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Would you choose career or personal happiness?
happiness
and i made my choice
and i made my choice
when u know u can do what looks good. it's really not that big of a deal.
Posted by Aggrippina66789when you get the position (power / money) but feel unhappy, you would ask yourself "so what"Posted by iCloud9This makes no sense sorry?
when u know u can do what looks good. it's really not that big of a deal.click to expand
you capricorns would never be without fnancial security though.
so if you find happiness in love without a career...
it would be like Kate Middleton.
🙂
so if you find happiness in love without a career...
it would be like Kate Middleton.
🙂
"I'm contemplating going back to the old job if I can negotiate
receiving a promotion. (They didn't want me to leave, so this is
still a possibility."
Why didn't you try that before you left?
Why didn't they offer it, if they wanted to keep you?
receiving a promotion. (They didn't want me to leave, so this is
still a possibility."
Why didn't you try that before you left?
Why didn't they offer it, if they wanted to keep you?
Posted by Aggrippina66789lol i'm being serious.Posted by lisabethur8Facepalm
you capricorns would never be without fnancial security though.
so if you find happiness in love without a career...
it would be like Kate Middleton.
🙂click to expand
every cap sun i know, and cap moon too, want financial security.
so it's either
1) career
2) marriage to a stable and financially secure man.
of course it's DEEPER than that....it's not about money, but ya'll get nudged as "gold diggers"
and astrologers are Always saying, that a woman doesn't care about a man's pockets or what he makes,
unless her rising is Cancer, Capricorn, and Taurus....
gee, why those THREE??
and why didnt they say Virgo, as virgo is an earth sign (this is from Linda goodman too)
but i feel it's in a dominant earthy thing.
the deeper issue is, they need security. and love doesn't pay the bills when your children are starving, (family oriented)
Posted by FrenchKpricornwhat do you mean?Posted by lisabethur8
the deeper issue is, they need security. and love doesn't pay the bills when your children are starving, (family oriented)
but doing thing for money is boring at a moment you'll start bring crazyclick to expand
you can still make money at home, if you want. part time OR full time.
but i dont know any that makes six figures.
why?
are you making money at home?
Posted by Aggrippina66789i was actually being "sensitive" to you.Posted by lisabethur8Why do you care if anyone thinks you are a gold digger? Its not their business.Posted by Aggrippina66789lol i'm being serious.Posted by lisabethur8Facepalm
you capricorns would never be without fnancial security though.
so if you find happiness in love without a career...
it would be like Kate Middleton.
🙂
every cap sun i know, and cap moon too, want financial security.
so it's either
1) career
2) marriage to a stable and financially secure man.
of course it's DEEPER than that....it's not about money, but ya'll get nudged as "gold diggers"
and astrologers are Always saying, that a woman doesn't care about a man's pockets or what he makes,
unless her rising is Cancer, Capricorn, and Taurus....
gee, why those THREE??
and why didnt they say Virgo, as virgo is an earth sign (this is from Linda goodman too)
but i feel it's in a dominant earthy thing.click to expand
you dont care. i could give two fucks too if you like to get a man with a lot of money.
Posted by Aggrippina66789and that's fine too.Posted by lisabethur8What some people like best about their jobs sometimes is getting paid. Some people like nothing else.Posted by FrenchKpricornwhat do you mean?Posted by lisabethur8
the deeper issue is, they need security. and love doesn't pay the bills when your children are starving, (family oriented)
but doing thing for money is boring at a moment you'll start bring crazy
you can still make money at home, if you want. part time OR full time.
but i dont know any that makes six figures.
why?
are you making money at home?click to expand
plus i just know quite a handful of cap suns, and every last one of them...financal security is important.
whether they make it on their own, OR they are married into it.
there's no shame in choosing either. as long as you're happy.
whether they make it on their own, OR they are married into it.
there's no shame in choosing either. as long as you're happy.
Posted by MontgomeryThey wanted to counter offer, but I wouldn't let them. I just wanted to leave at the time because the new offer promised so much more. Indeed, I got everything I expected with the new job: a rare opportunity, lots of power, a great manager. I just didn't expect to be the only girl on my side of the building or be surrounded by a lack of professionalism. I'm really shocked by some of the language and behavior I've observed at the new job. I'm sure I can influence that, but it's still appalling.
"I'm contemplating going back to the old job if I can negotiate
receiving a promotion. (They didn't want me to leave, so this is
still a possibility."
Why didn't you try that before you left?
Why didn't they offer it, if they wanted to keep you?
Posted by Aggrippina66789I can get used to it, but I still don't like it. 😢Posted by xeldaWill you get used to it?Posted by MontgomeryThey wanted to counter offer, but I wouldn't let them. I just wanted to leave at the time because the new offer promised so much more. Indeed, I got everything I expected with the new job: a rare opportunity, lots of power, a great manager. I just didn't expect to be the only girl on my side of the building or be surrounded by a lack of professionalism. I'm really shocked by some of the language and behavior I've observed at the new job. I'm sure I can influence that, but it's still appalling.
"I'm contemplating going back to the old job if I can negotiate
receiving a promotion. (They didn't want me to leave, so this is
still a possibility."
