@Zarah
10 Years
Leo man and disrespect
Understanding a Leo Man's Disrespect and Relationship Signals
A Leo man's reaction may reflect pride and a need for respect. His comments and silence could indicate hurt or frustration. The quote he posted suggests he is contemplating the relationship's future. Open communication is essential to clarify feelings and rebuild trust in your relationship.
I'm confused too.
Is what you wrote the worst things that happened between the two of you?
Is babe a derogatory word?
How old are you both?
I mean, seriously, the way I read this it's like you are two kids in a sandbox. Maybe I missed something?
I think you should learn to not be so offended words.
More so one that is primarily used as a term of endearment.
So- idk i would focus more on that.
That'd be a goal i'd set for myself.
Yup. Goals are good.
gl.
@happycapper yes that's the worst and first serious fight we have and babe is degatory the problem is he called me babe and I replied with a harsh tune when I said "what" I'm 21 and his 33
Posted by Zarah
@happycapper yes that's the worst and first serious fight we have and babe is degatory the problem is he called me babe and I replied with a harsh tune when I said "what" I'm 21 and his 33
Is he aware that you see the word babe as being a derogatory word?
Ah, Okay..i understand what happened now.
you went full retard.
So i got a question-
When your chillen in a tgi fridays eating potato skins- and this comes on
Do you go into a full nazi crying rage and demand for it to be turned off?
Or do you just go home and write a 30 paragraph blog post on how offended you were by your "thank god it's Friday" experience.
10 of those paragraphs solely complaining about the word "god" in their slogan.
I'm soooooooooooo curious.
What's your sign OP ?
No its word what is the problem. My parents were like yes dad, yes mom and I said what couple times and oh man I was in trouble for that word. Wash my mouth out with soap. Oh man even what is used over the phone.
I sometimes do that too. But My bad. It's a bad habit.
I guess If I had kids definitely I would be correcting the word what if I heard it too. There is a way to use the word what actually.
Listen, the guy likes you and therefore cares how you perceive him. He used the word in a non hostile manner, perhaps in an attempt to defuse the situation and to initiate affection. Your response hurt his ego, and he is feeling hurt and embarrassed all in one, because he feels he showed weakness and you took advantage of it.
You are too young for him...different generations and this is proof :/
How are you confused? You were mean to him, when he was being affectionate towards you. He left you alone because that is what any self respecting person would do.
in the mid 90s there was a minor feminist movement where the term "babe" was being redefined as derogatory, it culimated in the movie "barbwire" and then died out. I wonder if people are trying to revive this idea of the term "babe" as being derogatory.
FYI here is the movie:
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0115624/
and a link
got to 2:00 minutes for the "dont call me babe" part
Am I the only one who thinks the Leo overreacted? All she said was "what".
Sounds to me more like the beginning of a relationship where the involved parties haven't fully developed a common language and the ability to read eachother's intentions, so every little butthurt gets magnified.
Posted by rabidtalker
in the mid 90s there was a minor feminist movement where the term "babe" was being redefined as derogatory,
Ugh,I couldn't be with a person who takes themselves THAT seriously. I mean we all have aversion to certain petnames and whatnot, but don't bring politics into it. We're not co-workers ffs
If I say you are my little kittyfart then by god you are one !
He wants you to put some respek in his name
I'm so sorry for that ^ 😄
Posted by LynxSA
Listen, the guy likes you and therefore cares how you perceive him. He used the word in a non hostile manner, perhaps in an attempt to defuse the situation and to initiate affection. Your response hurt his ego, and he is feeling hurt and embarrassed all in one, because he feels he showed weakness and you took advantage of it.
Yep
Posted by Zarah
@happycapper yes that's the worst and first serious fight we have and babe is degatory the problem is he called me babe and I replied with a harsh tune when I said "what" I'm 21 and his 33I don't know how to bold, but it's in here
She wrote 'babe is derogatory'
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I get a pretty harsh tone sometimes. Especially after my long NICU days where I come home collecting my brains off the floor. Not an excuse but I'll be edgy. Sharp ass tongue. It's probably best I have no human contact after work to avoid any of it lol. But for some reason this leo hasn't given up on me. Yet.
I've never had a boyfriend so effected by my bitch faceness. He is very understanding and nurturing but the minute I get short or respond with attitude... There is this pause.... And a look... Gone too far.... I'm good at finding things to bitch about over nothing too. Just for the sake of bitching. I can really tear someone apart and for him I make great effort to not do that.
He gets so mopey and sad. It's a terrible state to see him in. He hates the disrespect. It's hard for him because all he wants to do is support me and love me.
One of the hardest things to do is to look within myself and recognize that. To talk to him about it and admit what an asshole I am being. We have moved mountains and grown so much. I have a tendency to blow up and not explain why.
