My beautiful gem's being his watery self.....

and I want to help but I know I cant fix things for him. He's got his scorp moon & venus in cancer and at times really reflects this . . .he's going thru a low time now. I sent him a love I'm here for you letter.....any ideas what else I can do? If any of you gems with heavy water influence can tell me what makes you feel better I'd appreciate it! 🙂

Thanks!

Do the simple/little things

Tell him every blue moon that you'll always have his back

Be a listening ear for him when he doesn't need advice or criticism, but instead just someone who'll listen

Give him his space when he needs it, that way he can't ever accuse you of trying to change him or pressure him into doing/saying/being something he doesn't want to do/say/be.

Offer to take him out of his usual stressful environment. Take him to the beach. Sex him in a different way than usual. Do something he's not expecting or take him somewhere he's never been.

Either way, don't ever give him the impression that his "Watery self" is not enough/ok with you. In whatever you do, let him know that you'll still love & support him the same regardless of his circumstances or personality =)

Thanks Wineaux! And you're right I hope it ends soon (for the both of you) BUT I am happy to know that he turned to me to talk about how he's feeling while in the middle of it all. It used to be I'd know the story only after . . .and then he'd play it off with a laugh. And yes he too heals with alone time but I'd like to do those little things that say I care/ I'm here with out impeding the process - so I really appreciate the ideas. So baked goods or his favorite dinner may be on the menu for this evening. . .what to make what to make. . .

krysrenee7 thanks! I actually love his watery side. . . makes him very sentimental, loving, that quick brilliant mind those strong arms. . .sigh . . .wait sorry got off track. 😉 lol. Yes, you're right it is the little things. . .I just want to make sure I dont add to his working thru these things. . .and ideas I can always use!

@ HappyBee: i have lots of water too... but have been experiencing this only alil bit so far. i couldn't even begin to tell you anything different from what wineaux and krys has already said...

@ wineaux: you are lucky... my family and friends just scatter and come back to see me when it's over. it's not like i'm over-bearing or anything like that.. i just go quiet. it's just the first sign they have to be unselfish turns them off i think. lol!

Posted by HappyBee
and I want to help but I know I cant fix things for him. He's got his scorp moon & venus in cancer and at times really reflects this . . .he's going thru a low time now. I sent him a love I'm here for you letter.....any ideas what else I can do? If any of you gems with heavy water influence can tell me what makes you feel better I'd appreciate it! 🙂

Thanks!

i think its nice that you want to help, but nothing you do will help, if hes depressed then he will be severely detached from everything and everyone.. just gotta wait for him to ride it out

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Posted by HappyBee
and I want to help but I know I cant fix things for him. He's got his scorp moon & venus in cancer and at times really reflects this . . .he's going thru a low time now. I sent him a love I'm here for you letter.....any ideas what else I can do? If any of you gems with heavy water influence can tell me what makes you feel better I'd appreciate it! 🙂

Thanks!

i think its nice that you want to help, but nothing you do will help, if hes depressed then he will be severely detached from everything and everyone.. just gotta wait for him to ride it out

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You're right about that one there.

Sweet! True, it's good to literally "DO" things for another person but sometimes the best way to show your love/support is to literally "BE" certain things

Literally BE understanding & supportive
Literally BE a good listener when he needs to vent
Literally BE a good woman

If he sees you consistently "Being" certain things that he loves, it'll stick with him alot longer than if you bought him a gift or physically did something for him =)

He'll know that it's who you are vs. something you did/bought for him once or twice

Thanks everyone for the ideas and advice! I've given him his space and shared the love the best I know how.....I got a quick message yesterday and call again today about how I'm the best, good thing he's biased . . . 🙂 (and happy he noticed! lol) He sounds a bit more like his normal self - we'll see how it goes.