It sounds like a booty call to me...

This morning, I was plugging my BF's phone into his charger when I noticed that he received a text message from some random number at 2AM in the morning...it read "2 Late 2 Play?" I asked him about the message and who it was from, and he said he didn't know. I suggested that he call the number because I was curious who would be sending him a text message at 2AM, and what the message was supposed to mean. He wasn't going to, and so I asked if I could call the number, myself...(Leo's don't forget much, including random numbers) and he told me "NO!"

I called it anyway, and it was from this girl whom he said he no longer talked to. I know of her because we were at dinner a while back, just goofin off going through each others' phone, and I asked who she was...he said a friend. I asked if his girl--friends know that he has a GF, and he said yes.

Anyway, this girl has sent him text messages b/4, and late at night. She may just be a friend, but why would a 34 year old woman be texting him at 2AM in the morning knowing that he lives with and has a girlfriend? (she also and left him a message)

It was a booty call, but if he didn't do anything he isn't guilty. The fact that he lied about them being in contact does not bode well BUT don't jump to conclusions. He might have a reason for lying.

Get the facts if you can. Play it cool.

(((Truthseeker)))

Girls like this are trash. They are weak and have no character. Be cool. Act with dignity and grace. And no matter what happens you will be the winner because he will see the truth and live with the regret for a lifetime.

Thanks for your advice, ladies. I haven't jumped to conclusions. I do believe that my man is faitful...what I don't like is him lying to me, and it certainly makes me question is faithfulness. Him and I battle all the time about flirting vs. charm. I know he's a charmer and that a lot of women are drawn to him...I also know that he doesn't have the balls to act on their pursuits. What bothers me, however, is that he doesn't set boundaries/draw the line for himself and the women he meets (he's a bartendar, BTW). That's a huge problem.

Anyway, I plan to talk to him tonight. HA! The battery on my phone is dead, and so he prolly thinks I'm not talking to him. That's good, I'll let him freak out for a little bit.

"maybe it was his XBox live friends in England." Pretty funny, but no...it was a US area code!

Here's what I would like to get from you men...now, I understand it is in everyone's nature to flirt, esp. men. I guess, also, that in order to get your flirt on and that extra attention, some men fail to tell their "flirtees" that they are in a relationship...am I right so far?

But, here are my thoughts...now, if you're gonna flirt and possibly lead someone on (which I think is wrong) why not just be up front about it w/ your gf? Because it will piss her off, right!?!?! But if you know it will hurt her...then why do it?

I am inclined to side with chocolate and bling.

She is probably a lonely drunk woman looking to cause trouble. Just be classy about the whole thing and you win.

hee hee ... chocolate bling.

because men like having their ego stroked. even if they have no intention of ever following it up ... everyman likes to think he can still get the ladies. I also tend to believe a lot of them think, when in a relationship, that their singles friends are on the make everynight and there is a hot tub full of babes just waiting for them. They know it isn't real but they like to believe.

your right bling...women chase those who are taken. I think that this is so hard for me to fathom, because I've never seen this happen in my other relationships (most likely because my partners were smart not to let me see that it happene). Therefore, this is mind-boggling to me that someone would go to so much trouble, and try to interfere...huh?!?!?! Women can't be THAT desperate, right...I mean she's only doing it cuz it's a challenge, but it doesn't make senss to me?!?!

I agree w/ Libra and choco as well...maybe I'm more naive than I thought, eh? This is so annoying!!!

*** If I wanted to be chasing drunks trying to relive their youth

Was that a shot?

*** more sad desperate women trying to steal a taken man than the other way around

I can believe this. I think a lot of women don't notice a man until he is taken. When they see he is happy and making the woman of his choice happy, suddenly they will stop at nothing to win him over. But the truth is it comes down to character. A good guy knows what is what.

I also don't think guys in relationships should be flirting with single women. There is nothing worse than developing a rapor with someone, spending a few hours talking and flirting with them and finding out they have a girlfriend or worse a wife. It use to really piss me off that they wasted my night. It still pisses some of my friends off but whatever.

34 is not over the hill.

If you are out and chatting up a girl ... we assume you are interested in us not an ego boost.

i don't think you have anything to worry about truthseeker.

as for the "guys flirt and refrain from mentioning they have a girlfriend" well yeah, they do, and everyone has their limits on what the consider tolerable in a relationship, but i think it's reasonable to put up with this behavior if nothing comes from it besides the release of a few endorphines 😛.