Is there something missing to your story? It seems a little weird he would just disappear off of one WHAT lol
You're so gorgeush if I was a Leo Boi I'd totally date yo ath lol 😘
Posted by brandyp
Am I the only one who understands what's going on?? It's not the word babe that is derogatory, it was the forceful/ disrespectful response of " what!!?" That is the problem. Honestly, it was a little disrespectful the way you responded, but you guys were having a fight. These things happen. He should forgive you, and you should agree not to answer your Leo like that. I don't see how he would break up with you over that though. That's just silly. Then again, Leo's do have fragile ego....
Somehow, I doubt this is a first for her.
Posted by Zarah
@happycapper yes that's the worst and first serious fight we have and babe is degatory the problem is he called me babe and I replied with a harsh tune when I said "what" I'm 21 and his 33I don't know how to bold, but it's in here
She wrote 'babe is derogatory'
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She's not interested.
A bit extreme. Control issues. Even if he felt disrespected it's a bit much to tell you to go learn respect. That's like a female telling a man to go learn some moves if you know what I'm saying… Punking moves. But next time if you're mad and a guy tries to come at you soft.. Might come off better saying yeah instead of what. Unless he killed your dog or something.
What did you get mad at anyway? That might answer more.. If it's just the babe thing then idk. He obvi didn't mean it that way. It's used for endearment. So uh…
Posted by AriesLove
This man has control issues which he probably has been throwing at you the whole relationship.I don't care how old he is...he is immature. All you said was "what" and apologized thereafter but he continues his little tirade to belittle you.
I honestly think this a doomed relationship, look at the age difference. He will never see you as his partner only a weak little girl. I don't care what no one says Leos need a strong secure woman that they can respect.
True true… -.-
I wonder if she informed him already about the babe thing and he did it just to challenge healthy boundaries.. To then turn around and act like she's being insolent when she had the more rightful place to feel an unnecessary power struggle against her. Either way it's a red flag - either from feeling like he can't respect you (age) or feeling like he failed from thinking your age would make you much more malleable and found too much resistance.
No he overreacted I definitely agree. He has control issues and is very immature.
I think people on these forums go way overboard with Leo a $ $ kissings. One thing is to appreciate a person and their good qualities but to constantly feed an ago that is immature and selfish is quite disgusting in my opinion.
No Leo will ever respect you. No man period.
Heh the irony of your post is uncanny. I could easily counter, and say you have major insuperiority issues. It is not as simple as she just said "what". It is the delivery, that counts. She was being bratty (she admitted as much) and that "what" was probably dropped in a sarcastic manner, and in poor taste. Did he overreact? We just don't know, there are two sides to a story, and who knows the history here. it is very easy to judge and label someone as immature, but I could easily counter that and say the guy realized he is messing with a kid (which she is) and they are not compatible, so he just moved on before things get uglier. You know, things level headed individuals do? Recognize their mistakes, learn from them, and move on?
Posted by Zarah
So my Leo man and I had a fight where he called me babe twice and I replied "what " in a kinda harsh tone although I didn't mean anything. Few minutes later he came into the room so **** and angry he said " I called you babe twice and all you could say was what" he also said "if you see me next time don't say hi "I was shocked so I left to my place although I felt awful for replying him with the "what " because not everyone likes the word so when I got back home I sent him a text apologizing for everything then he replied with " go and learn respect by then you would have a boyfriend " I was scared has he broken up with me? And he recently posted a picture on his wall with a quote " when a relationship is ordained by God you don't need to force it to work " what does this mean? It's been been 5 days now we haven't talked. I'm confused
I hate to think a male Leo would leave you for something so small. Then again some of us are easy to date, but hard to keep.
No he overreacted I definitely agree. He has control issues and is very immature.
I think people on these forums go way overboard with Leo a $ $ kissings. One thing is to appreciate a person and their good qualities but to constantly feed an ago that is immature and selfish is quite disgusting in my opinion.
No Leo will ever respect you. No man period.
Heh the irony of your post is uncanny. I could easily counter, and say you have major insuperiority issues. It is not as simple as she just said "what". It is the delivery, that counts. She was being bratty (she admitted as much) and that "what" was probably dropped in a sarcastic manner, and in poor taste. Did he overreact? We just don't know, there are two sides to a story, and who knows the history here. it is very easy to judge and label someone as immature, but I could easily counter that and say the guy realized he is messing with a kid (which she is) and they are not compatible, so he just moved on before things get uglier. You know, things level headed individuals do? Recognize their mistakes, learn from them, and move on?
IDK what the hell you are talking about. I don't owe anyone on here anything. I speak my mind. I'm not in a relationship with any of you people.
What kind of word is "insuperiority"
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Ditto 😉
hes done with you! serves him right! dumb guy in his 30s dating a 22 year old! immature guy!
Posted by Zarah
@happycapper yes that's the worst and first serious fight we have and babe is degatory the problem is he called me babe and I replied with a harsh tune when I said "what" I'm 21 and his 33I don't know how to bold, but it's in here
She wrote 'babe is derogatory'
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Press Quote and see what I did - you'll see how it works. If you don't, just ask and I'll try to explain it a little bit better. If you're interested, that is.🙂
She's not interested.
