can hou help?

Hello there,

I am a Pisces with a problem! I hope someone can help.
I have just read this description of
Pisces:

Pisces, when active in the chart, is loving, caring, communicative, easily influenced,
easygoing, dreamy, pleasant, comforting, philosophical,
idealistic, creative, volunteering, contemplative, spiritual, reverent,
empathic, devoted, unpretentious, visionary, romantic, versatile,
musical, open-minded, gentle, polite, charming, gracious, lucky,
enthusiastic, prosperous, tactful, healing, trustworthy, psychic,
and tolerant.


Unfavorable Pisces can be manipulative, passive-aggressive,
timid, helpless, degenerate, psychotic, ungrounded,
have poor concentration and follow-through, procrastinating,
bad with money, lacking in goals, undefended emotionally, lazy,
indulgent, gullible, tearful, impulsive, unreliable, airheaded,
unsettled, indecisive, confused, superficial, melancholic,
inconsistent, addictive, overzealous, a loner, uncommunicative,
bad with details, and misplaces trust.

Unfortunately, at the moment, the 'unfavorable Pisces' description
applies to me.
I was at one stage have of the 'favorable' description. In fact
I know I was. The biggest thing I had, was the Piscean hope and foresight.
I was optimistic about what I wanted to do and what came natural to me.
But being a Pisces ( although I never realised it at the time, and that it
would bring me to this point) I lacked the practical skills to put
my dreams in motion.

I was naturally very quick and bright,and funny - with lots of ideas
bouncing around. Musical, entertaining etc etc.

A few months ago I moved back in with my parents - and as
they are quite straight, cynical 'down-to-earth' insensitive ( I don't mean that
disparagingly they are just like that) people who don't go in for anything
ethereal or flimsy, like the arts- I have found myself being so influenced by their attitudes,and
getting more and more discouraged and sinking deeper and deeper, that I am ending
up once again doing things and jobs just to please them at the end of the day
that I feel I am my losing my own identity. Not only am I doing things to please
them, but I am BEING ways to please them. Naturally when I am around people that respond
favorabley to me, I am quite high-spirited and funny and all the good things about Pisces.
When I arrived here, I was like that to a degree, but they disparaged of it more and more.
It is only my nature, and how I deal with things, by using humour. I mean I can get
things done better if there is humour about it. But I wasn;t being 'serious; enough
for them, and more and more I felt worse and worse.
When I came back to live here I thought they would help, but they don't want to
help, because they don't believe in the things I do, and are not so open-minded.

All I want to do is go to drama school. But they have trampled all over my
dreams and feelings long enough already, that I don't want them to do it to
my one true dream. But I am finding it harder and harder to help myself. So I am at
the stage where there is NO WAY I can reveal my true dream, becaus they will onl
be extremely cynical and disparaging of it and I couldn;t take that.

I am slipping in to unfavorable mode more and more each day due to
these difficulties.

Not to blame them or anything - but I didnt realise it would affect me so
much, otherwise I would have avoided coming here.

I need to ask anyone out there, who might have a little expertise in
Astrology ( or psychiatry!)- will I be stuck in this mode forever??
I am doomed to be the Pisces victim, failure?? What can I do to help myself?

In astrology terms my father is a Leo, my mother a Capricorn. My
father is so typical Le

Ellie...

if you're a pisces, then it goes without saying that you have more than just one problem.

Even if I did bother to read through your laborious post, do you think I'd waste more brain time on trying to work out a solution for your problems? I'm far too busy thinking about myself - god i'm fabulous!

If you have trouble helping yourself, then maybe you should find a nice forest somewhere, crawl into a log and die. Maybe, if you're lucky, you'll be born again as a gemini 🤢gt;

Ouch....😢

Whoa, Cortica was that a Pisces that had been calling your cell. phone endlessly?

Cortica the one thing that unites all human beings, regardless of age, gender, religion, economic status or ethnic background, is that, deep down inside, we all believe that we alone are above average.

Cortica's evil.

Where is that Deportation Commander when you need him?

she is just having a bad day. I have been in the general area of a woman who is having a bad month for some time now so lets give them a break. If they do not get it together I will go 50/50 on a hitman with someone.

A very compassionate Commander you are 🙂

ok, ok, it was maybe a tad harsh!

