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@Lindaaaatje
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Why do i feel so alone ...
Just ask him what is bothering him. It may not even have anything to do with you or your relationship, but if it does, wouldn't you rather find out what it is so that you can work towards a solution?
Posted by champrangerThx Champranger. Maybe you are wright but he it is like a pushing and pulling kind of feeling. Also by me....i don't know why he is doing that. Is he that insecure? When he is like that i automaticaly go into " my shell" also.Posted by LindaaaatjeMaybe his mind is troubled by his work or something at his workplace?
I've been living with my cap sinds may the 1ste . But lately i feel a change in him. Its like he is living on his own without me.
He doesn't "share" his life with me.
I don't know if it is me who wants something that isn't there. Or is it " the goat" thing.
He doesn't ask what i am doing today or what i have been doing during the day. I made the garden in order and bought some plants but he doesn't say anything about it. I am feeling like he doesn't care if i'm there or not. Maybe its just a feeling and i am wrong, i don't know.
When he is like that , i instinctely pull back and go into safe modus....don't want to but still i do. He senses that.
I am afraid of talking to him about all these things because i am afraid of losing him. I know he wants a steady life without problems...
Maybe some of you " goats" can help me out .
I am trying to understand him , glad to know this forum who maybe can help me out.click to expand
Posted by HappyCapperI know you are right HappyCapper. But normaly i am a very direct person if it comes to issues we have to talk about. Normaly i am the one who will put things on the table if there is a problem. But now with him , i am not. I am always afraid of telling him something or asking him what 's the matter because of his criticisme. I am afraid that he will say " you're not the kind of women for me". He has strict vues about what a women has to be, has to act with him. If it doesn't stroke with his point of vue he doesn't easily put " water into the wine". If you know what i mean.
Just ask him what is bothering him. It may not even have anything to do with you or your relationship, but if it does, wouldn't you rather find out what it is so that you can work towards a solution?
I know what you mean. Please do me favor and read your last post there. Is this the relationship you are fighting so hard to keep? Imo, you need to start communicating with this man now or you will keep enabling him to treat you this way. You are afraid to ask him what's bothering him! What does that tell you? Can you live with this for another five years without going insane? Ten?
Probably because you are alone. Seems like a part of him has checked out.
You over there walking on eggshells and not making your presence known has made it easier for him to stay in his space. Sounds selfish of him, and you are the one that should have the criticism because parts of him doesn't know how to extend himself and connect in relationships.
I don't see how staying silent will help. Screw him abd hos views, and I don't mean to be mean but you obviously fit close to his views and look at what all you get from him. He has issues and usually the type with what a woman should be etc, are the type that needs to be alone. They think they haven't found the right woman when it's them with the issues.
You over there walking on eggshells and not making your presence known has made it easier for him to stay in his space. Sounds selfish of him, and you are the one that should have the criticism because parts of him doesn't know how to extend himself and connect in relationships.
I don't see how staying silent will help. Screw him abd hos views, and I don't mean to be mean but you obviously fit close to his views and look at what all you get from him. He has issues and usually the type with what a woman should be etc, are the type that needs to be alone. They think they haven't found the right woman when it's them with the issues.
The things you are asking for are not unreasonable at all, even for a socially retarded Cap.
If he doesn't ask about your day, or what you did, well, that is beyond selfish and indifferent.
When he comes home from work, let him.change his clothes, or whatever, then grab him by the hand and show him the pretty flowers you planted that day, and what you've done to improve them home.
If he refuses, or doesn't care, he is a complete asshole, and doesn't deserve to be in a relationship.
Hope this is just a spell he is going through --- for your sake
If he doesn't ask about your day, or what you did, well, that is beyond selfish and indifferent.
When he comes home from work, let him.change his clothes, or whatever, then grab him by the hand and show him the pretty flowers you planted that day, and what you've done to improve them home.
If he refuses, or doesn't care, he is a complete asshole, and doesn't deserve to be in a relationship.
Hope this is just a spell he is going through --- for your sake
Posted by champrangerMaybe....but i am not fake. I don't say thinks i don't mean or i don't say you are right when i think he's not. But some thinks of me i do hide because he told me he didn't like that. But i think that makes me a better person,Posted by LindaaaatjeWhy are you afraid? This seems like you are trying to make yourself fit his standards ...Posted by HappyCapperI know you are right HappyCapper. But normaly i am a very direct person if it comes to issues we have to talk about. Normaly i am the one who will put things on the table if there is a problem. But now with him , i am not. I am always afraid of telling him something or asking him what 's the matter because of his criticisme. I am afraid that he will say " you're not the kind of women for me". He has strict vues about what a women has to be, has to act with him. If it doesn't stroke with his point of vue he doesn't easily put " water into the wine". If you know what i mean.
Just ask him what is bothering him. It may not even have anything to do with you or your relationship, but if it does, wouldn't you rather find out what it is so that you can work towards a solution?click to expand
He was afraid to start a relationship but kept pulling me back into his life. We love each other deeply, no doughts about that. But he told me before that he was afraid of " the obligations" in the relationship. He sometimes felt obligated to do thinks that don't want to do.
I don't pressure him to do thinks and last week when i asked him why do you love me, he said " you make me feel calm inside". But one minuut he is kind, loving, touches me and the next minuut he like forgets me. Maybe its me who want more attention but doesn't dare to say to him?
Sometimes i think of him as a selfish person.... but that can be on the outside.