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LOL Love the gif!😄
I get a pretty harsh tone sometimes. Especially after my long NICU days where I come home collecting my brains off the floor. Not an excuse but I'll be edgy. Sharp ass tongue. It's probably best I have no human contact after work to avoid any of it lol. But for some reason this leo hasn't given up on me. Yet.
I've never had a boyfriend so effected by my bitch faceness. He is very understanding and nurturing but the minute I get short or respond with attitude... There is this pause.... And a look... Gone too far.... I'm good at finding things to bitch about over nothing too. Just for the sake of bitching. I can really tear someone apart and for him I make great effort to not do that.
He gets so mopey and sad. It's a terrible state to see him in. He hates the disrespect. It's hard for him because all he wants to do is support me and love me.
One of the hardest things to do is to look within myself and recognize that. To talk to him about it and admit what an asshole I am being. We have moved mountains and grown so much. I have a tendency to blow up and not explain why.
Is there something missing to your story? It seems a little weird he would just disappear off of one WHAT lol
I have friends who work in the hospital too and are always fired up after long shifts. You just need some
activities for letting off some steam. And if you sense you are about to blow up excuse yourself do some thing like a brisk walk. If you boil over from 0 to 100 in a second then its more difficult obviously.Try exercising, listening to aggressive hard rock music, punchingbag, hitting the gym
right after work and raise hell there, anything what works for you.
Maybe you are a masculine woman and intimated him in the same exact way like him:
Or like him:
Posted by Zarah
@happycapper yes that's the worst and first serious fight we have and babe is degatory the problem is he called me babe and I replied with a harsh tune when I said "what" I'm 21 and his 33I don't know how to bold, but it's in here
She wrote 'babe is derogatory'
Bold
Italic
Underlined
Press Quote and see what I did - you'll see how it works. If you don't, just ask and I'll try to explain it a little bit better. If you're interested, that is.🙂
She's not interested.
LOL Love the gif!😄
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Me too. 😄
@Koniuchaa
I just liked the gif.
Good to see you back, btw.
I think he is overreacting ..but I get him I swear I am the same way with certain words..must be my leo moon. When I was younger I use to make a big deal about word Play and tones and the word WHat is one of them. Now i am older I am a little easy on people. But there are certain things I will not take and I would warn a person of crossing lines . If you'll do talk again..you talk to him about things he uncomfortable with and you tell him about your boundaries,but make sure this isn't a control thing.
Posted by Arielle83
Yeah this is why dudes in their 30s go for just legal.They can't chill with a chick their own age that has expectations.
They need someone to control and mold. A young'in.
If they are insecure. I know a lot of guys younger guys included who like older woman because they are
not complicated, no drama,.know what they like, good in bed,.............gotta go chop some wood.
Or like him:
LOLOLOL
How are these gems going unnoticed?
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I dont get it gems, what do you mean?
Or like him:
LOLOLOL
How are these gems going unnoticed?
I dont get it gems, what do you mean?
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Gems, as in small treasures... not Geminis.
I thought it was well-placed and funny as hell.
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This is my Merc square ASC in action. 😐
What he meant by "you don't need to force it to work" is this..
You are a jigsaw piece and so is he. Therefore, if your outline (core principles) and his outline are defined to connect, then they will. If they're not not defined to connect, then they won't connect.
There is no "forcing" then together. The quicker you realise what you stand for, and the sooner he does too, then you can communicate the dos and don'ts - kind of like "laying down the cards" and seeing whether or not this relationship "can" work before you move into it.
Since a Leo man by nature is impatient, here are a few tips for you:
Every word you speak must leave traces of love and respect. Anything other than that, will kill a Leos flame. If you kill a Leos flame and he continues to stay with you (for whatever reason) you're with a dead person. He won't be himself.
Don't snap at a Leo either, it's in our nature to fight back. With us, it's either peace or war - there's no "in between" here.
Never lie to a Leo. The following is counted as a lie with you agree or not.
White lie.
Diverting from his inquiry (whatever it may be)
Withholding information that he would want to know, even if he didn't ask.
Sugar coating the truth
... You get the picture.
It's not easy being in a relationship ship with a Leo. We are much like fire. You can either give us what we need to sustain a warm and comforting relationship, you piss us off to we burn with rage until our feelings turn to ashes, or you can put us out completely to make us feeling nothing at all for you, as though we never did feel anything for you.
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So my Leo man and I had a fight where he called me babe twice and I replied "what " in a kinda harsh tone although I didn't mean anything. Few minutes later he came into the room so **** and angry he said " I called you babe twice and all you could say was what" he also said "if you see me next time don't say hi "
I was shocked so I left to my place although I felt awful for replying him with the "what " because not everyone likes the word so when I got back home I sent him a text apologizing for everything then he replied with " go and learn respect by then you would have a boyfriend " I was scared has he broken up with me? And he recently posted a picture on his wall with a quote " when a relationship is ordained by God you don't need to force it to work " what does this mean? It's been been 5 days now we haven't talked. I'm confused