Y do I over think everything !!

I'm Capricorn women and I tend to over think everything.. I get hurt quick and at times I hold grudges when I don't get my way.. Yet I'm really sensitive. But I come off as tough. But I'm really not _—

All the caps I know are like this. Some hide that sensitive side quite well.

They hold grudges for long periods of time for things that seem trivial but do eventually come back around pretending nothing happened.

I'm sure this turmoil eats you up.

Why do you think?

I hold grudges, but you've really got to do me wrong for that to happen. I will eventually get over it, but I will never forget it.

Posted by truecap
I hold grudges, but you've really got to do me wrong for that to happen. I will eventually get over it, but I will never forget it.

Do you hold grudges for little things?

If you're not satisfied with something, nothing major, do you talk it out or take a step back?

I hold grudges for little things. I think if the more sensitive Caps explained what bothered us, all the time, we'd be explaining 24/7. I know when I do talk people think my issues are so trivial, which makes me withdraw and push everyone away even more.

Funny thing is, most people are extremely sensitive. They don't hold grudges, but WILL pay you back. It takes a lot of energy to deal with people lol..

Posted by lnana04
I hold grudges for little things. I think if the more sensitive Caps explained what bothered us, all the time, we'd be explaining 24/7. I know when I do talk people think my issues are so trivial, which makes me withdraw and push everyone away even more.

Funny thing is, most people are extremely sensitive. They don't hold grudges, but WILL pay you back. It takes a lot of energy to deal with people lol..

Candid and funny 🙂

Do you let those little grudges ruin friendships?

Posted by aquapiscescusp

Posted by lnana04
I hold grudges for little things. I think if the more sensitive Caps explained what bothered us, all the time, we'd be explaining 24/7. I know when I do talk people think my issues are so trivial, which makes me withdraw and push everyone away even more.

Funny thing is, most people are extremely sensitive. They don't hold grudges, but WILL pay you back. It takes a lot of energy to deal with people lol..

Candid and funny 🙂

Do you let those little grudges ruin friendships?

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Sometimes, yes. My mind is so busy that I don't care for a lot of added stress, or care to analyze people's motives and intentions to death, which is what usually happens when I feel slighted. I'm more of the type that will come back around like nothing happened, because if I tell someone what bothers me and they do it again then I just can't deal with the person anymore. I think sometimes that's the reason some of us would rather not say anything. I find that some people can be repeat offenders especially when they know what gets to you.

Posted by Yeli04
I'm Capricorn women and I tend to over think everything.. I get hurt quick and at times I hold grudges when I don't get my way.. Yet I'm really sensitive. But I come off as tough.
But I'm really not _—

Where is your moon?

I do hold grudges for little things at time. I hate it cuz it does take a lot of time and energy out of this happy life I suppose to be living! :/ for example me dealing with this leo man I been dating is driving me crazy! I'm overthinking the whole situation! When I kno exactly what I'm suppose to be doin. Which is let him come to me and if he doesn't GOD has someone else better for me.. At the same time I'm thinkng that if me and him don't work out I will delete his # and block him from every social media I have him in. And dislike him alot! It's annoying

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Posted by truecap
I hold grudges, but you've really got to do me wrong for that to happen. I will eventually get over it, but I will never forget it.

Do you hold grudges for little things?

If you're not satisfied with something, nothing major, do you talk it out or take a step back?

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I'm quite outspoken and will address something if I have an issue. My grudges are more about disrespecting me, betraying me, cheating me, taking advantage of me, doing me wrong in some way.

The little things, nah. But I might be leery of someone over little things.

The grudge thing frustrates me.. I would really like to know why you guys do it. Simply bc it seems like the things that bother you aren't even a big deal. No offence intended as I'm really just trying to understand.. I love capis xx it's just that you guys are like elephants in some ways.. You can't remember things that I would imagine as important but will remember something that I said out of stupidity or just in passing that somehow disrespected you and I'm not even sure how!! It's like all the negative things are more important to remember than all the nice things. Can someone explain this? At times I almost feel scared to say anything bc it might be taken the wrong way and I care about them too much and hate upsetting them.

