Cap & Leo relationship ( women)

Have you ever felt distant in a relationship. A total disconnect you want to be there but you dont feel connect to you emotions or you partner. I guess its the constant hurt and heart string pulling but i feel very disconnected from my partner and I know she feels it too.

Once she communicated the relationship feels strained. Now i have this lingering guilt shes only here because of me and not necessarily because she wants to be. im a cancer mooner and shes Leo sun but with asc ,moon and most her other planets in cancer. We both can agree we need space.



Its weird when im around her i feel this detactment and when im around her theres this intensity thats almost suffocating like a strain in my throat and pulling on my chest. I think its because I feel i am walking on eggshells and I cant be freely me. Im mindful of everything I say as she snaps easily for everything.

The bottom line is that Leos and Caps communicate in very different ways, so much so that both can feel strained in the relationship.

Posted by SpiceNSugar
The bottom line is that Leos and Caps communicate in very different ways, so much so that both can feel strained in the relationship.

this is true. But from a leo aspect how would you explain how you communicate?

From a Leo perspective it's hard to generalise actually @_@
But looking at your placements I have a feeling you and I would get along SO so well, for example.
Unfortunately I would say that both Cap and Leo have a tendency to internalise a lot of issues that would be much better out in the open.
Which is great- say you do that and you're on the right track then what.
Lemme tell y'all... @SpiceNSugar is right. There's still a disconnect in how we communicate. It's just so different that both parties can put everything on the table and still feel like they're trying to learn a second language.
It's hard. I won't deny it.

I agree with Wagtail... it really is like learning a new language.

The key is not what you say but HOW you say it:

Caps tend to be too direct with certain things ("That dress looks hideous on you") but then not direct enough with emotional issues.

Cancer heavy Leos will round out the edges on certain things ("I really prefer the dress you were wearing the other day") but then be very direct with anger and emotions.

When a Cap is too direct or blunt regarding everyday issues, a Leos mane may get ruffled.

When a Cap is not direct enough emotionally, the Leo might feel sad and alienated and begin to shut down, vice versa for the Cap.

Then everyone ends up hurt and even fearful of the other.

Exceptions to what I'm saying are Leos with Cap moons. They tend more naturally to understand Cap mentality better.

Posted by wagtail
From a Leo perspective it's hard to generalise actually @_@
But looking at your placements I have a feeling you and I would get along SO so well, for example.
Unfortunately I would say that both Cap and Leo have a tendency to internalise a lot of issues that would be much better out in the open.
Which is great- say you do that and you're on the right track then what.
Lemme tell y'all... @SpiceNSugar is right. There's still a disconnect in how we communicate. It's just so different that both parties can put everything on the table and still feel like they're trying to learn a second language.
It's hard. I won't deny it.

sad isnt it sigh

Posted by SpiceNSugar
I agree with Wagtail... it really is like learning a new language.

The key is not what you say but HOW you say it:

Caps tend to be too direct with certain things ("That dress looks hideous on you") but then not direct enough with emotional issues.

Cancer heavy Leos will round out the edges on certain things ("I really prefer the dress you were wearing the other day") but then be very direct with anger and emotions.

When a Cap is too direct or blunt regarding everyday issues, a Leos mane may get ruffled.

When a Cap is not direct enough emotionally, the Leo might feel sad and alienated and begin to shut down, vice versa for the Cap.

Then everyone ends up hurt and even fearful of the other.

Exceptions to what I'm saying are Leos with Cap moons. They tend more naturally to understand Cap mentality better.

Interesting Yea I'm mostly direct naturally with everyday issues and with people who aren't lovers but when it comes to emotions I'm cautious in what I say and how I say it . I don't want to hurt your feelings but I do want you to understand me.

My Leo tends to be blunt in everything especially if she's angry . she would say hurtful stuff just because she can and shut you out.

Op don't walk on egg shells for her!!! We respect people who are straight forward. I had an ex once tell me he was sick of walking on egg shells for me and I was very surprised that he even did that. I didn't notice how I come off sometimes and I never want people to feel that way. I have Mercury and Venus in cancer so sometimes I overreact but I want someone who isn't scared of me because on the inside we are very sensitive. Watch the relationship change for the better if you are straight forward with her. If not we may get bored or feel like you are like everyone else. You have to stand out you have to be different than everyone else. Don't be scared of being who you are because if she find out you are keeping things from her she will be crushed.

Posted by Jhene
Have you ever felt distant in a relationship. A total disconnect you want to be there but you dont feel connect to you emotions or you partner. I guess its the constant hurt and heart string pulling but i feel very disconnected from my partner and I know she feels it too.

