Leo Rage?

So as some of you may know, I was "seeing" an Leo kind of. Mostly we hang out, watch movies, cuddle, blahblahblah.
We talk/see one another a couple times a week, nothing serious, but I thought we were moving along well.

Today he dropped me off and told me to get a hold of him later.

6 hours later, he texts me and tells me to never effing call or text him ever again.
Out of fricken nowhere!
I was confused so I asked why, and he repeated himself but with a harsher tone.

I am completely lost.
I am not seeing anyone else, I am not talking to anyone else, we haven't had any fights, I've been nothing but sunshine and nice to him...

What in the WORLD would make someone act like that, for no reason?

Bi-polar disorder. Alcohol. Drugs...the list could go on. I dont know your ages, but with teens there can be rumors planted by *friends* that can cause assumptions to be made. If I were you, Id step way the hell back until he learns to speak to you with respect. If he has a problem with you, he needs to man up like a gentleman and speak it to you.

I would suggest no ass kising, no begging after him with "Whats wrong, Whats wrong Whats wrong Whats wrong??"

Good luck....

Aries, drop that pussycat like old sushi. He's obviously gone bad and will just make you sick.

This is 100% NOT in reaction to anything you did or didn't do, and NOT for who you are and what you stand for.

He's just a creep.

Posted by BigGirlPanties
Bi-polar disorder. Alcohol. Drugs...the list could go on. I dont know your ages, but with teens there can be rumors planted by *friends* that can cause assumptions to be made. If I were you, Id step way the hell back until he learns to speak to you with respect. If he has a problem with you, he needs to man up like a gentleman and speak it to you.

I would suggest no ass kising, no begging after him with "Whats wrong, Whats wrong Whats wrong Whats wrong??"

Good luck....

He's in his late 20s, I'm in my early 30's...he smokes weed but as far as I know, he doesn't do anything else.
I am just super confused, I know we weren't together, we don't fight or disagree. I don't pressure him or his feelings and this text came out of nowhere.

I deserve an answer, it's just common courtesy, he's never acted like this before, and its just boggling my mind, while making me sick to my stomach.

Posted by ellessque
Next time, don't ask why.....just delete it and have a great evening.

It wasn't worthy of any response from you.

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hi everyone and SyntheticAnesthetic! this is my first time to grace the leo section board! haha i would like to input my idea of this leo...

i..ALSO ..like a leo..they can be quite the charmers. Gentlemen at heart. courteous and kind. giving. fun. I had a situation where i hurt the LEO with something in my opinion was not that big of a deal. He sent me a text "let me know if you want to bang this weekend ...." followed by "hang..sighs" (auto-correct)

We ended up going to a comedy improve show, during one of the segments the comedian asked the audience to give them some funny texts so they can incorporate. I shouted "do you want to bang this weekend?!" the comedian laughed and looked at me as if i was a whore..so out of embarrasment ....i corrected his look with "oh but it was auto=correct .thank god"

my leo was offended and hurt by the "thank God" part..despite, showing signs of interest to him through the whole night, laying my head on his shoulder..BEING NOTHING BUT SWEET ...he was angry..hurt..and he tried to cover it up with passive aggression. From this experience...i figure..well

your leo must be upset (evidently) lol by something trivial and small...that you've missed...I actually wouldn't know how to diffuse a situation like that haha. I would think...since leo men love to be pampered and center of attention...when they want you..well...i think the best is to text him or call him and leave a voicemail.

Express how you apologize if you've done anything wrong to upset him..that your sad that you hurt him..But would like to understand why before you guys part ways. State how you COULD"VE made mistakes..but no one is perfect and brinigng it to your attention would help you understand. i believe seeking understanding will help ease the leos rage...a week or more...he'll turn around and apologize and then open up...

maybe he was testing to see if you would call him earlier— and you didnt? so he snapped?

Totally disagree ^^. Apologize for something she didnt do? Or has no idea of? No way. That's codependent bullshit. She shouldn't own anything she didn't do and if he can't be mature enough to communicate with respect to her what HIS problem his, why in the world should she buy his drama?

Since the day he has come in your life, he has caused you nothing but confusion and pain. Step aside Ram girl, this man is not worth your time and attention. I have been reading your posts from the beginning and I really feel that he is a bad sign--sort of a jinxed entity, which causes nothing but confusion , upheaval and disruption in other's life.

