Moonbutter
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Can I get my Gemini back??
If you still love him after 6 months apart then it's probably worth it to try again. I mean, i would. But i guess it depends what the issues were. Little stuff like him being lazy and not picking up after himself? Or bigger things?
Posted by LustThank you Lust! I know I can't change him and I don't want to but how can I get what I want as well? How do I go about making sure my needs are met without relying on him to change? I just want for us to go out sometimes, have a plan but he likes staying at home and bbq, smoking, drinking, music, etc...which is fine most times but I with my Sag Moon NEED to explore and I would like him to join me. How can I get him to understand that without him thinking I'm trying to be selfish/and it's all about what I want?
"but I want to address the silly issues we were having, such as his not willing to compromise/stubborness which brought out my cookiemonstery/nag"
That's your biggest issue right there. You cannot possibly change him. Why do you want to address that? Okay for instance; you know that I'm a libra. I, myself cannot understand the issues that cancer have. I guess I understand, but refuse to bend over to please cancers. The reason why that is, that makes me uncomfortable and impatient talking about issues & emotional stuff. My cousin is cancer & so is 2 of my friends. I like going out with them, but when they start talking about issues I give up. Pisces guy would match your personality. He will understand your emotional needs. Have you hought about going out with Pisces maybe?
Gemini is light hearted, playfull, & forgive easily. That's cool & likeable personality. But they are the worst people to deal with any complain or issues. They have 0 patience if you don't have the skill on how to present it. And this will make you more & more frustrated. So you cannot change him, but can you change yourself for him? Disclaimer: btw, this is a rhetoric question.
Posted by TokerXYes TokerX I get that, but how does one have a successful relationship with a Gem without emotional/serious talk at some points? I mean I just would like to have a mature discussion on both our needs being met. Is that too much to ask for? If he gave in a lil he would see my sweeter side and I'm sure that would work visa versa. But no he wants to be stubborn and call me selfish for wanting what I need for my soul. How can I get him to understand I only ask for a lil compromise without me seeming like I'm being demanding/selfish? If he told me "hey, this is what I need to feel loved or important to me in a relationship" I would make the effort.
You cannot expect communication from a Gemini. (Well, I suppose you're talking about emotional matters) Gemini will avoid that at all costs.
They real question here is how much do you love him? How much does he love you? Do the 2 of you love each other strongly enough to be able to overcome these issues?
How do you get him back? Did he ever leave? It's doesn't seem that way to me.
Posted by MoonbutterOOOPS! I forgot to add our Venus:
Hi Gems,
I am in need of your council(and anyone else who would like to chime in). I have been dating my Gem off and on for 4 years...he is challenging and stubborn! which is why I kept breaking up, but only to get back after a few weeks or a month. We just can't seem to let go of each other! Anyway this time we have been broken up the longest (6 months) and I miss him a lot I want to be with him again but I want to address the silly issues we were having, such as his not willing to compromise/stubborness which brought out my bitchy/nagging side. Aside from everything else chemistry was awesome, mental connection was on point...communication needs work but we are both loyal and get along with each others families. We discussed marriage, kids..but all talk so far :/ Anyhow..he randomly texts me silly things and I text him "thinking of you" and his reply was "thanks🙂 I think of you all the time." What do you guys think? Does he still want to be with me? Do you think we are compatible? Here are our charts: Thanks ya'll!!
Mine:
Asc_Aries
Sun-Cancer
Mars-Gemini
Moon-Sag
Merc-Cancer
His:
Asc-Taurus
Sun-Gemini
Mars-Scorpio
Moon-Aqua
Merc-Gemini
Mine-Leo
His-Gemini
Posted by moongemThanks moongem, that was very insightful response 🙂 I have been looking inward and I know I have improvements to make. I have a lot of fire and pride which can get me into trouble sometimes. I try to be more patient, less demanding and also more humble. I do have a lot of broken/left off relationships with people(mostly women) but a lot also was due to jealousy. I just wanted things to work out between us ;(
Moonbutter, I know this might sound common, but try to work on yourself. Not the usual 'okay, I am going out and learn new things' stuff, but see into yourself, see what is inside, clear your thoughts, what you want and what you wish. Imagine you are all alone.
Love don't disappoint. Expectations do. Improve your cooperation skills.
