leeberated
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Gemini-Libra standoff, do I give in?
Not as stupid as you might think. A Gemini does not like to feel ignored or put on the back burner in the interests and communication department. If you keep doing this to him over and over again, he can't take you seriously. It is one thing to be busy but when you are truly interested in someone to make them constantly wait for you is stupid. It gets really old and I am speaking from experience. The thing with you Libra's is that we know you mean well, but at times you can come across as selfish and cold and depending on how you are, we tend to let a lot of it go because we know you don't like confrontation. But this is where problems begin because by avoiding the negative, it can build resentment. Gemini and Libra are good with each other for the most part, so it should never get to that point -no reason for it. You may not like to call, but friendships and relationships are about sacrifice. He expects the same that he gives to you. If you don't give it he will mirror your actions and the thing is, it's usually over dumb shit that could and should be easily avoided. Chances are by now you have had time to weigh the outcome, balance the scales -so to speak. Yes, I think you should call him. He tried to reach you and though you texted him, remember that a text is not personable -it's not the same thing. Why? Because people are selective in general about answering them. He may see that as a slap in the face that he isn't good enough for you. Some gems may not mind, but others will ALOT.
I totally agree with gemguy
You should call him and if he doesn't answer leave a voice message so he can at least here your voice and if he's really pissed about being texted at least he'll see you're trying.
Later on you two should discuss this issue about communication ask him what he expects from you then tell him what you are willing to do and not.. You two should both meet halfway so that you make the effort to talk sometimes and he won't get upset the times you don't.
You should call him and if he doesn't answer leave a voice message so he can at least here your voice and if he's really pissed about being texted at least he'll see you're trying.
Later on you two should discuss this issue about communication ask him what he expects from you then tell him what you are willing to do and not.. You two should both meet halfway so that you make the effort to talk sometimes and he won't get upset the times you don't.
Posted by HarleyTwinFlameExactly and when I was with my Libra I had to do this a few times. They don't always pick up on it right away but when Gemini is upset they begin to wonder why things are off. I remember an instance (before I was even into astrology) where I was mirroring the Libra's actions (or lack thereof) and when they asked me what was wrong I simply said "I'm treating you no differently than your treating me." It can not be a push me-pull you, my little toy red truck situation. Both have to give equally and feel complimented by one another.
I totally agree with gemguy
You should call him and if he doesn't answer leave a voice message so he can at least here your voice and if he's really pissed about being texted at least he'll see you're trying.
Later on you two should discuss this issue about communication ask him what he expects from you then tell him what you are willing to do and not.. You two should both meet halfway so that you make the effort to talk sometimes and he won't get upset the times you don't.
Posted by gemguyaz34Ouch! Yeah, I needed that. Thanks! I do care about him so I'll just set down the pride and give him a ring. I'm not too good at sacrificing for people but will give it a try. I usually sacrifice more if I'm in a relationship with the person. I guess what took me aback is that him and I aren't dating, so I felt like he was expecting things like we were. Do Gemini's test people? Like a test run to see if I can compromise or something?
Not as stupid as you might think. A Gemini does not like to feel ignored or put on the back burner in the interests and communication department. If you keep doing this to him over and over again, he can't take you seriously. It is one thing to be busy but when you are truly interested in someone to make them constantly wait for you is stupid. It gets really old and I am speaking from experience. The thing with you Libra's is that we know you mean well, but at times you can come across as selfish and cold and depending on how you are, we tend to let a lot of it go because we know you don't like confrontation. But this is where problems begin because by avoiding the negative, it can build resentment. Gemini and Libra are good with each other for the most part, so it should never get to that point -no reason for it. You may not like to call, but friendships and relationships are about sacrifice. He expects the same that he gives to you. If you don't give it he will mirror your actions and the thing is, it's usually over dumb shit that could and should be easily avoided. Chances are by now you have had time to weigh the outcome, balance the scales -so to speak. Yes, I think you should call him. He tried to reach you and though you texted him, remember that a text is not personable -it's not the same thing. Why? Because people are selective in general about answering them. He may see that as a slap in the face that he isn't good enough for you. Some gems may not mind, but others will ALOT.
Posted by HarleyTwinFlameThanks for the response. The only part I'm not totally sold on is that I feel like us females sometimes fall in the trap of compromising for a guy who hasn't even made a commitment to us. Him and I aren't in a relationship. But I will make this effort as I feel like if we can get through this hiccup, it will be smooth sailing from then on.
I totally agree with gemguy
You should call him and if he doesn't answer leave a voice message so he can at least here your voice and if he's really pissed about being texted at least he'll see you're trying.
Later on you two should discuss this issue about communication ask him what he expects from you then tell him what you are willing to do and not.. You two should both meet halfway so that you make the effort to talk sometimes and he won't get upset the times you don't.