Disclaimer : I have no experience of an actual relationship , so my advice is probably worthless.

well there is definetly something done that he considers wrong. The only question is do you want to find out what it is or not. I'd say you do. If it was me, I'd be around at his door before he had time to breathe again demanding to know wtf he thinks he's playing at, in fact I'd be putting up posters to the show and sending out invites - I know this leo/aries dynamic of fire well - stomp and bloody each other whether in public or not, makes for great make ups though 🙂

oh wow...a scorpio did something similar to me and i don't think i've every been so fucking ANGRY in my entire LIFE!!

i certainly didn't ask why because i knew perfectly well i hadn't done anything.

i would imagine it's gossip of some kind that he's heard and has passed judgement on...that's what happened with the scorp anyway which just underlined what a fucking jerk he was.

bgp's right...don't run after him...be angry about it!! how dare he send a text like that....wft have you got to apologise for!!

I'm just so confused, it came out of literal nowhere.

We had a nice night, before that. On the way home it was normal conversation, him telling me about work and what him and his sister had planned, what he was on his way to do, then dropped me off and told me to call him later.

Between 3pm when he dropped me off and 9pm when he text me that, I have NO idea what could have happened.
I know Aries aren't the first to admit when they make mistakes, but I absolutely did NOTHING to him. I've never said a bad about about him, to him or anyone else. I've understood every feeling he's told me, every thought, I've said nice things, I've helped with his baby, we've had nice conversations, we've cuddled, we've shared our feelings.

I really don't understand. I mean I can understand if he didn't want to talk anymore for some reason, but to explode like that? It's like I did something to him. I can't understand any way someone would use such language and anger for no reason.

And Candi, no we don't have any mutual friends or know the same people, so there's absolutely nothing no one could have said, even if we did, I've been nothing but a perfect angel, I don't even talk to other guys! We are both on a dating site, and I get many, many messages but I don't reply to any of them.

I really just wish he would give me a freakin answer, he lives close so I did go over there to ask him to talk to me, but all he did was text me to leave or he'd call the cops.

Obviously I left, and didn't say another word.
Seriously...WTF?

somethings happened after he left you at 3p.m. What do you want to do? Do you want to find out or do you give a shit?

Posted by celticlioness
somethings happened after he left you at 3p.m. What do you want to do? Do you want to find out or do you give a shit?

But what is my question? How could you say, hey "get a hold of me, I'll be around later" to texting me 6 hours later telling me to basically eff off and never talk to me again...

I want to know, because, seriously, that's just not even cool. I've only told one person that in my life, and it was because they were being really mean to me, and at the time my grandmother was dying and they knew I was upset anyway, I can't stand insensitive people, but I digress, I've been NOTHING but nice to him.

I don't know anything, I really don't want to text or call him again after he said twice never to. But on the same token, I deserve a goddamn answer ya know? Even if he thinks I'm ugly, fat, stupid, boring etc...there's just no excuse to say that to anyone without a reason, or even with one.

No there is no excuse for the behaviour, I don't know what questions you would ask, but you want to find out. I know I would, I just don't know what you can do to find out. I know what I would do though

Threats to call the police? Oh hell no.....That would be the end of the line for me. Yes, you deserve to know what his bi-polar, honky ass problem is, but life is unfair. We don't always get what we deserve. You may have to chalk this one up as "unexplained", like a UFO. It sucks...I know it does, but Elle's advice is best.

You know what you could do? Create a fake profile onthe daating site, contact him online and talk him up...see if you can get anything that way. Ha...my scorpio moon is always lurking in the evil 😛

Posted by BigGirlPanties
Threats to call the police? Oh hell no.....That would be the end of the line for me. Yes, you deserve to know what his bi-polar, honky ass problem is, but life is unfair. We don't always get what we deserve. You may have to chalk this one up as "unexplained", like a UFO. It sucks...I know it does, but Elle's advice is best.

You know what you could do? Create a fake profile onthe daating site, contact him online and talk him up...see if you can get anything that way. Ha...my scorpio moon is always lurking in the evil 😛

LMAO I was actually thinking of doing that, and I have a Scorpio moon as well. But I dunno if I have the guts ;p

As for wanting to know, I do, I think it's unfair to just tell someone to gtfo out their life with no excuse, reason or rhyme. Seriously, I don't effing get it. I'm wracking my brain, trying to think if I said something he didn't like, but I mean he usually calls me on things right away, he's been his usual Leo self but this is the 1st time I caught his wrath and I really wish I knew wtf I did, er excuse me, wtf HIS problem is. I KNOW I did nothing wrong.

