Need Gems Advice Caps and Gems Conflict

Well, how can you expect her to like you? You stole her boyfriend, who left her alone and pregnant. That's pretty traumatic and of course, she will blame you. Unfortunately, it's the way of us females.....

Time. Give it time and perhaps she will learn to tolerate you.

She may have a point though. He cheated on her with you, he'll probably cheat on you with someone else....history repeats itself.

I mean he already has two different baby mommas....has he been married before?....doesn't look to promising based on historical data.

(I am not saying he cheated with you, but he left someone for someone else...basically, a similar scenario).

...so....he took it upon himself to still sleep with her without protection while professing his love for you...ok.

Posted by CapricornEyes
He told her before she got with him that he was in love with me before they started she took upon herself to still be with him thats y she trapped him with the child

It ticks me off when men say that women trap them by getting pregnant. As if the man had nothing to do with it. I mean, it takes two to make a baby doesn't it?

So. according to you, the fact she got pregnant is all about her conniving and scheming?? She did it all by herself?

Doesn't he know how to prevent that?
He didn't take responsibility for himself by wearing a condom? One would think if he loved someone else, he'd make dang sure he didn't knock up some other girl.

I guess you're lucky he just got her pregnant instead of transmitting an STD to you.

Posted by CapricornEyes
So i should let the child continue to suffer until time allow

If the child is truly in danger, then why doesn't he seek legal action and try to gain custody?

Posted by gemeliorist
...so....he took it upon himself to still sleep with her without protection while professing his love for you...ok.

Exactly!

Posted by CapricornEyes
I was protected with him she was the one that got pregnant even though she knew about me as a matter of fact she trapped him and i know this because of her wonderful communication skills

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You missed the point.

A man can't get "trapped" with pregnancy if he is responsible enough to take precautions upon himself.

But you did play the blame game - re-read what you wrote.

Anyway, that's neither here nor there. You're not married to him, so there's not much you can really do in this situation. He has to take responsibility for his child. You can't do it for him. So if it is a bad situation, only he can interevene on this this.

She's probably always going to throw drama your way. Not much you can do about that either. Just remember, you can't control her actions, but you can control how you respond (or don't respond) to it. Cussing her out and confronting her only gives her fuel for her fire. Come on, cap, have some dignity and class and handle this the way a cap would. Don't let her get to you. She feeds on that. She feeds on pushing your buttons, so don't let her push them.

So you decide to one up the other baby mamas by having a child for him so you can have a connection with him that the others had. So competitive, I see straight through you. Pretending to hold yourself at a higher standard. Lol.

That makes you no better than the one you complain about, doing the same thing to solidify your current position. People get together or stay together for many reasons and love sometimes has very little to do with it. No matter what is stated.

You should be equally blaming him for his loose behaviour when he got another girl pregnant once you were in the picture and failing to make sure that his child was being cared for properly, even if it means sacrificing some of his own happiness. That's what good parents do, so yeah you deserve him, congrats to the winners.

Posted by gemeliorist
You should be equally blaming him for his loose behaviour when he got another girl pregnant once you were in the picture and failing to make sure that his child was being cared for properly, even if it means sacrificing some of his own happiness. That's what good parents do, so yeah you deserve him, congrats to the winners.

Exactly. He doesn't sound like he'd be worth the trouble.