Once she communicated the relationship feels strained. Now i have this lingering guilt shes only here because of me and not necessarily because she wants to be. im a cancer mooner and shes Leo sun but with asc ,moon and most her other planets in cancer. We both can agree we need space.



Its weird when im around her i feel this detactment and when im around her theres this intensity thats almost suffocating like a strain in my throat and pulling on my chest. I think its because I feel i am walking on eggshells and I cant be freely me. Im mindful of everything I say as she snaps easily for everything.

Hey, dear Jhene! So this is the Cap side of it? I'm asking you b'coz I'm a Leo female with a Cap male. Both of us said that we love each other, and yes, I'm very open, he's very reserved. When we meet personally (we've met only twice, it's sort of an LDR), he's so romantic in gestures, sweet and the way he looks at me! I feel loved. But while on chat, he seems so distant. When I bring up the relationship talk or commitment word, he's said that he's a commitment phobe. Sometimes, his on and off behaviour annoys me so much that I yell or I give him what he gives me (silence), and I can bet he gets hurt (even that, he won't tell me; I've to figure out). We've fought several times, but we keep coming back... So when you guys don't talk/open up, it means that you are feeling bad (no connection)?

We find it so hard to interpret your silence -interested or disinterested? Should we stay or leave? Not knowing what you feel for us makes us annoyed as we are not half as patient as you guys, so we get angry, and when we get angry, yeah, we do really snap! We'd be happy if you could be a little more open with us!

I've told you the Leo side of it; would be grateful if you can explain the Cap side of it to me.

Posted by wagtail
From a Leo perspective it's hard to generalise actually @_@
But looking at your placements I have a feeling you and I would get along SO so well, for example.
Unfortunately I would say that both Cap and Leo have a tendency to internalise a lot of issues that would be much better out in the open.
Which is great- say you do that and you're on the right track then what.
Lemme tell y'all... @SpiceNSugar is right. There's still a disconnect in how we communicate. It's just so different that both parties can put everything on the table and still feel like they're trying to learn a second language.
It's hard. I won't deny it.

I'm a Leo female and I agree with you 100% , wagtail! It is indeed like learning a totally new language. Interpreting his silence is so, so difficult! Phew!

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Posted by Jhene
Have you ever felt distant in a relationship. A total disconnect you want to be there but you dont feel connect to you emotions or you partner. I guess its the constant hurt and heart string pulling but i feel very disconnected from my partner and I know she feels it too.

Once she communicated the relationship feels strained. Now i have this lingering guilt shes only here because of me and not necessarily because she wants to be. im a cancer mooner and shes Leo sun but with asc ,moon and most her other planets in cancer. We both can agree we need space.



Its weird when im around her i feel this detactment and when im around her theres this intensity thats almost suffocating like a strain in my throat and pulling on my chest. I think its because I feel i am walking on eggshells and I cant be freely me. Im mindful of everything I say as she snaps easily for everything.

Hey, dear Jhene! So this is the Cap side of it? I'm asking you b'coz I'm a Leo female with a Cap male. Both of us said that we love each other, and yes, I'm very open, he's very reserved. When we meet personally (we've met only twice, it's sort of an LDR), he's so romantic in gestures, sweet and the way he looks at me! I feel loved. But while on chat, he seems so distant. When I bring up the relationship talk or commitment word, he's said that he's a commitment phobe. Sometimes, his on and off behaviour annoys me so much that I yell or I give him what he gives me (silence), and I can bet he gets hurt (even that, he won't tell me; I've to figure out). We've fought several times, but we keep coming back... So when you guys don't talk/open up, it means that you are feeling bad (no connection)?

We find it so hard to interpret your silence -interested or disinterested? Should we stay or leave? Not knowing what you feel for us makes us annoyed as we are not half as patient as you guys, so we get angry, and when we get angry, yeah, we do really snap! We'd be happy if you could be a little more open with us!

I've told you the Leo side of it; would be grateful if you can explain the Cap side of it to me.

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We are indeed slow to commit but when we do, we are in it for the long haul. Our silence in this initial stage is us contemplating and dissecting everything. Analysing where we are if we are ready for a relationship and our gut feeling etc.Our actions will give away how we feel though as we express our love through actions not necessarily words.

For me personally, once I'm connected to you theirs no greater hurt that having my emotions being played like a yo-yo and from experience with my Leo is flip flop and I hate it. And a single cap as much as we want you that future hurt is what keep us hesistant as we know it will come