I kind of want to call him, leave a voicemail and tell him he's a prick who needs to grow some balls and man the f**k up, but I am always the bigger person and choose not to lower myself to name calling or being mean. I don't ever "give" what I get. I kill them with kindness.
Effing A guys, someone want to go strangle him for me? And rip out his beautiful blonde long hair? And tear out his clear blue sparkling eyes? And punch out his full soft lips? LOL...ahhh crap, I need a slap myself.

Ok wtf is wrong with everyone in here? Now I'm pissed. Why is everyone siding with the OP when obviousely she's not telling the whole truth... either that or she has unintentionally wronged him somehow. The first thing that poppes into my mind is maybe he found out something about her that she didn't bother to share with him in the first place, or something along those lines.

But of course, he could just be shizo! What's this talk about bipolar... bipolar folks are just whiny, they don't go into fits about people they aren't even interacting with for the moment! Unless again, they found out something juicy about them ;D

Posted by enfant_terrible
Ok wtf is wrong with everyone in here? Now I'm pissed. Why is everyone siding with the OP when obviousely she's not telling the whole truth... either that or she has unintentionally wronged him somehow. The first thing that poppes into my mind is maybe he found out something about her that she didn't bother to share with him in the first place, or something along those lines.

But of course, he could just be shizo! What's this talk about bipolar... bipolar folks are just whiny, they don't go into fits about people they aren't even interacting with for the moment! Unless again, they found out something juicy about them ;D

Yesssssssss.

This situation is going nowhere too. Anyone who believes that they 'deserve' an answer and won't quit pestering obviously needs to work out their own issues.

Posted by enfant_terrible
Ok wtf is wrong with everyone in here? Now I'm pissed. Why is everyone siding with the OP when obviousely she's not telling the whole truth... either that or she has unintentionally wronged him somehow. The first thing that poppes into my mind is maybe he found out something about her that she didn't bother to share with him in the first place, or something along those lines.

But of course, he could just be shizo! What's this talk about bipolar... bipolar folks are just whiny, they don't go into fits about people they aren't even interacting with for the moment! Unless again, they found out something juicy about them ;D

Well I don't think everyone is siding, I'm certainly not taking sides. I do believe though that something has happened and the OP is unaware of it, no-one flies into a rage like that without a good reason.

or what they think is a good reason.

enfent...i can see your point of view but like elle says, it's not acceptable to communicate your anger in that way if it really is out of the blue.

having been married to an aries man forever and my daughter being one too, i know they often are totally oblivious to hurting someone....also, and this is important synth, aries people generally don't listen very well. it is the single most annoying and frustrating thing with you rams and personally, i think it shows a complete disregard for the other person. so maybe you aren't aware of something you've done.....although it just all seems weird to be honest, especially with him threatening the cops. fuck, i would want the earth to swallow me up whole so as to never see him again.

if you really want to know now, you have to be persistant trying to confront him. i wanted to know what had gone down with the scorp but he didn't respond to my first text and so i called...straight through to voicemail. i left a very calm message saying that it was completely unacceptable to cut me dead without explanation and that i would be at his office first thing the next day to discuss it face to face. bingo...instant response. once i heard it was some gossip he'd heard which was completely fabricated, i hung up.

you sound as though you still want him cos of all the questions running through your mind. in my situation, i had no questions at all beyond finding out what caused his knee-jerk reaction cos i knew i could never be with someone who acted that way every time they heard or thought something that pissed them off!!

i kinda hope your scorp moon will get to the bottom of it though cos i'm dying to know myself now!!!

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
enfent...i can see your point of view but like elle says, it's not acceptable to communicate your anger in that way if it really is out of the blue.

having been married to an aries man forever and my daughter being one too, i know they often are totally oblivious to hurting someone....also, and this is important synth, aries people generally don't listen very well. it is the single most annoying and frustrating thing with you rams and personally, i think it shows a complete disregard for the other person. so maybe you aren't aware of something you've done.....although it just all seems weird to be honest, especially with him threatening the cops. fuck, i would want the earth to swallow me up whole so as to never see him again.

if you really want to know now, you have to be persistant trying to confront him. i wanted to know what had gone down with the scorp but he didn't respond to my first text and so i called...straight through to voicemail. i left a very calm message saying that it was completely unacceptable to cut me dead without explanation and that i would be at his office first thing the next day to discuss it face to face. bingo...instant response. once i heard it was some gossip he'd heard which was completely fabricated, i hung up.

you sound as though you still want him cos of all the questions running through your mind. in my situation, i had no questions at all beyond finding out what caused his knee-jerk reaction cos i knew i could never be with someone who acted that way every time they heard or thought something that pissed them off!!

i kinda hope your scorp moon will get to the bottom of it though cos i'm dying to know myself now!!!

