Leo Rage? (Page 2)

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
yeah, i have to say that if i was the OP, i would HAVE to know what had provoked that behaviour especially if i knew without doubt i had done nothing wrong. it's not about entitlement at all....for me it would be curiosity cos i would already know i wanted nothing more to do with the guy for even talking to me like that but it would drive me crazy wondering what led him to threaten to call the cops!!

i don't even know this guy or the OP......BUT I WANT TO KNOW WHAT SHE DID TO DESERVE THAT!!!

gimme his number synth...i'll call him and get to the bottom of it for ya, lol.

LOL I am seriously considering it. I hate not knowing things, especially if the person's personality completely changed over something.
It's not like he was always like this ya know, this was out of nowhere, out of character and just plain weird!
I think my friend (that he met) might message him on that site and ask him wtf is up his butt.
Or I'll just give his number out on here and you can all go nuts on him hahhaa ;p

Posted by ellessque
I have a question for you....now that this is "after the party", per say.

What if he comes back with an apology and a reason why he did what he did?

Sure, if he would have explained immediately AFTER he did it, it might hold some kind of weight. We all can be impulsive and say shit we don't mean on occasion. I'm JUST as guilty....my merc in sag gets me in trouble ALL the time with razer sharp words even if I'm a tiny bit perturbed. I usually catch my error pretty quickly and try to explain myself.

But he threw it out there and just walked away.....sort of like throwing your empty soda bottle out of the window while driving down the highway with no remorse whatsoever, thinking you are so effinfabtabulous, someone has to "clean up" after you.

Is there any justification at all for his behaviour? not to mention, he left you hanging all weekend with angry words with no explanation for them.

Would he fall right back into the same slot he was in before? Would you have the same amount of respect for him as you did pre "outrageous text"?

I'm just curious.

Being a scorpio, I know how I would feel. I'm just curious of others opinions/stances.

I would be relieved I got an answer then tell him not to talk to me again until he gets his sh** sorted out because besides seeing it, he's told me he's emotionally effed up, and he's not over his ex at all, and I can't deal with any of that any longer. I liked him but he wasn't giving me ANYTHING a human needs in any sort of relationship. It was all about him, I dunno if that's just a Leo thing or because he's going through whatever he's going through, but I'd like to be around someone who cares what happens to me too, ya know.

If he were to come back around much later, in a much better place, or even made progress then we can be friends and see what happens, but more than likely I would just tell him thanks for telling me and to piss off (in a nice way) until things are better.

And to get my mind off things and try to pick up the small pieces of my broken heart, I am going on a date with a very cute Val Kilmer look-a-like on Thursday. So, whether or not this works out, at least I know I'm still an awesome person and someone out there is interested, even if he thinks there isn't or I'm going to sit around and be sad day after day over him. Pfft.

LOL Scorpio and Aries, moons are crazy things

no...that's SCAREY!!!! lol

i don't think it's as simple as he's gone back to his ex cos why not just spit it out and say he's gone back to her without the unecessary drama? or why bother saying anything at all? the leos i know much prefer to not communicate at all than tell someone to fuck off like your one did.

lol...i wondered if you taught his daughter a bad word or something but she's only 1.

synth, can i just ask you if you feel you are a clingy person? you don't sound needy but you do sound as though you were uber attentive to his needs when he's been dicking you around for ages. perhaps he thinks the only way to end it is by doing what he did and making it clear in no uncertain terms?

i'm really pissed off with my detective skills here cos those are lousy and unlikely scenarios. we need more scorp moons on this case, LOL.

An older woman once told me. " you can not control what a man does BUT you can control what a man does to you". Those simple words changed my life. It sounds like you need closure. If that is the case then by all means seek it. You need to do what's best for you. My fear is that you may or may not know what that is.

Posted by Nala13
An older woman once told me. " you can not control what a man does BUT you can control what a man does to you". Those simple words changed my life. It sounds like you need closure. If that is the case then by all means seek it. You need to do what's best for you. My fear is that you may or may not know what that is.

Love this!

Posted by ellessque
okay, so instead of telling her to pull up her big girl panties and go out and have fun with the girls.....

let's all sit here and hold hands while crying about it, shall we?

better?

we can stomp and pout all day long, demanding why he did what he did......but what's the point?

sure, I SAID something similar happened to me a few posts back. I'm not projecting. I just don't see how productive it is to egg her on. Life goes on with our without the asshat. amiright?

Mm, DAMN right girl.

My Aries best friend and I would take advantage of this point of the situation by shopping and watching Pretty in Pink. 🙂

Posted by seraph

Posted by Nala13
An older woman once told me. " you can not control what a man does BUT you can control what a man does to you".

I love this. So, so very wise.

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it's a gender specific rehash of so many similar expressions...you are only treated as you allow yourself to be, etc, etc...nothing new about it.

i just love nala period 🙂

Thanks guys. It really struck a cord with me. I dont know why because she was a stranger. It's like she was reading my mind. I had just bought my boyfriend a wallet. I thought it was a nice gift. He asked me why I would give him an empty wallet. I was so hurt. He wanted me to put money it. I was thinking about how much money I was going to give him when that woman said that. I would love to say I didn't give him any money but thats not the truth. I did however think about those words every single time he did something to me. It didnt take long for my behavior to change and guess what ...I didnt have to leave him. He left me. Never felt happier.

I love you guys too. We dont always agree but thats ok .

Thanks Seraph that's high praise coming from the King of The Jungle ( some other girl called you that in another thread) I felt a twinge of jealously. You're one of us. 😉 and she can't have you.

