What are your actions like meeting new people

I'm curious and want to get a Gemini take on meeting new people. How are you? Do you consider yourself friendly? What if it's a friend of a friend? Or a friend of your spouse?

I would normally associate Gemini's with being friendly and open and be interested in new people, but I really haven't witnessed that much. 😢

What I've witnessed are attitudes like "these aren't my friends" or "I don't need any more friends" or a lack of effort or flat out disinterest.

I'll give two examples.

One was recent. At a party and the husband had a friend who showed up. The husband had met the friend's wife and knew his wife (Gemini) hadn't met her and wanted to introduce them. So husband gets wife's attention (has to yell to be heard over music and the party). Wife comes over bitching "don't ever yell at me to come hither again". Husband says I know you know friend, just wanted to introduce you to friends wife. He introduces. Gemini says "hi" and then proceeds to fuss at her husband, then walks away back to her other friends. The friend's wife had a hurt look on her and it was basically flat out rude behavior. So I talked to her and she said "well, I heard Gemini was rude, didn't realize she'd be that rude". I just said, "I think she's drank a lot and distracted".

Other example was my ex-husband (Gemini). I had met a woman from my women's game night and had met her husband. Thought it would be cool to introduce my husband, thinking they would all get along. So I invited them to a party we had. My ex basically did the same thing in the scenario above and went back to other people he already knew. I tried to invite the couple to some get togethers after that and they never would come. My friend told me they thought my husband was rude and he made them feel very uncomfortable.

So my question to yall is could this be a Gemini thing? I know two people does not set an example of sign behavior. Just wanted to get a Gemini opinion. (hoping I'm wrong).

Why do yall think these two responded like they did?

Now this is how I would imagine a Gemini would go about it. Thanks Geminivixen.

I don't know what the girl's moon sign is.

My exhusband had a cancer moon.

I'm a gem with cancer moon and I've never acted that way towards another I didn't know.... Normally, when meeting new ppl it gives me tremendous anxiety. I am ALWAYS friendly, but will keep myself guarded. I've met sooo many ppl that did not have the best intentions so I keep myself guarded until I can trust...

So that answers it. It's not a Gemini issue. She's just a bitch and he's an arrogant asshole. 😛

Lol! Well, I will agree with TBC. There is an awkwardness about me when I meet new ppl, too...

When meeting EvilTurle's son, I was feeling soooo awkward!! 😢 They were talking on a subject I knew nothing about, so I kept quiet. At one point, I felt so stupid for not knowing anything and I went outside. I needed to collect myself. Lol! His son (virgo) took it as I didn't like him which is so so far from the truth!! It took him a while to meet me again, but the next tike went a lot better! 🙂

*tike=time

Omg... *EvilTurtle.... Sheesh!

It really depends a lot on the situation. If it's in a professionally environment, I'm certainly cordial and attempt to appear friendly with a smile and attentive demeanor. It doesn't always mean I like the person I'm meeting.

If it's a scenario where I'm meeting a friend of my husband, I'm pretty down to earth and more relaxed. Usually when I'm with my guy, I'm more easy going, so being introduced to his friend is no big deal.

I'll be honest, however, I hate going to big events as my class reunion or family reunions etc. I never feel comfortable in those settings. I feel as if I'm being forced to converse with people I have no interest in. It's so much of a facade, I loathe doing it. I can pull it off for a short bit, but then I get bored, and just want to leave. I'm one of those people who likes being with one person more than a lot of people.

Gems always get this stereo type of wanting to mingle with everyone and chat the entire day away. I have my moments of this, but it's rare. I'm much more comfortable hanging with my husband or best friend. I don't feel any pressure to make someone else laugh or happy. I really enjoy getting into deep topics with someone I really like as opposed to making BS up for someone I may never see again in my life.

I guess my virgo rising is responsible for this. I can recall my Mother (aries) who had tons of friends and loved to do the social thing tell me a long time ago that I was not the type to have many friends; I was more about having a few close friends. She was right. For me, it's always been about quality and not quantity.

