Ask me what you want to know about Gemini females if you are interested in one.

I am a 46 year-old Gemini woman. And I have been through a lot in life. I am here in hopes to help others in achieving their goals in understanding certain signs that I have dealt with and in Geminians themselves. There are a lot of misconceptions and I have done a ton of research and I am here to help you if you need it. I know I search for a person's sign to get a gist of what they are about. I'm pretty familiar with Scorpios, Sagittarius, Aries, Leos, other Geminis, Taurus, Aquarius, Libras, and Cancers. I haven't dealt with Capricorns or Virgos that I can think of or knowingly interacted with them and, if I did, it's because we really don't have much in common so we never really stuck around to continue. So ask away and I hope I can help.

I'm 52 so have a few more years than the OP.

Honestly, you're only 18. You are VERY young. Falling in love is an all consuming emotion. It's not something to do because you "love the feeling..." That is probably why so many people as yourself have issues with making something last.

Again, you are 18. My lord, when I was 18, I was in my second year of college, had no clue what I wanted to do with my life and rarely dated. I was too busy with other factors and commitments.

You shouldn't be spending your time finding "THE ONE"....you should be doing the things you enjoy and find fulfilling; finding who you are and knowing what make you happy. You can't find happiness in another person. Enjoy being young and use your time to explore and do things you can't when you're my age and have kids.

Dating isn't about finding the one guy for marriage at your age. It's about meeting knew people. Seeing who you connect with. Enjoying knew adventures and trying new things. You can't force someone to love you or be attracted to you. It comes when you least expect it.

Experience life and your friendships. If you're not grounded first, no guy will fix that part of you. Be secure in who you are and what you want. Do you really know at age 18 what you want from a guy? Trust me, you may think you do but you don't. With age comes wisdom. That is so true. I recall when I was 18 and thought I was pretty smart. Now, I think back to just how little I really knew.

Just because you date on occasion doesn't mean you understand relationships or love. I've had friends who have to be dating someone just to be dating someone. That's not a good reason to date. It's not fair to that person nor to you.

Go do you thing, be happy and respectful and trust me, guys will notice you. Let it happen naturally. Nothing in nature that's worth experiencing is forced. We are all basically vibrations. If you're sending out a positive frequency, the receptive guys who are on the same positive frequency will connect with you.

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I'm 52 so have a few more years than the OP.

Honestly, you're only 18. You are VERY young. Falling in love is an all consuming emotion. It's not something to do because you "love the feeling..." That is probably why so many people as yourself have issues with making something last.

Again, you are 18. My lord, when I was 18, I was in my second year of college, had no clue what I wanted to do with my life and rarely dated. I was too busy with other factors and commitments.

You shouldn't be spending your time finding "THE ONE"....you should be doing the things you enjoy and find fulfilling; finding who you are and knowing what make you happy. You can't find happiness in another person. Enjoy being young and use your time to explore and do things you can't when you're my age and have kids.

Dating isn't about finding the one guy for marriage at your age. It's about meeting knew people. Seeing who you connect with. Enjoying knew adventures and trying new things. You can't force someone to love you or be attracted to you. It comes when you least expect it.

Experience life and your friendships. If you're not grounded first, no guy will fix that part of you. Be secure in who you are and what you want. Do you really know at age 18 what you want from a guy? Trust me, you may think you do but you don't. With age comes wisdom. That is so true. I recall when I was 18 and thought I was pretty smart. Now, I think back to just how little I really knew.

Just because you date on occasion doesn't mean you understand relationships or love. I've had friends who have to be dating someone just to be dating someone. That's not a good reason to date. It's not fair to that person nor to you.

Go do you thing, be happy and respectful and trust me, guys will notice you. Let it happen naturally. Nothing in nature that's worth experiencing is forced. We are all basically vibrations. If you're sending out a positive frequency, the receptive guys who are on the same positive frequency will connect with you.

