Single & The Abundance Mindset

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There's always more, always better - so why settle? Yet, all the same, when does it end? Should it end?

I find a growing number of people to be adopting, or attempting to adopt this mindset. A mindset of 'abundance' - that they'll always be able to pick from the apple tree, that they'll never run out of options - but anyone of intelligence knows this is false. Your life is finite and you are only getting older, and so you have a finite amount of resources, talents and things that can be enjoyed as your body will ultimately begin a decline.

All the same, how do we make the right choice in our partner(s) and make our one chance as fulfilling as we can?

So, what's your take on The Abundance Mindset? Is it helping or hurting single people?
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I think in this way somewhat, but only because I need a connection with a person as well as sexual attraction. I am still willing to date and see if there can be a spark, because I thoroughly try to cover all my bases. But I'm quick to dismiss a guy when I know it won't go anywhere. I don't waste a guys time.

I am on the ultimate search of finding someone compatible to start a relationship with me though. I'm not trying to just serial date and never settle.

Relationships last for me once I'm in one, so I don't have problems with that, it's just the initial start of one.
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Posted by Havoc077

There's always more, always better - so why settle? Yet, all the same, when does it end? Should it end?

I find a growing number of people to be adopting, or attempting to adopt this mindset. A mindset of 'abundance' - that they'll always be able to pick from the apple tree, that they'll never run out of options - but anyone of intelligence knows this is false. Your life is finite and you are only getting older, and so you have a finite amount of resources, talents and things that can be enjoyed as your body will ultimately begin a decline.

All the same, how do we make the right choice in our partner(s) and make our one chance as fulfilling as we can?

So, what's your take on The Abundance Mindset? Is it helping or hurting single people?

It's just "the grass is greener elsewhere" mindset, renamed. "Abundance" is actually a lousy name, since the effect is anything but...It's actually quite draining on your savings, because:

1) Dating is expensive.

2) You'll have to change house more frequently, meaning that you're likely to rent and never own your place.

3) If you buy a house, you'll have to buy it separately from your temporary SO.

4) Every bill you pay, every tax you own, every repair you need...is TWICE higher than when you share it with your SO.

5) Traveling costs are adding up.

6) How much will your kids cost you?
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Posted by LadyNeptune

Problem with the abundance mindset is that if we have too many options we tend to be less satisfied when we make a choice. That is if you make a choice at all...

I think people now though when they met a single member of the opposite sex online or in rl ...they think of that person as an option. EVERY SINGLE PERSON IS AN OPTION. It just causes drama.

Whereas i don't think of many people as options.
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I disagree. While the technology has changed, human behavior has not.
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Posted by mars_in_cappy

I think that social media has changed people and the collective conscience, like people aren't as present anymore and many have their attention focused 'online', rather than engaging fully in reality. I'm not a fan of online dating and i mostly see people scampering, confused and not getting great outcomes, so i don't know why they bother. What saddens me is seeing people with their faces buried in their phones, instead of engaging.. The opportunities missed!

I feel that people are less committed these days with higher expectations (unrealistic) which are probably fuelled by the scurge of social media and that social media enables many sub-standard people to believe they are better than they are through 'likes' and whatnot.

I don't know if this is related to topic, but GIGS seems to be a bigger thing these days.


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