Soulmate? Dilemma!

Hi All

Just wanted some advice or words of encouragement really... I work with this saggi guy, and we met in unusual circumstances, and as a result of our meeting we are working together promoting his band, and im writing for a music magazine..

It sounds silly, but i thought that he was my soulmate... I followed the advice of Yasmin Boland, and wrote a love diary, listing the qualities of the man i wanted etc etc... and 2 months later, i met this man and he ticked every single one of these many boxes.

When we are together, there is this intense energy between us.. we are shy around each other, and it feels like this undercurrent of turbulence and passion.. it sounds strange, and ive never ever experiencedthis before..

Anyway, down to the facts.... ive just discovered that he has a partner who had a baby three days ago - this has rocked my world as he/ other band members didnt say anything to me.. not even mentioned it in conversation..

What does this all mean? Is he not my soulmate? Why was this kept secret?

The good thing to come out of it, is that this has lifted my head out of the clouds and reality has kicked in hard.

(PS.. I am obviously not going to pursue a man who is in a relationship with a child)

Ooh GL, thanks for your honesty...and sympathy. You are right in what you say, thankyou xX

Would love to hear other comments too, particularly from saggi men, thanks

Thanks for that EmeraldGem.. I probably am limiting myself.... I do have an internal dilemma between the physical and the spiritual.. I respect both camps, but they both contradict each other and I dont fully trust either... Also, I do like to be in control... but thats a whoooooole other issue 😉 Thanks again chick xX

Im feeling much better too, now the shock has worn off.