That would be me too, he would be threatend with a public showdown, and it wouldn't be an empty threat - my pisces ex found this out very quickly. His delivery of his rage is unacceptable, his reasons, no-one knows yet!!! But we are dying to find out 🙂

Posted by enfant_terrible
Ok wtf is wrong with everyone in here? Now I'm pissed. Why is everyone siding with the OP when obviousely she's not telling the whole truth... either that or she has unintentionally wronged him somehow. The first thing that poppes into my mind is maybe he found out something about her that she didn't bother to share with him in the first place, or something along those lines.

But of course, he could just be shizo! What's this talk about bipolar... bipolar folks are just whiny, they don't go into fits about people they aren't even interacting with for the moment! Unless again, they found out something juicy about them ;D

I don't have any reason to lie, if I did something wrong, I would say so. I can't think of anything at all I could have done, in all honesty. I am willing to swear on the lives of my near and dear to prove it.

In a matter of 6 hours, he went from telling me to call him to never call him again. I did not text or call him in that 6 hours.
I hide nothing, I have no secrets, I'm not a secret thief, cheater or horrible person, anyone that knows me can tell you I'm as easy-going, fun and no drama as they come.
I didn't even force myself, my feelings or anything else on him, especially when he told me he just wanted to go with the flow, no labels etc. I was accepting of all of his feelings, thoughts and wishes. He told me we were in each others lives, we had to communicate, he told me he was messed up emotionally, he told me he hates to be alone. I know I wasn't some great love of his life, but I thought we were at least friends, (to which he's said many times we were) for him not to cut me out without any sort of explanation.

I know none of you know me personally, but to suggest I have done something to him is crazy! I know, I know, it's hard to believe right? Because when someone flies off the handle like that, there's always a reason, I just wish I freakin knew what it was. Maybe I didn't pay enough attention to him? Maybe ...I really don't know. Honestly and truly, I'm a good person and I don't deserve this treatment.

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
enfent...i can see your point of view but like elle says, it's not acceptable to communicate your anger in that way if it really is out of the blue.

Well.... let's say she dated him and another guy at the same time, which seems common practice among some skank folks in here. A reaction is expected, to say the least.

So to the 'excuse-police' in here who say there is no excuse or justification for his behaviour, and that his rage is unacceptable, who are you to say how one should react in a given situation? 🙂

Posted by enfant_terrible

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
enfent...i can see your point of view but like elle says, it's not acceptable to communicate your anger in that way if it really is out of the blue.

Well.... let's say she dated him and another guy at the same time, which seems common practice among some skank folks in here. A reaction is expected, to say the least.

So to the 'excuse-police' in here who say there is no excuse or justification for his behaviour, and that his rage is unacceptable, who are you to say how one should react in a given situation? 🙂

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Lol, like I said, I was not dating anyone else, nor even TALKING to another guy. I know this Leo and I aren't technically a couple, but in case we ever were to be, I was pretty loyal. Besides no one strikes my interest anyhow, he was the first in a LONG LONG LONG while. I've told him that too.

@SyntheticAnesthetic: Well if you are telling the truth then maybe he has emotional issues and needs attention and reassurance in his own special kind of way. I knew one man who did some pretty nasty things emotionally to his girlfriend right before he asked her to marry him, he just wanted to see if she was gonna stick with him 'no matter what'. lol

Posted by enfant_terrible
@SyntheticAnesthetic: Well if you are telling the truth then maybe he has emotional issues and needs attention and reassurance in his own special kind of way. I knew one man who did some pretty nasty things emotionally to his girlfriend right before he asked her to marry him, he just wanted to see if she was gonna stick with him 'no matter what'. lol

Honestly, I am telling the absolute truth. If I did inadvertently do something to him, in the 6 hours we were apart that he said "call me" and then texted me, I would like to know lol.
Seriously, I can't say it enough, I've been nothing but nice, he's said some crappy things to me, but I was never one to respond back with the same treatment. I've been more than understanding.
I feel like someone ripped my guts out right now, I dunno what else I can say.