Seriously though, someone who sits there whining about their life in a 'let's celebrate my victim status' kind of way, deserves a slap in the face...... like that panicky woman on The Poseidon Adventure......

Yep - I thought that you Geminis could certainly inject some cold harsh feeling into the situation, and that you certainly did! It takes a brave person to be cruel and harsh, either that or you are very very very very insecure.
To be honest about your feelings is a strength, to be so full of yourself,that you can claim to have none at all?? That is a bit pathetic I have to say. i mean are you human, or a robot? But it sure has taken my mind off my problems! Thanks! Really, if only I had more people in my life that I could laugh at, and take my mind off things!!
You are wrong though James, the one thing that unites us and is universal amongst all human beings, is feeling. You Geminis think you are so clever and more intellignet than anyone else! Socrates, the wisest man in the world said, " Wisest is he who knows he knows nothing". Boy, you have a lot to learn. A LOT!! And why is William Shakespeare so popular?? Because he writes about pure human emotion , that is universal to EVERYONE. Maybe you just like reading the funny words what he wrote eh?!
If you learn all of that, you might also learn compassion and sincerity to your fellow man. After all, THAT is what keeps us together.

take care!

First off that was only one Gemini that critized you. And why would you post this on the Gemini board if you knew it was coming??

And Socrates also thought that the only reason people committed crime was because they didn't know it was a crime, so I wouldn't exactly call him the wisest man in the world.

Support!!! I think we all need a little of it now and again. One should not be harsh.

Ah... one can always count on Morgan for self-righteous interjection... (or, hang on, was that my job 🤢gt; )

Yes Ellie, of course I'm more 'intellignet' than you are. I hope you can believe that I really am being sincere when I point that out.

I don't, however, believe that I know everything there is to know and hell, I'm the first to point out that I'm nowhere near perfect. ROFL - so very far away in fact!

I just can't stand it when someone tries to blame all the misfortunes of their life on the people around them. Take a bit of responsibility for the role you play in determining what happens in your life. Nobody's going to hand you your 'dreams' on a platter - everyone has to work hard to acheive things.

Oh, and I certainly have compassion, just not for whiney little fcukwits who aren't prepared to help themselves.

cortoca she is a rock she is woman.

corticas right, i think she's just trying to teach in her own way

james?? 😢

In this case I strongly disagree. Cortica have you no inner sense of when someone is experiencing emotional frailty? Do you not care that the acidity of your words could make them feel even worse? Or is that the goal, to make them feel as badly as possible? What is the necessity of responding to a post for help in that way? How are you helping?

I'm new here so feel somewhat of an oddball injecting my two cents in the pot, but being Gemini, I can't help myself.

Somewhere down the road, there surely must been some Cancerian relative that snuck into my family lineage that I've not been told about because I have a rare gene that makes me extremely sensitive & compassionate to other people's feelings & problems.

Ellie, you really need to find a self-help class or some good books until you can convince yourself to stop saying "I can't take it anymore" and start saying, "I WON'T take it anymore."

No matter what astrological sign you are, the outcome of your life is pretty much left up to you. Being so dependent on the approval of others is not healthy for either party. Your parents have lived their lives & made their choices. It's time to cut the cord and stand on your own two feet. You should have the freedom & privilege to make your own decisions about your own life, learn from your own mistakes as well as celebrate your own achievements.

The saying goes, "when the student is ready, the teacher will appear."

That's been true in my own life.

I was in an abusive situation where I was beaten more times than I care to count. My injuries were so extensive that I was told I was brain dead and and had only a few days to live. Well, guess what...Here I am (...although the ?brain dead? statement may still be in question...) Then my family was told I'd never walk again. Fooled 'em all again. I am not only walking, but swimming, motorcycling, hiking & riding horses. (not because I'm athletic, because I'm not. I just want the chance to experience all I can cram into my life...)

In spite of the s.o.b.'s threats that I would NEVER leave him, I'm out of the abusive situation and speak often at conferences around the country encouraging other victims to believe that they can not only survive, but get out of their hellish nightmare and enjoy a future without having to endure needless pain & suffering as a way of life.

I was told because of a lack of finances, I might as well forget about college. Guess what? I put myself through college and have a short time left before I receive a masters degree in Psychology.

