Leo male, HELP

So this leo man was my best friend. Convinced me he loved me. We've been in a sort of long distance relationship for a year now, hoping we'd get into the same college or whatever. Didn't happen. We know we probably won't end up together because of family issues. We talk everyday, it's great. A few days ago I visited the place he lived and met him for a while. He was so happy to see me. When I got back I told him I had a problem.. that I was thinking about him too much and shouldn't have met him. He's like I'll block you, it'll be easier. Being the aries female i am, i was pissed. And said there would be no need for that.

And all of a sudden he's like "its okay if you want to be friendly, but you're acting weird."

I was like "weird?"

He said "don't say these things, like i"m messing with you head"

And I was like "is not like I WANT that to happen for someone like you. I know it's a terrible situation"

And he said bye and blocked me and won't even talk to me or be friends.

With much greater and intimate things being said and done before... and even the day i visited him.. then why is he behaving like this all of a sudden?

Telling someone you shouldn’t have met them is kinda harsh. Maybe that hurt his pride. Or maybe he feels the same and figures no contact is gonna be best so you can both move on with your lives.

Maybe @chuckcem will have a different perspective.

@Supes said it all already. It's clear from your post that you didn't quite mean what you said to the Leo. Saying, "I wish we'd never met" is a lot harsher than saying, "I wish we'd met under better circumstances". This was a selfish thing to say and you weren't accounting for his feelings.

You were basically throwing more salt on the wound by saying that. This wasn't helped by the fact that you're in a long distance relationship. As an Aries you must understand that your words can impact those around you, especially when emotions run high.

The relationship was probably just as hard for him as it was for you. Sounds like the Leo took your words personally and decided to let things go. The one thing we Leos HATE is inconsistency in love. If you're with us, you're with us and if you're not, you're not. We're very black and white in our thinking and don't dabble much in grey areas. So if we sense that our partner is letting go, we may just pull the plug for you.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Telling someone you shouldn’t have met them is kinda harsh. Maybe that hurt his pride. Or maybe he feels the same and figures no contact is gonna be best so you can both move on with your lives.

Maybe @chuckcem will have a different perspective.

Thank you, that was helpful 🙂

Posted by Supes
You can’t kick a dog then expect him to let you pet him

haha, true!

Posted by Leo188881
If someone said they shouldn't have met me, I'd do the same. You might not have meant it in the way it was understood, but if you make a Leo feel like having them in your life makes you feel unhappy, they'll walk away so that you're no longer burdened by their presence.

This was really helpful. Thank you 🙂

Posted by Chuckcem
@Supes said it all already. It's clear from your post that you didn't quite mean what you said to the Leo. Saying, "I wish we'd never met" is a lot harsher than saying, "I wish we'd met under better circumstances". This was a selfish thing to say and you weren't accounting for his feelings.

You were basically throwing more salt on the wound by saying that. This wasn't helped by the fact that you're in a long distance relationship. As an Aries you must understand that your words can impact those around you, especially when emotions run high.

The relationship was probably just as hard for him as it was for you. Sounds like the Leo took your words personally and decided to let things go. The one thing we Leos HATE is inconsistency in love. If you're with us, you're with us and if you're not, you're not. We're very black and white in our thinking and don't dabble much in grey areas. So if we sense that our partner is letting go, we may just pull the plug for you.

Thank you! You're right. I should have put it in a better way. I really don't think before I speak and being an Aries is no excuse for that.

@Chuckcem But what about when he said "It's okay if you want to behave like friends but you're behaving weird by saying all that my head is messed up because of you"

What would that even mean? I mean we were in a relationship!

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Posted by Chuckcem
@Supes said it all already. It's clear from your post that you didn't quite mean what you said to the Leo. Saying, "I wish we'd never met" is a lot harsher than saying, "I wish we'd met under better circumstances". This was a selfish thing to say and you weren't accounting for his feelings.

You were basically throwing more salt on the wound by saying that. This wasn't helped by the fact that you're in a long distance relationship. As an Aries you must understand that your words can impact those around you, especially when emotions run high.

The relationship was probably just as hard for him as it was for you. Sounds like the Leo took your words personally and decided to let things go. The one thing we Leos HATE is inconsistency in love. If you're with us, you're with us and if you're not, you're not. We're very black and white in our thinking and don't dabble much in grey areas. So if we sense that our partner is letting go, we may just pull the plug for you.

Thank you! You're right. I should have put it in a better way. I really don't think before I speak and being an Aries is no excuse for that.

@Chuckcem But what about when he said "It's okay if you want to behave like friends but you're behaving weird by saying all that my head is messed up because of you"

What would that even mean? I mean we were in a relationship!

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He was basically cutting ties with you as easily as possible. Your words made him lose confidence in your relationship and he decided it's best to end things before he gets hurt. You must remember that we Leos are goal oriented. We need to know that our efforts will culminate into something beneficial. Otherwise we won't see the point.

By saying what you said, you made the Leo think that your relationship was pointless in your mind. Since long distance relationships are already difficult, the Leo decided to stop investing is energy into it. However he didn't want to be a jerk, so he suggested that it would be ok to be friends if that's what you ultimately wanted, but he didn't like how you were treating him.