Don't worry, guys...you are all definitely HELPING! It is wrong, though, to lead someone on. I guess as human beings, we always need some sign of acceptance from others, once in a while. But it's still no excuse. I try my very best, not to allow anyone come between my relationship w/ my partner. No matter what her story is, I blame him. He should have been more responsible and threw "played the gf card" once he realized how far he was getting. It's never an outsider's fault in relationship...it's either yours or mine.

Thanks, WH!

Nah. As a big a supporter of women as I am ... and you would be hard to find a bigger supporter of women than me ... some are big competitive bitches. Of course, they are the ones that always complain women are catty and they get along better with men. The reason they feel this way is usually because they are bitches to the women in their life.

I actually had something similar happen to me. I don't talk about it ...evah ... as it is very painful, but I will share it here.

One of my exs had these two female friends. After we got together these two friends of his started pursuing him like crazy ... taking photos of him from his house, showing up at his place, showing up at concerts, events we were going too, etc. He was single for six years ... SIX YEARS and they didn't express ANY interest. Once he had me, and it was obvious that we were happy, they both pursued him non-stop. Some of the shit they pulled was unbelievable.

Eventually, it broke us up.

One of them even went so far as to bragged to his friends about breaking us up. Of course she said it to one of my biggest supporters who cut her down to size.

Of course, once he was single ... two months later neither of them was interested.

One of them STILL gives him gossip about me. I have never said more than a handful of things to her in my life.

He still wants to get back together. No way.

Yeah ... cause the girls in my story ... knew me. met me. had dinner with me. They just didn't care.

The number of girls that pursue my cousin EVEN THOUGH they know he is in a relationship ... would floor you.

Some girls aren't nice. It just makes those of us who truly are good hearted, kind, and respectful look better in the long run.

very few cancers my blingiest.

anyhow I have a dinner engagement.

have a good night guys!

Truthseeker

My biggest regret was I didn't play it cool. I let it get to me. The more it happened, the more it got to me, the more they did it. Be cool.

If I understood it correctly, cunt is considered the second most offensive word in the US, just behind nigger. So, it may be a bit extreme.

truthseeker 🙂

I can't say anything that hasn't already been said girl. Just wanted to pop in and say hi.

" Message posted by: truthseeker on 12/21/2006 3:02:43 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.132
Thanks for your advice, ladies. I haven't jumped to conclusions. I do believe that my man is faitful...what I don't like is him lying to me, and it certainly makes me question is faithfulness. Him and I battle all the time about flirting vs. charm. I know he's a charmer and that a lot of women are drawn to him...I also know that he doesn't have the balls to act on their pursuits. What bothers me, however, is that he doesn't set boundaries/draw the line for himself and the women he meets (he's a bartendar, BTW). That's a huge problem. "


hey truth - ok that paragraph i jus quoted, just pretend i wrote it - my guy is a bartender and he's a charmer - but like you i don't understand y he lies about stuff.

i think ur guy should have been upfront with you and jus told you - but ask him upfront why he didn't jus tell you the truth -
1) part of me wants to say that maybe he was scared of how u'd react so he lied,

2)part of me also say that as a guy maybe he jus likes knowing she wants him (but i
kinda compare this to porn) in that it excites his imagination - but i still think its wrong-

3)still another part of me thinks that he lets her do this to keep in touch with her as a "just in case" kinda thing.

now this is jus my imagination working here i am not a expert at all- i'm jus thinkin of the possiblities and i hope for ur sake it's the first one

i read what chocolate said and i think that's some really good advice - i should probably take it - it's jus that i tend to reason things out and i'm practical and my bf is not - and when things don't make sense to me - then i begin to get suspicious but God knows I love him - I don't want to be hurt - he broke up with his ex but i still think he has feelings for her - enough feelings to have an effect on him when she asked him for a stuffed animal of hers she gave him when they were together - he told me he was over her but emailed her to ask her y she took it back - if he's over he why does he care— if my ex asked me for shit back i'd be like "ok here u go" because i'm over him

sorry i totally turned this thing into me - hhahaha sorry truth - so have to talked to ur man? what has he said? or have u jus decided to jus let it go?