Leo man has left me confused.

@His moods tend to affect me and I find myself always trying to cheer him up or wanting to see him happy.

I say this with kindness. Stop jumping through hoops, you appear controlling & desperate when you try to change a persons moods, let him be moody and see how he reacts to that, trust me on this, I grew up in a house full of leo's, just let him be moody, his moodiness is the equivalent of a 2 year old temper tantrum. If he feel he can control you with his moods his ass will stay moody all the time, if he see you are not affected by his moods, he'll shift out of that mood and join you in your happiness, he'll want to naturally be happy because you're being happy and not "TRYING" to cheer him up.

You seem to have some empathic qualities, you should learn how to manage that around others so you won't feel so affected by his moods and also so you won't deplete your energy from trying to change his moods, also so you won't absorb so much of his bad energy.

Seriously!? Leos - is he just not interested?

No he's not interested, leo males do not hold back when he's interested, I seriously feel this guy isn't into you in that way but hey HE'S MALE and on top of that a LEO MALE, so yeah some flirting will happen especially if you're attractive, male/female stuff happens if you get too close and have no boundaries.

""He said he acted that way so I didn't end up liking him. (ok??). ""

I encourage you to start dating other guys so you won't feel the urge to read so much into this dynamic you share with him, you can be sure he's not that into you (least not in the way you want him to be), him showing physical attraction does not really mean he's into you, his penis responds but his head is like no way.

Pushing and pulling creates an intense amount of sexual/physical energy. I suggest you stop pushing and pulling with him or you're going to feel led on especially if for some reason you find yourself alone and more than kissing happens and he completely turns into a jerk again.

I think you've not set your own personal boundaries, you allow him to kiss you, you allow him to hold your hand, you allow him to do things that are beyond being friendly and of course this can create a lot of pushing and pulling so clearly you have to take some responsibility about your own behavior and set a few boundaries of your own, that's unless you are behaving the way you are because you quite enjoy the drama and wanna see how far things go.

If this answer isn't up to your satisfaction and you really believe there is more to it and everything in your body and mind is telling you he's into you, I suggest you speak to him to gain clarity, realistically the only way you'll really know is to broach the subject, something else to consider doing is getting a boyfriend and leave the lion alone.

Push/Pull dynamics between people can create all kinds of sexual attraction, the best way to really get a feel of what's going on is to stop pushing and pulling with him, set a boundary for yourself and stick to it, if the lion tries to cross boundaries then yeah he probably is into you in, get you some leo loving.

it spiraled to nowhere.

@If this answer isn't up to your satisfaction and you really believe there is more to it and everything in your body and mind is telling you he's into you, I suggest you speak to him to gain clarity, realistically the only way you'll really know is to broach the subject, something else to consider doing is getting a boyfriend and leave the lion alone.

Push/Pull dynamics between people can create all kinds of sexual attraction, the best way to really get a feel of what's going on is to stop pushing and pulling with him, set a boundary for yourself and stick to it, if the lion tries to cross boundaries then yeah he probably is into you in, get you some leo loving.

- Your answer is very much appreciated. I follow my heart far too often and it leads me to nothing but trouble. So a dose of harsh reality is definitely needed. Particularly from someone who is far removed from the situation so that there's a little more objectivity.

I don't think he likes to talk that much about these things, unless he's drunk. I think I knew he wasn't really into me that way, no more than a good friend, but his actions confused me and I confused myself further. The rejection also hurts a little but nothing I can't get over.

Perhaps I also need to reevaluate the friendship. Maybe my friend is right about it being too one-sided. I have a tendency to over give and live in a little cocoon and see things through rose-tinted glasses.

How do you know if a Leo actually cares about you - even as just a friend?

hiya! i have a very close male friend with the same birthday. i worked with him for over a year and and we then continued to see each other as friends for the two years since then. there was always this smoking physical attraction between us but it was kinda superficially physical as we didn't have 'feelings' for eachother beyond being great mates. there's also a massive age difference and he calls me auntie roxi, lol. that's probably the underlying reason for having no romantic attachment with him anyway.

last year, we were both down in the dumps and decided to get smashed together. things got a little sizzly and we ended up getting a bit hot and heavy. it actually turned into a really close moment between us cos we really LIKE each other but we weren't IN LOVE with each other....that was balanced on both sides and for that reason we were able to continue as friends with no awkwardness at all...no jealousy...no confusion.

i've often thought that if there were romantic feelings from my side that he would be the kind of man to drive me to an early grave, lol. but we both do it cos we both feel the same about each other...weeks can go between speaking to him...arrangements can be made and never spoken about again (lol...that is his classic)...and that feeling all leos give you like you're the only person in the world...one minute displaying that...next minute jerking around, lol.

i think your guy just wants to stay being friends. i think when you first kissed he felt you would perhaps take it the wrong way and it would affect your friendship and so he jerked around to make sure you didn't get the wrong end of the stick after that.

the one i know always hotly pursues women he wants...he tells me they usually end up to be horrible but he loves the pursuit...they certanly aren't left in any doubt of his intentions, let's put it that way.

i think you have more invested in him romantically than vice versa. the kiss wouldn't have caused confusion if you were both reading from the same script beforehand imo.