I just wanted to know why someone would even say that when nothing had happened.

Posted by enfant_terrible
@SyntheticAnesthetic: Well if you are telling the truth then maybe he has emotional issues and needs attention and reassurance in his own special kind of way. I knew one man who did some pretty nasty things emotionally to his girlfriend right before he asked her to marry him, he just wanted to see if she was gonna stick with him 'no matter what'. lol

actually, you make a good point. my aries ex did this often when we first met. i remember once i was meeting him after work and fought the traffic to get to the bar...my ex was already drunk...when i arrived, he said to me...'what the fuck are YOU doing here?' in a really sneery nasty voice. i just turned around and went home feeling humiliated but stayed with him the same cos i was young and stupid....i think he derived some sick pleasure from being like that. even recently when he was here seeing our daughter, we had an argument about money or something during which he yelled at me just like he always did that i needed psychiatric help, lol. it's not really lolworthy but it's meaningless now.

that was a toxic relationship which nearly killed me and at the end of the day, he fucked off with someone else!!!

this leo is showing all the signs, just as my aries did very early on.....note them and run. he sounds uber insecure which means he's likely to be a controlling personality.

btw...do you think he had a drink or put something up his nose before his text? just asking cos that heightens agression and was the root cause of my ex's issues.

Everyone on DXP knows enfant is an infant, so just ignore the troll.

Only thing I cant think of, besides a possible mental illness, is he is pissed that you let 6 hr pass without *hitting* him up...ie calling. If thats the case, he is disturbed on some level. Im also wondering why he has said *crappy* things to you in the past, and how did you handle those times? If you let him get away with it, you may have taught him how to treat you...like crap. Hope not.

*can think of

Thanks for replying everyone, I wanted to say that first off before I tried to talk again lol.

Umm, he's been straight forward and honest with me the whole time, about how he feels about his ex, me, and life. He tells me like it is, he tells me I need more confidence a lot, because I guess I'm so "unsure" about things.
He told me to speak up, go for what I want, take control, etc. I don't know the rules of whatever kind of relationship we have...er had to do much but listen to him talk, talk back and cuddle when he pulls me close.

He's a very sarcastic person who always says something and then waits for me to react and then says "I'm just f***kin with ya" I told him he was mean once and he was like "You really think I'm mean?" I, of course, told him sometimes the things he says hurts my feelings. So that was that, other than listening to him, agreeing with his statements and saying "that's really cool" to interesting things he says, and showing interest in everything he says, I can't think of a single thing I could have done to piss him off.

I text him once last week, and only said hey, to which he did not respond. So Friday night I called him and we were on the phone for over an hour and he told me that when I wanted to talk to just pick up the phone instead of texting. We hung up, I went to bed, he called a little later and said he was here and wanted me to come over.
I went, we watched a movie, we talked, we cuddled, we slept. We woke up, he went to pick up his baby, I stayed at his house waiting.
He came back a little bit later, changed his kid, we left, he dropped me off stating he was going to try to get the dent out of his car fixed, and he'd be around later and to get a hold of him. I said good luck, said goodbye to Lilly (his 1yr old) and said "I'll talk to you later"
6 hours later, well, you all know the rest.

eh, maybe then Enfant IS a troll.. but he's a troll I agree with nonetheless.

Posted by WoundedLeo
Thirdly, Monsieur Enfant_Terrible, what gives you the right to come here and excuse this girl of lying? If she did something to this guy that she's not aware of, then it's not her fault. But I think it's pretty presumtuous of you to accuse her of lying. So now you're not the only one who's pissed off because you've managed to piss me off too...

Read again. I didn't accuse her of lying, my response was more a reaction to how some of you guys naturally assumed that he was the bad guy without even knowing what caused his reaction. I mean not even the OP knows what's up, so how you all know? And as I said, there definitely is shit that would justify his reaction. And I don't side with him nor her, I just proposed an alternative scenario because everyone in here seems so goddamn certain. Pardon my french, I had a rough day.

Posted by BigGirlPanties
Everyone on DXP knows enfant is an infant, so just ignore the troll.