Don't try to control his feelings saying 'Hey, I wanna talk to you about serious things'. hahaha... no. Those things will come effortlessly. Also, don't look at him all the time, I mean, no contact can be active and passive. Feelings based on negative things would be fallen. Ask questions to yourself. What do I have to improve? How do you express your feelings? Are they too soon, too late, not enough, good enough?? etc.
So first, look inward, then (after you finish this with yourself) look outside. Maybe, onto him. But not necessarily. Look at your interactions with other people, family members around you. Do you have broken/left relationships? etc. Don't you want to fix them? etc.
Breathe.
Posted by tizianiFor him or me?
Sun trine Mars, hard to give up 🙂
Posted by TokerXYou are right Aurora, and that is mostly whta I did, however when I see couples enjoying adventures together I can't help but wish my man was with me. I mean isn't that what helps keep the newness of relationships? experiencing new things together? Once in awhile is all I ask...and for a GemPosted by MoonbutterWell, you don't force it... Water signs tend to be very in your face with their emotions and certainly when they except you to talk about yours... It feels like a big test. Gemini does not know how it feels, even if it did it wouldn't know the words to express it and even if it had the words it would be too afraid to say'm.Posted by TokerXYes TokerX I get that, but how does one have a successful relationship with a Gem without emotional/serious talk at some points? I mean I just would like to have a mature discussion on both our needs being met. Is that too much to ask for? If he gave in a lil he would see my sweeter side and I'm sure that would work visa versa. But no he wants to be stubborn and call me selfish for wanting what I need for my soul. How can I get him to understand I only ask for a lil compromise without me seeming like I'm being demanding/selfish? If he told me "hey, this is what I need to feel loved or important to me in a relationship" I would make the effort.
You cannot expect communication from a Gemini. (Well, I suppose you're talking about emotional matters) Gemini will avoid that at all costs.
They real question here is how much do you love him? How much does he love you? Do the 2 of you love each other strongly enough to be able to overcome these issues?
How do you get him back? Did he ever leave? It's doesn't seem that way to me.
Like my brain would work so hard that all I can manage is a stare...
Just ask him a question and don't expect an answer right away (certainly don't stare at him while waiting for an answer, never make him feel like he's being judged). It might take a few days even for him to come up with the answer (if he hasn't forgotten the question by then). He will tell you in his own time and in his own way (which will probably be very disappointing to you).click to expand
Posted by MoonbutterPosted by TokerXYou are right Aurora, and that is mostly whta I did, however when I see couples enjoying adventures together I can't help but wish my man was with me. I mean isn't that what helps keePosted by MoonbutterWell, you don't force it... Water signs tend to be very in your face with their emotions and certainly when they except you to talk about yours... It feels like a big test. Gemini does not know how it feels, even if it did it wouldn't know the words to express it and even if it had the words it would be too afraid to say'm.Posted by TokerXYes TokerX I get that, but how does one have a successful relationship with a Gem without emotional/serious talk at some points? I mean I just would like to have a mature discussion on both our needs being met. Is that too much to ask for? If he gave in a lil he would see my sweeter side and I'm sure that would work visa versa. But no he wants to be stubborn and call me selfish for wanting what I need for my soul. How can I get him to understand I only ask for a lil compromise without me seeming like I'm being demanding/selfish? If he told me "hey, this is what I need to feel loved or important to me in a relationship" I would make the effort.
You cannot expect communication from a Gemini. (Well, I suppose you're talking about emotional matters) Gemini will avoid that at all costs.
They real question here is how much do you love him? How much does he love you? Do the 2 of you love each other strongly enough to be able to overcome these issues?
How do you get him back? Did he ever leave? It's doesn't seem that way to me.
Like my brain would work so hard that all I can manage is a stare...
Just ask him a question and don't expect an answer right away (certainly don't stare at him while waiting for an answer, never make him feel like he's being judged). It might take a few days even for him to come up with the answer (if he hasn't forgotten the question by then). He will tell you in his own time and in his own way (which will probably be very disappointing to you).click to expand
Posted by MoonbutterYes he wants to be with you otherwise he wouldn't have taken it this far. Stop nagging. We hate that.
