Can you be friends after dating or is it weird for you?

I was cut loose by a Leo man last month. He wants to focus on rebuilding his life and career. He is currently living at home again, started a new very time consuming job, and is saving to buy a house after a BAD ending to a 6 year relationship 11 months ago.

We didn't talk for a few weeks, after I told him I found the way he handled things to be disrespectful.

(Example. Texting me to split, standing me up for a hangout, etc.) He told me I had no idea what he was thinking or feeling, that his mind was in a million places, and that this was exactly why he couldn't be in a relationship. We left it at that.

So, I thought about it and came to the conclusion that I understand his view point and would like to be friends because I genuinely really enjoy him, we have a ton in common and get along really well.

I messaged him and told him I understood his perspective, I hope he understood mine and that I hope we can grab a beer in the future and at least be friends. He replied " Yeah, our last conversation sucked.Yeah, we can do that." He seemed very dry compared to his old super warm self. I sent him a funny meme later that day and he didn't respond.

Should I invite him out in a few weeks? Or do you think leave him be? I don't want to seem bothersome if he is just being polite.

Posted by Ellygant
Too soon and too much going on. Fixed signs need space.

That is kind of my gut feeling as well.

He is also a Taurus moon. Super fixed.

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Posted by Ellygant
Too soon and too much going on. Fixed signs need space.

That is kind of my gut feeling as well.

He is also a Taurus moon. Super fixed.

Oh yeah def too soon.

Might not ever be able to see you as just a friend honestly, with those placements, as long as he’s single anyhow. The Leo/Taurus combo often likes to have options on deck in my observation.

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I agree with this statement. I wouldn't be opposed to dating in the future if he figures his stuff out. But I'm also totally open to being friends. I also need like 5 minutes to get over stuff. Which isn't for everyone.

I guess I assumed since we only dated for like 6 weeks it would be no issue. But the vibe I get is that he may be irritated by our last conversation in general.

I did read that a Leo will be hyper offended if you question their motives. I didn't necessarily question them per-say but I did say I felt a lack of respect. He was pretty defensive, and he did mention that our last talk "really sucked".

I guess I will put the friendship idea on the back burner for now. Maybe reach out in a few months to see about that beer. haha

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Posted by heliumfiasco
I guess I assumed since we only dated for like 6 weeks it would be no issue. But the vibe I get is that he may be irritated by our last conversation in general.

I did read that a Leo will be hyper offended if you question their motives. I didn't necessarily question them per-say but I did say I felt a lack of respect. He was pretty defensive, and he did mention that our last talk "really sucked".

I guess I will put the friendship idea on the back burner for now. Maybe reach out in a few months to see about that beer. haha

Do you really want a friendship? Or is this your way of working into a dating/relationship scenario again?

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I don't feel like we got to any substantial point. I would totally be open to a platonic friendship and be completely content with that. Would I be opposed to revisiting dating in the future? No.

Personally I find this excuse of “I need to focus on myself/rebuild” kinda bs.

On top of that he broke up with you via text which shows a blatant lack of respect. 6 weeks or not he owed you a face to face.

Your too gorgeous for this nonsense. More fish in the sea.

Posted by vixen14
It sounds like you’re still hopeful that it might possibly lead somewhere. That’s dangerous territory...the only one hat will end up being hurt is you...again.

Nah, it really isn't like that. I'm over the ego bruise. I'm currently dating again as well. I've been on my quest for Mr. Right for awhile and am pretty laid back about this. In all honesty we just had a ton of fun. One of my favorite people to talk music and life with. I'd genuinely like to be friends.

If you weren’t really dating and you didn’t understand him when he was going through it so that’s why he’s dry with you because there is no depth. I would just brush you off

Posted by MoonshineLeo
If you weren’t really dating and you didn’t understand him when he was going through it so that’s why he’s dry with you because there is no depth. I would just brush you off

I hope he didn't see it that way. We were definitely really dating. I thought there was depth, it was just constantly trying to fit in a time to see each other. Especially with the holidays and family it was like once a week maybe. I'm just saying that with it only being 6 weeks I don't feel either of us were madly in love, ya know? So, I figured maybe a transition to friends would be simple. I mean we were kind of friends prior... well friends of friends.

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Posted by vixen14
It sounds like you’re still hopeful that it might possibly lead somewhere. That’s dangerous territory...the only one hat will end up being hurt is you...again.

Nah, it really isn't like that. I'm over the ego bruise. I'm currently dating again as well. I've been on my quest for Mr. Right for awhile and am pretty laid back about this. In all honesty we just had a ton of fun. One of my favorite people to talk music and life with. I'd genuinely like to be friends.

Then give it time. He might be acting cold with you because he probably thinks you're still trying to cling on to him. So he's distant to avoid the wrong impression.

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You're probably very right.

I'm certainly not saying my feelings for him weren't strong or genuine. Or even that I wasn't disappointed. I'm just stating that the plug was pulled quick. So, they didn't develop to a point where I feel a friendship would be inappropriate or impossible.

I literally say to women who I'm interested in that I don't do the "just friends" thing. I have friends who care about me as a person, so I'm not looking for more friends.

The problem is, once that threshold has been crossed, it's practically impossible to go back. Personally if my intentions are romantic, I don't believe in settling for anything less. I'm also a man, so I'm looking for a physical connection as well.