It Would Make A Very Boring Chick Flick!

*sigh* Yes, I'm still hanging in there with Libra Girl. We are still having the occassional meal and movie together BUT it STILL isn't getting past holding hands. In fact she seems to like me to touch her most places BUT no kisses. Even after Scope! Ha! So Mr. Aries is keeping very busy working and focusing on other chicks. As you know, VERY hard to do once you have a Libra in your system. Ha!

Been pre-occupying myself with some very complicated classical piano playing (Liszt! WHAT was I thinking! Yeah, we Aries ALWAYS want a challenge---even with insanely impossible music we can barely play). Ms. Libra is going to be gone out of town for a few weeks. She seems to have an uncanny knack to forget thing! Yes, Mr. Aries is having a birthday (like all the rest of dem Aries)---THIS Friday! Ms. Libra wanted to cook dinner---but forgot to. So we went out to dinner---where she wanted to pay---but forgot to. Yes, my friends (you in particular, Chatz, as you can relate) I'm in the "Why do I need her?" mode. And, *urm*, can't figure out why. Yeah, she's an incredible person; wonderful to be with; but FLAKY---even though I like SOME flakiness; and, dang it, I care. The woman has my heart.

Well, back to coffee; preoccupying myself with other lovelies; awaiting Libra's entrance at her convenience. (Do you Libra Girls REALLY want to be ALONE—).

No, Atom...

Means she's not fully there yet. 'Cause she keeps creating space to analyse...

"How long must I endure—?" Okay. She's creating space to analyse. What do you think she is analyzing? WHAT, if anything, do I need to do different?

She is gauging her OWN feelings knowing fully well that you are already there.

Cut her off and make sure she knows (in a very self-dignified manner you have to do this & without giving up your throne - so that she can see your self respect/pride). She will then realise your independence and the man that you are. Then she can start fighting for you.

Don't be all that available...

Oh, Atom, I feel your frustration, it isn't what you are doing they just move at their own pase and no one can force them into anything. So you wil hav to wait or walk awsay.


BTW, another wonderful date with mre Aries... 🙂

Oh Atom!!! These creatures are impossible. Thank yourself lucky though, that you don't have to compete with a whole bunch of men....looks like you are the ONLY one. I dunno, her not wanting to kiss— what is wrong with the girl?? I mean honestly? kissing is the BEST lol.

Hmmmm but you do seem to be coping quite well I must admit *high five*

Can't believe she "forgot" to pay!!! Grrrrrrrrr.....its ok Atom, when you come to the land down under I'll shout you...might be 2 minute noodles but I'll shout ya LOL....Librans tend to forget a LOT of things...don't take it to heart and HAPPY BIRTHDAY for Friday!!!!!

wait or walk away— tough choice but sometimes we just have to. Its almost 6 months now for me and I've just made peace that there's not going to be any more than I have so I just enjoy when I see mine, make the most of every minute and know he'll be back in a week or longest, 2 weeks.....I know he's not going anywhere else yet so yeah....in the meantime, I go on other dates 🙂

We're both aware that Im moving on - slow as it might be LOL

Atom....I would strongly suggest that you should continue seeing the others - life shouldn't be this hard so keep up the good work 🙂

Thank you, thank you, thank you, ladies! YOU are the BEST! (And, QS, Aries get better w/ age. Chatz, your additional tidbits keep me afloat. Libra, I'll do my best to NOT be that available--which isn't going to be hard cuz I'm REALLY busy right now!).

QS wooohoooo you go girl!!!

Applaud brahn, wow a little maturity seeping out. I quite agree with you there.

Atom

Seriously? ..... Dump her.

* (Do you Libra Girls REALLY want to be ALONE—).

Sometimes. I spent several years getting over a relationship that made me crazy. I am FINALLY ready for a relationship but only with someone who I am attracted too. I REALLY don't think this girl is attracted to you. I think she really likes you but just doesn't feel attracted. It must be up around eight months. SOMETHING would have happened by now. I really think you need to let it go.

Sorry buddy Atom, I had high hopes for you and this girl. Gotta agree with LS. I have known a couple of Libra gals and this one doesn't seem interested. All these months, please. She probably thinks you are great and actually has fun with you, but is just not attracted to you the way you are to her.

I can be that way, however being a scorp. I would normally let you know up front, but the friendship door is always open. I luuuvvv friends.

"Atom, any chick you have to play games to get aren't really worth the effort. Personally, from my experience Libra women will tell you if they like you. And if they did like you and didn't tell you, do you really want to waste your time with that? I simply hate games and the "unavailable" thing is certainly that. I would personally just move on, and forget about her. If it takes games to make her interested, then it is going to be more trouble than it is worth."

Very well put! I completely agree...

I am really sorry to hear that you are still having problems moving forward with your Libra girl. I had hoped by now that your patience and fortitude would have paid off for you.

I am sorry, but I have to agree with most of the people above. Move on to a woman that can appreciate all that you have to offer and with gladly accept you affection and reciprocate it. Even if you were able to get this girl, at the rate it is progressing, it is possible it could take another 6-9 months or more to progress to a normal relationship stage (and, disturbingly enough, that is not an outrageous exaggeration). Is she, and the possible relationship you could have with her, truly worth the effort and hurt of several more months for merely a possiblity? Especially when a number of other women would be so willing to give you what you deserve... Is what you could have with the Libra that potentially more special than what you could have with another woman, having to put forth nowhere near a quarter the amount of effort? Or perhaps the question should be, are you truly chasing love or merely loving the chase?

As always, though, follow your heart, not necessarily our advice...

Yeah bro, Libras don't wait that long. Sounds like you've been put in the "good friend" file.

Libras can wait forever if it seems perfect and worth holding on to...

