Gemini MEN........................................

****Our emails got very sexual (which he instigated) He started calling me everyday when he finished work like we were in a relationship, really weird! (THIS IS WAS IN AUGUST till NOV LAST YEAR BTW)

your story is very similar to mine. i had met this girl at a younger age and we instantly became friends because of the chemistry. we lost touch because i left and then re connected later. i will admit when we talked most of the time it was very sexual. . . started by me. as time passed on i felt as though she was stringing me along so all it took was a nonresponse and i havent spoken to her since. still think of her nicely but relationship? heell no. lots of fun tho 🙂

she is a sag just incase you were wondering

'i will admit when we talked most of the time it was very sexual'

OK so you started the sexual talk with your Sag and it was reciprocated obviously (same with me and my Gem, he started all the sexual talk) So you wouldn't have a relationship with her but fun YES?

I didn't understand my Gem though as I never wanted a relationship anyway and neither did he? So why all of a sudden was he scared of wanting to meet up on the account of not wanting to be 'used' by me? HA, strange guy he is!

ok, i'm not a man, but I'm a Gem dating, rather seriously Sag/Cap cusper - and honestly, I can just say to you: go for it, you will have fun and you both will give each other space and respect you both need. Just try it 🙂

@roaming free....I'd love to have fun with the Gem but he has gone all weird on me. It's safe to say the sexual chemistry has built up over the years and still haven't done the deed, it's a shame really. He is missing out! I just feel like texting him saying 'Are you scared of having your heartbroken god damn it?' (not gona actually do this) *laughs*

I emailed him last week basically saying 'come on, stop being silly, are you not talking to me, like hellooo what have I done kinda thing (cause I do actually want to know WHAT it is).

Above anything we were always friends so I'm rather confused!

********heartbroken''

My Gem has come back onto the scene. I've been on his case constantly probing him for an answer as to why he cut me off! (Yes I have so dignity when it comes to him) Anyway he eventually cracked and is denying that he ever said he didn't want me to text him again....

He jokingly said 'I thought to myself what I am getting myself into here, cause I know you would drive me nuts' LOL!

I am happy he got in touch, extremely actually! He is coming to my town for a friends birthday on Saturday night so I may go meet him and the boys for a quick drink!

I haven't spoken about anything sexual, I am just gona keep it cool and just earn his trust back! I have really missed him...

SagChick- Honestly, sometimes Gems don't even know why we do what we do. We just feel a pull to do something and usually honor the feeling. We know other people expect answers about our behavior, so we try to come up with a likely explanation. Well, maybe I should just say "I" instead of "we", because just because I'm that way doesn't mean all Gems are. I've been accused of being deceptive because I've given multiple reasons, on separate ocassions, for doing something someone decided I shouldn't have. Truth is, I didn't have a clue why I had done it, but the other person couldn't accept that as a possibility, so I had to come up with something.

Posted by trolltrain
or that every chick I show him that is hawt I get the response: "She has a penis... don't do it. I'm only looking out for you."

FML

Phahahahahahahahahahaaaa!!!!!!

Posted by Whimsy
Truth is, I didn't have a clue why I had done it, but the other person couldn't accept that as a possibility, so I had to come up with something.

I think I'm learning this part about the Gem

So get this??_??_??_??_??_??_

The Gem ended up sending me a pic of himself to me(nothing naughty) So I'm like, —you look hot?? and he's all like —No I don't, I look really rough, I aint shaved or nothing?? LOL. Why would someone send a pic of themselves if they didn't think they looked nice in it. He blatantly had to take a few until he got the —right one??. Fish for compliments much? Oh he does make me laugh!

He didn't end up coming to town for his friends?? birthday after all but text me to let me know. I asked him if he wanted to link up on Saturday and he was like —I??ll let you know?? He hasn't messaged back since tbh so doubt he wants to meet up but then why would he call me? It's not like I was holding a gun to his head. Like WTF?

Some insight please anyone??_??_??_??_??_??_??_??_??_??_??_??_??_

Posted by trolltrain

Waaaah...it's too hard... we can't win... waaah, my record was 50:1 and I don't want to game anymore. 50:0 is pro.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!

anyways, we're best buds.

This part made me lmfao, loved the way you wrote it 😉

Is he is playing hard to get? I'm baffled? What's the point? *shrugs*

I know gemini males fairly well dated a ton of them!

i love em! i really just get all of em (even if its platonic) which seems* to be the case with you and him.