He ones said " when you are rubbing my feet, i feel so guilty " So i think his apperence does not stroke with his feelings inside.
Posted by CapTennHahaaaaaaaaaaa CapTenn, a socially retarted cap, hmmm you're maybe right.
The things you are asking for are not unreasonable at all, even for a socially retarded Cap.
If he doesn't ask about your day, or what you did, well, that is beyond selfish and indifferent.
When he comes home from work, let him.change his clothes, or whatever, then grab him by the hand and show him the pretty flowers you planted that day, and what you've done to improve them home.
If he refuses, or doesn't care, he is a complete asshole, and doesn't deserve to be in a relationship.
Hope this is just a spell he is going through --- for your sake
But that doesn't mean he has no right for a relationship and has to stay alone the rest of his life?
I am just searching for the right handles to help him and me in this relationship.
Posted by lnana04Thx Inana04, he warned me about how dificult he is to live with....i don't always walk on eggshells :-)
Probably because you are alone. Seems like a part of him has checked out.
You over there walking on eggshells and not making your presence known has made it easier for him to stay in his space. Sounds selfish of him, and you are the one that should have the criticism because parts of him doesn't know how to extend himself and connect in relationships.
I don't see how staying silent will help. Screw him abd hos views, and I don't mean to be mean but you obviously fit close to his views and look at what all you get from him. He has issues and usually the type with what a woman should be etc, are the type that needs to be alone. They think they haven't found the right woman when it's them with the issues.
Well if he warned you and told you he feared the obligations then...
I guess i understand your fear now. It could be very easy for him to let things go because he knows how he is and wouldn't want you to suffer.
Id talk to him still but maybe the two of you are not the most compatible.
I guess i understand your fear now. It could be very easy for him to let things go because he knows how he is and wouldn't want you to suffer.
Id talk to him still but maybe the two of you are not the most compatible.
Posted by LindaaaatjeSeriously. Read what you wrote. If you were the one reading this in another person's post, what would you reply? What advice would you give? Does this seem healthy to you?Posted by HappyCapperI know you are right HappyCapper. But normaly i am a very direct person if it comes to issues we have to talk about. Normaly i am the one who will put things on the table if there is a problem. But now with him , i am not. I am always afraid of telling him something or asking him what 's the matter because of his criticisme. I am afraid that he will say " you're not the kind of women for me". He has strict vues about what a women has to be, has to act with him. If it doesn't stroke with his point of vue he doesn't easily put " water into the wine". If you know what i mean.
Just ask him what is bothering him. It may not even have anything to do with you or your relationship, but if it does, wouldn't you rather find out what it is so that you can work towards a solution?click to expand
Posted by HappyCapperno it doesn't HappyCapper. I will talk to him, i need to talk to him about all those things or i will end up feeling very unhappy.Posted by LindaaaatjeSeriously. Read what you wrote. If you were the one reading this in another person's post, what would you reply? What advice would you give? Does this seem healthy to you?Posted by HappyCapperI know you are right HappyCapper. But normaly i am a very direct person if it comes to issues we have to talk about. Normaly i am the one who will put things on the table if there is a problem. But now with him , i am not. I am always afraid of telling him something or asking him what 's the matter because of his criticisme. I am afraid that he will say " you're not the kind of women for me". He has strict vues about what a women has to be, has to act with him. If it doesn't stroke with his point of vue he doesn't easily put " water into the wine". If you know what i mean.
Just ask him what is bothering him. It may not even have anything to do with you or your relationship, but if it does, wouldn't you rather find out what it is so that you can work towards a solution?click to expand
Posted by LindaaaatjeSuper good luck!Posted by HappyCapperno it doesn't HappyCapper. I will talk to him, i need to talk to him about all those things or i will end up feeling very unhappy.Posted by LindaaaatjeSeriously. Read what you wrote. If you were the one reading this in another person's post, what would you reply? What advice would you give? Does this seem healthy to you?Posted by HappyCapperI know you are right HappyCapper. But normaly i am a very direct person if it comes to issues we have to talk about. Normaly i am the one who will put things on the table if there is a problem. But now with him , i am not. I am always afraid of telling him something or asking him what 's the matter because of his criticisme. I am afraid that he will say " you're not the kind of women for me". He has strict vues about what a women has to be, has to act with him. If it doesn't stroke with his point of vue he doesn't easily put " water into the wine". If you know what i mean.
Just ask him what is bothering him. It may not even have anything to do with you or your relationship, but if it does, wouldn't you rather find out what it is so that you can work towards a solution?click to expand
I have nothing to add. Agree with happycappy and captenn.
Hope it works out.
Hope it works out.
Super good luck!
thx !
Posted by truecapHope so too....
I have nothing to add. Agree with happycappy and captenn.
Hope it works out.
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He doesn't "share" his life with me.
I don't know if it is me who wants something that isn't there. Or is it " the goat" thing.
He doesn't ask what i am doing today or what i have been doing during the day. I made the garden in order and bought some plants but he doesn't say anything about it. I am feeling like he doesn't care if i'm there or not. Maybe its just a feeling and i am wrong, i don't know.
When he is like that , i instinctely pull back and go into safe modus....don't want to but still i do. He senses that.
I am afraid of talking to him about all these things because i am afraid of losing him. I know he wants a steady life without problems...
Maybe some of you " goats" can help me out .
I am trying to understand him , glad to know this forum who maybe can help me out.