Hi Gems,
I am in need of your council(and anyone else who would like to chime in). I have been dating my Gem off and on for 4 years...he is challenging and stubborn! which is why I kept breaking up, but only to get back after a few weeks or a month. We just can't seem to let go of each other! Anyway this time we have been broken up the longest (6 months) and I miss him a lot I want to be with him again but I want to address the silly issues we were having, such as his not willing to compromise/stubborness which brought out my bitchy/nagging side. Aside from everything else chemistry was awesome, mental connection was on point...communication needs work but we are both loyal and get along with each others families. We discussed marriage, kids..but all talk so far :/ Anyhow..he randomly texts me silly things and I text him "thinking of you" and his reply was "thanks🙂 I think of you all the time." What do you guys think? Does he still want to be with me? Do you think we are compatible? Here are our charts: Thanks ya'll!!
Mine:
Asc_Aries
Sun-Cancer
Mars-Gemini
Moon-Sag
Merc-Cancer
His:
Asc-Taurus
Sun-Gemini
Mars-Scorpio
Moon-Aqua
Merc-Gemini
Posted by MoonbutterYes he wants to be with you otherwise he wouldn't have taken it this far. Stop nagging. We hate that.
Hi Gems,
I am in need of your council(and anyone else who would like to chime in). I have been dating my Gem off and on for 4 years...he is challenging and stubborn! which is why I kept breaking up, but only to get back after a few weeks or a month. We just can't seem to let go of each other! Anyway this time we have been broken up the longest (6 months) and I miss him a lot I want to be with him again but I want to address the silly issues we were having, such as his not willing to compromise/stubborness which brought out my bitchy/nagging side. Aside from everything else chemistry was awesome, mental connection was on point...communication needs work but we are both loyal and get along with each others families. We discussed marriage, kids..but all talk so far :/ Anyhow..he randomly texts me silly things and I text him "thinking of you" and his reply was "thanks🙂 I think of you all the time." What do you guys think? Does he still want to be with me? Do you think we are compatible? Here are our charts: Thanks ya'll!!
Mine:
Asc_Aries
Sun-Cancer
Mars-Gemini
Moon-Sag
Merc-Cancer
His:
Asc-Taurus
Sun-Gemini
Mars-Scorpio
Moon-Aqua
Merc-Gemini
Posted by gemguyaz34Thanks gemguy 🙂 When you say this far, you mean telling me he thinks of me all the time? So you are saying even though we are broken up now he still wants to be with me? Just trying to clarify 😄Posted by MoonbutterYes he wants to be with you otherwise he wouldn't have taken it this far. Stop nagging. We hate that.
Hi Gems,
I am in need of your council(and anyone else who would like to chime in). I have been dating my Gem off and on for 4 years...he is challenging and stubborn! which is why I kept breaking up, but only to get back after a few weeks or a month. We just can't seem to let go of each other! Anyway this time we have been broken up the longest (6 months) and I miss him a lot I want to be with him again but I want to address the silly issues we were having, such as his not willing to compromise/stubborness which brought out my bitchy/nagging side. Aside from everything else chemistry was awesome, mental connection was on point...communication needs work but we are both loyal and get along with each others families. We discussed marriage, kids..but all talk so far :/ Anyhow..he randomly texts me silly things and I text him "thinking of you" and his reply was "thanks🙂 I think of you all the time." What do you guys think? Does he still want to be with me? Do you think we are compatible? Here are our charts: Thanks ya'll!!
Mine:
Asc_Aries
Sun-Cancer
Mars-Gemini
Moon-Sag
Merc-Cancer
His:
Asc-Taurus
Sun-Gemini
Mars-Scorpio
Moon-Aqua
Merc-Geminiclick to expand
Likely yes depending on how you are willing to handle yourself.
Posted by gemguyaz34Yes, I realize the gem "game" is a cerebral one which I like and keeps me interested, but one wrong move can really set you back..lol. I'm letting him do more of the pursuing right now and I'm just chiln 😉 But I was wondering with Gems...If they have feelings for you should you take things to a more "intimate" level or wait until they confirm they are in a relationship with you, or does "sealing the deal" kinda seal the deal in their mind anyways? Basically, do Gems need that physical affection/sex to confirm they're feelings for someone?
Likely yes depending on how you are willing to handle yourself.
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Mine:
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Mars-Gemini
Moon-Sag
Merc-Cancer
His:
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Sun-Gemini
Mars-Scorpio
Moon-Aqua
Merc-Gemini