It depends where I am and stuff. If I'm in a formal setting like work I am very reserved (saturn squares all of my personal planets in my chart) but if I'm at a party I'm friendly and down to earth and will happily have a conversation with anyone. I think us gems can be a little to much for people so we like to tone it down when first meeting people ... We'll pop out the other twin when we feel you can handle us :-P

Posted by Ardni
It depends where I am and stuff. If I'm in a formal setting like work I am very reserved (saturn squares all of my personal planets in my chart) but if I'm at a party I'm friendly and down to earth and will happily have a conversation with anyone. I think us gems can be a little to much for people so we like to tone it down when first meeting people ... We'll pop out the other twin when we feel you can handle us :-P

Thats pretty darn true. Some people find me to be peculiar and get a weird vibe. So, I still act myself but dont get too hyped lol people are strange when your a stranger

Normally I'm pretty open and friendly when meeting new people, but I have been accused of the being rude but that's really rare though. I??ll feel bad and either apologize or try to make amends directly to that person shortly there after.

Like everyone else we have our moments and can't always be happy all the time. The behaviour could be attributed to just about anything really and I don't know anyone who hasn't been at the receiving end of this type of accusation no matter what sign they are 🙂

Im pretty shy according to what Geminis are typically said to be. It actually makes me nervous to meet people especially in groups... But I am never rude im always sweet and friendly if approached but I hardly ever do the approaching. Im a gemini sun w/ pisces moon.

Posted by truecap
I'm curious and want to get a Gemini take on meeting new people. How are you? Do you consider yourself friendly? What if it's a friend of a friend? Or a friend of your spouse?

I would normally associate Gemini's with being friendly and open and be interested in new people, but I really haven't witnessed that much. 😢

What I've witnessed are attitudes like "these aren't my friends" or "I don't need any more friends" or a lack of effort or flat out disinterest.

I'll give two examples.

One was recent. At a party and the husband had a friend who showed up. The husband had met the friend's wife and knew his wife (Gemini) hadn't met her and wanted to introduce them. So husband gets wife's attention (has to yell to be heard over music and the party). Wife comes over bitching "don't ever yell at me to come hither again". Husband says I know you know friend, just wanted to introduce you to friends wife. He introduces. Gemini says "hi" and then proceeds to fuss at her husband, then walks away back to her other friends. The friend's wife had a hurt look on her and it was basically flat out rude behavior. So I talked to her and she said "well, I heard Gemini was rude, didn't realize she'd be that rude". I just said, "I think she's drank a lot and distracted".

Other example was my ex-husband (Gemini). I had met a woman from my women's game night and had met her husband. Thought it would be cool to introduce my husband, thinking they would all get along. So I invited them to a party we had. My ex basically did the same thing in the scenario above and went back to other people he already knew. I tried to invite the couple to some get togethers after that and they never would come. My friend told me they thought my husband was rude and he made them feel very uncomfortable.

So my question to yall is could this be a Gemini thing? I know two people does not set an example of sign behavior. Just wanted to get a Gemini opinion. (hoping I'm wrong).

Why do yall think these two responded like they did?

Sounds more like a territorial concern. Husband introduces wife to another woman and makes it a point to do so.

DeeGee, that's a good thought, but I don't know if that could be it. The husband and his wife are around the late 30/early 40 mark and the husband's friend and his wife are late 50's. Shouldn't be much of a threat.

Posted by gemeliorist
Like everyone else we have our moments and can't always be happy all the time. The behaviour could be attributed to just about anything really and I don't know anyone who hasn't been at the receiving end of this type of accusation no matter what sign they are 🙂

This is very true.

I just think if she's hosting a party at her house, she should go out of her way to be friendly and show some hospitality. She should go out of her way to make sure that guests are comfortable. ESPECIALLY if they don't know anyone.

I was very surprised at her behavior.

Just my thoughts.

Posted by truecap
DeeGee, that's a good thought, but I don't know if that could be it. The husband and his wife are around the late 30/early 40 mark and the husband's friend and his wife are late 50's. Shouldn't be much of a threat.

You'd be surprised. I'm very territorial over my man, more so now than ever. Had to many situations in the past(when I was young and nieve)that went clear over my head.

Just speculating really. It just seems ironic that they both had similar reactions to similar senarios.