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Really? I can think of one or two people who don't. And I've been here longer than you so show some respect, Miss Big Panties 😉

@Huntress: What happened to your old profile? Did I miss some juicy drama during my days off? ;D

Every one here * assumed * that he is a bad boy, because he behaved badly. Secondly he caused her some confusion, uncertainty and agitation in the past too.

None of us is a psychic here, we can't gaze into crystal balls and tell what's going one.

We all are giving our opinions regarding the situation--as it has been presented to us through the post. Some of us do know a bit of history of this relation so they are considering his past behaviour as well.

And none of us has the right to put down an other user just because we think that we are more experienced/ learned and some sort of Madame Trelawney---who was a joke in the first place.

If one user thinks that she should go and confront him and an other thinks that she should just step aside, they both are using their right to exercise their opinion.

There is no need to put down/ belittle others to prove that only you " feel " and " know " more.

I wish! I had just finally decided to change my username to the name of my favorite DC comics heroine. There has been drama, though not concerning me and drama that I'm never filled in on (oh poo). 😢

Let's make some drama to make up for drama we have missed out on. 😛

Posted by Huntress


Let's make some drama to make up for drama we have missed out on. 😛

Let's start Huntress,😄

Posted by ShahBano
Every one here * assumed * that he is a bad boy, because he behaved badly. Secondly he caused her some confusion, uncertainty and agitation in the past too.

None of us is a psychic here, we can't gaze into crystal balls and tell what's going one.

We all are giving our opinions regarding the situation--as it has been presented to us through the post. Some of us do know a bit of history of this relation so they are considering his past behaviour as well.

And none of us has the right to put down an other user just because we think that we are more experienced/ learned and some sort of Madame Trelawney---who was a joke in the first place.

If one user thinks that she should go and confront him and an other thinks that she should just step aside, they both are using their right to exercise their opinion.

There is no need to put down/ belittle others to prove that only you " feel " and " know " more.

Thank you, I couldn't have said it better myself.
I can admit I do like him a lot, and was starting to develop feelings for him, but I can't sit around and wallow in misery. I owe it to myself to be happy, and I guess since he got pissed at SOMETHING, no idea what, but he refuses to tell me, then whatever. Let him be mad. I can't apologize (esp if I did nothing wrong), I can't coax him into telling me and I'm not gonna keep pushing. Obviously he wants me out of his life, no idea why, but I'll just go ahead and give it to him then.
I can't say I'm not hurt, because I am immensely, but there are plenty of fish in the sea. Currently though, I have no fishing trips planned.

Posted by Freetobe007
Hmmm....that's definitely not a Leo thing. Yes, Leos tend to have terrible tempers, but I don't think that exact behavior is a Leo thing. Anway though, it's hard to say what's up with that. My guess is that he's either sincerely bipolar or he heard something about you and thought it was true. Maybe someone told him that you did ______ and it made him very hurt and angry, so instead of being mature and coming ot you about the situation, he made an assumption and decided to just fly off the handle and get dramatic by sending you that text.

If I were you, I'd try to figure out what went wrong instead of trying to get this "He's not worthy of me" stuff ingrained in your mind. Maybe he's not worthy of you, but if I were you, I wouldn't want to sit around and wonder what happened later. That might just be me because I like the open communication so that's what I would do 🙂

Yeah I'm the same way, I hate not knowing what is going on, especially if it all came out of nowhere.
I've tried, but I don't know how much more I can do, I mean threatening to call the cops on me was pretty damn harsh.
This is one of the most weirdest things that has ever happened to me, especially not knowing even why it happened in the first place.

Posted by ellessque
okay, first things first....enfant's not a troll 😄

Okay, now that's out of the way, do you want to know what I really think? I think he was pouting because it took you six hours to "respond". Yep, I think it's THAT simple.

Now, think about THAT, how do you feel now? Just curious.

You are losing yourself in this man and getting nothing in return. I'm not basing that on just this thread, I'm basing on the sum total of all of them.

YOU tell him you are insecure, maybe not directly, but in your actions. Some men WILL take advantage of that to get what they want. Leo or not.

So, if he calls and has some half ass excuse why he behaved that way (he WILL cover up the fact he was JUST as insecure as you, TRUST THAT)......you gonna take him at his word?

Seems you don't put much worth into actions.

