Hear we go again!

Ok so again im a Libra Woman and he is a Gemini guy.

Soooooooo, this goes back to last weekend, I was sick all weekend and hadn't really spoken to him again until this past Monday, I text him and say damn babe no luv, I have been sick all weekend, etc. He responds always luv, he was like I did text u and ask did u need anything u never responded, your phone kept going to VM. I was just like OK. Then he says his aunt died, I asked did he need anything. WHY DID I DO THAT! On Monday he asked me to get a bed n a bag for the spare bedroom for the guest, ok did that.

On Tuesday he asked me to go Filenes Basement and get a set of wine glasses and drinking glasses, a mop, a sponge. Ok do that. Mind u im still sick and running around for him. He is a barber so I had to wait till he got off work around 9:30 He's like babe can u make the bed. I said no! He waits for about an hr and asked again, he said r u serious I said yes, im tired and don't feel well. He goes in the room and makes the bed all the while watching me and shaking his head. He finishes that and starts washing the glasses I bought. When he is done with that he looks at me and says, im tired, im going to bed, thank u for the stuff, call me when u get home. Needless to say im pissed off. I leave and call him when I get home, his phone is going to VM so I leave a pissed off message, venting about how I feel. I felt like he is so selfish and unappreciative. He calls me back 3 times and I wouldn't speak with him.

We haven't talk until I call him this morning. I said Good morning, he's like what's up. I ask him how he is doing and he says im still alive. I ask him when r the funeral services, he's like why, I said cause my family would like to send flowers, he was like thank u but there will be plenty of flowers there already. I said am I gonna see u later, he says NO. I was like WHY. He says cause I said so; I have 2 go and hangs up.

I really care for this man, but doesnt seem like he feels the same. If he does his actions dont reflect that at all.

What's wrong with him?

NOTE: MY PREVIOUS POST WAS NOT ABOUT ME AND MY GEM! IT WAS ABOUT SOMEONE ELSE!

well really, the question should be what's wrong with you? Your sick, you know your sick but yet you run errands knowing you don't feel well and then turn around and get an attitude about him asking you to make his bed, okay well you extended your help during this tense time for him and his family and then get upset when he ask you to make his bed—?

You showed emotional immaturity by blasting him out via voicemail, this guy obviously jus lost a loved one, he's going to be a bit needy, he thought you were sincere and you going off jus showed him you wern't sincere, well I wouldn't wanna speak to you either after that. He lost his aunt and your worried about your needs...duh

I guess I wanna know what your motivation and intention is towards this guy....you asked if he needed anything, he took you up on that, your their to be supportive but you get a tude after he asked you to help him around the house, well you sent a HUGE message that you didn't really wanna be their for him or be supportive, you going off showed him that your selfish and you really didn't mean to be a support system, people who help and assist during a time of grief don't BLOW UP and go off on their loved ones....

Thanx so much for your response.

He just might get back with you.

wtf? you're f'in crazy. someone else? - and I took the trouble to read it.

You're talking on behalf of someone else - well f you and f your ridiculous diatribe.

WTF! This post is regarding my relationship with my gem! I was just leting everyone know that this one has nothing 2 do with the post from the other day.

I figured as much. Its still dissapointing though because i have always ran his errands, doing 4 him. Whether its bringing him food or flowers. Whateva he needed.

I figured as much. Its still dissapointing though because i have always ran his errands, doing 4 him. Whether its bringing him food or flowers. Whateva he needed 2 show him that i cared.

GeminiFox,im posting 2 see how 2 deal with my gem. I have never dated one before. I care so much 4 him. Yes there has been some give and take, but over the past couple of months its been him taking and not giving anything back in return. I thought that if i gave him what he needed and continued 2 show him how much i care, he would believe i wanted him.The only thing ive ever asked 4 is 2 show me that u care. Things could have been handled differently, i guess i just got so tired of giving and it not being recipicated. I was sick for 4 days and had not heard from him, he knew i was sick, didnt come by my house or anything but can only say i text u 2 see how u were on saturday, u never responded. What about me? He is not there 4 me when i need him 2 b, but in the same breath will expect something from me. Atleast act like u care. Thats all im saying.

going by her give/take thing (probably very important for the Libra sign) exchange reciprocation she feels is much missing from his side.

Learus wow! that's a lot of Taurus in you're chart, you got the V & M conjunction too.

Learus, we have been dating for almost 6 months. His aunt had been sick 4 awhile.

I never did get a vm or a text from him.

I miss him, i havent seen him in a week and we havent really spoken since i called him on friday.

Learus, We have had misunderstandings before but he has never let this much time pass without contacting me.

I guess after a few more days, i have 2 let this go. I really dont want 2 though, I fell 4 him and hoped it would work out.

Learus, thank u. Ive been so focused on what happened, i didnt think about anything else.

He just text me saying "i just wanted 2 say hello, i was thinking about u". He didnt call me he text me, is he feeling me out 2 see if im mad?

"i have always ran his errands, doing 4 him. Whether its bringing him food or flowers. Whateva he needed 2 show him that i cared."


The problem lies within those three sentences, as well as, you running to his aid when you were sick .. I don't believe this has anything to do with Sun Sign, or gender ..

People want another who is self-assured, determined, proud, and mainly self-respecting ..

.. you don't show yourself as being self-respecting, instead a doormat.

Any person will not respect another who doesn't respect themselves, irrespective of when they were born. We strive to find an equal, not an inferiour and this is how you are presenting yourself to him.

He will use and abuse you because that is the tone you've set as to what is acceptable to you .. you are actually asking for it with your actions.

The other side of the coin is that IF you're going to eagerly jump at his every whim .. then you have to follow through and actually do it because you really want to .. not because you want to do it to suffer for him to show him that you love him .. you're really feeling put-out and then resenting that he takes you up on the offer ..

.. Martyr

Sounds to me like he's calling you on your bluff and that ticks you off. You are trying to display an attitude of selflessly giving because you care .. I suspect he realizes you're only doing it to make yourself "look" good by neglecting yourself on his behalf, which he actually realizes is NOT being good .. and he's calling you on it.