not responding to them for days or weeks. I didn't have that problem with him, but he just avoid the gmorning/gnight text. It's seems petty, but it's a big deal to me, coz now I can feel the aloofness and detachment of his.

Posted by confused37
this sounds like my friend. always wants to see me but never has time or has to reschedule. i think these people are just afraid of being hurt. they want love but are unsure if the love will be real. mine will be real if he just would give a chance. but i know me im not going to wait much longer. it been 1 yr now still playing the cat and mouse game. i truly hope u get ur man.

It's frustrating! He knows I love him, he just have to trust me again that it will be no drama this time that it will just be fun and lighthearted relationship. I also hate the cat and mouse game, because I can feel that that's what he's doing right now. I'm very frank with him with what I want and what not, but I can't seem to break his wall 😢

How can you guarantee there won't be drama? What if you get upset about something?

I have not argue with him with anything so far since we first met in October. I tried not to get upset with him and if I do I kept it to myself. The drama he was referring to was when after we broke up and we were in the same event we participated in and he ignored me the whole night and only spoke to me briefly. After the event I got a little bit drunk and I went to his house at 3am uninvited, though he spoke to me for less than 10 minutes he got upset that I went to him because I'd like to have a talk with him, I wasn't even raising my voice, I actually beg him to give me a chance to talk and let me inside his house. He didn't let me in and when the security asked me to leave I left right away crying. The next day he was upset and calling me crazy and questioning me why I acted crazy and went to his house uninvited. It was only one incident, and he kept on reminding me about that. He can't seem to forget about that one night and now every time I ask him why he seem afraid to see me again all I get from him is "cause you acted crazy".

Posted by Lioness88
@happycapper I've been understanding him and being patient. I just like to know how long should I be patient? We talk and he answer my text, just not the good morning or goodnight text. It's unusual to me, although he's an aqua sun, when we used to see each other, we text each other everyday, I didn't have a problem with him not answering my text. I read a lot of women here who had a problem with their Aqua guys not responding to them for days or weeks. I didn't have that problem with him, but he just avoid the gmorning/gnight text. It's seems petty, but it's a big deal to me, coz now I can feel the aloofness and detachment of his.

No, you are not understanding him, according to yourself. "It's seems immature to me, but I don't know why he do this."

People are complex creatures and judging by your posts I seriously doubt that you have done enough soul searching of both of him and of yourself. Am I wrong? Have you really tried to put yourself into his shoes, successfully? Do you understand what an impact your behaviour must have made on him? I think not, seeing as you call him immature for not just snapping out of it.

The statement "I just like to know how long should I be patient?" practically negates what you said about your patience with him.

Good about the texts! May not be as bad as I feared.

I am truly not trying to be mean - I am seriously trying to help you and this is what I feel you need to hear. Best of luck!

Posted by Lioness88
I have not argue with him with anything so far since we first met in October. I tried not to get upset with him and if I do I kept it to myself. The drama he was referring to was when after we broke up and we were in the same event we participated in and he ignored me the whole night and only spoke to me briefly. After the event I got a little bit drunk and I went to his house at 3am uninvited, though he spoke to me for less than 10 minutes he got upset that I went to him because I'd like to have a talk with him, I wasn't even raising my voice, I actually beg him to give me a chance to talk and let me inside his house. He didn't let me in and when the security asked me to leave I left right away crying. The next day he was upset and calling me crazy and questioning me why I acted crazy and went to his house uninvited. It was only one incident, and he kept on reminding me about that. He can't seem to forget about that one night and now every time I ask him why he seem afraid to see me again all I get from him is "cause you acted crazy".

I wouldn't like that. Not at all.

An aqua doesn't like emotional displays and will avoid that like the plaque. They don't want to deal with it, don't know how to deal with it and most importantly, they don't understand it.

And, the cap part doesn't like to be embarrassed - imagine what the neighbors must have thought. The scandal of security escorting a hysterical (yes, hysterically not able to control your emotions)! A cap venus wants a woman who has dignity, not one crying on your porch for the whole world to see. They want a woman who controls her emotions and acts like a lady.

I know you're trying and you have feelings for him, but please try to understand his point of view. Can you understand why he's leery about getting back with you. History repeats itself whether we like it or not. And people can try to change, but they can't change the core of who they are.

Time is your friend, and you're going to need a lot of it so he can observe and determine whether that was a one time thing, or is this something you might be likely to do again.

@truecap thank you. Yes I have feelings for him and I really do understand his hesitation and his point of view on what happened in the past. I already made a decision last night to stop all this whatever I'm feeling. I was praying with tears in my eyes. I always pray for him, I know I can't make him want to be with me if that's not what he wants. I'm letting go, I wanna be patient but it's better if I just stay away from him. I haven't been reaching out to text him for 4 days now, and I plan on not responding to him at all. It's hard to be involve with someone who has a lot of fears in their heart. I'm a Leo I'm optimistic and a risk taker. If I like you I like you. I would take a chance, because we all only have this one life, and I'd rather feel the love even for awhile than fear it and miss out on some good experience of my life. I try not to regret all the things that happen to me, like this short live love affair that I had with him. At least even for 6 months I get to experience to love and be love in that special way. I will not hesitate to love again, this Aqua guy with Venus and moon in Capricorn has a special place in my heart and though it seems like it didn't workout, I wish him to find the right person for him.