Posted by Jamjam
The grudge thing frustrates me.. I would really like to know why you guys do it. Simply bc it seems like the things that bother you aren't even a big deal. No offence intended as I'm really just trying to understand.. I love capis xx it's just that you guys are like elephants in some ways.. You can't remember things that I would imagine as important but will remember something that I said out of stupidity or just in passing that somehow disrespected you and I'm not even sure how!! It's like all the negative things are more important to remember than all the nice things. Can someone explain this? At times I almost feel scared to say anything bc it might be taken the wrong way and I care about them too much and hate upsetting them.

The thing about being a pessimist is -- you are almost always right.

Hope that explains it. LOL

Posted by Jamjam
The grudge thing frustrates me.. I would really like to know why you guys do it. Simply bc it seems like the things that bother you aren't even a big deal. No offence intended as I'm really just trying to understand.. I love capis xx it's just that you guys are like elephants in some ways.. You can't remember things that I would imagine as important but will remember something that I said out of stupidity or just in passing that somehow disrespected you and I'm not even sure how!! It's like all the negative things are more important to remember than all the nice things. Can someone explain this? At times I almost feel scared to say anything bc it might be taken the wrong way and I care about them too much and hate upsetting them.

Well, respect is very important to capricorns. It is one thing we crave the most from people, especially those that are important to us. If we feel disrespected, it will cloud over anything else.

Honesty though, we respect that. So always be honest and sincere. Be genuine. We might not like what you're saying, but we will listen and respect you for it. So, don't ever be afraid to say anything, unless you're an insensitive, vulgar ass - might keep those kind of thoughts to yourself. 🙂

Most of the time, I don't hold on to a grudge for very long. For me to hold on, you have to do something major like betray me or cheat me. Otherwise, it will be forgiven shortly.

I don't know why but that made me laugh. I do feel at times like I am insensitive as I've not been known to sugar coat things. My comments are sometimes backhanded.. Even compliments.. Unintended, of course.
Frankly though you guys scare the living hell outta me lol
I don't know if you have experienced a tongue lashing from another capi(although I bet you have given a few) but it's pretty painful and most certainly hard to argue with. I always find it best to run in the opposite direction until they have had time to cool off. On a positive note, some of the most random and hilarious convos I've had were with capis. I would love to figure out a way to cheer them up more(I know 3 of them).. When they are in a foul mood is it best to leave them be or keep trying to cheer them up? as long as you aren't the cause of their wrath, of course 🙂

Humor. Make them laugh.

You: Why are you acting like this? What's your problem?
Cap: I'm just pissed off right now.
You: I guess being pissed off is better than being pissed on.
Bwahahahaha!!

Or just act silly, put on a stupid hat and do a dance for them. Goofy, yes. (caps like goofy, even if we don't admit it)


Cap has to grin at something like that, even if it's on the inside. Happy people are contagious. Remember that. So, if you don't want to do the goofy stuff or spew out the one liners, just be happy around them. Ignore their mood, but leave them alone - just be happy. They will thaw out and soften up.

That works for me, anyway. Can't speak for the rest

Posted by Jamjam
The grudge thing frustrates me.. I would really like to know why you guys do it. Simply bc it seems like the things that bother you aren't even a big deal. No offence intended as I'm really just trying to understand.. I love capis xx it's just that you guys are like elephants in some ways.. You can't remember things that I would imagine as important but will remember something that I said out of stupidity or just in passing that somehow disrespected you and I'm not even sure how!! It's like all the negative things are more important to remember than all the nice things. Can someone explain this? At times I almost feel scared to say anything bc it might be taken the wrong way and I care about them too much and hate upsetting them.

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