Thank you 🙂 It sounds strange but I get you. No matter what I say I probably come across as childish aha. I am but I think I'm a little lonely. My friends have boyfriends of their own. They're really happy. Everyones doing the same and here I am... Just watching them as they share memories and great experiences with their partners. I have realised I like to be alone and the only time I enjoyed a mans company was when it was unexpected and it just happened. The only time. I'm a huge flirt and I love to socialise so I do attract attention but I sometimes feel like if I like someone and they like me why not try it? But when I do I end up regretting it almost instantly. It's almost like I liked the flirty/friendship phase more... I started to talk to a guy I had talked to before and I found it incredible boring. Obviously he felt the same because we've not spoken since. I find I have crushes on a lot of guy but they never last. Sometimes I feel like I'm going through the motions... It sounds stupid but I feel a lot of pressure from my friends too. granted I probably give them reason because I'll say "I wish I had a boyfriend" but what I mean is I wish I had someone to talk to all day long. Someone like the guy before.... Ah it all sounds so very childish aha. I find life lonely soemtimes is all. But I don't just want anyone. And I know this but my friends say I'm to picky and I'm un feeling . I "pick faults". I never give them a chance.... So I think that's why I asked. I wanted to know if they were right. If I am just very picky and if most people just go along with things or if I had it right in the first place... To just wait because eventually someone will sweep me off my feet like the last time... surely. Ahaha again that sounded so incredibly childlike I'm sorry 😄 . I think I've though "if I don't give anyone a chance how can they even sweep me off my feet?" I don't even know how it happened the last time. We just started talking and it happened from there. I was more reserved with him and didn't flirt as much as I usually do.. In fact I was completely un like my self. Very shy and a little timid. I did get more flirty but only because he did.... Okay.... I think I'll just wait. I think maybe I'm right.... Grrrr Romance never bothered me before it's slightly annoying now....

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glad you understood where i was coming from.

here's some perspective about all your friends having BF's and you don't, and your desire to have what they have....

In HS, I was involved in sports all year long and worked hard on my grades so i could land a scholarship for college. I had numerous "guy" friends because I was into sports and most the guys who lived in my neighborhood became friends. So I really wasn't bothered that I didn't have a BF in HS. I had two dates during my HS years. Nothing came from it.

A good percentage of my friends (girls) in HS who were in sports with me or not, had BF's off and on. And some were obsessed with having a BF just for the sake of having one.

I married at age 32 and found my soul mate. We will be married now for 19 years this July 17.

About 2/3rd of my friends (girls) in HS who always had BF's and were obsessed with it are either divorced or not happy in their marriages.

Sometimes waiting and being patient isn't a bad thing. Sometimes not having something is good. It also gives you time to get to know yourself, what you like and who you want to become.

The reality is boys in HS want to date for basically one thing only: SEX

They have sex on the brain from an overabundance of testosterone during those years. They are not in it for serious commitment. So why should you settle for less?

Trust me, a good man will be attracted to a woman who knows who she is and is confident more than just good looks.

Couple of thoughts...

dating and commitment are two different things.

i think you are truly in love with the thought of being in love. this happens to many young ladies who really are experiencing infatuation, not true love.

just get this thought through your head now....guys your age are NOT going to commit to you no matter what you do, say or look like. It's not in their DNA. and this isn't the 1800's when people died in their 40's, so they married early.

Guys are wired to go after what they visually see attractive.....then the emotional connection kicks in.

When they are young as your age, the emotional connection rarely has any real impact; it's always physical. yes, they may say they love you, but nah, they don't love either. They are infatuated with your looks or how you make them feel. But real love, nope. real love endures and isn't built upon just attraction. it's much deeper, more guttural than that.

Your friends who always seem happy with their BF's etc. are showing you what they want you to see. Trust me, no relationship is perfect. Grown men and women can't get along 24/7, so do you truly believe your peers can?

There is nothing wrong with being picky. So was I. Thus, I waited till I was 32 to marry. I always told myself I'd rather not marry at all than be in a life long marriage that made me unhappy/angry/regretted.

You are mopey because you sense that others have something you can't have. But that's simply perception.

And again, just because someone has something doesn't mean it's great. People will show you what they want YOU to see. Hollywood is the perfect example. Those are some of the most screwed up, elitist, self absorbed people on the planet. But in the spot light, they work hard to project confidence and perfection.

it's all show.

The guy you were seeing for over a year left because of one thing: he's wired to leave. Have you ever heard of the "Rubberband Effect?" Watch a video on youtube sometime. You will understand.

You see when couples get close, there is a bonding hormone released called Oxytocin. In women, oxytocin makes us want to get closer and bond on every level including physical, emotionally and mental. In men, oxytocin DECREASES men's testosterone. This in effect makes a man feel vulnerable. So he has to back off (go into his man cave) to regenerate his testosterone levels. This same cycle continues through his life.

The difference is as he matures, he understands how to deal with this more and eventually pushes away his fear of commitment. This is when infatuation, deep feelings and emotional connection all become true love.

So you see, you don't have to worry about not having what your friends have. The reality is, they really don't have anything other than someone to hang out with. I'm not saying that can't develop into a life long relationship. It can. But if your peers are the same age as you, it's highly doubtful.

As I've said, you can't force someone to be attracted to you or like you. It develops naturally. Live your life and do your thing. Be happy and be compassionate. That will attract some guy who finds you an interesting catch and who knows what may come from that.

RE: my husband's sun sign, he's a Scorpio.

I was dating since 13 and never ever I have dated anybody I wasn't absolutely head over heels!

And yes there were guys who I didn't love immediately but fell for later so we became a couple.

No, dating just because is definitely not a Gemini thing. Unless there some with certain placements.