Gemini male running away—

Is running away from someone you like a common theme for Gemini males or just Gemini in general?

Me and my friend started out strong, we were hanging out a lot and talking on the phone, texting. He'd even text me just to tell me that he's getting off of work, I didn't expect any of that, but it was cool. Then out of nowhere after a Friday night where we hung out and had a really great time, he started to disappear..and now if I'm lucky I'll hear from him thru text maybe once or twice a week. Prior to him disappearing I knew all of the things he had to deal with in his life and where he needed his focus to be: which is his son. I can dig that I have much respect for the guy because he is taking care of his 10 month old son by himself. But at the same time it sounded like he was ready to invite another facet to his life which would be getting to know and potentially dating someone.

He says in the past he would have just dove right in and we'd probably be "together", but for some reasons that even he doesn't understand he wants to take his time and go slow. Ok I'm fine with that, but does slow mean I hardly ever see or hear from him? I know he likes me, he tells me that very often almost every time we DO eventually talk on the phone, says that I'm the girl he's been looking for but yet he's running the other way lol. He says he doesn't want to hurt me and that he feels sorry for me for having to deal with his "issues" as he calls it. I asked him how come in the beginning I heard from him a lot more and saw him more and he said because he didn't know where it was going, but now that we know he wants to slow down. Well things are now at a grinding halt! I've asked him if maybe with all of the things he's dealing with if he wants me to just leave him alone for awhile but he says no and he wants me to stick around. But how long is he expecting me to wait until he figures this stuff out? I'm patient, but I'm also ready to invite love and companionship into my life and not sure how long I can wait.

Is this a common thing with Gems or am I dealing with one of the rare ones who isn't very impulsive?

Common. Nearly identical stories appear on this forum weekly.

Which would explain why nobody replied and probably thought "Gemini male strikes again!" LOL!

So..I'm almost afraid to ask..what has been the "common" outcome of these situations? Does he ever come around and if he does is it with in the same year? (I'm joking, but then again not really. :-/) I'm fine with taking things slow, but I am def missing the friendship part of all of this. I almost want to downgrade it and tell him let's just TRULY be friends, because I miss hanging out with him; he was so much fun to be around and the romantic feelings just freakin killed it! Mind you HE admitted to liking me first so I thought that's what he wanted. At least sex hasn't been added to the equation or else I'd be a mess right now!! He's Gemini sun and moon, I'm used to dealing with the moon as my children's father has it, but the sun part is what's foreign to me.

Posted by xygeneration
Never been with a male Gemini, don't know any.

Don't chase.

Nah, I'm not chasing. I do notice a pattern that if I don't text him at all for a few days and mentally decide to let it go and delete his number from my phone so I don't get the urge to call or text him, he hits me up like literally right after I've done it!! It's like he knows I'm trying to create my own distance from him...*shifty eyes*...

You asked and answered your own questions, Mz MintSprinkles. Are you willing to adjust to his pace given the new level of responsibility he's feeling and has communicated?

Posted by gemeliorist
You asked and answered your own questions, Mz MintSprinkles. Are you willing to adjust to his pace given the new level of responsibility he's feeling and has communicated?

I guess I didn't realize I did, thanks for pointing that out 😉 I am willing to adjust to his pace and have been but part of me thinks he will think less of me if I do wait around for him..I bet that makes no sense..and it doesn't, but that's how I feel. I'll tell you what my problem is...even despite him saying he likes me and wants to take it slow, there is a little of part of me that fears he will find someone else more appealing and more interesting in this time of "slowness" and I'll be left out in the dust while I was waiting for him. He says he has no time for anybody else and if there were other women he'd only be interested in fucking them and nothing else.

Gems don't like clingon's so go about your business and don't let the fear own you. Yah never know... it might be you who meets someone more suitable...js😄

Posted by gemeliorist
Gems don't like clingon's so go about your business and don't let the fear own you. Yah never know... it might be you who meets someone more suitable...js😄

You're right and I didn't even think of it like that. It's funny though after not hearing from him for about a week I text him to tell him that I saw a mutual acquaintance of ours and that he gave me his number. Sure enough an hr later he was texting me saying how sorry he was he hadn't gotten a hold of me and that work has been killer. lol He knows that there are other men lurking, but I choose to stay focused on him because I really like him. But once I truly get it in my mind to move on it's a wrap and he knows this, which is why I think he's does just enough to reel me back in when he's been MIA for awhile.