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If this answer isn't up to your satisfaction and you really believe there is more to it and everything in your body and mind is telling you he's into you, I suggest you speak to him to gain clarity, realistically the only way you'll really know is to broach the subject, something else to consider doing is getting a boyfriend and leave the lion alone.

Push/Pull dynamics between people can create all kinds of sexual attraction, the best way to really get a feel of what's going on is to stop pushing and pulling with him, set a boundary for yourself and stick to it, if the lion tries to cross boundaries then yeah he probably is into you in, get you some leo loving.

what you wrote about the push/pull dynamic is soooooo spot on! if you stop engaging in that dance, it clears the way for better perspective for sure.

@How do you know if a Leo actually cares about you - even as just a friend?

OMG as a friend he's just lovable, he'll hug you and cuddle with you, if he's (into you/in love) he's so demonstrative and extroverted with how he feels, this is the sign that won't hold back, he will say I love you, he'll be attentive, good sex if he's seasoned but yes I've seen male leo's hug and kiss friends, I've also seen them cook for a friend, allow her to sleep over, all the things that a boyfriend would do but they're just friends and I can see how that can be confusing, I can't speak for ALL leo's but I've seen quite a few do boyfriend behavior with girl--friends.

If you truly want to know if this thing with your leo can ever get off the ground, then you must stop being so available to be led on, pull back, create some healthy boundaries, if you continue on with allowing him to put your head in his lap, kissing one another, hanging out like your dating truly you'll begin to fel led on and that can begin to chip away at your self esteem and the KEY to feeling attractive around a man is to display attractive behavior so men can feel attracted to you so you don't want to keep putting yourself in a powerless unattractive position were you feel rejected, confused and led on. You have to have an the right ENERGY, an air of QUEENLINESS to make your lion feel he has the best thing since circa 1985 and Wonderbread LOL. Feel me?

Right now you come across too available, too easy to get (NO CHASE--HE'S A CAT FOR GOODNESS SAKE'S!!). Sometimes just a shift in your boundaries can create an attractive vibe that can get the chase going and inevitably shift you out of the friendzone but that can't really happen if your already "ACTING AND BEING" his girlfriend, being attentive like a real girlfriend, kissing him like a girlfriend, laying your head in his lap like a girlfriend, GIRL STOP GIVING HIM GIRLFRIEND BENEFITS. Why would he do anything different when he's already getting the BENEFITS of having you NOW like a girlfriend. Understand?

So you see you gotta get a life outside of him, that old saying, he never miss his well until the water run dry, he may begin to miss having you as a intricate part of his life of up set up a few necessary boundaries, and let's keep it real if for some reason your lion isn't hunting eg he still friendzoning you then at least you have set up a few healthy boundaries and no longer feel the urge to fixate on developing anything with him, you'll know were you stand and thus you can get on with your life, start dating which inevitably will lead into you developing a new relationship with a great guy, so there really is no loss, it's a win/win situation for you. You keep your friend and you get to focus on YOU, focus on your love life, begin dating and using your energy to develop a new relationship with someone else. Chapter closed.

Sorry for the typo's, you get the jist of it I hope lol.

Venusia,

I was reading your posts and came across a line that basically made me skip over everything else to write this response. I know that's a little unorthodox... but, fuck it.


"I just didn't want to think of it because it just made me feel so unattractive"

I know that sometimes it's difficult *not* to feel unattractive in response to a words, situations, or actions.. or lack thereof.. but please don't allow yourself to feel or think that but for a fleeting moment. Nobody should ever dwell on that; it's a festering thought that will only exhaust you and will make it tougher to emotionally reverse. You're nothing less than exquisite, and anybody who dares to view that with a blind eye is not worth the shared pavement.

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Venusia,

I was reading your posts and came across a line that basically made me skip over everything else to write this response. I know that's a little unorthodox... but, fuck it.


"I just didn't want to think of it because it just made me feel so unattractive"

I know that sometimes it's difficult *not* to feel unattractive in response to a words, situations, or actions.. or lack thereof.. but please don't allow yourself to feel or think that but for a fleeting moment. Nobody should ever dwell on that; it's a festering thought that will only exhaust you and will make it tougher to emotionally reverse. You're nothing less than exquisite, and anybody who dares to view that with a blind eye is not worth the shared pavement.

You are so sweet, and what you said is true.

I'm so proud of you. Glad you're reclaiming your worth and letting him be a background character rather than driving your internal monologue.

Keep it up, beautiful!

We're always here to listen and appreciate you. Hope to see you around again. 🙂