I've been through a lot of *hit since I've been on this planet. Yes there are a lot of hard-hearted, uncaring people who are only out for #1. On the other hand, there are also people who are kind, giving, & more than willing to help you get to where you want to go in life. I do know that both categories have taught me valuable life lessons that have helped me to become a strong, invincible individual and a useful member of society. If you knew my life story, you would understand how amazing that statement is.

To borrow James words, regardless of age, gender, religion, economic status or ethnic background, you CAN reach your goals and YOU CAN make yourself useful in helping others to achieve theirs simply by sharing the experiences you went through in order to turn your dreams into a reality.

Easy? It's not. It takes guts, determination,a jack-ass stubborn, never-say-die attitude and some plain old fashioned hard work. You have to keep on keepin' on when others tell you that you can't. I CAN'T and I WILL are two of the most powerful statements you can ever make. For both are true, depending on which you believe.

Life is too short to major on the negatives. Live every day as though it will be your last. Embrace life. Enjoy people. To me, we earth inhabitants are a hoot!! Simply fascinating & entertaining creatures! Every single one of us has the potential of a good or dark side. Which one we expose is a simple matter of choice. I strongly believe we've all been given individualized gifts to make the world a better and more interesting place. Be one of them Ellie. Be a participator of life, not a spectator.

I've spent several days reading posts on this board. I am a

Perhaps morgan is right perhaps cortica is the evil anti christ.

L.L~

What a very inspiring story. L.L. You are one very strong, brave and courageous woman. Your words gave me goosebumps, so touching and heartfelt....and. I so admire your strength and determination. Anything is possible if we believe it to be. Like you, I too have been through many "experiences" that life has granted me. I think what feels the best to me is the feeling of making it through those experiences and becoming wiser and stronger for it. A strong self of empowerment. I have never been in an abusive relationship so I am unable to identify with that...I can only imagine how horrific it was and I am sorry that you had to go through that. I am so glad that you are still here with us to love, share. and inspire life.

L.L. what state are you in?

Thanks for sharing your life with us and Welcome Abord....Captain JT will greet you soon if he hasn't already. Enjoy the ride...🙂

Freebird

Call in the Commander!

I wonder what the world would be like if we all acted like we had sticks shoved up our asses.

Perhaps we would be in corticas world. I wonder if she knows txchix?

Hi Freebird, (What a delightful name!)

If anything I said helped one single person, it was worth the time spent in writing that lengthy novel. If nothing else, perhaps it assisted some of the insomniacs on the board to get a blissful night's sleep for a change, LOL!

Truly, thank you my friend for your kind words and for making me feel welcome.

In all honesty, I'm not sure if I can accept the compliment of being strong, brave & courageous, as most of my family & friends would tell you that my continued existence was due to my do-or-die, pig-headed stubbornness. (My sister says I'm alive only because heaven didn't want me and hell was afraid I'd take over!) Whatever the reason, I'm thankful to be here, as there's so much left I want to accomplish.

Yes, I agree that the most difficult experiences either make you bitter or better. Odd but true, it seems that hard times motivates a person in ways that good times never could. Why do you think that is? (My mom explains problems as ?the fertilizer of life? that makes us grow. lol!) Perhaps it's because it pushes us out of our self imposed complacency and develops maturity in order to make us more useful in the world. I do know that it forced me to use mental strategies & survival skills that I never knew I had.

Seriously, I wasn't born to be a fighter. Through uninvited conditions that I would never have chosen as a personal trainer, life developed this characteristic in me, as I refuse to be bullied or controlled by circumstances.

I have never allowed myself to believe anything other than the good guy wins. Even if it isn't so, it should be. Maybe I've watched one too many fictional ?all's well that ends well movies— I just know that as long as there is breath left in me, I will never give up or give in just because someone tells me something is impossible. It's my opinion that a strong belief system is necessary in order to bring about any worthwhile goal.

You used three of my favorite words, Freebird: Wisdom, strength & self-empowerment. Three ingredients that are so vital in order to rise above the ordinary to become extraordinary. I don't know your age, but you sound as though you are a well-grounded & very wise person who is well on the way to an adventurous, happy & successful future. Good for you!

Peace, my friend.

L.L.

PS. I'm from California