From what i collect my first feeling i get from all this is that hes just unsure where he is and what he wants. When he misses someone* (anyone) and needs affection due to a hard day or what not. (whatever the reason may be) Because gemini males live purely in the moment and with gazillion thoughts running through their head, they tend to choose ONE IDEA* for that particular day. For example, lets say he has thoughts of perhaps having a relationship with you and figures you guys have been friends for so long...as a gemini male there will be another gazillion set of ideas that conflict that. He then perhaps continues to say how much he enjoys his freedom and what he does and says could lead you on so he refuses to even do anything. ON THE OTHER HAND, he enjoys yoru company..and BAM ! with the right timing he could text you to hang out. THEN BAM the other thought that comes in...he starts pondering what other priorities in his life are more important (work school family friends whatever) that COULD give him the same thing you can but with out (tying in his thought about not leading you on) having to deal with hurting someone. AT THE SAME time hes gonna contemplate his emotions for you.

^^^that right there is a great example of what potential thought process he will have. Its really all about balance..gemini males need balance everything in moderation.

I have a gemini friend that has been supposedly crushing on me (so our mutual friends say) similar type of on and off type relationship.

Overall: your gemini is unsure of you. Something about you makes him feel good but makes him have to deal with things he feels hes not ready for. DONT even bother bringing it up. He would most likely respond in such open ended responses "why?" "😢" ...."how so?" or nothing at all. or even twsit things around and give a opened =like answer that would push all responsibility on you making you feel as if your the cause and his reactions are the affect, OR he 'll apologize and try to be better at the friendship you guys share and go into this deep talk about the shit in his life. JUST SO HE can get you off his back as ONE of the many intentions of that sentence. But he will mean it as well.

with a gemini you must understand and be one with water. and accept all possibilities. never judging or undermini

his authority: when i say authority in the sense of his intelligence, his good hearted intentions (despite how they may come across), his masculinity, and his kindness (despite it may not seem that way) make sure if you DO talk to him...dont try to phrase sentences that "COULD" come off that way..then all your gonna get from that gemini man is either sarcasm to defend himself. Silence ...because silence is golden. and he probably would just say one blank statement "ok..if you say so..so hows your day going?" (avoidant)

its also about deciphering what is his actual feelings and thoughts that are absolute* or a statement that matches the topic of conversation.

I feel...the best way to help a gemini grow is to be honest with him with consideration of their "authority" and social etiquette . Learning when to listen and when to give advice. Help them in a mutually beneficial NOT EMOTIONAL subjective talk to help him sort through his GAZILLION ideas . Which brings me to my next point, dating a gemini requires one who is fairly centered individual that knows absolute values as well as what is and isnt. BEING confident and strong and patient. self respect for yourself would get you far. Sometimes also one must understand when you have to put your foot down and BE ABSOLUTE. OTHER times its about being like water...and times a tsunami.

With everything i wrote as the core of most gemini males ( i believe) all possibilities that vary and need validation...You should contemplate on what you liek about him..what you dont like access your relationship values and his. What you would like to achieve in the near* future with him. Is it even worth it? if so ^^^ the above tasks must be completed

I also am dating a gemini. And perhaps my relationship story could help bring insight to yours.


>>>>HAHAHAH god sounds like a mission impossible type project. I'll like to name this Mystery X.

candi3bb's description might (and im not sure of this) fit a fire or air moon gemini, but as for water or earth. . . the exact opposite is true.

WOW!!!! Thanks for your input guys. Candi, you're the best when it comes to advising. You really know how to break it down girl.

Its safe to say that I'm slightly confused, OK quite confused!!! Lol. These Gem men seem more complex than a Scorp, no?
They are certainly a 'different' kettle of fish! Just seems a constant battle of wills.

Getting to know how a Gem man thinks and what he thinks is just like revising for an exam but I'm sure it'll be worth it in the end. HA!

So this Gems has his;
Moon is in Leo
Merc in Gem
Venus in Aries
Mars in Libra
Asc is Cancer

This is just a chart I pulled based on his dates as I don't know the time of birth.

He told me that he's be celibate for 2 WHOLE years now cause he doesn't deem anybody worthy of him- ha! (Not in those exact words btw) He said all his ex wanted to do was treetrunk all day long and he felt the whole relationship was based solely on that, cause she often told him how AMAZING he was in bed but rarely otherwise.

