contemplating a slow return to the lion's den

so there's this leo at work i posted on the scorp board about. if you didn't see it a quick recap is that my first foray into the world of internet dating resulted in me unintentionally approaching a guy i didn't realise had been working in the same office as me for 6 months. he looked totally different in his profile picture as he was dj-ing and i hadn't really spoken much to him before to know that.

although i was initially mortified, we laughed that off months ago and there's been absolutely no problem about it since. recently, cos of an incident at work involving someone who was fired, we've been talking a bit. also, he wants a website for his dj-ing and cos that's pretty much what i do for a job at the company, i'm doing him one on the cheap.

anyhow, no spectacular fireworks as such but i've noticed before with leo men...and for some reason i keep encountering them...that you can spend months, sometimes even years in the case of one, thinking that you are just friends and then out of the blue they come out with what i find to be a startling confession that there's more to it for them.

so, i'm happy with that pace but wondered if it was common for leo and scorpio to kind of circle each other for prolonged periods. i've noticed that on breaks he always comes and stands with me at first, often getting really close (which i find an invasion of space of the nicest kind cos he smells good) but then as soon as a conversation starts between myself and someone else, he just walks off, lol.

i'm trying to read this man and it's really hard work!!

so gimme some top tips please.

if anyone happens to drop by in the next decade or so, lol.

hi my friend 🙂

Just want to say "Good Luck" to U!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As well-known, Leos are "jealous" cats.....be careful 😉

Naa, Leos are really good.they have immense capacity to accept people just as they are and mostly there are no games.with us you get what you see ;and you always get what you want from us.
i do not know about Leo and Scorpio people circling each other, but personally, despite what all the astro-resources say,i believe leos and scorpio are really well suited to each other with their intensity ,passion and loyalty and yes i do admit a bit of possessiveness.
i always wanted to have a typical scorpion male as my boyfriend with all the scorpion power and passion, did not even meet a single Scorpio male all my life.
go for him ,let him come to you i mean.you would enjoy him,we are not bad people,generally misunderstood but capable of real loyalty and devotion.

oh sorry i forgot --tips, but i am a leo woman and that too not very experienced but still ;
talk to him companionably,with ease and comfort
no harm in being slightly flirtatious, we enjoy verbal bantering with playful eye contact
do not assume patronizing airs please, why do every other zodiac sign assume that leos are dumb, we are not. i mean we might have our fair share of dumbos but than all eleven groups must have their share as well.
enjoy his company and let him see your enjoyment .
once felt unwanted somewhere we never go there again
GOOD LUCK
i hope you get your leo man,

thanks guys. perhaps you're not that bad after all LOL 😉

oh believe me, i'm not in a rush with this one. still really uncertain about the vibe i'm getting from him and so i'm just gonna wait to see if it becomes obvious from his side. we've been working for the same company for a year now, so it's not like there's any need to leap into anything, lol. 🙂

what do you mean by 'that's what lunch said'? your lunch spoke to you?

oh i see. trying to freeze me out with a little in-joking were you? hah!!

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Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
perhaps you're not that bad after all LOL 😉

That's what lunch said.

(Just keep your wits about you, as always. 😉

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LOL

hi Rigormortis, I seem to have responded to a few Scorpio/Leo messages 🙂 My bestest friend is a Scorpy Male so I have a little insight into the Leo/Scorpio relationship but without the romance involved, which can help you to see how two signs can connect without the rose tinted glasses on.

I think Leo/Scorpio have a great emotional intensity and really really "get" each other - however I don't think its a good match where relationships are concerned for the long term - and I'd even go so far as to say regardless of any other aspects in their charts. I think they connect with a very intense emotion once it begins made better by the fact that these two signs can just about talk to each other about anything, no holds barred. BUT eventually, in a romantic relationship, the emotion will get too much, my friend and I handle this because we have no romantic feelings however we love each other very much, so we can get very intense and emotional with each other and still handle the aftermath of head butting when it happens, this isn't so easily when relationship feelings are brought into the equation. Also both signs are naturally controlling, scorpio more so than leo I think, and this in the end (if the intenseness doesn't do it) will kill the relationship - and I could see that the feelings would quickly move from intense love to intense hate. Roar and Sting will result. I also think, and I could of course be wrong, that Scorpio are more emotionally fragile than Leo's so they would be the one hurt most (and more vegenful perhaps) when it all comes to a snarling whipping tailed end. Having said all of that, I could only wish to one day feel the sexual explosion that I'd imagine would happen when these two get together. Why not go for it and enjoy yourself in the process 🙂

i think it's slightly different when you are in your forties, as i am and as the leo i'm talking about is. fact is, by our age, you've made a fair share of mistakes and hopefully learned from them. i was with an aries long term before and so much of that was about power struggles, control issues and sexual intensity with all that entails, ie jealousy, etc.

