how to handle Leo out of long term relationship

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I met a Leo guy on a dating site who just came out of a 10 years relationship, the relationship became loveless, and the girlfriend was very dependent on him to a point she would get upset when he needed to work late or go on business trips. He felt his career was held back by her, he tried to break up with the girl several times to no avail. He eventually cheated on the girl with the daughter of his company CEO, the girlfriend at the time threatened him with his job by disclosing the affair to the CEO and board of directors etc. He gave everything to the girlfriend including a very expensive car, his dog, his furniture and everything in the household paid by him.
As for me, I had a divorce in January this year and was glad to come out of an abusive marriage, so when the two of us met, we both had no agenda in terms of what we are looking for and more likely looking for a good company, both of us stated clearly we don’t want stress after getting out of some tremendous stress from our previous relationships.
We chatted daily and intensively for about a week. Before we met, he mentioned he wasn’t ready to be tangled down to something serious but he’s also open to anything as long as the relationship goes well. He was very communicative and would chat me daily, and if he was busy, he would tell me why he wasn’t around chatting with me and apologized for not being around, just being very sweet overall.
We met in person a week later, had a great time, he stayed over at my house and we slept together. I thought he would not call me next day, but he continued to chat with me daily and was very sweet. We met again for second date a week later, he told me that he was very attracted to me and he felt very comfortable and could be himself when he was around me. But then I noticed, he would go MIA with barely any messages for a day or two, he did briefly explained how he has been working til 1am etc, I made no big deal about it, and never even questioned why his texts became so less frequent, basically no complaints at all, and simply replied “I thought you must have been so busy, especially you’are moving in the same week, wish I could help, take it easy, squeezing me in whenever ïŠ “ in a joking tone and made it as lightful as possible.
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By Wednesday, he still hasn’t made plans with me, so I texted “when are we going to hang?” he didn’t response, so I didn’t push for it either and make other plans for my weekend. The next day on Thursday, we were chatting and were joking around his political belief, then he texted “Miss you too”, at that point, I thought the text must have been meant for someone else and not for me, cos it seemingly came nowhere. As we had only dated twice nothing exclusive, so I just jokingly replied “wrong message, meant for someone else, you’re busted… lol”. He then replied “hahaha, that was my way to responding to your politics jokes, you know I can’t give two shxx about politics or who I will vote for lol… I then responsed “ ok, but listen, I’m ok if you talk to others, not an issue for me, I’m not a possessive and controlling type at all, however, its not ok if you don’t vote lol”. He then asked if I would like to spend time together this weekend, ”Friday or Saturday, you pick, you can come to my apartment or I drive to yours (we live one hour drive away) .“ He also said again “I do miss you, saying it again. I’m bothered that you think I said I miss you too to someone else LOL”. So when Friday came, I asked what the plan was, he didn’t response but later said he was so tired from Thursday night working late and fell asleep at 9pm. On Saturday, he drove 2 hours to see me, he bought two bottles of very expensive champagne (each costs $ 100 even though I told him not to bring anything), he said he didn’t know it was my birthday a week ago so at the very minimum he wanna get some nice champagne and shared with someone he liked. I cooked him dinner (I initially had a date but I cancelled it for him, I didn’t tell the Leo guy about my other date non my cancellation of the date for him), we had a great time, during dinner, I asked if he met other girls from the dating site before me, he said he met 3 or 4 but one girl wanted something serious and he didn’t see it with her, others he simply didn’t have the romantic interests. He also told me about the CEO’s daughter who he was cheating on his ex with, he said the daughter was really hot but he didn’t like her personality and she was too young, he also said the threatening tactics his ex used on him really put him off even though he felt so bad of his cheating. He then said he liked me because he liked my face, my personality, the way I carried myself
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And when he first chatting with me before meeting in person, I was flirtatious in texts and he was worried I was clinging, but he said in person I was not flirtatious at all. I was also joking if he got a ton of messages from girls on the dating site, he showed me his phone and said he hasn’t had any time to reply any girls on the site but it’s still online, then he sent a message on the site “you’re so sexy” and was being very sweet. I also mentioned to him that it was really out of my character to sleep with him on our first day but he was so incredibly good looking and I thought I would be happy even if it was only for a night with him and I was surprised he continued to see me.
When he left the day, he also told me how he would be missing me back home etc.
Just wanna ask the Leo out there, do you think his message “miss you too” really was for me? His dating profile still there and he went online every now and then, but really rarely. Can I talk to him about removing the profile or it’s still early, when it’s appropriate for the exclusivity talk or never? Do you think he would take me seriously or he’s still not ready for anything? He mentioned about worring me being clinging before we met etc sends a little red flag to me… Should I continue dating others? Was it wise for me to cancel my other date and cater for plans with this Leo guy? I really like him and he made me feel he was all about me when he’s with me, but then he sometimes gone disappeared. Do you think I handle him properly because I keep in mind how he just came out of a very stressful relationship, so I tried not to push for anything given we had only gone on three dates. What is the best way to handle a Leo guy who just came out of a super stressful 10 year relationship?
This is my first time dating a Leo guy, I have no clues.
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I’m a cancer and he's a Leo
For me
Sun was in Cancer at 15° 55'.
Ephemeris Moon in Gemini at 07° 52'.
Ephemeris Mercury was in Leo at 12° 06'.
Ephemeris Venus in Gemini at 18° 15'.
Ephemeris mars Mars was in Leo at 05° 54'.
Ephemeris r Jupiter in Capricorn at 01° 48'.
Ephemeris Saturn was in Gemini at 14° 42'.
Ephemeris Uranus in Libra at 14° 19'.
Ephemeris Neptun was in Sagittarius at 02° 50'.
Ephemeris Pluto in Virgo at 29° 32'.

For Him:
Ephemeris Sun in Leo at 11° 46'.
Ephemeris Moon was in Taurus at 18° 18'.
Ephemeris Mercury in Cancer at 22° 41'.
Ephemeris Venus was in Gemini at 28° 02'.
Ephemeris Mars in Libra at 14° 08'.
Ephemeris Jupiter was in Virgo at 12° 14'.
Ephemeris Saturn in Virgo at 24° 21'.
Ephemeris Uranus was in Scorpio at 21° 30'.
Ephemeris Neptun in Sagittarius at 20° 07'.
Ephemeris Pluto was in Libra at 19° 20'.