He said it got so mundane for him cause he wanted to go out and explore and do things with her and all she wanted was to stay in bed with him all day everyday. talk about Cabin fever- haa

So he made a promise to himself that he would never allow himself to be used just for sex in a relationship and that he'd rather go without and fill the voids in doing other activities.

He's 30 now btw, he'll be 31 in May so he is a grown ass man. He has his priorities in order and works extremely hard. I think he is quite stressed at the moment due to being over loaded with work and stuff.

I haven't seen him in so long, I quite miss him *day dreams*

No sign of this Gem man *shrugs*

Oooh my Gem got in touch today! We're finally meeting for that long awaited booty call (after the wining and dining) I said something along the lines of that nobody is holding a gun to his head to take me out-lol! to which he replies saying 'Actually holding a gun to my head and telling me to treetrunk you harder sounds exciting'. Paahhhhhhhhhhhhhaa! FREAKY!! lol

Watch this space! I'm meeting him at the end of the month!

Are Gem usually freaky?

well, have fun, but just because it will be wine and dine, dont expect that HE WILL put out. he may not. Gem's are fickle and if it won't feel right, you will be left standing there alone with your figurative duck in your own hand alone. He may just take you on for a free booty call and that will be all you will get, after he messes with your head and than get's it on.

just sayin'...

why would you put yourself in that situation and put out so easily?

My ex was FUUURREEEAAKY like how i like it! most of the ones i dated are.
its fun. I remember this really hot model type gemini but with such dainty pretty feautres, wore glasses, soft spoken. Behind closed doors he was a raging beast

Gemini/leo moon
a class of true "personality people." Your interests are so varied, your tastes so inclusive, your attitudes so tolerant, that you have a very broad appeal to many different people with whom you come in contact. An apparently happy-go-lucky nature conceals a core of sound good sense, just as the apparent fickle in your nature hides deep-seated loyalty and fidelity. You may be changeable in many ways, but when you settle to person or a course of action, you stay settled. Your mind turns from one subject to the next, from one relationship to another, but sooner or later the wavering and fluctuating stops, and you establish yourself. People have difficulty understanding you, not so much because you are complex, but merely because you are so hard to pin down. When your mind is made up to go after something, however, you don't hesitate. Your warmth and amiability make you the life of many parties. You are confident of the impression you make on people and you are a study of joviality and good nature. You can get along very well in life with your kind of personality. Even when people don't agree with what you say, they admire the way you say it. Oddly, a somewhat brooding spirit can invade your personality when things (especially romances) don't come together as you feel they should. Nonetheless, you are blessed with a good personality, a good level head, and more than your fair share of good luck.

Cancer rising/ leo moon:
Cancer that is a good deal less shy and demure than is normally expected. In personality, you are positive and confident, emphasizing pride, dignity and self-respect. You appear open-hearted, amiable and outgoing. You always strive to make a good first impression because you are a proud person, and you care a good deal about what people think of you. You expect and enjoy having a broad base of support and respect from those whom you come in contact. Your security is knowing others like you and you seem to crave attention and respect. You attract this with your warm, sunny personality, but somehow you manage to keep most people at a distance and never get really close with very many individuals. You distrust people, but you tolerate their shortcomings and feel that you can control most individuals and circumstances. You meet unexpected situations and do the right thing at the right time. Your style is always neat and organized and you don't like to be around sloppy people or disorganized situations. You take yourself seriously, perhaps even to the degree of being a little pompous and self-righteous at times. You know how to get your way while making others feel that they are the winners, and that you are the one who is compromising. Under a rather gentle exterior is a core of independence and determination that others rarely see or realize.

Posted by roamingfree
well, have fun, but just because it will be wine and dine, dont expect that HE WILL put out. he may not. Gem's are fickle and if it won't feel right, you will be left standing there alone with your figurative duck in your own hand alone. He may just take you on for a free booty call and that will be all you will get, after he messes with your head and than get's it on.

just sayin'...

why would you put yourself in that situation and put out so easily?

LMFAO @
'after he messes with your head and than get's it on'

'you will be left standing there alone with your figurative duck in your own hand alone'

I'm not actually meeting him for sex-HA! It wouldn't feel right for me either. The date at the end of the month will be leading to the stages of booty call...

