Gemini Woman & Avoidant Scorpio - the right mix for success or get her out—

My friend has been seeing a scorp a year. Though it is normal he seems to have engulfed her more than id of expected considering the gem scorp mix ..

Until I found out he has a string of failed relationships and cheating on and lying to exes (I know she dosnt know the real stories behind these past relationships - he told her superficial reasons why he ended them).

Then again in recent months she seems to be taking on his personality more (not using Facebook because he looks down on it and deleted his, not posting coupley photos of them because again he dosnt like it whereas before this she enjoyed that, not seeing her friends as much which is normal but she is a gem. Maybe even a bit preoccupied with him. I would notice she dosnt like her friends instagram posts even if shes tagged in them but she will like his friends post etc. I know thats small in the grand scheme of things its just a very quick and big change from her usual behaviour - she was in a tight group before she met him, dosnt seem to be so tight anymore. Those mates are from the same country as her - shes a different nationality to him so being away from home you would have imagined she would be more inclined to hold onto that but again this happens in all relationships and can just be normal.



From what I've heard about him though is that he disrespects woman and likes to call the shots. He is their knight and shinning armour until he has them and once they get close he starts behaving more unstable. She is younger then him and most of his exes, shes away from her family but again, it could still just be normal couple behaviour for a gem.

From my own dating experience I pin this guy as an avoider emotionally and got to thinking that this might be why it works with my gem pal. He is thrilling and mysterious (double whammy being a scorp) but also not emotionally heavy like most scorps. He's managed to get further with my gem friend then any of his other 10s of gfs in his 30 years and now they have just moved in together. But what lies ahead.

Knowing her she dosnt like moods and stuffy emotions so maybe theres an arms length on emotions that keeps them both safe. Maybe they have developed a real friendship and slowly he has overcome his worst tendencies - to cheat etc. Because maybe the gem (superficial as it may be) dosnt trigger him with demands for intimacy plus more. I would have expected failure long ago and yet they surprise me.

This guy has never been single and has jumped from one to one since 17 ..apparently intense relationships which end on no speaking terms for the most part. His last gf shares a no mutual friend with me and thats how I have come to learn so much. They talk about him like something to be feared. Everything was a lie and he treated her with various forms of emotional control. The girl had to go to counselling to get through the breakup. He does seem to be abusive and controlling with a string of exes in a mess running after him claiming it was their fault for pushing him - for what commitment.. He's some mover if he's actually managed to convince them it was their fault that these relationships ended.. He had exit strategies with each one.. What makes my gem pal any different. They are together longer than the rest just over a year, they 'seem' happy, shes a nice solid person - too nice? He has actually managed to move in with her..thats a step. Maybe they are happy, maybe she is right. So so I tell her all I have learned knowing it may ruin what may actually be right?.. Will he eventually treat her like those others? Is it possible that the these traits mixed with his avoidance actually all blend into a functioning relationship? It seems hard to believe he is the guy that I've come to learn - but theres more than just one ex who went through a bad with him to go by. Theres a lot of evidence that all that nice guy is facade and I'm still processing all over learned.

So you're going off info from an ex girlfriends friend? And why did they share it with you? And how did you hear about the other past girlfriends? From their friends or was it all from 1 person?

Posted by TaurusinTexas
So you're going off info from an ex girlfriends friend? And why did they share it with you? And how did you hear about the other past girlfriends? From their friends or was it all from 1 person?

No to clarify... its a bit weird. Ive moved around the past 6 months and I'm in his hometown currently whilst they are both back in the city were I met her last year and him when they started dating.Me and her were travel buddies here for a while- I am also foreign. Ive come to meet people here that know him directly or an ex. I would tell people I'm some way connected to help me meet people its a small town and I thought he was a good guy for connections. Not in reality. The feedback was strange ..loner was the vibe i got but then some people said he was good fun etc. Eventually a work colleague mentioned she lived with his ex when they dated thats what started it and that he's anything but fun. What emerged from my own talks with different people was a long string of womanising and lies this guy has lied to my friend about the amount, seriousness and nature of all these relationships. This wasnt people gossiping this was me digging and people telling me what they've experienced of him - within a few groups of girls there was quite a few who had 'direct' experience. I was stunned but its a small town and I guess some of that is normal but not the way people don't seem to really know he plays woman that much and had failed that many times at a healthy relationship. He's treated his last ex shockingly bad and before that theres direct proof of cheating. I have also heard that he met with his ex whilst dating my friend and I know she dosnt know. Though I have been assured it was just for closure and his ex initiated it he actually flirted with the ex and she told him off and they are back on bad terms. That poor woman sounded like she wanted genuine closure to an bad bad relationship and he still met her with ego. Its not cheating on my friend directly - but I still don't like it. Could I be wrong about him?