Why didn't you try that before you left?
Why didn't they offer it, if they wanted to keep you?
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I was so focused on doing the best thing for my career, I didn't stop to think about the best thing for my happiness. I just assumed the career would lead to happiness, but now I'm seeing that's not necessarily the case.
I think you have answered your own question. Go back to where you feel the most happy. Are you fulfilled working at the old job? Does the new job have the same feeling? If you want to settle down and start a family the more stable environment will be the old job.
Question are you sure that you want to settle down and start a family or do you feel like its what you are supposed to do at this point in your life? I sometimes get the feeling that i should have children, but then I realize that I want to do more things and accomplish more and then I realize that I would be a horrible father because I just want to keep progressing and being a parent that kind of grounds you. No child deserves a parent who feels like he should have done more with his life. Just chiming in on my perspective on that subject. I will be thirty in October so maybe my opinion will change when that hits.
Good luck and just don't regret the decision you make whatever you choose know its the right one
Question are you sure that you want to settle down and start a family or do you feel like its what you are supposed to do at this point in your life? I sometimes get the feeling that i should have children, but then I realize that I want to do more things and accomplish more and then I realize that I would be a horrible father because I just want to keep progressing and being a parent that kind of grounds you. No child deserves a parent who feels like he should have done more with his life. Just chiming in on my perspective on that subject. I will be thirty in October so maybe my opinion will change when that hits.
Good luck and just don't regret the decision you make whatever you choose know its the right one
Posted by xeldaI work with all men too... so passive aggressive.Posted by MontgomeryThey wanted to counter offer, but I wouldn't let them. I just wanted to leave at the time because the new offer promised so much more. Indeed, I got everything I expected with the new job: a rare opportunity, lots of power, a great manager. I just didn't expect to be the only girl on my side of the building or be surrounded by a lack of professionalism. I'm really shocked by some of the language and behavior I've observed at the new job. I'm sure I can influence that, but it's still appalling.
"I'm contemplating going back to the old job if I can negotiate
receiving a promotion. (They didn't want me to leave, so this is
still a possibility."
Why didn't you try that before you left?
Why didn't they offer it, if they wanted to keep you?
click to expand
Why don't you try to excel where you are, if you
think you can.
To say that this will keep you from having a family
one day sounds like an excuse, and like you're
just uncomfortable with this challenge because your
expectations were not met... and it's screwing with your head.
You made the move for what are essentially self(ish)-
promoting reasons-- power and money.
Why don't you be a big girl and earn it?
Posted by Aggrippina66789Are you a cappy too?Posted by lisabethur8What some people like best about their jobs sometimes is getting paid. Some people like nothing else.Posted by FrenchKpricornwhat do you mean?Posted by lisabethur8
the deeper issue is, they need security. and love doesn't pay the bills when your children are starving, (family oriented)
but doing thing for money is boring at a moment you'll start bring crazy
you can still make money at home, if you want. part time OR full time.
but i dont know any that makes six figures.
why?
are you making money at home?click to expand
Posted by elguapolibraReally great input. Thank you.
I think you have answered your own question. Go back to where you feel the most happy. Are you fulfilled working at the old job? Does the new job have the same feeling? If you want to settle down and start a family the more stable environment will be the old job.
Question are you sure that you want to settle down and start a family or do you feel like its what you are supposed to do at this point in your life? I sometimes get the feeling that i should have children, but then I realize that I want to do more things and accomplish more and then I realize that I would be a horrible father because I just want to keep progressing and being a parent that kind of grounds you. No child deserves a parent who feels like he should have done more with his life. Just chiming in on my perspective on that subject. I will be thirty in October so maybe my opinion will change when that hits.
Good luck and just don't regret the decision you make whatever you choose know its the right one
Posted by xeldaOhhh... you were only looking for validation.Posted by elguapolibraReally great input. Thank you.
I think you have answered your own question. Go back to where you feel the most happy. Are you fulfilled working at the old job? Does the new job have the same feeling? If you want to settle down and start a family the more stable environment will be the old job.
Question are you sure that you want to settle down and start a family or do you feel like its what you are supposed to do at this point in your life? I sometimes get the feeling that i should have children, but then I realize that I want to do more things and accomplish more and then I realize that I would be a horrible father because I just want to keep progressing and being a parent that kind of grounds you. No child deserves a parent who feels like he should have done more with his life. Just chiming in on my perspective on that subject. I will be thirty in October so maybe my opinion will change when that hits.
Good luck and just don't regret the decision you make whatever you choose know its the right one
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Then yes, quit and go back to the old job you deserted
and tell them about the lesson you learned the hard way.
But ffs don't rationalize your mistake.
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I'm contemplating going back to the old job if I can negotiate receiving a promotion. (They didn't want me to leave, so this is still a possibility.) But if I do, I may be stuck in a place that is comfortable but doesn't allow me to climb up at the pace I want to.
I have always put my career first and even chosen career over personal relationships. But I'm in my 30s now and don't want my life to only revolve around my career. I want to settle down and have a family.
Fellow cappies--what are your thoughts?