How to tell if a Gemini man likes you?

Hi! I am a Capricorn lady and have recently met a Gemini guy, I can't figure out if he likes me, if this is normal behavior for a Gemini male or if he's just being nice to me because he can't bring himself to hurt me or something. To give you some background: this guy is going through major financial problems in his business and is working alot of hours. This part I get. However the part that confuses me is this one: At first when we met he texted me 3-4 times a week in mornings, now he only responds to my textes but never initiates the texts. He will respond to me within couple minutes. We had fun together, good conversations and easy laughs. He was easy to be with. Now I see him about once a week, and it's always to come over to my house. I have asked him a couple of times to join me in different activities, twice to see a band (he loves music and plays drums) and once for comedy show, I got turned down all three times. (he did however see comedy show with his friends and goes for dinner with his kids) He keeps telling me he's under alot of stress, and works alot of hours. When asked he told me he liked me, thought I was smart, a good soul and fun to be with...oh and why was I so insecure? Last night he came over and we talked about his problems and discussed them, but again I can't tell if that helped him or how he felt when I told him my point of view. Again, I wondered if he was hoping to get pity, because I'm a Cappy, we like to give good, solid advice, pity helps nothing. We do feel sorry for the person, we care, but we don't do pity.

I was reading up on Gemini's and basically in order to attract one, one has to be interesting and have interesting stories lined up etc. I am a well read person on a variety of topics. While I love to discuss things, such as philosophy, theology, culture, art, etc. I don't do monologues. Basically to sum this up, last night I was wondering if I was supposed to entertain this person and if so why? I wasn't being entertained much. I am comfortable with silences but is it normal that he doesn't express himself much? Is it normal that while he can totally relax in my apartment, mentions that, he can't say anything to let me know how he feels about me? And then I ask myself, if he didn't like me, why bother to answer my texts? Why bother to come over? This is the first time that I date a Gemini male, so I could use some opinions, right now I don't know if I should continue to text him a few times a week

or let go.

Basically my question is this: How does one tell if a Gemini guy likes you?

Posted by cappycan
When asked he told me he liked me, thought I was smart, a good soul and fun to be with...oh and why was I so insecure? Is it normal that while he can totally relax in my apartment, mentions that, he can't say anything to let me know how he feels about me? And then I ask myself, if he didn't like me, why bother to answer my texts? Why bother to come over?

He wouldn't tell you he likes you if he didn't. He would have been evasive or just changed the subject if he wasn't sure or doesn't and didn't want to hurt you. Also, we generally live in our head; always thinking and can appear detached. Since he told you that he is preoccupied with his business crisis, the last thing any sensible person would do is to focus on a new romance. You might want to step back a bit.

Posted by cappycan


I was wondering if I was supposed to entertain this person and if so why? I wasn't being entertained much. I am comfortable with silences but is it normal that he doesn't express himself much?

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This makes me cringe as I'm smh or my eyes glaze over... it's played so often...one of the go to stmts regarding gems. (sigh)

Thanks for your answer. He is not loud type. Also, I don't have a "buck up" attitude. I am very sensitive... ascendant Cancer. I am as a rule a supportive person, not just with him but with all my friends. It's just so hard to seperate the players from the real people. As I said before, this is the first time I date a Gemini, while I find (found) the intellectual conversation stimulating at first, it is the first time I am dealing with someone who isn't laying it thick on me nor is he open with his feelings or anything. Very polite, which is nice but so not my habitual that I feel lost and not sure what to make of it. As a rule it is the fire signs and the water signs that are attracted to me: all either emotional or passionate people. This is different, nice but is throwing me off. That's all.