Touching

Libra Girl and I went to the mall for lunch. The whole time we were walking around the mall, and talking about EVERYTHING, she would touch my arm. Then she told this story where she had to literally grab me by both arms and pull me to her---to illustrate the story. She has done this a couple times before.

Then we went to her place and it's like she'll "let" me hug her and she seems to love me holding her hand but, man, she always turns away if I attempt to kiss her. Give me a break! Is this just one of those "conquer" things she's pulling? Or is this showing she still wants the pursuit? Or is it MOVE ON time?

I know, I know---a TOUCHY subject. *ow*

Thanks, Merc---I'm looking forward to Libran advice too---and from my buddies Queen and Chatz.

Call her on it, Atom. You really won't know why she's doing this unless you ask her.

Based on her actions, it seems to me that you are not the only person vying for her attention.

Atom, I agree with HP, we never know why these Libras do what they do, so ask gently and subtly, I know that is hard... Try and see if you might even be able to get a half of a whole answer. LOL!!!

It's hard to ignore HP's statement about not being the only one, at this point in time.
I could see myself do that and I have done that.

But it does not have to be. I touch ONLY when I like someone and it is to make a point. Although sometimes I forget that the 'touched' person does not know that I do not it with anyone else. But when I touch I do it to 'show you'.

I can also safely say that if you want to kiss me and I don't want you to and I will never want you to, we will never hang out again. I would not feed it and she has not had a problem looking for you, after your various attempts to kiss her.

Damn, you may need to consider calling her on it, gently...

But you will run some kind of temporary risk. If she does want you (if that is then the outcome) she will become decisive and take a final view. Action will then follow and be consistent.

But still, the aloofness works so well that you can call her on it without words. By completely pulling away until she comes to you and ONLY when SHE opens up the conversation can you safely tell her what's bothering you.

(see the Libra flip-flopping I am doing?)

not sure what biost means.

definitely ask her what's going on. tactfully tell her that she's sending mixed signals and you just want to make sure you're both on the same page.

oh wait...dd meant BIASED. got it.

Got to love the Libras... Damn!!!

Atom

I seriously think you should give this up. I don't think she isn't sexually attracted to you.

Let me ask you this one question: Does she let you hold her hand in public?

And what do you think this will yield?

Men...

It's so obvious, if you did that I mean...

Some are great. How's Sheffield?

Well, you can find out if she is playing when she turns away next. Just bluntly ask her what she is so afraid of when she turns away, if she turns away again.

Move down to the South East, it was sunny all day...

lol

It was OK at this end. Bare feet in shoes...

But it is supposed to rain tonight...

OK Atom, first of all next time when you see her and you're ready to go in for the kill (the kiss hehehe)...remember to put a mint in first - freshen that breath LOL, and if she pulls away again, I would definitely call her on it and tell her that you are just dying to kiss her and that its been driving you insane!! The suspense is driving us crazy for Godsake!!! Its been a long time now and its time, and ummmm....*coughs*...its not like you're asking her for sex - its just a kiss.....oh and that first kiss?? mmmm mmmm!!!

Hehehe

I will be sound asleep Antibling, so it's OK if it pours. Whatever falls in the night cannot fall in the morning around 7.30am, just when you're about to leave for work...

Atom .. still?

You know .. it's because of the rejection !!!

Seriously, ask yourself this question .. "Would I really be this interested in her if she was easier to catch?"

Feeling for somebody is a wonderful thing, especially love .. it tells us we're still alive, but, we have to make sure of "what" we are feeling and where it's coming from. We have to ask ourselves, "Can I really comprimise myself like this and still be happy?"

If she felt for you as deeply as you want of her .. she would be yours, already.

Does truth not matter? Is existence acceptable on the surface, without really feeling in the depths of the soul? For how long? To what end?

How is it measured .. someone's worth?
How is your worth measured?
Can you really comprimise the love in your heart and still feel worthy of another to truly love you?

In truth, and no offense to you, but .. I wouldn't, for I would know that if one day, I fell in love with him .. he's capable of making displays of it without really feeling it ..

Are you not worth more than that?

P-Angel

You're a Pisces. Your apporach to love must be different.

Approach isn't my point .. the heart is.

Atoms approach has been eaten, digested and regurgitated ..

.. the heart still does not realize what makes it beat for the other

.. if it beats at all for the other

"If she felt for you as deeply as you want of her .. she would be yours, already"

Approach is applicable because we decide with our minds that we want you, not the heart. The heart merely listens to the mind and follows.

Maybe you're right...

Eight months or so, but being a Libra myself I can honestly say that that may not mean much...

Now why is that? Ah, because you're a Virgo...

How about me what?

I have too much Virgo in me, as you know, and so I don't give so easily...

give up*

(best left alone but a long time basically)

But it is Libra style and so non-agressive...

You're in the UK. You expect a lot more after the third date...

(sorry, couldn't resist)

Shaka, that's the thing...that's why I cannot give up, because once I do, I turn my back and don't look back and sometimes it better to ride it out a bit longer, just in case.

I feel a lecture coming on from Antibling...

Lemme have it...

I can wait forever if I truly believe he is glorious...

Because I don't believe in second best and as long as he is on my mind I might as well desire him, too.

(I can not ever put that more Libra-esque than I just did. Let all dxp disciples learn.)

Leaving at the height of...

Weggaan als het het gezelligst is...

That kind of thing...

Do you?

No stay...

shy about...?

I am off to sleep. Goodnight.

Thanks, nic', shaka, et al. You have given me much to think about.