Unfortunately, it's everyones God given right to act like an asshole. You can't control that. However, you can control your reaction to it. Take the "relationship" part of it out of it for a moment and imagine him as a close friend.....would you allow your friends to treat you that way? Why tolerate it from someone who is supposed to care about you in a romantic sense?

btw, nobody is entitled to explanations or apologies. You may very well be deserving of them, but you certainly aren't "entitled" to anything. Nobody is. You know, some people DO shit JUST so they can apologize for it? It's a form of gaining control of someone else. If you are filling up your fuel tank with apologies, you might as well be using sugar.

Just my two cents. I'm not telling you he's a horrible person, or even telling you to drop his ass. What I'm telling you, is take care of YOURSELF FIRST and everything else will follow. Full stop.

You really think all that was because I didn't call him in a fashionable time? If that's the case, then there is some serious issues going on.

As for everything else, I agree, I've never been an ultra confident person but I've always worked on myself and tried to be. No one's perfect, unfortunately.
I can't tell the future, but if he actually decides to call or something, I won't be surprised. I will, on the other hand, be less tolerant of his BS. I've sort of felt like a doormat anyway, so why keep doing that to myself?

Been here longer....? What is this, high school?

Respect is earned, not given by seniority.

Posted by ellessque
You clearly stated you did nothing wrong. We have no reason to not believe you. All your stories have been quite consistent.

So, why was that the first conclusion you jumped to? That it must have been something *you* did to deserve such treatment?

That says a lot chic, go indulge in something good for yourself, you deserve it.....then rinse and repeat over and over again before you accept his phone call again.

and there it is in a nutshell 🙂

yeah mr terrible....my dad's bigger than your dad so you'd better watch what you say!

Enfant was rude and nasty, I dont care how elevated some people make him here, it was uncalled for and undeserving to the OP.

And no where did the OP say she was *entitled*, she said she *deserved* an explanation..big difference in words and their meaning. If the dude had a hissy fit cus of the 6 hr silence, he is doing you a favor showing you who HE is so you can make a choice on whether to keep accepting this kind of emotional abuse. People tell us who they are by their actions, not words.

Mope? Man, I just wanted some answers!!
I mean, if it happened to any of you, I'm sure you would be left wondering what in the world happened, it came out of literal nowhere.

It just happened not even 24 hours ago, of course I'm going to still be upset about it. I have a lot of feelings, damn my Scorpio moon.

Unfair Elle. You're projecting something onto her she doesnt own. Is there a time limit on someone feeling confused and upset? I've seen some of your threads go on and on when you've been in a similar situation.

Anyhow...Im bowing out of this dog fight...its silly.

Cat fight, not dog fight my pantiless princess 😛

yeah, i have to say that if i was the OP, i would HAVE to know what had provoked that behaviour especially if i knew without doubt i had done nothing wrong. it's not about entitlement at all....for me it would be curiosity cos i would already know i wanted nothing more to do with the guy for even talking to me like that but it would drive me crazy wondering what led him to threaten to call the cops!!

i don't even know this guy or the OP......BUT I WANT TO KNOW WHAT SHE DID TO DESERVE THAT!!!

gimme his number synth...i'll call him and get to the bottom of it for ya, lol.

why is it egging her on? elle, i can't believe you don't love a mystery cos that is the appeal with this thread for me. i'm just dying to know what happened in the intervening hours between him saying to text him later and texting her to tell her to fuck off.

if i was in that situation, i would've got my answers by now cos there's no way in hell i would be prepared to stew after a dumbfuck act like that...specially as the guy lives close to her.

i don't suggest that so that she can have an opportunity to justify herself against whatever it is he tells her she's done...or to hopefully seek reconciliation with him after talking it through cos the time for any negotiation has passed already. he's already crossed the line.

if you genuinely considered yourself to have done nothing worth calling the cops over, you would be busting to know what his deal was surely??

but where i do agree with you elle, is that you have to recognise if you're not going to get an explanation and move on with full force in the absence of one.

I think you're all wonderful and gave superb advice and comments, I want to print this whole thread out and pin it to my walls, for serious 😉

Now, with this dude, I still don't know. I want to text or call again and find out wtf his problem is and why out of nowhere he decided to be a complete d-bag.
My friends are saying he prob got back together with his ex and she either made him text me that or did it herself. I honestly don't know but I WILL find out, and soon.
One way or another. Then I will tell him to go eff himself before or after I decide to punch him in the face.
It's unfair to me and my feelings, I've been completely honest, and so has he up to this point.

Whether I was just a friend, a girlfriend, or anything in between, spending that much time and saying all those things to someone...I do 'deserve' an explanation.