The way your post reads or how I have interpreted makes it an amusing read 🙂

Posted by trolltrain

Posted by SagChick411


Its safe to say that I'm slightly confused, OK quite confused!!! Lol. These Gem men seem more complex than a Scorp, no?
They are certainly a 'different' kettle of fish! Just seems a constant battle of wills.

Gems are extremely independent minds; even when we are 'one' with someone or grouping of people. Unlike other signs, we don't simply mould with our partners. We remain heterogeneous.



Have you ever thought of trying to take charge? Maybe tell him that you like him and attempt to try and settle himself down without setting up a fence. We absolutely hate fences. But we like you, we don't mind if we have to play the follower for a bit. A lot of gems don't take settling with someone easy and sometimes need that push, or a slap in the face.

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YES I did exactly this. I initiated the text saying 'This is getting ridiculous. Saturday 31st March, free to treetrunk?' Obviously this is a joke(he's aware of this) I just needed to get his attention, and guess what?> it did. Imagine that? HAHA! He texts back immediately saying 'YES to all the above' So I'm like 'put it in your dairy' So he's like I'll do that now'. Blah blah blah!

He once told me he enjoys being the submissive more so than dominating. I like to be dominated BUT I dominate REAAL good so you know, SWEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEET! CHAAAAA-CHINGGGGGGGGGGGGG! 😄

LOL!!!! ohh gawd such a leo moon +attention seekers+

Yeah he is such a attention seeker, it is unreal. Ah well, I can deal with that so not a problem. It comes very naturally for me to boost peoples egos so he's in luck! HA!

He better not cancel on me or they'll be hell to pay (joke) I just won't speak to him again for wasting my time and move on, plenty more fish in the sea and that all. Naaaaaaah who am I kidding, I want him and I will be persistent until he is in my arms. MWAHAHAHAHA - lol

What does one wear to the date? I know it's ages away but I gotta look fly so I'm thinking tight jeans with a blouse really big heels, my trademark red lips and my big disarming smile. I'm gonna keep the look subtle but sexy, no cleavage as I'm a bit of a prude would you believe? HA!

Errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrm yah...............lol

Posted by trolltrain
yoga/tight pants are the best. Dress like top. Hair done.

You actually know what you're talking about. Great input macgyver!! lol

Posted by trolltrain
I'm not a liker,of the heels myself.

He likes them. The bigger the better. HA

Posted by trolltrain
yoga/tight pants are the best. Dress like top. Hair done.

When you said hair done, do you mean up or just generally brushed so I don't go out with bedhead. I must say I am partial to a bedhead look now and again, it makes me look even cooler than I am-HAHA!

I will have my hair up for the date, or do guys prefer women with their hair down? My Scorp sister thinks men like us with our hair down. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm...............

what would mcguyver do?! LOL

he would go in guns blazin..So you sag shall go in blazing-ly hot!
i like what you plan on wearing. I say leave the hair down. I always love being able to run my fingers through my hair or toss it behind my shoulder. (thats just me lol)

Ooo attach a photo! i wanna see!

Posted by candi3bb
what would mcguyver do?! LOL

he would go in guns blazin..So you sag shall go in blazing-ly hot!
i like what you plan on wearing. I say leave the hair down. I always love being able to run my fingers through my hair or toss it behind my shoulder. (thats just me lol)

Ooo attach a photo! i wanna see!

HAHA love that you got the Mcguyver thing 😄

What attach a pic when I go on my date? LOL! I have a pic on my page of me if that's what you mean?

OH silly rabbit! LOL post "clothing choice"

Posted by trolltrain

Posted by SagChick411

Posted by trolltrain
yoga/tight pants are the best. Dress like top. Hair done.

When you said hair done, do you mean up or just generally brushed so I don't go out with bedhead. I must say I am partial to a bedhead look now and again, it makes me look even cooler than I am-HAHA!

I will have my hair up for the date, or do guys prefer women with their hair down? My Scorp sister thinks men like us with our hair down. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm...............

lol.... How does one become cooler thn self?

I mean like scene rainbow with pokadot pants.

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its very possible. i am wearing pokadotted pants right now.

LMAO!!!

I'm really looking forward to snogging his face off!! 😄

Posted by trolltrain
Wear those shades that are just lines. Make them purple or something. Wear avaiators under them too. That be badass

HAHA!

