Which twin should I be listening to?

Hey guys. After thinking about it, I decided a secondary post with a different question would be more appropriate.

Long story short, hooked up with a Gem I've liked for a while and he knows I'm interested in him. This morning, at 2:41AM, he texted me asking "1-10 honestly how good was that" I was confused at first because I was thinking he was gonna send me some new music he was making or something. Turns out he was referring to our hookup almost two days prior. I kinda gave him a meh-answer, as I didn't want to feed his ego too much or make him think I'm all crazy about him. I'm not sure why it matters to him so much how well he pleased me. He seemed as though he wanted to keep hooking up with me until it's a 10, I guess. He went on and on about how good he would be next time. Which is confusing, because when we hooked up, he wanted me to tell him he's better than the other guys I'm dating/hooking up with. He also wanted me to tell him only HE gets certain privileges and he wanted me to tell him that he was the best and I won't want to hookup with anyone else but him. For the record, we were high, but when he came down, I asked him to confirm he didn't care if I hooked up with other guys, and he said indeed he did not care. So if he doesn't care and this is all hooking up, why does my opinion of his skills matter?

Today, he also admitted to liking me in a way, I think. I was telling him about how I had a good conversation with my supervisor (I'm an undergraduate researcher), and how I thought he was cool, and he says, "You're cool too! Don't let him have all the credit." Sounds more romantic than FWB-ish. And in terms of meeting up to "hang out," I told him I was busy this weekend so we would see what was up next weekend, and he said "All good! Keep doing you 🙂" I feel like he's throwing the hooking up with other guys back on me, by saying it's my decision, to keep doing me.

Sounds like a case of the twins. Is this one twin wants to commit so he can have me all to himself and another wants the freedom? If cutting off my other options means I might get a shot to be with him as his girlfriend, I will strongly consider. What should I do, what does he really want?

Talk to him about it. I know I myself at times act like something's not bugging me but deep down it does. I have a way of being all whatever and then being really passed off/sad/angry etc.

We will internalize something's and not make mention of certain things unless your actions/words say otherwise.
Just ask him to meet somewhere public and tell him what's on your mind mrather than guess..

Do you want a committed relationship with this Gemini? Just be direct and open, he will appreciate it.
Good luck!!_—

GeminiGem, I guess I could try to reaffirm that he doesn't care when I see him next, but I'm a bit worried about being rejected and him running off like last time. Like I said, I'm confused because after we hooked up, he told me he wanted to be FWB "to avoid any problems," and I asked him about dating non-exclusively, and he said "FWB for now but it can change maybe later 🙂" Maybe this is a case of the Gemini being fluid and changing their mind, maybe he changed his mind when after we hooked up I didn't chase him/made it seem like I didn't need him? Unsure. I'm worried he'll be like my last Gem ex and keep moving me around between girlfriend/dating/FWB.

Most importantly, I don't want to drop all my others for him to NOT do the same. If we BOTH drop others (I'm not sure if he even has any) and only sleep with each other...well, that's kinda a relationship...haha. Before we even discussed hooking up, I was telling him how things went sour with my last ex, and he said "Sometimes it's hard to make a commitment. Especially when you're so young. Having fun can be nice 🙂"
So if he doesn't want a commitment, but doesn't want me sleeping with anyone else...idk how to do that.

LOL... honestly how old is he?

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Posted by yamilette7410
Most importantly, I don't want to drop all my others for him to NOT do the same. If we BOTH drop others (I'm not sure if he even has any) and only sleep with each other...well, that's kinda a relationship...haha. Before we even discussed hooking up, I was telling him how things went sour with my last ex, and he said "Sometimes it's hard to make a commitment. Especially when you're so young. Having fun can be nice 🙂"
So if he doesn't want a commitment, but doesn't want me sleeping with anyone else...idk how to do that.

Gem?s are extremely emotional... You are too... even not trusting... talking all this big talk.

It is a Gem. retro... think about the timing... I was almost a scorpio moon full last night. Am I the only one that reads astrology around here.


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piscesmoon2, we're both college students, so early 20s? LOL. This is like the hardest time for me to like a Gem cause right now they're like...everywhere, in terms of relationships/commitment.

I know from my past Gem experience that going with the flow is critical, but I'm trying to decipher where his flow is going. I know Merc is in retro right now and communication is not the greatest, but I'm just trying to make sure I don't hurt this Gem on accident.