So my question to yall is could this be a Gemini thing? I know two people does not set an example of sign behavior. Just wanted to get a Gemini opinion. (hoping I'm wrong).

Why do yall think these two responded like they did?

Sounds more like a territorial concern. Husband introduces wife to another woman and makes it a point to do so.

That's EXACTLY what is was. Let's be honest here. We women are competitive. I have every faith in my husband, but we can be territorial. All people do this, you just have to look for it. Hech, even before I was engaged to my husband, when we'd go out with friends and go dancing etc., if he'd hang out with those people and talk more to the women, I'd get a little miffed. I knew he was doing nothing wrong. And he is so down to earth, he's just a guy who can converse with anyone without putting conditions on it.

I also don't like to be out in public and hear my husband call me by my name from across the room. It's embarrassing and he knows it. Men often do little things to push their woman's buttons. I honestly don't think any of this is a GEMINI thing. It's human nature to flow to your comfort zone. Research studies have shown this time and time again. It's why when you go to a Jr. High dance, guys hang out with guys and girls hang out with girls.

I remember even when my ex and I got married I made a big effort to welcome his friends and their spouses and would get upset with him because he wouldn't even talk to my friends and their spouses. It was so bad that my friends stopped wanting to come around.

Then I see this girl doing the same thing.

Just made me wonder.

I also am curious if it's just the difference between a capricorn approach vs a gemini approach.

Could also be that I was raised to be hospitalible. When I was a kid and my parents would have company come over that had kids, whether I liked them or not, I was expected to include them and be nice and welcoming. So, it could be as simple as being raised that way vs being raised with a different philosophy.

It's an interesting discussion and I'm appreciating all the comments and points that I didn't think about. Helps to try to understand different possibilities of people's motivation and actions.

That's EXACTLY what is was. Let's be honest here. We women are competitive. I have every faith in my husband, but we can be territorial. All people do this, you just have to look for it. Hech, even before I was engaged to my husband, when we'd go out with friends and go dancing etc., if he'd hang out with those people and talk more to the women, I'd get a little miffed. I knew he was doing nothing wrong. And he is so down to earth, he's just a guy who can converse with anyone without putting conditions on it.

I also don't like to be out in public and hear my husband call me by my name from across the room. It's embarrassing and he knows it. Men often do little things to push their woman's buttons. I honestly don't think any of this is a GEMINI thing. It's human nature to flow to your comfort zone. Research studies have shown this time and time again. It's why when you go to a Jr. High dance, guys hang out with guys and girls hang out with girls.
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I just never had much of a problem with that kind of stuff. I think my ex wanted me to be more jealous than I was. Even now, I see the aqua talking to people and I think "Oh awesome! He's getting along with everyone! I'm glad he's having a good time".

Posted by scribble
I'm superficial and polite to 90% of people in my life. I can talk about anything under the sun without actually saying anything at all.

You won't know the real me unless I let you in.

I suppose that could leave people feeling cold.

You sound exactly like most virgo's i know. 😉

Posted by Gembrown
Im pretty shy according to what Geminis are typically said to be. It actually makes me nervous to meet people especially in groups... But I am never rude im always sweet and friendly if approached but I hardly ever do the approaching. Im a gemini sun w/ pisces moon.

I'm like this, too.

As far as the original post, though: I can understand the behavior of those Gems. They were led in a certain direction, were right in the middle of something with certain people, and were annoyed to be called away (especially to be called away by someone yelling across a room).

I would have done things just a little differently by staying a little longer and being a little more polite, but would have excused myself as soon as the social niceties were over. Why would I want to stand there, feeling awkward, when I was just in the middle of something (that may have been important to me) elsewhere?

As far as this:

What I've witnessed are attitudes like "these aren't my friends" or "I don't need any more friends" or a lack of effort or flat out disinterest.

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I absolutely know Gems like that. They make an instant assessment about whether you are interesting or useful to them and will be rude if you are neither. I also make that assessment, but am at least nice to people.

Thank you all for your honesty. I still don't understand it, but suppose I can accept it.

Posted by truecap
Thank you all for your honesty. I still don't understand it, but suppose I can accept it.

How come this is hard to understand? 😢

Because its so different from how I am. At least I'm trying. 🙂