Sorry to burst your bubble but that won't be happening I'm afraid. I'd prefer if you kept further snazzy suggestions to yourself. LOL!

So I text this Gem Friday night saying 'Hi' so he's like 'Hi, hows your night going blah blah' I tell him what's happenin' and finish off saying 'OK well, I just randomly messaged you cause I was thinking of ya so have a goof night' and he's like 'Awww you're too sweet, I just wanna squeeze your cheeks' which made me laugh! I couldn't tell if that was with added sarcasm?

good*

Posted by trolltrain
so did you guys go on the date yet?

No not yet, next weekend.

Posted by anearthygemini
Hi SagChick,

I think he likes you, and who knows which cheeks he was referring to? If we mull over that part of his comment, then it gets more interesting doesn't it? God Bless, don't worry, all will go well.

HAHA, yeah true!

I don't know if it's still on, our date I mean. He messaged me today and it just seems as though he messing around. It seems as though he has not taken me seriously initially in terms of meeting up.

He hasn't mentioned that we're not meeting, but I just feel he thinks that I'm not serious about him in general. He's just not giving me straight answers and keeps answering my questions with another question. I just got a bit annoyed with him earlier over text. I don't know if he will get in touch now but I cannot be bothered to deal with him at the minute.

The thing is I really like him, just sucks he is acting like a douche. Oh well, watch this space, anything could happen!

OK so, I just text him saying 'Are we still on for next weekend? Seriously!. Let's see if he responds to that or ignores me. He is such a freak! A freak who I want oh so badly! lol!

AHhhhhh! I'm not meeting him anymore. He is delusional I think. I'll copy and paste my conversation with him a bit later. Another one bites the dust! lol

ME: Are we still on for next weekend? Seriously?!

HIM: u keep askin me the same thing, and saying dont worry about it after, and it is really off putting. So for the last time. Forget it! Enjoy dreaming about it. And dont ask me again cos its not happening

ME: ok. ALSO when I said 'forget it' I'm on about the conversation not actually meeting up. I think you should maybe re-read the messages I send u and what u send me back. The mixed signals are coming from you. It actually seems that you never initially took me seriously, that is exactly how it comes across with your sarcasm. I know you're normally sarcastic but sometimes I just don't know how to take you. P.S there's no point of me dreaming about something that aint gonna happen so I'd rather not thank you. You've got issues obviously. Maybe you shouldn't be so hot and cold. PEACE!

HIM: PEACE out!

ME: Oh I nearly forgot, my status is dedicated to u (Do u ever feel like shaking someone and saying; WTF is wrong with you) I also sent him his horoscope which I thought was rather amusing and fitting to our situation.

Horoscope
—?? Don't be too proud to admit you were wrong or to accept help from someone who can guide you down a better, happier path, Gemini. You may have been at odds with someone who did not approve of some aspect of your life or your choices. You probably developed an "I'll show you" response to this individual's opinions and criticisms. But you may now recognize that this person was actually right about a lot of things, and the advice you were given was spot on. Don't cut off your nose to spite your face - apply the wisdom you've received and you will make your life better.—?

HIM: i really dont care about your love for horoscopes. If i updated my status it would read something like: what is wrong wiv u i dont wanna fuck u

ME: Lmfao. I wouldn't wanna fuck a stuck up individual like you anyway. I think you love yourself way too much. Keeping your precious celibacy for 2 years, how sweet darling. Ah well, its safe to say I'm not missing anything love. Oh sorry, my bad, I thought you LOVED horoscopes as much as you LOVE yourself or me for that matter-ha.

HIM: Lol now fuck off

ME: Gladly. Loving your tone of voice btw. So soothing.

I know maybe I??ve been a bit harsh but I really don't know what the matter is with him or with me for that matter-lol!
I do feel a bit bad for cussin?? him out, maybe I??ll call him tonight and just tell him how things go

*got misconstrued. IDK I??ll see how I feel later. lol

Posted by SagChick411

HIM: u keep askin me the same thing, and saying dont worry about it after, and it is really off putting.

Errmm I only done this ONCE which was yesterday so I don't know where he is getting and even then I was referring to the conversation NOT us meeting up. Ughh!

I think you are totally right!! My sister read it and said the same thing as you did! I am gonna work on myself and forget about him. What a loser!

Thanks for your advice 🙂