Requesting help from Gemini ladies...

I am married to a gemini woman, and as a Cancer, naturally we have had our rough bits in trying to get along and understand each other. About a year ago it was about as dark as it could get... I was done, and at her daring decided to leave. When I took her up on it, she flew into a rage and became violent with me. Being sensitive anyway, I never really forgot and though things stabilized between us, they never got good again, and I feel that I have invested enough time, and must move on. I have already made that decision, however I was wondering if you ladies had any advice for me. I have much love and respect for gemini women (and my wife). I know communication is important, but I feel like with her feelings in the mix, nothing I say in conversation will make her "okay" with the fact that I want out. Any advice on how to speak with her and try to let her see that I (and I think if she were honest herself) would be happier elsewhere?

Thanks!

Thanks!

I wouldn't get violent, but when we "dare" a guy to leave....it IS to test them. Stupid I know, but we want you to stay with us despite us giving you the green light and acting like a raving lunatic. Maybe if you are totally honest and up front with her, things can be salvaged. It sounds like you have shut down however and made your decision not to put anymore effort into the relationship.

You would be amazed what a few well places, sweet words/gestures will do for us. You obviously care, otherwise you wouldn't be posting here.

her behaviour has nothing to do with her being a gemini she has internal issues that SHE needs to deal with. getting violent and daring you to leave are NOT normal behavioral traits. she needs space to work on herself be4 even considering entering a relationship with another person. since your married, then its space she needs.

though unfortunately she needs to figure these things out on her own..no amount of telling or showing her would make a diff. u dont have control over her actions only yours. u should decide what u want to put up'n live with and take it from there.

luck

She dared you to leave to see just how much you care for her....you left...this hurt her very much and that made her pain turn into rage. Even though we can't forget when some one hurts us, we can forgive. It was dark and never the same again bc your reactions to her test even afterwards may have proved to her (in her mind at least) you still didn't care. It is a long vicious cycle. One has to compromise if it is going to work. Will it be you? That's a hard one but it depends if you really love her. On a last note, I'm not saying it is your fault. We are very hard to grasp and sometimes create our own problems. There is no reasoning for her if you leave so do not try. Just remain as civil as possible. Best of luck to you.