@yamilette7410 - please keep us updated, I am very interested in how this turns out. I currently am weighing the option of becoming a FWB with a Gem that desires me physically and mentions not knowing what the future holds, but most us ladies know thats just comfort talk to get us into bed.

Long story short about mine - this Gem isnt one that I dated recently, we went out a few months ago a couple times and although chemistry nothing sparked so we each kinda went our own way. I reached out to him one day to find out what happened and we started friendly talking here and there.

Now I have this new issue of - to do or not to do...I would be breaking about 5 years of celibacy so Im just wondering how your situation plays out. Please let us know!

Updating, and going to try to be as concise as possible.
Gem texts me asking for a benefit, claims to be "craving it," lol. I tease him about not being able to wait until this weekend. I also tell him my schedule won't allow it for today, and he keeps trying to convince me. I curve him and remind him we're not exclusive, if I can't do it, someone else can. No direct response to that. I follow that by telling him I don't mean to be rude, but he seems kinda new to FWB, or the girls he's been with are dropping everything to see him because they think they can trick him into a relationship. I also inform him a guy I'm dating might ask me out soon. No response to either. I text him and ask him if he's still down for the weekend (I know that was several ego blows at once). He says he will "check his calendar" (bullpoop) and says he has to study a bit but that's all. We decide on Friday, although he says he's more of a "moment" person and he really can't tell me for sure.

I reminded him that hopefully he did not think he was just going to collect his benefit and leave. He said I would have benefited as well. Various compliments about my quality of delivery of benefits and parts of my body. Then has the audacity to bring up the idea of a threesome (2 girls 1 guy). Told him no, and set up a trap by telling him it's for boyfriends only. Says he was "just curious," and threesome would be weird in a relationship cause you're only supposed to like your girl. I ask him how I know I'm not gonna lose him to the other girl, and remind him he can handle his business himself (AKA have 2 girls separately) because he's grown. He suggests an observation period of said act and tries to kid and says the girl with the better performance would win in real life..."sorry jkjkjk" Riiiiiight. Anyways, I remind him I don't have to compete, I can just kick him off and move the next person into his spot. He balks immediately, calls it a bad idea and says he's never asking again.

Then, get this.

He asks me if I tell any of my friends about him. I'm wondering why he needs to know...I figure a grown man doesn't need his thots (I know I'm degrading myself here but just go with it) to do the work he can easily do himself. I don't need to advertise for him. I respond, "Should I?" He says, "I dunno, just tell meeee. I guess you wouldn't talk if it was bad..." Again with the need for approval. Unsure why insecure runs so deep. I tell him FWB is kept on the low, and I only tell my girlfriends about guys I'm dating. The whole point of FWB is to be secret. He says "I'm glad you understand the code 🙂" Read: backtrack of the century. He says he thought girls told each other everything. Mmk.

I try to fish him a little about if what he told me in the sack was valid or not. Give him cover of "under the influence" and "mesmerized by the activity" and he takes it. So doesn't really respond to my fishing. I continue calling him his favorite dom nickname, and he tells me to stop cause it's making him think about me. He suggests replicating a video, because experts. I curve him and tell him he needs to learn the basics before we get more adventurous. Claims he'll have it down after next time. Again, I tell him he needs to learn, and good thing I'm a good teacher. He says it's not a good thing, and I put him in his place quickly.

Tell him I can be limp and let him hope he figures it out by himself. He says I still didn't answer his question. I told him "We're not dating, I don't owe you an answer?" And he says "I just wanna knowww." Mmk. I ask him "Why? We're just friends with benefits. Does it matter to you who I hook up with?" For the record, after the first time, I asked him if he cared who I hooked up with and he said no. I think he cares more than he wants to let on.

During this gap, HE SENDS MY BEST FRIEND (we all had a chemistry lab together, this is how I met this Gem) A FRIEND REQUEST ON FB. Why? Does he need approval from her? Is he going to fish her for information? Is he trying to keep tabs on me?

He says he wants to know how many other *ahem* he's touching and to forget about it because I'm making it harder than it needs to be, "haha that's what she said" joke follows. Sounds like boy was angry that I cornered him. I tell him if he's so worried about it he needs to use protection. And he brings up that I mentioned I changed last year, and so I think that implies total body count, which again, not sure why that matters. Says the basketball game is on, ttyl.

So, again, which twin should I listen to? I'm more confused than I was before. Hmmmm.