A whole week without a text, call, email, I was in the neighbourhood so I thought I'd drop by, nothing? You might wanna have a word or two with him and reach some kind of understanding. If unable to do so, you might wanna walk. A week is usually a long time for a lot of gems without ANY form of communication.

Ok, I may have been over exaggerating a bit. So far I DO hear from him at least once a week. The week before he called me and we had talked on the phone for about 3 or 4 hrs then text a bunch thru the rest of the week he called me that Friday night but I missed his call. I tried to call him back no answer. I heard from him this past Thursday after I told him about the mutual acquaintance giving me his number. Then we text for a bit last night before he went to bed. I actually learned today that apparently I'm not the only person he's not talking to as I saw his cousin at church and I asked if she ever caught up with him and she said he had text her and it took her a week to reply and now it's been about two weeks since he's replied to her, (she's a Gemini too by the way lol) He's told me that he even does this to his mom sometimes and if he didn't see her everyday because she watches his son he wouldn't talk to her very much and that's pretty crazy because he's close to her. So he told me not to feel bad..but I can't help it I like the guy and even just a quick text hello would be nice.

I'm wondering if the only reason why I'm even hearing from him once or twice a week is because I'm texting him first. But I guess he could just not reply at all. I want to try and see if I can go a complete week without texting him just to see if I'd hear from him at all but it's really hard, because I'll read something interesting or have a question to ask him and sure enough I hit him up, but it's only for that one thing and I don't hit him up anymore after that until he returns my text or call. I know he's come to expect these text and probably looks forward to them despite not replying. One thing I will give him is that he's brutally honest. He says most of the time he'll read a text and intends on replying but then forgets *sigh*. He's mentioned that he gets super depressed sometimes and just wants to be alone..I also think the fact that his life is so "routine" as he frequently calls it depresses him as well.

Even despite this I was thinking about making him dinner one day this week and dropping it off at his house before he got home, because him and baby get home @ like 9pm every night and it would be one less thing for him to have to worry about. Truth is I know he likes me, I'm just questioning if I'm truly able to stick it out for the long haul. Honestly I think it'd be easier to do it as his friend, but I don't think we'd could go backwards at this point.

I should clarify, we are indeed "friends" right now, but I mean like real, strictly-platonic-how-we-were-in-the-beginning friends at least we hung out more and I heard from him a lot!

Posted by Geminivixen
I can safely say as a Gemini myself and hate dated a couple in my life time.. When a Gemini really likes you, we claim you.. and often we move Fast in relationships but he is a single father so you already did state you comprehend that but I say you do your own thing for now.. Trust me we like to have a bit of a chase, I don't care if somebody chases me but don't expect me to go after them.. Thats there problem lol

That's funny, because he explained to me that in the past we probably would have jumped right into something. But he says he wants to try something different this time. He's even embarrassed by it & said he'd never tell another guy that he's taking it slow lol. I mean..given the fact that he's expressing all of this to me & didn't just get his rocks off & disappear says a lot about him, so for now I'm going to stick it out.

Oh & what did you mean by "we like to have a bit of a chase"? Geminis like being chased or you guys enjoy the chasing...well except for you 😉

My situation with a Gemini was somewhat similar to yours. I wondered to about the disappearance act. We are finally over whatever we had now. It kinda sucks because he got me better then any guy ever has. Everytime we would talk about our feelings for eachother he would disappear for awhile. What the hell right? Ugh beyond frustrating! I dont have an answer for you girl but do your own thing. They will notice. Dont chase. Good luck 🙂

Posted by libragirl37
My situation with a Gemini was somewhat similar to yours. I wondered to about the disappearance act. We are finally over whatever we had now. It kinda sucks because he got me better then any guy ever has. Everytime we would talk about our feelings for eachother he would disappear for awhile. What the hell right? Ugh beyond frustrating! I dont have an answer for you girl but do your own thing. They will notice. Dont chase. Good luck 🙂

Uh oh, why didn't it work out? So him wanting to go slow & the once or twice a week texting & occasional phone call is not a good sign is it? Lol