Posted by leeberatedAre you trying to work your way to a commitment? It sounds like he is.. If that is your end goal, it's good to start good healthy communication. 🙂Posted by HarleyTwinFlameThanks for the response. The only part I'm not totally sold on is that I feel like us females sometimes fall in the trap of compromising for a guy who hasn't even made a commitment to us. Him and I aren't in a relationship. But I will make this effort as I feel like if we can get through this hiccup, it will be smooth sailing from then on.
I totally agree with gemguy
You should call him and if he doesn't answer leave a voice message so he can at least here your voice and if he's really pissed about being texted at least he'll see you're trying.
Later on you two should discuss this issue about communication ask him what he expects from you then tell him what you are willing to do and not.. You two should both meet halfway so that you make the effort to talk sometimes and he won't get upset the times you don't.click to expand
With me, if someone just lets me know what's going on and I can hear their voice and say hello, that usually is all I need. If I were to date, I couldn't see the person very often but I sure would LOVE to hear their voice and about their day, their laughter, just so I can feel their essence even for that short period of time. I love speaking with all the people close to me, I really hate texting anyone that I'm close with.
Leeberated, what are your placements? I'm close friends with two Libra females, one LOVES to talk on the phone, the other one only if she needs someone to vent to, otherwise she tries to have relationships via text.
Posted by WateryGemYeah, I would be open to a commitment with him. Actually a year ago, we were getting close to that and both expressed that we wanted to explore more with each other and date if all went well. The next step was to start hanging out etc. I'm the one that put a halt on it 'cause my life was extremely in shambles. Since then I've had crushes on other people but nothing serious. Now I'm trying to rekindle things even though I'm not completely where I wanna be, but I don't want to keep him hanging.Posted by leeberatedAre you trying to work your way to a commitment? It sounds like he is.. If that is your end goal, it's good to start good healthy communication. 🙂Posted by HarleyTwinFlameThanks for the response. The only part I'm not totally sold on is that I feel like us females sometimes fall in the trap of compromising for a guy who hasn't even made a commitment to us. Him and I aren't in a relationship. But I will make this effort as I feel like if we can get through this hiccup, it will be smooth sailing from then on.
I totally agree with gemguy
You should call him and if he doesn't answer leave a voice message so he can at least here your voice and if he's really pissed about being texted at least he'll see you're trying.
Later on you two should discuss this issue about communication ask him what he expects from you then tell him what you are willing to do and not.. You two should both meet halfway so that you make the effort to talk sometimes and he won't get upset the times you don't.
With me, if someone just lets me know what's going on and I can hear their voice and say hello, that usually is all I need. If I were to date, I couldn't see the person very often but I sure would LOVE to hear their voice and about their day, their laughter, just so I can feel their essence even for that short period of time. I love speaking with all the people close to me, I really hate texting anyone that I'm close with.
Leeberated, what are your placements? I'm close friends with two Libra females, one LOVES to talk on the phone, the other one only if she needs someone to vent to, otherwise she tries to have relationships via text.click to expand
Yes, I used to love talking on the phone. There's only like 2 people I actually enjoy it with, and it lasts for hours. I've cut back on even that though 'cause I always feel bad that I'm getting behind on work. Maybe Sundays can be my phone talking day...
Not sure how to read my chart, I just know the sun, moon, and ascendant is what people tend to place emphasis on. You have an interpretation? 🙂
Zodiac : Tropical Placidus O
Wow, technical difficulties with this darn chart...Is below:
Zodiac : Tropical
Sun Libra 6°18'
Moon Gemini 22°26'
Mercury Libra 3°18'
Venus Leo 25°46'
Mars Libra 18°44'
Jupiter Virgo 3°40'
Saturn Aquarius 0°13' R
Uranus Capricorn 9°53'
Neptune Capricorn 13°59'
Pluto Scorpio 18°40'
Lilith Capricorn 17°25'
Asc node Capricorn 15°04'
Placidus Orb : 0
Ascendant Cancer 20°01'
II Leo 23°17'
III Virgo 27°57'
IV Scorpio 0°18'
V Scorpio 28°32'
VI Sagittarius 24°09'
VII Capricorn 20°01'
VIII Aquarius 23°17'
IX Pisces 27°57'
Midheaven Taurus 0°18'
XI Taurus 28°32'
XII Gemini 24°09'
Zodiac : Tropical
Sun Libra 6°18'
Moon Gemini 22°26'
Mercury Libra 3°18'
Venus Leo 25°46'
Mars Libra 18°44'
Jupiter Virgo 3°40'
Saturn Aquarius 0°13' R
Uranus Capricorn 9°53'
Neptune Capricorn 13°59'
Pluto Scorpio 18°40'
Lilith Capricorn 17°25'
Asc node Capricorn 15°04'
Placidus Orb : 0
Ascendant Cancer 20°01'
II Leo 23°17'
III Virgo 27°57'
IV Scorpio 0°18'
V Scorpio 28°32'
VI Sagittarius 24°09'
VII Capricorn 20°01'
VIII Aquarius 23°17'
IX Pisces 27°57'
Midheaven Taurus 0°18'
XI Taurus 28°32'
XII Gemini 24°09'
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