once you've come out of a long term relationship, it takes a while to regain your sense of who you are an an individual...outside of a realtionship. it makes you aware that it's important not to lose that sense of yourself the next time you become involved with someone and so from my point of view at least, i'm much less intense and less up myself than i used to be.

the next time i get involved with someone, i want it to be at eye-level if you know what i mean? no-one strives for or has the 'upper hand'..one doesn't look down on the other while the other looks up at them...mutual and equal respect.

the leos i have known have generally commanded respect but not in a loud way, it's more about the presence than the substance...and to be fair, a lot of them have been worth of it too 🙂

apart from the knobhead who deserves to have his balls nailed to the floor.

i've already decided and had done a while ago that i want my next man to be in charge of stuff. not controlling but just in charge, lol. like in terms of deciding where we're going n what we're doing and choosing what's for dinner...even cooking it on occasion. i know that sounds ridiculous but i kinda need a social secretary cos i'm a workaholic and leo's are great for dragging you out when you would really rather not, only to show you the best of times. 🙂

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i've already decided and had done a while ago that i want my next man to be in charge of stuff. not controlling but just in charge, lol. like in terms of deciding where we're going n what we're doing and choosing what's for dinner...even cooking it on occasion. i know that sounds ridiculous but i kinda need a social secretary cos i'm a workaholic and leo's are great for dragging you out when you would really rather not, only to show you the best of times. 🙂

Leos themselves sometimes turn into insufferable workaholics,but yes you i suppose you are right to let another person take charge of stuff;it makes one feel so relieved that things are being arranged for you without your having to exhaust yourself.

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I think they connect with a very intense emotion once it begins made better by the fact that these two signs can just about talk to each other about anything, no holds barred. BUT eventually, in a romantic relationship, the emotion will get too much, my friend and I handle this because we have no romantic feelings however we love each other very much, so we can get very intense and emotional with each other and still handle the aftermath of head butting when it happens, this isn't so easily when relationship feelings are brought into the equation. Also both signs are naturally controlling, scorpio more so than leo I think, and this in the end (if the intenseness doesn't do it) will kill the relationship - and I could see that the feelings would quickly move from intense love to intense hate. Roar and Sting will result. I also think, and I could of course be wrong, that Scorpio are more emotionally fragile than Leo's so they would be the one hurt most (and more vegenful perhaps) when it all comes to a snarling whipping tailed end. Having said all of that, I could only wish to one day feel the sexual explosion that I'd imagine would happen when these two get together. Why not go for it and enjoy yourself in the process 🙂

True enough. It's generally held that the connection can be ridiculously intense.

However, I've also heard that some of the long-term problems surrounding runaway emotionalism and control issues can be mitigated if one of the partners agrees (probably by implication or subconsciously, I can't imagine having a direct discussion about it, LOL) to assume a more controlling role while the other (with certain exceptions) agrees to relinquish some control.

It's a question of managing egos, isn't it. This is the same issue faced by Leo-Leo partnerships. There needs to be, from what I can tell, an understanding about who gets to wear the pants, and when.

What's your opinion on this?

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With the Leo Leo thing - I think the question is more about who "gets" attention from others when they will be in a group of people rather than a control issue. When alone, I think Leo/Leo would be a great combination, such understanding of the passion, loyalty, romance, ego, pride etc. able to boost each other and sit on the throne together,

why do they only allow so many characters per post 😢

With the Leo Leo thing - I think the question is more about who "gets" attention from others when they will be in a group of people rather than a control issue. When alone, I think Leo/Leo would be a great combination, such understanding of the passion, loyalty, romance, ego, pride etc. able to boost each other and sit on the throne together, sharing of the greatness - we are such egoists we automatically love and respect our fellow felines. Leo's are good at allowing others their share of the spotlight, and yes control, so I think a partnership of these two they would intuitively know where and what the other needs to be in control of - and would proudly be the best at what they are in control of showing each other how good they both are at their parts of their life. But if they venture out as a couple, well who gets the lions share of attention, the competition will be on - and this can be then taken home where the battle would rage on - its this they would have to work on. However, leo's are first and foremost proud of their partner, so showing them off (or allowing them to show themselves off) could save this.