(I can anyway)

From your comments, it certainly wouldn't hurt to "throw her off" by being more unavailable; then see her reaction. (Did I just type the word "action" in regard to this woman—). I am now officially the most patient Aries on earth. Scoping around now.

You are going to be SO unavailable, Tom....!

I think you need to decide weather it is the air of unreachability that has you chasing this woman (I'm not trying to trivialize your feelings) or if you really really like her. Then, call her bluff. Call her on her on her evasiveness....you might get her, you might lose her (if you can call it that), or you'll be let in on a secret that is the cause of her behavior.

Thats just me though...your patience and determination is admirable to say the least, but at this point she is going to or has realized that she is holding all the cards and that isn't a place you want to be.

amen!

From what I can gather, unless they're "in love" with you and/or in the right place inside themselves, you're never going to "get them"....they may love you very much and love spending time with you on their terms (well I can't say that, when I say come over, he runs (lately anyway) LOL and they will even say all the right things, do all those wonderful things, be there for you when you need them, they may even say they love you and treat you as if you are the most important person on this earth while they are with you (hell, they may even think of you a lot whilst you are apart), but they'll stay on the fence waiting for something/somebody better to come along, indefinitely as I have found to date anyway....that something/somebody better may never come but yeah...I dunno!

We're all fools in love LOL....however, I have found peace knowing Im not "the one" with mine, not yet anyway, *giggles*, nah Im good with it and its been quite healing to go on other dates and keep incredibly busy of late....he's noticed Im not so available lately and has made mention of this, and we get "deeper" in conversation as he put it the other day but it just never goes any further than what it has to date and all the signs?? yep he showed em all, the look (OMG that look and THAT smile, the special one when he first sees me and the amazing longing kisses and hugs when we separate, the great sex, the little texts and chats when we're not together), the things he said, just everything but damn!!! they're not guaranteed that they're on the same page as YOU!

Even a few little hiccups that I caused (due to my impatience of waiting 6 months, etc LOL) by telling him how I felt and him in turn saying he wasn't "ready" hasn't seen us drift apart - we both don't want to walk away and of course I want more, he's just happy to keep going along as we have been yet gets deeper into my world and I in his...every time I see him I learn a little more, I give a little more, he surprises me a little more every time, just gives a little more of himself every time but how many others is he doing this with? who knows!!

Atom, run, run fast!!! If after all this time she won't even kiss you— I'd start calling her little sis!!

Sorry babe, take it from me.....its gut wrenching to keep doing it *says she who just won't give up*

LOL

God its hard to love them and even harder to leave them 😛

Why do I not listen to my own advice— why?? tell me why— *giggles*

Oh yeah....and mine KNOWS how I feel yet keeps wanting to see me!! Duh, cut ties already LOL

cagey, er, kg, yes she has made a big deal about getting together for my birthday. Preoccupied? Perhaps. Too gut wrenching right now to concentrate on. SO back to work and another cup of coffee! AND learning some new piano music (my solace).

oh to be able to play the piano *sigh*

Chin up Atom....you know, they normally surprise you when you least expect it.

🙂

oh to be able to play the piano *sigh*

Chin up Atom....you know, they normally surprise you when you least expect it.

🙂

bugger I only meant it once - sheesh!!

A duet possibly, Chatz?

yes if you could put up with somebody who can play...ummm let me see.....ok well there are so many to think of.....ok NOTHING!!!! lol

You'd have to teach me!!

I always start with "Chopsticks," Chatz; then "Heart And Soul" followed by "Fur Elise." We'd be laughing so hard!

Indeed....I'd find a way to stuff it all up - trust me!!! That'd make you laugh for a start, then I'd drop my bottom lip and sulk but then move onto the hot chicken soup LOL

Oh bugger that, champagne would be better 😛

Would you two just hurry up and get it on already?

Champagne PLUS chicken soup. Hurry! My code's getting worse!

LOL Nic!!! 😛

Would you like me to get some tissues too?? and some cough lollies?? anything else dear?

Chatz,, I know you are enamoured by nic' also (that whole Libra thing) but I've been working very hard on my Australian accent!

"Would you two just hurry up and get it on already?"

I concur... You two need to just give up the Libras and have some hot, wild fire sign sex!

whoah!!!! My innocent eyes already!!!

We could have e-sex I guess...not quite the same but damn that swim across the ocean is a killer~!

Atom it doesnt matter - honest, I lurve the Yankee accent but hope you're not as loud as the ones I've come across so far....honestly, we have a lot of overseas visitors where I work and I mean a lot, and the loudest ones are the Americans!!! I do like nice calm and quietly spoken men *nods*

Get a Room!!!

spoil sports!!!

Well, if a lot of your visitors are business people then your dealing with a whole lot of typ a personalities, and those are a pain in the ass no matter where your from.

Come to think of it I would think most of us Americans are loud.... consideration seems to be lost in our culture.

I wasn't going to put it that way...but yeah you guys do like to be heard over here!!

We hear ya ok— hehehe

*whispering softly*, I'm developing my pecs for the long swim. . .

oooooooooooooh I do like a strong physique!! what about the biceps, triceps and the 6 pack?? hmmm—

There is that fire again!!! BTW, did ya get a room yet?

Not yet....😛

Don't you get it?? he's busy working on his bod!!!

"Don't you get it?? he's busy working on his bod!!!"

Atom,

Might want to add a few reps to each of your sets, sounds like your going to need some energy over and above the swim.

bwahahahaha

Chatz, the rest of the bod is already ready! The swim will give me the stamina I'll need. . .

ooooooooooooh *giggles*.....look forward to seeing you emerge out of the water!!!

I'll be wearing the ummm...smile see? - - - - - -> 🙂