Posted by Nala13
Thanks guys. It really struck a cord with me. I dont know why because she was a stranger. It's like she was reading my mind. I had just bought my boyfriend a wallet. I thought it was a nice gift. He asked me why I would give him an empty wallet. I was so hurt. He wanted me to put money it. I was thinking about how much money I was going to give him when that woman said that. I would love to say I didn't give him any money but thats not the truth. I did however think about those words every single time he did something to me. It didnt take long for my behavior to change and guess what ...I didnt have to leave him. He left me. Never felt happier.

I love you guys too. We dont always agree but thats ok .

Thanks Seraph that's high praise coming from the King of The Jungle ( some other girl called you that in another thread) I felt a twinge of jealously. You're one of us. 😉 and she can't have you.

not so fast sistah. seraph was made for sharing 😉

omg nala...he expected money in the wallet— my jew blood would've been boiling at that suggestion....got a damn wallet didn't he?? OY VEY!!

mind you, there is a superstition about giving wallets without money in...you're sposed to put a coin in there for luck...a COIN! can you imagine his face if he found a coin rather than a big wad of cash!!

my best tactic for dumping someone is to make them dump me. it's great cos you get to play victim too, LOL.

Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
no...that's SCAREY!!!! lol

i don't think it's as simple as he's gone back to his ex cos why not just spit it out and say he's gone back to her without the unecessary drama? or why bother saying anything at all? the leos i know much prefer to not communicate at all than tell someone to fuck off like your one did.

lol...i wondered if you taught his daughter a bad word or something but she's only 1.

synth, can i just ask you if you feel you are a clingy person? you don't sound needy but you do sound as though you were uber attentive to his needs when he's been dicking you around for ages. perhaps he thinks the only way to end it is by doing what he did and making it clear in no uncertain terms?

i'm really pissed off with my detective skills here cos those are lousy and unlikely scenarios. we need more scorp moons on this case, LOL.

Yeah to the first part of that, he's always been honest about how he feels and with the ex, so that makes no sense why he wouldn't still be. He usually just ignores me for a few days then texts or calls me after awhile and acts like its all gravy.

Clingy? Hmm, I don't think so at all, if I text him it was just hey, or what's up like once or twice a week,and when I was over there, I pretty much just acted like a friend until he pulled me to cuddle or whatever, I was never all over him or touching him or anything to that effect, so unless I didn't give him enough attention, I have no idea.

I just don't know, I still don't, I really wish he would just tell me why the hell he felt the need to lash out at me out of nowhere for no reason, or at least make up one lol, anything, it's just hurting my brain trying to think of what the frick could have happened for him to act like someone else

He's baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack.
And it's weirder than ever.

I think I should stay away this time though, no matter how much attention and affection he's giving now.
He even apologized, more than once and yeah, idk

Since then, we've been hanging out on and off, mostly on.
His mood and personality are different every single time, he goes from asking if I could ever love him, asking me to marry him to pretty much telling me to eff off, he doesn't care, and then a few days later calls me up acting like nothing ever happened.
Lately, he's been "on", being nice, affectionate (mostly) and normal. Sometimes though, mostly on the weekends (when he has his 1 yr old daughter) he tends to ignore my calls/texts, it's annoying but whatever.

I don't know what we have going on, but it definitely keeps me on my toes. I just don't know how much longer I can pretend not having him fully doesn't bother me.

Why bother with an individual if you are already having to pretend?

Posted by Huntress
Why bother with an individual if you are already having to pretend?

I'm trying not to, I just have some weird block that won't allow me to fully express myself

Then suck it up and just do it!

If not well - you may as well just cut him out of your life.

Posted by SyntheticAnesthetic

Posted by Huntress
Why bother with an individual if you are already having to pretend?

I'm trying not to, I just have some weird block that won't allow me to fully express myself

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You're an Aries, you can express yourself with fireballs and thunder 🙂 let him have it then let him go

Posted by celticlioness

Posted by SyntheticAnesthetic

Posted by Huntress
Why bother with an individual if you are already having to pretend?

I'm trying not to, I just have some weird block that won't allow me to fully express myself

You're an Aries, you can express yourself with fireballs and thunder 🙂 let him have it then let him go

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Just because she has an Aries "sun" doesn't mean she likes this behaviour. 😢

I have an Aries Sun sister but most of her chart is watery and she is always crying when her ex's were MEAN. Obviously it was short-lived. But the men (the aggressors) kept chasing her and sending her notes of love and apologies and she ignored them. They were "stalkerish" and the behaviour only stopped when she finally found someone more gentle to her needs. And she's more than happy. It's just a scenerio. It's more than just sun, from what I noticed and have observed with my sister.

Lisa....

Irregardless of differences in Sun Sign behavior. or whatever...

this is something she needs to do or she must gtfo.

Posted by Huntress
Lisa....

Irregardless of differences in Sun Sign behavior. or whatever...

this is something she needs to do or she must gtfo.

That's true. (your input was actually very good for her) It's understandable that she's going through something very difficult. I was just kind of sad cause i thought of my sister's problems in the past.

well good luck OP

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by Huntress
Lisa....

Irregardless of differences in Sun Sign behavior. or whatever...

this is something she needs to do or she must gtfo.

That's true. (your input was actually very good for her) It's understandable that she's going through something very difficult. I was just kind of sad cause i thought of my sister's problems in the past.

well good luck OP

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Thanks everyone, it is very difficult, because I know he's a good person, he just has a very weird way of showing his feelings at times, and I am always confused as to whether or not I should even bother spilling mine.
It makes me highly vulnerable and open for a great heart-break, instead of living in my bubble where I currently am, pretending everything is a-ok