Am I reading too much into this?

As I see it, it means exactly what he said - no reading between the lines needed.

He likes you, but not so much that you should get your hopes up...at least too much. He doesn't want to string you along when he feels he can't promise you anything. Imo.

It means exactly what you feel it means. You know deep down that if he was interested that he would make the time to see you. You are probably justifying his responses/actions by thinking "well he's still texting" and "he's not out right saying he doesn't like me, so that must mean he's interested right?". Well you are right, he's interested enough to keep you stringing along but not interested enough to lock you down. Don't take it personally, you're probably a gorgeous, cool and intelligent chick, but doesn't mean you are right for him and vice versa. Usually what happens is someone will work out, before the other, that you two don't really mesh well relationship wise. The other person notices a sudden change and suddenly the fear of rejection makes them want that person even more (or at least makes them think they want them). In reality it's just an ego thing. The more someone push's you away, the more you want to prove you are worthy so you try harder. The only way to prove your worthiness in this situation is to walk away.

Move on with your life, but answer his calls/texts. Maybe he just needs to take things slow...while not stringing you along since he doesn't know. When/if he's ready one day, I'm sure he'll let you know. I think he has been very clear and up-front so far (as I read it, anyway.)

Move on. I've heard these lines before. If he were into you, he'd be doing everything he could to see you. Even if his reasons are legit, he's still not that into you. Also, you pursuing him by continuing to text him makes you less attractive. Leos love the chase. Drop him, move on.

OK, so I'm a Leo (but not a male one... LOL), but I disagree with some of the non- Leo responses (no offense).

"I like you a lot, i just feel like i need to take things slow. I have a tendency to jump into things and I dont want to get hurt or hurt you. It seems like we've both been through a lot in the past and im a lot more cautious these day"....

^^^ In Leo-talk, this means: We've both been hurt before and I'm scared to move too fast. I need to take it slow.

" Of course! Ill always be straight with you and dont want to lead you on. I just dont know if you feel like im holding you back and I dont want that.".......

^^^ Translation: I feel like you might be frustrated by my manner of holding back because I'm afraid. If you don't feel that you can handle this, then I don't want to feel that I'm holding you back from living how you want to live.

My impression? He likes you, but he's scared. Simple as that!

Any male Leos wanna take a shot at this??

Posted by heliumfiasco
Ahhhhh, what a bummer I really liked this man! So, should I just back off completely? I dont want to continue messaging him and what not and look like a freak.

YIKES! You definitely don't want to do this to a Leo, especially if you like him!! Leos like/need contact, so keep the contact up without going overboard.

Feel free to suggest doing something fun together on a Friday or Saturday. Think of interests that you both have in common. A local summer fair? An art festival? A sports match? Whatever! Just something fun that you can share.

I've dated several Leos. The ones who were playing me were exactly like this. Seemingly all in, telling me how much they liked me, texting, liking things on my Facebook but when it came down to it, they were flakey and non-committal. Why? Because they had other options they were pursuing..

The one Leo that was totally into me made every effort to see me, take me out and make me feel special. He never flaked on me.

Point is, Leo or not, men can say all kinds of things but words are cheap. Actions are what matters. If this guy isn't showing you how much he likes you by actually trying to see you, he's not that into you. It doesn't matter why he's not doing it. It could be anxiety, it could be commitment issues, it could be because he's seeing other women, etc. What matters is he's not.

Female Leo here and while I can't speak as a guy I can tell you that I agree with most of the responses that he's not that into you (Don't mean to sound harsh). I can totally be flakey but if I'm really into someone I make the effort to see them in person or make it known that I want to see them or talk to them. There are moments when I need my alone time but that usually means from everyone BUT the person I am really interested in a relationship. I am generally only flakey about things I;m either lukewarm or completely uninterested in. Things and people I really care about get my undivided attention a majority of the time.

AS for keeping up contact this only works if he's interested. If he is not your continued texting will only annoy him. My suggestion is to say to him something along the lines of "I do like you and I understand you want to take things slow which I am kay with (only say this if it's true) however, if you are no longer interested in seeing me I would appreciate knowing that." Suggest a specific date and if he can't make the time then drop him.

Posted by heliumfiasco
Ahhhhh, what a bummer I really liked this man! So, should I just back off completely? I dont want to continue messaging him and what not and look like a freak.

Definitely back off. Phase him out with the slow fade. He will either step up because he really does not want to lose out on a chance with you or he will be too set in his ways.

Time and patience will be your best key in finding your truth.

I've used those lines countless times. When I use them, it is usually because I feel me and her are not on the same page, and I respect her enough and care about her enough that I don't want to hurt her. I'm a slow stepper with relationships myself, and always approach the honeymoon stage with caution and moderation. Generally speaking if I feel the relationship is not going anywhere, I will simply say so, and cut out. If I feel there is potential, but want to slow the pace down, then I usually approach it like your dude did to you TC.

Just take it slow, respect his space, and let things happen naturally. Let it flow naturally. If it happens it happens.

He sounds very open and honest, don't make his personal problems about you. He specifically said he has a tendency of jumping into things and that he doesn't want to hurt you, or himself. Sounds like he knows EXACTLY what he's talking about. Don't try to decipher or interpret what he's saying, listen to what he's actually saying! Just like when he says he really like you and enjoys your company

Posted by Ellycakes
The Leo I saw briefly said almost the exact same things to me. All over it the first few weeks. Then took a left turn and 'didn't want to lead me on' after he had already lead me on lol. He too said he still wanted to chill and keep in touch. But I backed all the way off he never inquired about my life or asked to see me after that.

Yeah I've done this too, me leading her on was all in her head though bc she figured the fact that I treat her decent & the fact that I like her and spending time with her = me 'taking turn for the left' just bc I don't see myself jumping into yet another "serious" thing off the bat

...when what it is, is that I know myself well enough to say I have nothing to give of myself at this point in life. It's not leading you on just bc I'm dating & enjoying hanging out with you!

Just live life with no expectations lol

I really like what @enfant_terrible said in both posts above because I think he's giving the OP an honest and candid view into the male Leo psyche.

Leos can sometimes get a bum rap not because they deserve it, but because they are often misunderstood.When we allow our own fears and insecurities to dictate our actions, we're not being fair to those around us who are trying to be honest and straight forward.

Thank you all so much for your advice, I genuinely took time to consider each response. @enfant_terrible I think you made a lot of sense. He still keeps in contact. He is in a band and sent me their newest song and said that I was the only one besides the band to hear it. That's not a huge deal but a very nice gesture. Supposedly, he will be in contact this week to get dinner. We shall see.... Its now been two weeks since I've seen him. But he was recording last week, and my family is in town visiting me this week. So, Its been hard. I will just relax and see where things go. Its just hard when you really like someone. He is also aware that I am a commitment addict. I've been in 3 long-term relationship back-to-back. I was just being honest. I think that may have startled him. I usually go on one date and I'm done or I go on another and end up in a 3 year relationship. So perhaps this will actually be a good learning experience for me as far as dating goes. I'm going to relax and just see how he takes things and follow that lead.

Any dating tips for Leos?