Scorpio/Leo its not about attention - its about control. Also, scorpy's are jealous, Leos aren't that jealous contrary to popular belief - we have nothing to be jealous of, in our fair opinion, we are the catch, the prize. We are also generally very faithful, so as we flit from person to person smiling and chatting, and a little bit of flirting, the scorpio will be start to become a seething mass of jealousy. We are possesive though, which is a different thing, you are mine, i am yours - now show everybody - which two leo's can do together, scorpio will dive deeper down into the emotional depths of insecurity and distrust.

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i've already decided and had done a while ago that i want my next man to be in charge of stuff. not controlling but just in charge, lol. like in terms of deciding where we're going n what we're doing and choosing what's for dinner...even cooking it on occasion. i know that sounds ridiculous but i kinda need a social secretary cos i'm a workaholic and leo's are great for dragging you out when you would really rather not, only to show you the best of times. 🙂

Hey, I wish you the best, as I said I think leo/scorpio is a wonderful combination but just not for the very long term. Your leo man will be happy to be in charge of things, and more than happy to provide the romance - but more than anything leo wants an equal - in everything. Just note too though, Leo's get bowed down and low having to deal with the daily routine of life, so don't ask him to have to tend to too much. He'll also need a fair amount of attention and if he gets that he will continue to keep coming with where to go and what to do. Praise him for each outing 🙂 Leo's can also get completely tied up in work, however once work is done they know how to come home, crack open the wine, get the friends around and and have a good time, or just snuggle up with you for the night - stamina is great, well mine is anyway. Maturity does bring different slants on relationships. But deciding something is what you want and being able to carry through with your true self is a different matter. I do Hope it all works out for you - scorpio men are great - very intense!

ha ha ha, I think you like the scorps as much as I do 😉

i'm not the jealous type. never had been. never seen anything like the jealousy of my aries ex though. very unattractive.

seraph, why do you choose to frequent the scorp board if you don't like us?

I'm a Leo with a Scorpion fiance. It's an explosive combination but it really comes down to the stubborn trait in each sign. Dependent on the maturity level this can either work against or for the pairing. If the two learn how to 'be stubborn' for the relationship and their partner's happiness, then it works for the better. Your Leo should be able to not take everything to ego and once in every great while, step aside of the throne for a moment.

My Scorpion knows that I admittedly tell him how to 'manipulate' my disposition during bickering or the like. This way I'm able to let his emotions not 'fester' and intensify while I just end up getting my way. He's able to control aspects that I know he's better at determining and feels comfortable being in control of. He knows that treating me like a princess is how get his way!

On the other hand, we both have Scorpion moons - which adds a level of understanding that typically doesn't come natural between Leo and Scorpio.

I do wish the best for you two. The Scorpio/Leo pairing is dramatic and passionate.. but what other signs do dramatic and passionate like we do? c;

If it's able to, the pairing is a force to be reckoned with.

Ohhh geez!

how very benevolent of you. i come to the leo board to check there's still a pulse 😛

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how very benevolent of you. i come to the leo board to check there's still a pulse 😛

please keep on doing so, we really need it here;give a little prod too once in a while to make sure there is some feeble movement in response.

very tempting actually !

i love that sleeping lion pic. reminds me of an old leo friend who can spontaneously go into a deep sleep any time of day or night. he literally says...so i'm having a nap now...and seconds later, the snoring begins!! unbelievable.

must be my stimulating conversation, lol.

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Are you still writing the erotica Rox ?

not any more no. do you know it actually gets boring pretty quickly?

well, anything i wrote wouldn't end up on a site with 'romance' involved in the title, lol. it was pretty hard core.

you making money from it bling?

btw, i saw chesney hawkes at malaga airport one time. still walking round like he's the 'one and only'...ironic name really for a one hit wonder, lol.