How to control a Leo

I am mentoring a young leo female teenager. She is easily distracted, boy crazy, very dramatic, and attention seeking. I feel exhausted by her. She doesn't sit still long enough to do any work. She just wants an audience to listen to her dramatic "issues".

I think she is bright but it's starting to grate on my nerves.

How do I make a Leo behave? Will she respond better if I let her get whatever it is off her chest, be forceful, or let her go at her pace? I guess want to know is she looking for a leader or an understanding ear?

Lol,she wishes!

I have Saggy sun, Leo Moon, Aqua Rising, Sagg Merc, Libra Mars.

How old is she. They can grow out of that stage very quickly...

Usually around 17-18 they get a better grip.

As far as my own experience goes, if someone REALLY close to them just pulls the plug one day and say 'no more bullshit, it's having an impact on how I perceive you, in a negative way' - and then stands firm by that =more likely to listen.

Gotta get em with the Feelz, Leo's can be SO softhearted and self conscious at that age, it's hard to know where to draw the line.... Without wounding.

Everyone is different tho, so it's hard to say really 😕

I'm not a leo, but I know many.

I'd say, never ever show a leo you're trying to control them - they will fight you to the end of the universe. If this kid has a leo mercury, it's not gonna be easy. They so sorely need to be listened to, it breaks my heart to even interrupt them occasionally if I need to go to the bathroom, or whatever. And this is a teenager who would be even more sensitive.

As wagtail said:

"As far as my own experience goes, if someone REALLY close to them just pulls the plug one day and say 'no more bullshit, it's having an impact on how I perceive you, in a negative way' - and then stands firm by that =more likely to listen."

^^^This is also my experience. So it kind of depends on your relationship with the girl...which is why my advice would be to get on really good terms with her(by really listening to her, for instance)...and then talk to her.

Super good luck!🙂

The way to a Leo is with love. Getting to the heart is key. If you simply let her know that she's damaging the bond between you 2 she will straighten herself up in a hurry.

Thanks for all the insights.

I know the title is blunt, having a Leo moon myself, I know how hard it is to control the leo spirit. After interacting with her, I will do my best to rein myself* in when I get all lioness and self righteous.

... it's a huge turnoff! Lol.

I have Libra Venus, not sure about hers.

Yeah, I'll try being sympathetic and helpful instead.

When I try to get her back on task she says "you are so mean *pout*".

Maybe she irks me because she reminds me of myself at that age? I hope not because I didn't listen to anyone, and was way naughtier than her 🙂

Posted by AriesLove
This has nothing to do with a star sign. A lot of young girls act like this around her age. She is trying to find herself and fit in.

Do not be forceful with her she will only react forcefully. Instead talk to her on her own level like a friend. She definitely has some things bottled up and I know would love to talk about them.

Engage her in some fun activities. See what she likes to do for fun and allow her to do it. Get it out her system.

If she is old enough maybe she can find a part time job to keep her occupied.

I think this is spot on. She is a teenage dealing with hormones. Surely we have all been there?

I know how annoying this is, I have a Leo friend who obviously has no time, 40 years old and complaining that she never meets a guy. She goes to the gym everyday. Now the obvious is, which I have pointed out is that she could try new hobbies... but hell no, she gets upset and says she's in a bad mood and that she likes the gym and it's making her mind strong. But what has she got to do, basically I've given up suggesting anything.

I don't see her that often, but for the past 10 years I occasionally listen to her complain about still being single, and I just have to bite my tongue before suggesting anything to make it better.

Basically I think Leo's are stubborn and they don't want to listen to advice. They want you to listen to their problems and just agree with them, and compliment them and say they are right. Trying to get them to think another way is difficult.

But you use the word "mentor" .. so I always thought a mentor was to encourage and help people think things through themselves, like a therapist. This is a skill developed and not everyone can do it. Maybe you could read a book on how to be a mentor, (sorry if I'm insulting your ability to carry out your profession here). Maybe you just want to talk about yourself once in a while? I have found this difficult with Leo women too, you just have to accept it's not that kind of relationship. Get yourself your own mentor for that lol.

Do not even attempt to control or confine her. Speaking as a Leo teenager who's luckily grown mostly out of the boy craze and melodrama, try and relate to her. Find where her wavelength is and match it. Show compassion and patience, I am sure it can be frustrating but leos can come around if they feel secure enough! Good luck xx

Compliment her heaps on the work she is doing.