what are your thoughts on the girl texting first?

If you're a girl - do you ever text a guy first when you're just starting to see each other? For instance, you guys agree that Thursday would be a good day to hang out, would you text the guy first to say what's up?

What about if you know the guy likes certain type of activities, for instance, a band. You find out they are playing in your town. Is it weird to be like 'hey! that band is coming to town!' Not asking him out in the text, but just sending an informative message.

If you're a guy - what do you think about being texted by the girl first in the above types of situations?

I guess it could apply to calling too? But I dunno anyone who still calls each other anymore? The only person I talk to on the phone now is my mom haha.

I get impatient and excited and I don't get nervous about texting a guy first, so sometimes I have a hard time restraining myself from sending them. I am not really sure how it could affect their opinion of me. I'm not like begging them to hang out or anything.. But I wonder if I should stop? Does it affect a guys opinion of me and how?

Just be you and you completely, if you want to text first then text first, if he likes you then it shouldnt matter, its part of the dance, guys are just as nervous as girls if not more alot of the time.

there is truth in the psychology of the dance though, theres one who pursues the other and the other pulls back a little, the minute the pursuer pulls back then the other gets anchored and then starts pursuing so just keep that in mind.. just have fun, let it flow, buzz from it and always stay YOU, if he doesnt accept you for who you are then he doesnt fit 🙂

i, personally, hate txting.... but it seems to be something ppl forget about. lol! i do, however, agree with Gucci! i couldn't have said it better than that! 🙂

Do you guys personally ever text/contact the guy first? What are your experiences doing it?

i have.... and normal conversations happen. 🙂

I would not text at all at the beginning of a relationship, personally. I would make plans over the phone and then use texting as a quick way to verify times, etc. And I'd let the guy do the calling and refrain from texting random thoughts just because I can. Technology has advanced, but our animal brains haven't, and guys are still hard-wired to pursue.

I'm probably going to be very unpopular with this opinion!

Posted by misslissa
i, personally, hate txting.... but it seems to be something ppl forget about. lol! i do, however, agree with Gucci! i couldn't have said it better than that! 🙂

Why thankyou miss 🙂

Posted by prudegirl
Do you guys personally ever text/contact the guy first? What are your experiences doing it?

Tbh Ive always just gone with the flow im not afraid to be myself, if i want to phone first then I will but usually it has started off with the guy pursuing me so im already pretty much at ease, all but one have ended up in long term relationships so i havent really played the dating game... There is a guy who i really like at the moe, ive sent him the most horrific mail today that would make ya cringe lmao but i actually dont care i would rather be out of limbo than be worrying whether he likes me enough or not, weve joked in the past loads about being each others ONE, that we will end up marrying each other ect, we meet up then he does this distant thing, last time i moved on but after i did he said he really liked me and stayed in touch (just to give you an understanding of why i sent what i said!) lol this is how bad the mail was, so you wont feel that bad about texting first lol..

"If you can get past your "Commitment Phobia" do you fancy trying out an experiment? like seeing if this works? If you havent quite got the attraction factor JUST SQUINT YOUR EYES OR SUMINK! i will do the same! ;D .. See i noticed we have the same taste and buy all the same stuff so if we ever decide to get married and move in together i dont ever have to lob any of my stuff away, WE JUST HAVE EXTRA! and if we ever split then you wont want any of my stuff coz you already have it! wahooo!..... Life is running out and I only want the very best to share my adventures, Lots can happen in a couple of months so if youve gone off and fallen inlove then thats the way it is, well happy life of love 😄

(fuck i sent it it off and i hadnt even decided whether i was gonna send it! bahahaha dayemn! oh well shit happens)...

Soo! heres the experiment, may as well have it now! O_O ...
http://aquarius-man.com/loveCompatibility/aquariusandgemini.html<BR>
now youve probably thought FUCK! O_O well that matters shit to me, will be you feeling nauseous at this mail not me ;D lmao, chow! x "

so anyways being an aqua and a guy! i will probably never here from him again lol if i hear nothing from that i can just move on, look at it like that lol, better to lose them to live in fear of losing them, say what you want to say live as you, if he likes you enough then he will stick around, if

thats my sad attempt of a chat up unemotional gemini style 😄

Hahaha, gucci. I don't know if it's just cause I'm a gem too, but your note is funny. I wouldn't be put off by it, but I am definitely not a man. I am just like that though where I'll think up a message and know I shouldn't send it, but I'm so impatient and want to know what's going on so then I close my eyes and press send anyway. So bad.. I need to work on my self-control.

My curiosity right now is because I met a guy last weekend and he seemed into me. He is way too gorgeous for me, but whatever, I was wearing a hot dress and I just accepted that he liked me. He says he'd come meet me at this bar Thursday (last night) after a sporting event I regularly go to. He said he knew some other people going so he'd stop by and we could hang out again. Last night, I find out by email that the sporting thing is cancelled. He wouldn't have received that email since he's not a player as I am. So I figured I'd just send him a text letting him know it's cancelled and hope he'd respond saying we could still hang out and do something else instead. All I said was "hey, so it turns out the game is cancelled cause of the rain" and I get no response. I dunno what his sign is. Anyway, I just don't get it. I guess he probably found some other lady to distract him for the night, he didn't need me.

You obviously have more history with your guy than I do, so I'm sure you have a better shot.

I am kind of a nervous kook when it comes to guys, so I know there are some 'rules' girls are supposed to follow. But, part of me is like f that, I'll just do it my way, and eventually someone will kind it funny and endearing. But I'm starting to lose hope on that one, so maybe I need to play by the rules.

lol! dont bet on it weve only met 3 times! haa, but weve been in touch for about a year, hes kinda gone awol again as he did last time so he`s probs gone off and found something else too, now come on if he doesnt respond to that then ive got the message, ive not put it out there until now so hey ho!

He may have just been busy, maybe suggest doing something instead yourself, not like you have anything to lose, or just wait a couple of days.. Do gemini`s follow rules? nah only our own 😉.. hey dont listen to me lol I mean! look what i did!! O_O haha.. just do what you are comfortable with just dont compromise who you are 🙂